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Gay couples: Delaware marriage law brings recognition, equality

Same-sex nuptials to begin on Monday

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Rehoboth Beach residents Chris Beagle and Eric Engelhart, owners of event planning company Flair!, on the beach last September following their civil union. (Photo courtesy of the couple)

REHOBOTH BEACH, Del.ā€”Rehoboth Beach realtor Chris Beagle, his partner of more than 23 years, Eric Engelhart, and a handful of friends spent a portion of their weekend placing white flowers, pictures and other personal mementos in the CAMP Rehoboth event space ahead of a ceremony on Monday during which they will convert their civil union into a marriage. They only left the LGBT community center on Sunday afternoon once the large blue cut outs of the first letters of Beagle and Engelhartā€™s first names used during the two men’s 2012 civil union ceremony were perfectly illuminated on the wall.

ā€œItā€™s the end of a journey; itā€™s the culmination,ā€ Beagle, who also co-owns a wedding planning company with Engelhart, told the Washington Blade. ā€œItā€™s the end of a journey. Itā€™s the culmination. Itā€™s what we need to do to complete this process of legal recognition.ā€

Beagle and Engelhart are among the first gay and lesbian couples who will take advantage of Delawareā€™s same-sex marriage law that takes effect on Monday.

State Sen. Karen Peterson (D-Stanton,) who came out in May during the debate over the same-sex marriage bill that Gov. Jack Markell signed into law, and her partner, Vikki Bandy, will become the first legally married gay couple in Delaware when they convert their civil union into a marriage at the New Castle County Clerk of the Peaceā€™s office in Wilmington.

ā€œWe have been together for almost 25 years, and I never thought we would live to see the day when we could be married in our home state,ā€ Peterson told the Blade last week.

The Sussex County Clerk of the Peace in Georgetown will begin to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples at 8 a.m. on Monday, with doors opening at 7 a.m. The Kent County Clerk of the Peace in Dover will open at 8 a.m.

Sussex County Clerk of the Peace John Brady, who is gay, will officiate Beagle and Engelhartā€™s ceremony at CAMP Rehoboth at 10 a.m. Joseph Daigle, II, and Daniel Cole will become the first same-sex couple who had not previously entered into a civil union to tie the knot in Delaware when they exchange vows in Wilmington later on Monday.

No other same-sex weddings will take place in Delaware on Monday because the state did not waive the 24-hour waiting period for any other gay or lesbian couples.

Marriage to bring lesbian couple ā€˜credibilityā€™

Sherry Berman and Deb Hamilton of Lewes, who have been together for 24 years, will exchange vows on the beach on Friday while their family is in the area for July 4.

ā€œWhat it means is that thereā€™s more credibility for us as a couple,ā€ Berman told the Blade on Sunday afternoon, noting many retirees who live in their neighborhood told her that they had never known a gay couple before they met her and her soon-to-be-spouse. ā€œWe put our pants on the same way you do.ā€

Delaware on Monday will join 10 other states and D.C. in which same-sex couples can legally marry.

Gays and lesbians in Rhode Island and Minnesota will be able to legally tie the knot as of August 1.

Same-sex couples in California on June 28 began to once again exchange vows after the U.S. Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals lifted its stay on gay nuptials in the state in response to the U.S. Supreme Court ruling two days earlier that struck down Proposition 8. The justices on June 26 also released their decision that found a portion of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional.

ā€œIt really is magnifying the importance of tomorrow,ā€ Beagle said.

Berman told the Blade her partnerā€™s brother called them after the Supreme Court issued their DOMA and Prop 8 rulings and said he would attend their wedding. She also noted how she feels Delaware has changed since Hamilton grew-up in Sussex County in which Lewes and Rehoboth Beach are located.

ā€œShe knows how awful, how not accepting, non-diverse itā€™s been,ā€ Berman said. ā€œSo for a state like Delaware to recognize [same-sex marriage] is really important in the scheme of the entire country.ā€

Rehoboth Beach resident Bob Hoffer, whose 2012 marriage to Max Dick in New York City will become legally recognized in Delaware on Monday, described the stateā€™s gay nuptials law taking effect as ā€œwonderful.ā€

ā€œWeā€™re first-class citizens now as everyone,ā€ Hoffer told the Blade as he helped Beagle and Engelhart decorate for their wedding at CAMP Rehoboth. ā€œWeā€™re not hurting anyone and heterosexual marriage is still going to continue. Itā€™s just giving everyone the same rights.ā€

Gay couples remain undaunted by opponents, protests

Even though an Equality Delaware poll earlier this year showed 54 percent of the stateā€™s voters support marriage rights for same-sex couples, those opposed to the issue continue to speak out.

The Delaware Family Policy Council said in a statement after the Supreme Court issued its DOMA and Prop 8 rulings that it ā€œwill continue to advance the truth about marriage between a man and a woman and why it matters for children, civil society and limited government.ā€

Members of the Westboro Baptist Church are scheduled to protest outside various locations in Wilmington and Dover on Monday.

ā€œGive it time,ā€ Berman said, referring to same-sex marriage opponents. ā€œLearn to like us; learn to know who we are. Listen to us. Weā€™re not out to hurt you or to cause you any harm.ā€

Beagle said he respects both the Constitution and freedom of speech, but noted both the state of Delaware and he Supreme Court have spoken on the issue of marriage.

ā€œWhat I would say to those people (who oppose same-sex marriage) is itā€™s now your turn to respect those decisions that have been made,ā€ he said.

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Deb Hamilton and Sherry Berman of Lewes, Del. (Photo courtesy Sherry Berman)

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New D.C. LGBTQ+ bar Crush set to open April 19

An ā€˜all-inclusive entertainment haven,ā€™ with dance floor, roof deck

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Crush (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

D.C.ā€™s newest LGBTQ+ bar called Crush is scheduled to open for business at 4 p.m. on Friday, April 19, in a spacious, two-story building with a dance floor and roof deck at 2007 14th St., N.W. in one of the cityā€™s bustling nightlife areas.

A statement released by co-owners Stephen Rutgers and Mark Rutstein earlier this year says the new bar will provide an atmosphere that blends ā€œnostalgia with contemporary nightlifeā€ in a building that was home to a popular music store and radio supply shop.

Rutgers said the opening comes one day after Crush received final approval of its liquor license that was transferred from the Owl Room, a bar that operated in the same building before closing Dec. 31 of last year. The official opening also comes three days after Crush hosted a pre-opening reception for family, friends, and community members on Tuesday, April 16.

Among those attending, Rutgers said, were officials with several prominent local LGBTQ organizations, including officials with the DC Center for the LGBTQ Community, which is located across the street from Crush in the cityā€™s Reeves Center municipal building. Also attending were Japer Bowles, director of the Mayorā€™s Office of LGBTQ Affairs, and Salah Czapary, director of the Mayorā€™s Office of Nightlife and Culture.  

Rutgers said Crush plans to hold a grand opening event in a few weeks after he, Rutstein and the barā€™s employees become settled into their newly opened operations.

ā€œStep into a venue where inclusivity isnā€™t just a promise but a vibrant reality,ā€ a statement posted on the Crush website says. ā€œImagine an all-inclusive entertainment haven where diversity isnā€™t just celebrated, itā€™s embraced as the very heartbeat of our venue,ā€ the statement says. ā€œWelcome to a place where love knows no bounds, and the only color or preference that matters is the vibrant tapestry of humanity itself. Welcome to Crush.ā€

The website says Crush will be open Tuesdays and Wednesdays from 4 p.m. to 12 a.m., Thursdays from 4 p.m. to 2 a.m., Fridays from 4 p.m. to 3 a.m., Saturdays from 2 p.m. to 3 a.m., and Sundays from 2 p.m. to 12 a.m. It will be closed on Mondays.

Crush is located less than two blocks from the U Street Metro station.

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Reenactment of first gay rights picket at White House draws interest of tourists

LGBTQ activists carry signs from historic 1965 protest

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About 30 LGBTQ activists formed a picket line in front of the White House April 17. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

About 30 LGBTQ activists formed a circular picket line in front of the White House Wednesday afternoon, April 17, carrying signs calling for an end to discrimination against ā€œhomosexualsā€ in a reenactment of the first gay rights protest at the White House that took place 59 years earlier on April 17, 1965.

Crowds of tourists looked on with interest as the activists walked back and forth in silence in front of the White House fence on Pennsylvania Avenue. Like the 1965 event, several of the men were dressed in suits and ties and the women in dresses in keeping with a 1960s era dress code policy for protests of the Mattachine Society of Washington, D.C., the cityā€™s first gay rights group that organized the 1965 event.

Wednesdayā€™s reenactment was organized by D.C.ā€™s Rainbow History Project, which made it clear that the event was not intended as a protest against President Joe Biden and his administration, which the group praised as a strong supporter of LGBTQ rights.

ā€œI think this was an amazing event,ā€ said Vincent Slatt, the Rainbow History Project official who led efforts to put on the event. ā€œWe had twice as many that we had hoped for that came today,ā€ he said.

“It was so great to see a reenactment and so great to see how far we’ve come,” Slatt said. “And also, the acknowledgement of what else we still need to do.”

Slatt said participants in the event who were not carrying picket signs handed out literature explaining the purpose of the event.

A flier handed out by participants noted that among the demands of the protesters at the 1965 event were to end the ban on homosexuals from working in the federal government, an end to the ban on gays serving in the military, an end to the denial of security clearances for gays, and an end of the government’s refusal to meet with the LGBTQ community. 

ā€œThe other thing that I think is really, really moving is some of the gay staff inside the White House found out this was happening and came out to greet us,ā€ Slatt said. He noted that this highlighted how much has changed since 1965, when then President Lyndon Johnsonā€™s White House refused to respond to a letter sent to Johnson from the Mattachine Society explaining its grievances. 

ā€œSo now to have gay people in the White House coming out to give us their respects and to say hello was especially meaningful to us,ā€ Slatt said. ā€œThat was not expected today.ā€

Among those walking the picket line was longtime D.C. LGBTQ rights advocate Paul Kuntzler, who is the only known surviving person who was among the White House picketers at the April 1965 event. Kuntzler said he proudly carried a newly printed version of the sign at Wednesdayā€™s reenactment event that he carried during the 1965 protest. It stated, ā€œFifteen Million Homosexuals Protest Federal Treatment.ā€  

Also participating in the event was Japer Bowles, director of D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowserā€™s Office of LGBTQ Affairs. Bowles presented Slatt with a proclamation issued by Bowser declaring April 17, 2024, Mattachine Society Day in Washington, D.C.

ā€œWhereas, on April 17, 1965, the Mattachine Society of Washington courageously held the nationā€™s inaugural picket for gay rights, a seminal moment in the ongoing struggle for LGBTQIA+ equality in the United States, marking the genesis of public demonstrations advocating for those rights and paving the way for Pride Marches and Pride celebrations worldwide,ā€ the proclamation states.

About 30 minutes after the reenactment event began, uniformed Secret Service agents informed Slatt that due to a security issue the picketers would have to move off the sidewalk in front of the White House and resume the picketing across the street on the sidewalk in front of Lafayette Park. When asked by the Washington Blade what the security issue was about, one of the Secret Service officers said he did not have any further details other than that his superiors informed him that the White House sidewalk would have to be temporarily cleared of all people.

Participants in the event quickly resumed their picket line on the sidewalk in front of Lafayette Park for another 30 minutes or so in keeping with the 1965 picketing event, which lasted for one hour, from 4:20 p.m. to 5:20 p.m., according to Rainbow  History Projectā€™s research into the 1965 event.

Although the LGBTQ picketers continued their procession in silence, a separate protest in Lafayette Park a short distance from the LGBTQ picketers included speakers shouting through amplified speakers. The protest was against the government of Saudi Arabia and organized by a Muslim group called Al Baqee Organization.

A statement released by the Rainbow History Project says the reenactment event, among other things, was a tribute to D.C.-area lesbian rights advocate Lilli Vincenz, who participated in the 1965 White House picketing, and D.C. gay rights pioneer Frank Kameny, who founded the Mattachine Society of Washington in the early 1960s and was the lead organizer of the 1965 White House protest. Kameny died in 2011 and Vincenz died in 2023.

The picket signs carried by participants in the reenactment event, which were reproduced from the 1965 event, had these messages:

ā€¢ ā€œDISCRIMINATION Against Homosexuals is as immoral as Discrimination Against Negroes and Jews;ā€

ā€¢ ā€œGovernment Should Combat Prejudice NOT PROMOTE ITā€

ā€¢ ā€œWhite House Refuses Replies to Our Letters, AFRAID OF US?

ā€¢ ā€œHOMOSEXUALS Died for their Country, Tooā€

ā€¢ ā€œFirst Class Citizenship for HOMOSEXUALSā€

ā€¢Ā ā€œSexual Preference is Irrelevant to Employmentā€

ā€¢Ā ā€œFifteen Million U.S. Homosexuals Protest Federal Treatmentā€

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Organizers announce details for D.C. Black Pride 2024

Most events to take place Memorial Day weekend at Westin Downtown

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Black Pride 2024 details were announced this week. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)

The Center for Black Equity, the organizer of D.C. Black Pride, the nationā€™s first and one of the largest annual African-American LGBTQ Pride celebrations, announced this yearā€™s event will take place Memorial Day Weekend from May 24-27.

The announcement, released April 16, says that most 2024 D.C. Black Pride events will take place at the Westin Washington, D.C. Downtown Hotel at 999 9th St, N.W.

ā€œWith the theme Black Pride Forever, the event promises a weekend filled with vibrant celebrations, empowering workshops, and a deep exploration of Black LGBTQIA+ history and culture,ā€ the announcement says.

It says events will include as in past years a ā€œRainbow Rowā€ vendor expo at the hotel featuring ā€œorganizations and vendors created for and by the LGBTQIA+ communityā€ offering products and services ā€œthat celebrate Black excellence.ā€

According to the announcement, other events include a Health and Wellness Festival that will offer workshops, demonstrations, and activities focused on ā€œholistic well-being;ā€ a Mary Bowman Poetry Slam ā€œshowcasing the power and beauty of spoken word by Black LGBTQIA+ artists;ā€ the Black Pride Through the Decades Party, that will celebrate the ā€œrich history of the Black LGBTQIA+ movement;ā€ and an Empowerment Through Knowledge series of workshops that ā€œdelve into various topics relevant to the Black LGBTQIA+ community.ā€

Also, as in past years, this yearā€™s D.C. Black Pride will feature its ā€œOpening Night Extravaganzaā€ reception and party that will include entertainment and live performances.

The announcement notes that D.C.ā€™s annual Black Pride celebration, started in 1991 as a one-day outdoor event at Howard Universityā€™s Banneker Field, has inspired annual Black LGBTQ Pride events across the United States and in Canada, United Kingdom, Brazil, Africa, and the Caribbean. More than 300,000 people attend Black LGBTQ Pride events each year worldwide, the announcement says.

Full details, including the official schedule of events, can be accessed at dcblackpride.org.

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