DOMA has not been shown to be anti-gay (whatever gay means), because DOMA does not provide federal benefits to other types of couples, aside from gay couples.

For instance, it also leaves so called Lesbian couples out. Further, it leaves other same-gender couples out too – room mates in college who’d like some extra Fed. benefits during this bad economy; and also leaves minors out (and some minors are getting married too), and laws like this leave blood-related couples out. Actually, it leaves everyone out (polygamists) who wants to form a friendship supported by the government. A law has to be just, and it has to be enforceable. DOMA draws the line at man and woman (and by that it means adult human beings). If we are re-defining “marriage”, then everyone is invited to redefine it to their own advantage.

The problem is that it is impossible to have exact equality, because we are not all equally qualified.

BUT, where’s all the money from the Feds. to cover benefits for all the newly included “marriages”? Need a Resident Visa for an alien friend, cheap? Redefine “marriage”, ignore the needs of children in this country, and PRESTO, we can bring millions into US citizenship and into this country, … legally. That’s not going to happen.