By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:50:02 +0000

I found out my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years had been cheating on me on/off since November 2010.. The thing is.. I had cheated on him too.. Twice (once with an ex and a few times with another ex).. Our relationship during both times (including when he started cheating) was “open”. I treated him as if I was not interested in him so much and I made it clear that I was practically looking for another who fit me better. Shitty of me, right? Absolutely. I don’t know if that tied in to him or myself cheating.. But I’m sure it did not help. After seriously considering all of the risks that are presented by taking him back, I did. He does not blame anyone or our relationship at all for his actions. He owned up to everything and was truly remorseful.. I believe he will never cheat again. The thing is, he might be presented at some point, another opportunity to cheat, but he will overcome those impulses and not do it. So I think that cheaters are likely to have that same mindset but they have the OPTION of whether or not to do it & risk losing the relationship again. I know that I appreciate him more and show him now, that I love him more often and hope I made the right choice — It feels right, so that’s a sign. We’ve never been closer & more in love.. It’s YOUR decision, if you deep down think he’ll continue or not really be willing to change.. Don’t go down that road again! But if he/she is truly remorseful for what they’ve done.. & you love them and believe they can change, give it another shot.. Your gut is typically right.

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By: Kimberly