Two things are most important. Marriage is the third

1. Being out. Not in the sense that after years of involvment in supporting the gay community,I have some sense of gaydar, but in being visable to everyone in the str8 community. EG I wear a rainbow ring. To show my support for gay folks. Yeh some people ask about it.

2. Contributing to the gay groups. If every gay person could find $1/mos for this battle, that is between a qtr and third of a billion $$ per year.

3. And then comes marriage……….