District of Columbia
Brett Parson arrested in Florida on sex with minor charges
Former D.C. police lieutenant served as head of LGBT Liaison Unit
Former D.C. police lieutenant Brett Parson, who served as supervisor of the departmentās LGBT Liaison Unit before retiring from the force in 2020, was arrested in Boca Raton, Fla., on Feb. 12, for allegedly having sex with a consenting 16-year-old boy in violation of Floridaās age of consent law, which is 18, according to an arrest affidavit filed in court.
The affidavit, which was prepared by a detective with the Coconut Creek (Fla.) Police Department, says the 16-year-old told police he and Parson met on the gay online dating app called Growlr and agreed to meet for a possible sexual encounter after exchanging āexplicitā photos of each other.
An arrest warrant obtained by Coconut Creek police charges Parson with two counts of āUnlawful Sexual Activity with a Minor.ā A separate incident and investigative report filed in court by Boca Raton police says officers with that department, in cooperation with Coconut Creek police, arrested Parson outside the Boca Raton residence of his parents where Parson was staying while visiting Florida from D.C.
The Washington Blade couldnāt immediately reach Parson for comment or determine the status of his case. Fox News reported it obtained court records showing Parson was being held at the Main Detention Center in Palm Beach County without bond as of Feb. 14, and it wasnāt clear if he had retained an attorney who could speak on his behalf.
The incident report filed by Boca Raton police says Parson was arrested on Feb. 12, several hours after Coconut Creek police say he and the 16-year-old allegedly had a sexual encounter in a car belonging to Parsonās father that Parson was driving and after he and the 16-year-old arranged to meet at a gas station in Coconut Creek near where the youth lives.
Criminal defense lawyers have expressed concern on behalf of clients in similar cases that an adult arrested for having consensual sex with a 16 or 17-year-old in a state where the age of consent is 18 would not have violated the law in states where the age of consent is 16. An online search of U.S. age of consent laws shows that at least 16 states and D.C. have established the age of consent for sexual acts at 16.
At the time of his retirement in 2020 after 26 years on the D.C. police force, Parson announced he was starting a consulting business to advise law enforcement agencies in the U.S. and abroad on police-related issues. He also announced he would become a part-time volunteer D.C. police reserve officer as part of the departmentās Reserve Officer Corps.
When asked to confirm media reports that Parson had been removed from his position as a reserve officer, D.C. police spokesperson Sean Hickman sent the Blade a short statement confirming those reports.
āWe were made aware of the retired memberās arrest early Sunday morning,ā the statement says. āMPD immediately terminated him from our Reserve Corps.ā
According to the arrest affidavit filed by Coconut Creek Police Det. Sgt. John McKinney, officers on routine duty during the early morning hours of Feb. 12 observed a vehicle driven by the 16-year-old being followed by a vehicle driven by Parson. The affidavit says the officers approached both vehicles after they observed the vehicle driven by the 16-year-year-old, a Ford Focus, turned into a ārestricted access facility owned by Comcast.ā
It says the vehicle driven by Parson, a red Buick convertible, āwaited in the middle of the roadway,ā prompting officers to approach Parson. The affidavit says Parson told the officers he was a police officer visiting his parents from D.C. and wasnāt familiar with the area and simply got lost. It says the officers allowed Parson to leave the area after he told them he did not know the person in the other vehicle.
āThe officers then made contact with the driver of the gray Ford Focus, later identified as the 16-year-old minor hereinafter referred to as āRT,āā the affidavit says. āRT advised the officers that he was using Growlr, a dating application for gay men, to communicate with a male who identified himself as Brett,ā the affidavit continues. āHe stated that Brett told him he was looking for no strings attached casual sex, repeatedly asked him to meet, and sent each other explicit photographs.ā
After initially meeting at a Shell gas station, at about 1 a.m. on Feb. 12, he and Parson arranged to drive to another location and park their cars in a secluded parking lot at the site of a daycare center in Coconut Creek, where RT got into the car Parson was driving, according to the affidavit. He told police the two talked for a while before they began kissing and a short time later performed oral sex on each other, the affidavit says RT recounted to police.
It says that the two attracted the attention of police when RT became nervous after someone walked past the parked car where he and Parson were engaging in intimate acts and the two decided to drive in their separate cars to find another location. Thatās when police noticed that RT drove his vehicle into a restricted area and officers approached him to find out what was going on.
The affidavit does not say what prompted RT to disclose the intimate details of his alleged sexual acts with Parson when the officers would not otherwise have learned about that. The affidavit also doesnāt explain how it came about that RTās parents arrived on the scene where police were interviewing their son as stated in the affidavit, although itās likely that RT provided police with his parents contact information.
āWe first spoke with RTās parents and explained what we knew up to this point and the process involved in a case of this nature,ā the affidavit states. āAfter a detailed explanation of their options, RTās parents stated they would like to press charges against Brett Parson and together with their son would consent to the necessary steps for evidence collection,ā it says.
āWe then spoke with RT,ā the affidavit says in recounting the action by McKinney and other police investigators. āIt should be noted that RT is a thin build male who clearly does not appear to be 18 years of age or older,ā it says. The affidavit says RT then repeated his account of his interactions with Parson that he gave to the officers who stopped him in his car earlier that morning.
The affidavit says RT turned over his phone to police to allow them to read the text messages that he and Parson exchanged after they met on the Growlr dating site. It quotes RT texting Parson to say āso sexyā after Parson sent him a shirtless photo of himself. After RT sent Parson a clothed photo of himself, Parson replied, āYou are so cute,ā the affidavit says. It says the two subsequently exchanged āexplicitā photos of each other.
The affidavitās recounting of the text messages between Parson and RT makes it clear that RT willingly chose to meet Parson for a sexual encounter knowing that Parson was an older man. The affidavit says Parson is 53.
After interviewing RT and his parents, the affidavit says detectives escorted them to the Coconut Creek Police’s Sexual Assault Treatment Center āfor a physical examination, evidence collection and sworn recorded statement.ā It says RT was then shown a group of photos of others along with Parsonās photo and he āpositively identified Brettā as the person with whom he engaged in sexual activity.
āBased on the facts above, probable cause exists for the issuance of an arrest warrant for Brett Parson because Parson, who is over 24 years of age, did engage in sexual activity, in this case oral sex with each other, involving the victim who is only 16 years of age,ā the affidavit concludes.
By mentioning that Parson was older than 24 years or age the affidavit was referring to the Florida age of consent statute that allows a person between the age of 18 and 23 to legally engage in consensual sex with a person who is 16 or 17 years old.
The affidavit does not say ā and it could not immediately be determined ā whether RT self identifies as gay, whether he was out to his parents as a gay person before the incident with Parson surfaced, or whether his parents are supportive of his sexual orientation. LGBTQ youth advocates have reported that many LGBTQ young people are confronted with hostile parents who disparage their sexual orientation or gender identity and sometimes prompt the young LGBTQ people to run away from their homes.
Gay former D.C. Advisory Neighborhood Commissioner Alex Padro, who says he has known Parson for many years in Padroās role as a community activist in the cityās Shaw neighborhood, said Parson āearned my respect and that of many in our city and beyondā during Parsonās career as a police officer.
āBrett Parson served our city proudly for 26 years before his retirement in 2020,ā Padro said. āJust like anyone else accused of a crime, Mr. Parson deserves to be treated as being innocent until proven guilty, and is entitled to mount a defense,ā he said.
āMPDās action in terminating a 26-year veteran of its ranks from the Reserve Corps without due process, without even hearing his side of the story is both un-American and unjust, depriving our citizens and MPD of his years of experience and demonstrating to those volunteer reservists that MPD does not have their back,ā Padro said.
D.C. gay activist Rick Rosendall said Parsonās arrest raises the issue of teenage sexuality that the prevailing political and social climate does not appear ready to address.
āA 16-year-old cruising on Growlr may be a poor choice for a sexual partner, but he is not a victim,ā Rosendall said. āOur society continues to have the most absurdly counterproductive attitudes regarding teenage sexuality, as if it could be wished away,ā he said. āThe result of this denialism is teen pregnancies and STDs.ā
āBrett Parson has done our community considerable service and I hold him in high regard,ā added Rosendall.
Legal observers have said age of consent laws are based on the long-held belief that a person under the age determined to be the legal āage of consentā is incapable of giving informed consent to sexual acts.
District of Columbia
Catching up with the asexuals and aromantics of D.C.
Exploring identity and finding community
There was enough commotion in the sky at the Blossom Kite Festival that bees might have been pollinating the Washington Monument. I despaired of quickly finding the Asexuals and Aromantics of the Mid-AtlanticāI couldnāt make out a single asexual flag among the kites up above. I thought to myself that if it had been the Homosexuals of the Mid-Atlantic I wouldāve had my gaydar to rely on. Was there even such a thing as ace-dar?
As it turned out, the asexual kite the group had meant to fly was a little too pesky to pilot. āHave you ever used a stunt kite?ā Bonnie, the event organizer asked me. āI bought one. It looked really cool. But I canāt make it work.ā She sighed. āI canāt get the thing six feet off the ground.ā The group hardly seemed to care. There was caramel popcorn and cookies, board games and head massages, a game of charades with more than its fair share of PokĆ©mon. The kites up above might as well have been a coincidental sideshow. Nearly two dozen folks filtered in and out of the picnic throughout the course of the day.
But I counted myself lucky that Bonnie picked me out of the crowd. If thereās such a thing as ace-dar, it eludes asexuals too. The online forum for all matters asexual, AVEN, or the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, is filled with laments: āI donāt think itās possible.ā āDude, I wish I had an ace-dar.ā āIf it exists, I donāt have it.ā āI think this is just like a broken clock is right twice a day type thing.ā What seems to be a more common experience is meeting someone you just click withāonly to find out later that theyāre asexual. A few of the folks I met described how close childhood friends of theirs likewise came out in adulthood, a phenomenon that will be familiar to many queer people. But it is all the more astounding for asexuals to find each other this way, given that asexual people constitute 1.7% of sexual minorities in America, and so merely .1% of the population at large.
To help other asexuals identify you out in the world, some folks wear a black ring on their middle finger, much as an earring on the right ear used to signify homosexuality in a less welcoming era. The only problem? The swinger communityāwith its definite non-asexualityāhas also adopted the signal. āItās still a thing,ā said Emily Karp. āSo some people wear their ace rings just to the ace meet-ups.ā Karp has been the primary coordinator for the Asexuals and Aromantics of the Mid-Atlantic (AAMA) since 2021, and a member of the meet-up for a decade. She clicked with the group immediately. After showing up for a Fourth of July potluck in the mid-afternoon, she ended up staying past midnight. āWe played Cards against Humanity, which was a very, very fun thing to do. It’s funny in a way thatās different than if we were playing with people that weren’t ace. Some of the cards are implying, like, the person would be motivated by sex in a way that’s absurd, because we know they aren’t.ā
Where so many social organizations withered during the pandemic, the AAMA flourished. Today, it boasts almost 2,000 members on meetup.com. Karp hypothesized that all the social isolation gave people copious time to reflect on themselves, and that the ease of meeting up online made it convenient as a way for people to explore their sexual identity and find community. Online events continue to make up about a third of the groupās meet-ups. The format allows people to participate who live farther out from D.C. And it allows people to participate at their preferred level of comfort: while many people participate much as they would at an in-person event, some prefer to watch anonymously, video feed off. Others prefer to participate in the chat box, though not in spoken conversation.
A recent online event was organized for a discussion of Rhaina Cohenās book, āThe Other Significant Others,ā published in February. Cohenās book discusses friendship as an alternative model for āsignificant others,ā apart from the romantic model that is presupposed to be both the center and goal of peopleās lives. The AAMA group received the book with enthusiasm. āIt literally re-wired my brain,ā as one person put it. People discussed the importance of friendship to their lives, and their difficulties in a world that de-prioritized friendship. āI can break up with a friend over text, and we donāt owe each other a conversation,ā one said. But there was some disagreement when it came to the bookās discussion of romantic relationships. āIt relegates ace relationships to the āfriendā or āplatonicā category, to the normie-reader,ā one person wrote in the chat. āOur whole ace point is that we can have equivalent life relationships to allo people, simply without sex.ā (āAlloā is shorthand for allosexual or alloromantic, people who do experience sexual or romantic attraction.)
The folks of the AAMA do not share a consensus on the importance of romantic relationships to their lives. Some asexuals identify as aromantic, some donāt. And some aromantics donāt identify as asexual, either. The āAromanticā in the title of the group is a relatively recent addition. In 2017, the group underwent a number of big changes. The group was marching for the first time in D.C. Pride, participating in the LGBTQ Creating Change conference, and developing a separate advocacy and activism arm. Moreover, the group had become large enough that discussions were opened up into forming separate chapters for D.C., Central Virginia, and Baltimore. During those discussions, the group leadership realized that aromantic people who also identified as allosexual didnāt really have a space to call their own. āWe were thinking it would be good to probably change the name of the Meetup group,ā Emily said. āBut we were not 100% sure. Because [there were] like 1,000 people in the group, and theyāre all aces, and itās like, āDo you really want to add a non-ace person?āā The group leadership decided to err on the side of inclusion. āYou know, being less gatekeep-y was better. It gave them a place to go ā because there was nowhere else to go.ā
The DC LGBT Center now sponsors a support group for both asexuals and aromantics, but it was formed just a short while ago, in 2022. The founder of the group originally sought out the centerās bisexual support group, since they didnāt have any resources for ace folks. āThe organizer said, you know what, why donāt we just start an ace/aro group? Like, why donāt we just do it?ā He laughed. āI was impressed with the turnout, the first call. Itās almost like we tapped into, like, a dam. You poke a hole in the dam, and the water just rushes out.ā The group has a great deal of overlap with the AAMA, but it is often a personās first point of contact with the asexual and aromantic community in D.C., especially since the group focuses on exploring what it means to be asexual. Someone new shows up at almost every meeting. āAnd Iām so grateful that I did,ā one member said. āI kind of showed up and just trauma dumped, and everyone was really supportive.ā
Since the ace and aro community is so small, even within the broader queer community, ace and aro folks often go unrecognized. To the chagrin of many, the White House will write up fact sheets about the LGBTQI+ community, which is odd, given that when the āIā is added to the acronym, the āAā is usually added too. OKCupid has 22 genders and 12 orientations on its dating website, but āaromanticā is not one of them ā presumably because aromantic people donāt want anything out of dating. And since asexuality and aromanticism are defined by the absence of things, it can seem to others like ace and aro people are āmissing something.ā One member of the LGBT center support group had an interesting response. āThe space is filled byā¦ whatever else!ā they said. āWeāre not doing a relationship āwithout that thing.ā Weāre doing a full scale relationship ā as it makes sense to us.ā
CJ Higgins is a postdoctoral fellow with the Alexander Grass Humanities Institute at Johns Hopkins University.
District of Columbia
Bowser budget proposal calls for $5.25 million for 2025 World Pride
AIDS office among agencies facing cuts due to revenue shortfall
D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowserās proposed fiscal year 2025 budget includes a request for $5.25 million in funding to support the June 2025 World Pride celebration, which D.C. will host, and which is expected to bring three million or more visitors to the city.
The mayorās proposed budget, which she presented to the D.C. Council for approval earlier this month, also calls for a 7.6 percent increase in funding for the Mayorās Office of LGBTQ Affairs, which amounts to an increase of $132,000 and would bring the officeās total funding to $1.7 million. The office, among other things, provides grants to local organizations that provide services to the LGBTQ community.
Among the other LGBTQ-related funding requests in the mayorās proposed budget is a call to continue the annual funding of $600,000 to provide workforce development services for transgender and gender non-conforming city residents āexperiencing homelessness and housing instability.ā The budget proposal also calls for a separate allocation of $600,000 in new funding to support a new Advanced Technical Center at the Whitman-Walker Healthās Max Robinson Center in Ward 8.
Among the city agencies facing funding cuts under the mayorās proposed budget is the HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis, Sexually Transmitted Disease, and Tuberculosis Administration, known as HAHSTA, which is an arm of the D.C. Department of Health. LGBTQ and AIDS activists have said HAHSTA plays an important role in the cityās HIV prevention and support services. Observers familiar with the agency have said it recently lost federal funding, which the city would have to decide whether to replace.
āWe werenāt able to cover the loss of federal funds for HAHSTA with local funds,ā Japer Bowles, director of the Mayorās Office of LGBTQ Affairs, told the Washington Blade. āBut we are working with partners to identify resources to fill those funding gaps,ā Bowles said.
The total proposed budget of $21 billion that Bowser submitted to the D.C. Council includes about $500 million in proposed cuts in various city programs that the mayor said was needed to offset a projected $700 million loss in revenue due, among other things, to an end in pandemic era federal funding and commercial office vacancies also brought about by the post pandemic commercial property and office changes.
Bowserās budget proposal also includes some tax increases limited to sales and business-related taxes, including an additional fee on hotel bookings to offset the expected revenue losses. The mayor said she chose not to propose an increase in income tax or property taxes.
Earlier this year, the D.C. LGBTQ+ Budget Coalition, which consists of several local LGBTQ advocacy organizations, submitted its own fiscal year 2025 budget proposal to both Bowser and the D.C. Council. In a 14-page letter the coalition outlined in detail a wide range of funding proposals, including housing support for LGBTQ youth and LGBTQ seniors; support for LGBTQ youth homeless services; workforce and employment services for transgender and gender non-conforming residents; and harm reduction centers to address the rise in drug overdose deaths.
Another one of the coalitionās proposals is $1.5 million in city funding for the completion of the D.C. Center for the LGBTQ Communityās new building, a former warehouse building in the cityās Shaw neighborhood that is undergoing a build out and renovation to accommodate the LGBTQ Centerās plans to move in later this year. The coalitionās budget proposal also calls for an additional $300,000 in ārecurringā city funding for the LGBTQ Center in subsequent years āto support ongoing operational costs and programmatic initiatives.ā
Bowles noted that Bowser authorized and approved a $1 million grant for the LGBTQ Centerās new building last year but was unable to provide additional funding requested by the budget coalition for the LGBTQ Center for fiscal year 2025.
āWeāre still in this with them,ā Bowles said. āWeāre still looking and working with them to identify funding.ā
The total amount of funding that the LGBTQ+ Budget Coalition listed in its letter to the mayor and Council associated with its requests for specific LGBTQ programs comes to $43.1 million.
Heidi Ellis, who serves as coordinator of the coalition, said the coalition succeeded in getting some of its proposals included in the mayorās budget but couldnāt immediately provide specific amounts.
āThere are a couple of areas I would argue we had wins,ā Ellis told the Blade. āWe were able to maintain funding across different housing services, specifically around youth services that affect folks like SMYAL and Wanda Alston.ā She was referring to the LGBTQ youth services group SMYAL and the LGBTQ organization Wanda Alston Foundation, which provides housing for homeless LGBTQ youth.
āWe were also able to secure funding for the transgender, gender non-conforming workforce program,ā she said. āWe also had funding for migrant services that weāve been advocating for and some wins on language access,ā said Ellis, referring to programs assisting LGBTQ people and others who are immigrants and arenāt fluent in speaking English.
Ellis said that although the coalitionās letter sent to the mayor and Council had funding proposals that totaled $43.1 million, she said the coalition used those numbers as examples for programs and policies that it believes would be highly beneficial to those in the LGBTQ community in need.
āI would say to distill it down to just we ask for $43 million or whatever, thatās not an accurate picture of what weāre asking for,ā she said. āWeāre asking for major investments around a few areas ā housing, healthcare, language access. And for capital investments to make sure the D.C. Center can open,ā she said. āItās not like a narrative about the dollar amounts. Itās more like where weāre trying to go.ā
The Blade couldnātā immediately determine how much of the coalitionās funding proposals are included in the Bowser budget. The mayorās press secretary, Daniel Gleick, told the Blade in an email that those funding levels may not have been determined by city agencies.
āAs for specific funding levels for programs that may impact the LGBTQ community, such as individual health programs through the Department of Health, it is too soon in the budget process to determine potential adjustments on individual programs run though city agencies,ā Gleick said.
But Bowles said several of the programs funded in the mayorās budget proposal that are not LGBTQ specific will be supportive of LGBTQ programs. Among them, he said, is the budgetās proposal for an increase of $350,000 in funding for senior villages operated by local nonprofit organizations that help support seniors. Asked if that type of program could help LGBTQ seniors, Bowles said, āAbsolutely ā thatās definitely a vehicle for LGBTQ senior services.ā
He said among the programs the increased funding for the mayorās LGBTQ Affairs office will support is its ongoing cultural competency training for D.C. government employees. He said he and other office staff members conduct the trainings about LGBTQ-related issues at city departments and agencies.
Bowser herself suggested during an April 19 press conference that local businesses, including LGBTQ businesses and organizations, could benefit from a newly launched city āPop-Up Permit Programā that greatly shortens the time it takes to open a business in vacant storefront buildings in the downtown area.
Bowser and Nina Albert, D.C. Deputy Mayor for Planning and Economic Development, suggested the new expedited city program for approving permits to open shops and small businesses in vacant storefront spaces could come into play next year when D.C. hosts World Pride, one of the wordās largest LGBTQ events.
āWhile we know that all special events are important, there is an especially big one coming to Washington, D.C. next year,ā Bowser said at the press conference. āAnd to that point, we proposed a $5.25 million investment to support World Pride 2025,ā she said, adding, āItās going to be pretty great. And so, weāre already thinking about how we can include D.C. entrepreneurs, how weāre going to include artists, how weāre going to celebrate across all eight wards of our city as well,ā she said.
Among those attending the press conference were officials of D.C.ās Capital Pride Alliance, which will play a lead role in organizing World Pride 2025 events.
District of Columbia
Taste of Point returns at critical time for queer students
BIPOC scholar to speak at Room & Board event on May 2
The Point Foundation will kick off May with its annual Taste of Point DC event. The event will be hosted at Room & Board on 14th Street and feature a silent auction, food tastings, a speech from a scholar, and more.
Pointās chief of staff, Kevin Wright, said that at Taste of Point, the scholars are the star of the show.
āPeople never come to an event to hear Point staff speak, they come to hear from the people most impacted by the program,ā he said. āAt its core Taste of Point is designed to center and highlight our scholarsā voices and experiences.ā
This year, a Point BIPOC Scholar, Katherine Guerrero Rivera will speak at the event.
āIt is a great opportunity to highlight the scholars out there on the front lines making impacts in almost every sector and job field,ā Wright said.
Wright pointed out that this year especially is a pivotal time for LGBTQ students.
āIn 2023, there were 20 states that passed anti-LGBTQ legislation,ā he said. āBy this point in [2024] we already have more.ā
Wright said the impacts of those legislative attacks are far reaching and that Point is continuously monitoring the impact they have on students on the ground.
Last month, The Washington Post reported that states with anti-LGBTQ laws in place saw school hate crimes quadruple. This report came a month after a non-binary student, Nex Bennedict, died after being attacked at school.
āSo, we see this as a critical moment to really step up and help students who are facing these challenges on their campus,ā Wright said. āOur mission is to continue to empower our scholars to achieve their full academic and leadership potential.ā
This year Point awarded nearly 600 LGBTQ students with scholarships. These include the flagship scholarship, community college scholarship and the BIPOC scholarship. When the foundation started in 2002, there were only eight scholarships awarded.
Dr. Harjant Gill is one of those scholars who said the scholarship was pivotal for him. Gill said he spent his undergraduate years creating films and doing activism for the LGBTQ community.
As a result, his academic record wasnāt stellar and although he was admitted into American Universityās graduate program he had no clue how he would fund it.
Upon arrival to American he was told to apply for a Point scholarship and the rest was history.
āIt ended up being the one thing that kept me going otherwise I would have dropped out,ā he said. āPoint was incredibly instrumental in my journey to becoming an academic and a professor.ā
More than a decade later, Gill serves on the host committee for Taste of Point and is a mentor to young Point scholars. He said that he donates money yearly to Point and that when he is asked what he wants for a gift he will often tell his friends to donate too.
To attend the event on Wednesday, May 2, purchase tickets at the Point website. If you canāt attend this yearās Taste of Point DC event but would like to get involved, you can also donate online.Ā
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