Comments on: Advice: Too needy?

By: Ray

Ray — Fri, 22 Feb 2013 18:09:20 +0000

Hey!…Alan’s BF…you sound pathetic and like you need to grow a pair! However long he’s been putting up with this is way too long!

By: Jon Larimore

Jon Larimore — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 17:03:09 +0000

First of all, IMO the Blade is not "America's Leading Gay News Source" … that would be The Advocate (more than a wee touch of arrogance there). And so far as gay men being especially emotionally needy, I think not. I've known straight guys (and women) who were every bit as socially inept and thus complaining of being "lonely". But yes, the concept of personal confidence being prerequisite to attracting others is right on target. Only predators are attracted to shrinking violets.

By: Dave Edmondson

Dave Edmondson — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 14:54:17 +0000

TonyN, I've known plenty of guys like that. I sometimes wonder whether gay men are especially prone to being emotionally needy.

By: Dave Edmondson

Dave Edmondson — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 14:54:17 +0000

TonyN, I've known plenty of guys like that. I sometimes wonder whether gay men are especially prone to being emotionally needy.

By: TonyN

TonyN — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 17:25:59 +0000

Clingy boyfriends, while they mean well, will eventually become attached to your hip. It is not the constant flow of affection, but the uneasyness of being smothered. Esp if your partner has no friends and no social life. They get trapped in a vortex and usually become depressed. I almost learned this the hardway. My BF was constantly smothering me wanting to go home and see my parents and such when I wanted to visit them alone. He threw the biggest hissyfit when I left him alone for three days because I needed a break…The following week, I ended the relationship after 4 years because he could not get out of his funk. I am will to work to make the relationship work, but when I am doing all the work…I will leave.I loved him, but not is certainly not enough.