August 26, 2010 at 6:05 pm EDT | by Joey DiGuglielmo
Bears roam among 3 bars after Motley closes

Following the closure of EFN Lounge, the FUK!T campaign moved its weekly condom packing parties to Green Lantern. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

All the groups that used EFN Lounge/Motley Bar as a meeting place have found new homes, although the sudden closure of the former BeBar space may have caused one of the groups to splinter.

The only groups that were meeting at EFN before its sudden closure Aug. 16 were the Tuesday night packing parties for the FUK!T condom distribution campaign and the Friday night Bear Happy Hour. Event promoter Jacob Pring, who used to hold several events at EFN, had already relocated his CODE and POZ events to Green Lantern, another gay bar near Thomas Circle.

Pring helped facilitate the relocations. The packing party — an event that had been held at Motley, EFN’s upstairs space, since October and involved volunteers filling small plastic bags with condoms, lube and safe-sex information for distribution at local gay bars and restaurants — missed its Aug. 14 party as it had less than 24 hours notice of the bar’s closure. But the event returned this week at its new home in the upstairs of Green Lantern. Owner Greg Zehn said he’s happy to have them.

“There’s no charge,” he said. “Any community group or non-profit that wants to meet there, they can use it for their meetings. If it’s just sitting there empty, and I don’t have the upstairs open on Monday or Tuesday nights, I don’t mind letting them use it at all. I’m happy to help.”

The D.C. Center, the city’s LGBT community center that recently relocated to a storefront location at 1318 U Street, N.W., is also holding its Bears Do Yoga classes at Green Lantern on Mondays as the new U Street location wasn’t conducive to yoga.

“I think they had it there once and it just didn’t work well,” Zehn said.

As news of EFN’s closure started spreading Aug. 13, the groups began to brainstorm ideas about where they could relocate. Pring helped Dan O’Neill and Terry Gerace, organizers of the FUK!T campaign, make arrangements with Zehn. Others in the bear community also helped facilitate connections.

“We were lucky,” Gerace said. “[Green Lantern] stepped right up for us. It was much easier than I anticipated.”

Gerace learned of EFN’s closure during a call from EFN bartender Matt Bamford, who also volunteers with FUK!T.

“He said, ‘You better come pick up the dispenser,’” Gerace said. “We had stuff stored there. It came as a total surprise. They could have handled that a little better. It was bad for us, but 10 times worse for the staff.”

The FUK!T campaign is in transition in other ways. Wednesday night parties that had been held at Mova, formerly known as Halo, is on hiatus. O’Neill said Mova’s impending move was a factor, but he also is going to medical school and needed to step back.

A $60,000 grant from the D.C. Department of Health, though, should enable the campaign to continue. O’Neill and Gerace plan to hire a part-time employee to oversee the packing parties, which produce anywhere from 2,000 to 3,000 packets to distribute in local gay bars and restaurants each weekend.

Gerace and O’Neill are hoping to expand the effort’s reach with the grant money.

“It’s critical that the community plays a role in this,” O’Neill said. “It allows them to have ownership, but it’s an integrated intervention. While people are providing the kits, they’re also learning about safe-sex practices themselves and helping their fellow gay men be less prone to engage in unsafe sex themselves. It adds ownership and we really rely on the community to supply these kits.

“EFN Lounge provided a critical role and we’re sorry to see that go, but we’re looking to expand to additional nights and would love to have other bars and community organizations participate beyond just a place for us to pack kits.”

The transition has been a bit murkier for the bears. Some competition has emerged for the coveted bear Friday evening crowd, a large informal group of gay men who jammed Motley every Friday. The crowd often spilled downstairs to EFN and made Fridays easily the bar’s most popular night in recent months.

The bears had met at Motley since May 2009 when Nicholas Baatz, a Motley bartender, organized it as a gathering spot. Before that, the bears had been meeting every Friday off and on at Cobalt, both before and after Titan/Ramrod opened and closed.

Baatz, who’s known as Pup Charger in the bear community, tried to get the group somewhat more organized last year.

“It had kind of been at Cobalt since Titan closed, really almost by default since it was the only space big enough with both floors,” Batz said. “I didn’t really have anything to do with it. I was just a participant, a normal customer, until Motley Bar opened. That’s when I started kind of trying to round everybody up and get solidified as a group and when we started coming together as a community. I kind of took the spearhead.”

Bear Happy Hour at Motley typically drew about 300 people. The bear’s Facebook page, which has about 800 members, instructed those interested to go to Town, which agreed to open its doors early for the bears from 6 to 10 p.m. Baatz said the first week at Town went well.

“They loved it, they really did,” he said of his fellow bears. “It was busy enough that it felt like we filled the entire downstairs, but there was still room to move. The energy was really high and everybody was in a really good mood. We were really disappointed when [Motley] closed and a lot [of them] were very kind of down. Their spirits were down before this was arranged and you could definitely see people were on edge.”

But Zehn said quite a few from the bear crowd chose Green Lantern, which made efforts to woo the crowd, over Town. Pizza is served on Fridays at 8 p.m. for the bears and shirtless-bears-drink-free specials are offered during certain hours. Last week’s event was touted as a fundraiser, with 10 percent of profits going to Brother Help Thyself, a local AIDS charity. And from 6-11 p.m. starting this Friday, Zehn is offering valet parking.

“We’re definitely promoting Bear Happy Hour,” Zehn said. “They always wanted a larger space but sometimes a smaller space is cruisier.”

Parking is a factor and perhaps one reason Bear Happy Hour worked well at Motley, which was on Ninth Street, N.W., near the Convention Center. The bar was a significant distance from Dupont and Logan circles and 17th Street, where many D.C. gay bars are located.

“A lot of the bears are less urban — they come in from Maryland or Virginia, so parking was an issue,” Zehn said. “That’s why we’re trying the valet parking for just $8. If they show their claim ticket, they’ll get their first drink free.”

Baatz said parking didn’t seem to be a problem near Town’s U Street corridor location.

“Everybody I talked to said it wasn’t a problem because it was still early,” Baatz said.

Cobalt attracted some bears with its usual Friday night happy hour, according to blog reports and Cobalt general manager Mark Rutstein, who said there had been discussions about the bear party possibly returning to Cobalt months before EFN closed.

“I didn’t count, but based on sales, I’m guessing we had about 200 more than usual last Friday night,” Rutstein said. “We already had a pretty good Friday happy hour crowd anyway, so they kind of all mixed together. I think they missed Cobalt. So I think for the first few weeks it’s going to be them migrating between Green Lantern, Cobalt and probably ending up at Town. It was a revolving door here. I know that. But we also had a good amount who stayed the whole time.”

The only thing different on Rutstein’s end was bringing in DJ Jim Gade, who formerly spun at Bear Happy Hours, to spin last weekend. He also spun at Motley for Bear Happy Hour.

Rutstein said discussions on local bear blog sites have gotten a bit heated.

“They manufactured that Cobalt doesn’t want the bears or doesn’t treat the bears right or only wants the bears for the money,” Rutstein said. “Well, you tell me any bar that doesn’t want business. So this guy Nick [Baatz] is saying he’s just doing it for the community or so he could hang out with his friends, but let’s be real. He was also going to be behind the bar and making money from tips, so it got real nasty.”

Rutstein said he’d love to have the bears and is willing to make some provisions for them — smoking patio, games they’ve requested, a bear DJ — but not to the extent that other bars are doing.

“Are we going to give away free pizza and dollar drafts?” he said. “Absolutely not. That doesn’t make any money for anybody, so I’ll leave that for the other bars.”

And the plot may soon thicken. Some blogs said that during Bears Do Yoga on Monday, rumors circulated that Motley may reopen for Friday nights to accommodate the bears, and possibly for other, special events. Nothing could be confirmed before Blade deadline.

And what of the EFN/Motley employees? Former assistant general manager Raven Cullen said most of the employees are still figuring out their next moves.

“I think we’re all still in the process of where to go from here,” he said. “This was really just a few days ago that this all happened, so I think most people are still trying to figure out what they’re trying to do.”

Joey DiGuglielmo is the Features Editor for the Washington Blade.

  • I’m still having problems with the term “Bear.” Let’s call these fat boys exactly what they are. And, when you get right down to it, most of the bears want twinks any way. It proves that no one really wants a fatso.

  • Hey FrankenBerry, clearly you’ve never been to a bear happy hour. Most of us fat boys and fatsos are attracted to other fat boys and fatsos. Let me take that back, we don’t descriminte, we are attracted to men, period!

  • Nice, FrankenBerry, do you make fun of anorexics too and cancer patients too? Obesity is a serious disease and an eating disorder, not something to be made fun of. What gives you the right to call anyone anything? Stop taking you own inadequacies out on other people.

  • I’m still having problems with the term “Twinks.” Let’s call these skinny sissy queenie boys exactly what they are. And, when you get right down to it, most gay men do NOT want to be with a big ol’ nelly queen!!!

  • Wow so much animosity between people of the same gender is truly saying someone needs a tune-up…There is enough hatred from the hetereosexual community, must gay people continue to make fun of each other..Bears…twinks…nellies….all the same chillax.

  • …I guess I need a lesson in lgtb terminology. I thought ACTUAL bears [animals] were roaming bars. :) What is a bear?

  • This should help Springfield Mo Bars, right from Wikipedia:
    “Bear is LGBT slang for those in the bear communities, a subculture in the gay/bisexual male communities and an emerging subset of LGBT communities with events, codes and culture-specific identity. It also describes a physical type.

    Bears tend to have hairy bodies and facial hair; some are heavy-set; some project an image of working-class masculinity in their grooming and appearance, though none of these are requirements or unique indicators. Some bears place importance on presenting a hypermasculine image and may shun interaction with, and even disdain, men who exhibit effeminacy.[1] The bear concept can function as an identity, an affiliation, and an ideal to live up to, and there is ongoing debate in bear communities about what constitutes a bear, however a consensus exists that inclusion is an important part of the Bear Community.”

  • Is there a place where in shape goodlooking “bears” can be found? It seems most of them are nothing but obese trolls!

  • “Some bears place importance on presenting a hypermasculine image and may shun interaction with, and even disdain, men who exhibit effeminacy.”

    Really? Its seems some are super masculine until they walk or open their mouths. Then it’s an over-sized fur ball of femininity bouncing around like an annoying fly.

  • “And, when you get right down to it, most gay men do NOT want to be with a big ol’ nelly queen!!!”

    But sadly so many are nelly queens…finding a masculine hot guy is like looking for a needle in a haystack and you seek a top it’s like you’re looking for an ant on Mars from Earth. Maybe that’s why so many gay men are single!

  • “Most of us fat boys and fatsos are attracted to other fat boys and fatsos.”

    Of course you are since you can encourage each other to keep eating fattening food and get even fatter and more gross!

  • Why do gay mean have to be so freaking rude, disrespectful, and downright mean to each other? It’s bad enough that most of the population is antigay and makes assorted jokes. When someone acts like a child or an idiot you should not lower yourself to their behavior also.

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