Nikki Kasparek has been active in the D.C. Gay Flag Football League, which is co-ed, for two years but she and several other players sensed an opportunity to do something unprecedented.
The just-formed Washington Senators, an all-women’s team, will compete against 11 other teams in the Gay Bowl in Philadelphia in October.
“We’d been trying to do this for a couple years but everything fell into place this year,” says Kasparek, a Woodbridge, Va., native who’s been back in the area for about seven years after a stint in Cincinnati. “I’m really excited to go out and win. The odds are in our favor.”
Despite the League’s co-ed status, special all-male and all-female teams have formed for the Bowl. The League is sending three male teams. All the Senators’ women are LGBT except for one. Most of the Bowl teams are all male or all female, though a few mostly male teams have some women players in cities where there aren’t enough women to form their own team.
Kasparek played basketball in college and had four surgeries for injuries. She enjoys flag football because it gives her the excitement of team play with a lower potential for injury.
She works as a service manager in the construction industry in Lorton, Va., by day. She and her wife, Sara, have been married for three years. They live in D.C.’s Brookland neighborhood. Kasparek enjoys sports and reading in her free time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I was one of those kids who never really had to come out. My mother always just knew. My mother and I are very close and I’ve been blessed with the fact that she’s so accepting. The hardest people to tell were my grandparents. I literally “told them” by sending them an invite to my wedding and waiting for the questions to follow.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
Ellen DeGeneres. She’s butch and adored by housewives everywhere. And who doesn’t love her dance moves?
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
Phase. I love that place. It’s a small, gritty, no-frills type of bar. My kind of place.
Describe your dream wedding.
I had my dream wedding in 2010. We had a small ceremony with close family and friends and followed that with an amazing party with extended family and friends at the HRC Equality Center.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
Race relations in America. As the percentage of minorities in America increases, it blows my mind that racism still exists. It’s everywhere, albeit subtle, it’s there. RIP Michael Brown.
What historical outcome would you change?
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Michael Sam being drafted by the Rams and kissing his boyfriend in celebration. That was awesome.
On what do you insist?
Honesty at all times no matter the situation.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
“Hooked up my original Nintendo from the ‘80s and played Mario Bros … Double Dribble is next.”
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“No Subtitles Needed”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Keep doing what you’re doing. It’s important work, especially their education efforts. Education bridges the gap between acceptance, indifference and ignorance.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
My wife and my mother.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
Not all lesbians U-Haul. Some of us enjoy the fun of dating as well as our space.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
“Imagine Me and You”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Apologizing for everything, even if the person apologizing had nothing to do with it. Drives me crazy.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
My marriage certificate.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
Nothing is guaranteed and can be taken away from you at any moment. Live in the moment.
D.C. is my gay bubble. I love the community.