Arts & Entertainment
Husband caught with gay lover on ‘What Would You Do?’
diners were faced with decisions beyond the menu

(Screenshot via YouTube)
Customers in an Atlanta barbecue restaurant had to choose whether to destroy a four-year marriage because of a cheating husband’s secret affair with a gay lover on the latest episode of “What Would You Do?” on ABC.
Actors depicting a husband and wife were seated near unsuspecting diners to pretend that it was their anniversary. After appearing like a happy couple, the wife gets up and leaves the table. While she’s gone another man enters the restaurant and kisses the husband making it clear that they are in a relationship. The husband tells the man he needs to go because his wife is there and when the wife returns she has no idea that her husband is having a secret affair.
Reactions to the situation were varied. No one appeared homophobic about the affair but were more interested that there was an affair at all.
One woman decides to approach the husband and convince him to tell his wife he’s cheating. Another man keeps quiet, but can’t help laughing to himself. A husband and wife are shocked by the situation, but decide to not get involved.
One woman tries to get the husband to reveal his secret saying he owes it to his wife and to his boyfriend if he really loves him. When the husband still won’t share, the woman tells the wife he is having an affair with a man.
Watch how it plays out below.
Theater
National tour of āGatsbyā comes to National Theatre
Out actor Edward Staudenmayer talks playing the showās gangster
āThe Great Gatsbyā
May 12-24
The National Theatre
1321 Pennsylvania Ave., N.W.
$59-$196
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Often dubbed āThe Great American Novelā for its depiction of ambition and self-invention alongside the reversals of success, F. Scott Fitzgeraldās āThe Great Gatsbyā says it all in a fast read.
Set against the excesses and energy of the Roaring Twenties, āThe Great Gatsby,ā novel and now the same-titled hit Broadway musical with a jazz/pop original score by Jason Howland and Nathan Tysen, tells the story of Nick Carraway and his friendship with Jay Gatsby, an enigmatic millionaire intent on reuniting with ex-lover, Daisy Buchanan.
It was during a four-month 2025 run in Seoul, South Korea, that out actor Edward Staudenmayer first played the showās heavy, Meyer Wolfsheim, a gangster who helped Gatsby make his murkily acquired fortune. As Meyer, Staudenmayer opens the second act with, appropriately enough, āShady.ā
Now three months into a year-long North American tour, the show is poised to enjoy a brief run at Washingtonās National Theatre (5/12-5/24).
While putting on his eyeliner prior to a recent Wednesday matinee at Chicagoās Cadillac Palace Theatre, the upstate New York-based actor shared about Gatsby and a life in theater.
WASHINGTON BLADE: Despite your good looks and terrific voice, youāre rarely the leading the man. How is that?
EDWARD STAUDENMAYER: Iām definitely a character man. Iāve been painting lines on my face to play old men since I was in high school. I was the youngest freshman in college playing old Uncle Sorin [in Chekhovās āThe Seagullā].
There have been many villains. Some darker than others. Meyer Wolfsheim is a very bad guy, but he doesnāt haunt me once Iām offstage. I play a lot of pickleball.
BLADE: Is it true that like so many of Fitzgeraldās characters, Wolfsheim is famously based on someone the writer encountered in life.
STAUDENMEYER: Thatās true, Wolfsheim is pretty much a direct portrayal of real-life mobster and 1919 World Series fixer [Arnold Rothstein].
BLADE: When did the 1925 novel first surface on your radar?
STAUDENMAYER: Like many of us, I was assigned āThe Great Gatsbyā in high school. It was short, and filled with sex and illicit activities. I thought it was great. Definitely wasnāt a Judy Blume novel.
Interestingly, the book wasnāt originally a huge a success for Fitzgerald, but because it was about war and having the girl at home, they gave it to GIs leaving for WWII. After returning, a lot of those guys went on the GI Bill and became English teachers. They assigned the book to their students.
BLADE The idea that the bookās first-person narrator, Nick Carraway, is gay and enamored with Jay Gatsby is long discussed among readers and scholars. Does the musical touch on that?
STAUDENMAYER: Yes, thereās conjecture about Jay and Nick, and itās implied in our show. Itās also implied about Jordan Baker, Jayās fleeting romantic interest. Ultimately, sheās a confirmed bachelor, and a professional golfer who only wears pants.
Our performers are really good. Josh Grasso who plays Nick is fantastic. Iāve had to stop watching him in his last scene; itās not good for Meyer Wolfsheim to take his curtain call crying. Our Gatsby, Jake David Smith, is good too. Heās gorgeous like Superman and sings like an angel.
BLADE: Do you ever imagine backstory for your characters whose sexuality is undefined?
STAUDENMAYER: I do, but not with Wolfsheim. I donāt see it. Iām trying to be as butch as possible with this ruthless killer.
BLADE: Have you had to do that in your career?
STAUDENMAYER: For a long time, I wore a mask to hide my gayness. I worked hard on being believable, that I was into the girl or that I was a tough guy.
Itās a different world now, and itās so refreshing to be around the younger actors today; theyāre remarkably open and comfortable.
BLADE: What was your coming of age like?
STAUDENMAYER: I played high school football in Palm Springs [he chuckles, alluding to the arid gay mecca], and I was pretty good too. But much to the chagrin of my parents and coaches, I quit the team to act in our senior year play. My super butch dad played semi-pro football and he was an ex-cop. Iām named after him. While I didnāt become my dad, Iāve played him often on stage. He was a true Gaston [the bumptious rival in āBeauty and the Beastā]. And like Gaston, he used antlers in all his interior decorating.
BLADE: Did he live to see your success in theater?
STAUDENMAYER: He did. Life was challenging growing up but the last 10 years of his life we couldnāt get off the phone with each other [his voice catches with emotion]. He accepted me entirely, and we became very close.
BLADE: Looking ahead, is there a part youād especially like to play?
STAUDENMAYER: Like all baritones Iād love to play Sondheimās āSweeney Todd.ā Iāve come close but it hasnāt happened yet. Thereās still time.
Music & Concerts
DJ Chanel Santini is bringing the heat and some gender-fluid diversity to XBIZ Miami
Pool party celebrates most charismatic personalities, creative artists in adult entertainment
Chanel Santini has crossed over to being a DJ, performing at clubs all over the country. Now known as Santini, they will be making music and hyping the pool party, DJ-ing at XBIZ, the conference for adult creators and digital players, in Miami.
Taking place on Monday to Wednesday, the event honors the most charismatic personalities and creative artists in entertainment.
āI am honestly so excited ā getting to DJ in Miami Beach is literally a DJās dream!ā Santini told the Los Angeles Blade.
āI thought it would be a good opportunity because I havenāt been around my industry peers in a long time. Itās a great event to network and show off the new me!ā said Santini.
While Santini is unsure what music they will be playing, they want everyone to have a good time. āMy goal is to ignite the dance floor and play great music that everyone will vibe to. My sound includes house music, bass house, tech house, and I always like to throw a little bit of hip-hop in my sets.ā
Santini loves how DJ-ing brings people together.
āMusic really ignites us all! It is so universal, no matter what language you speak. I think itās the best high in the world when you play a banger track, and everybody on the dance floor screams loudly. You canāt describe that feeling until youāre up there on that stage.ā
Santini describes DJs as the āmodern rock starsā in todayās world.
āI always feel like such a superstar when Iām up on that stage. The best feeling is after my set when I have people come up to me and say, āThank you for sharing that amazing music.ā Thatās how you know that youāre a good DJ ā I love when I get those types of compliments!ā

While sometimes itās hard to please everyoneās musical tastes, Santini endeavors to try! āYou just have to go out there and give it your all and be the best DJ that you can be,ā he noted.
Santini, who had previously identified as transgender, recently decided to transition back to being gender fluid.
āItās definitely been a journey, but Iām definitely happier in my own skin now than I was. I donāt go by he/him pronouns. I donāt go by they/them either. I guess I just really donāt have a preference. Whatever you see me as is your opinion. Iāve learned over the years that Iām not trying to be one specific thing. Iām just Santini. Iām just me.ā
Santini acknowledged they felt respected more when dressed as a woman.
āI think itās just because femininity runs the world. When I started to de-transition, I felt like I had to just be a boy all the time. But Iāve realized over the years that I donāt need to stick to one specific thing. I am always gonna be feminine, and thatās OK.ā
Recently, Santini has been embracing their feminine side more.
āI definitely feel more comfortable in female presentation, and more powerful when Iām on stage dressed as Chanel. I love DJ-ing in drag because there are so many straight male DJs in the world. Itās almost like a superhero when he puts on his cape! I think it makes me confident and stand out more as an artist.ā
And because Santini loves makeup and fashion, they can incorporate that into their sets. āIām not just bringing you good vibes and good music. Iām bringing you a show/ production!ā

Santini is already working on big plans for the future.
āIām opening up for a huge Pride block party in my hometown, Albuquerque, N.M., on June 12 and 13. Itās a two day festival and Iām super excited for this opportunity. Iām even hiring backup dancers and a choreographer.ā
Santini plans to go āall outā for this show.
āItās gonna be the biggest crowd that Iāve ever played for,ā Santini enthused. āIām putting my heart and soul into this performance, especially because itās Pride in my hometown, and that means so much to me. I know the younger me would be so proud.ā
Santini remembers going to Pride when they were younger and telling themself they couldn’t wait to be up on that stage.
āIām truly living my dream right now, and Iām so excited for the future. The last 10 years of being in the adult entertainment business have been great and have given me major success. But I always knew that I didn’t want to be in this industry for long.ā
Santini acknowledged that, in the recent past, it was a struggle.
āIāve been trying to find myself and figure out what I wanna do next with my life. Now that Iāve found this passion for DJ-ing, it makes me want to go far in this business.ā
In addition to being a DJ/artist, Santini is starting college next semester.
āIām gonna get my degree in audio engineering,ā Santini enthused. āI canāt wait to start producing my own tracks. I especially canāt wait till the day Iām headlining a major festival! I know with a little bit of patience and hard work that I can get there! I just have to continue believing in myself.ā
Santini wanted to thank all of their fans for their support. āTruly, if it wasnāt for them, I wouldnāt be able to fund my art in the way that I have. Iām truly grateful. And Iām excited for the future!ā
Out & About
Learn more about queer love
Friends of Dorothy Cafe hosts event at City-State Public House
Friends of Dorothy Cafe will host āLiving History: How We Lovedā on Thursday, May 14 at 7:30 p.m. at City-State Public House.
Guests will hear how queer and trans people have loved and cared for one another, especially when legal, medical, and social systems did not recognize those relationships. Weāll reflect on chosen family, long-term partnerships before marriage equality, caregiving during the AIDS crisis, hidden romances, friendship as survival, chosen family, and the loves that changed the course of our lives. This evening is about honoring lived experience, preserving community memory, and strengthening the bridge between generations.
Tickets are $24.57 and are available on Eventbrite.Ā
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