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Rehoboth drag performer on accepting apology for anti-gay slur

An opportunity to bring change to Lewes Fire Department

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Magnolia Applebottom (Washington Blade photo by Daniel Truitt)

As an entertainer I always wanted my show to be in the news, just not for this reason. The timeline of events was short, but the range of emotions seemed endless.

On Nov. 24, CAMP Rehoboth held a meeting with members of the Lewes Fire Department and Bill Buckaloo to address the effects of Buckaloo’s hate language after attending my recent cabaret show at the Blue Moon. I had planned on getting in full costume to attend this meeting, but I decided against it only because my performance attire is simply my body armor. But with support from CAMP, Blue Moon, and my closest family and friends I thought it was important for Buckaloo to see that there is an actual person under the façade of Magnolia.

The word that was used by Buckaloo to describe my recent performance was highly inappropriate and disturbing. Not only using the word, but tagging a local business and safe place along with a picture was uncalled for. I do not take the use of that word lightly. I have worked very hard to earn the platform and stage that I have and when this happened I knew I had to take advantage of it.

There was a time when using that word meant a bundle of sticks, but over the years people started using it to belittle and insult homosexual people. It’s actually very hard to remember a time when those words weren’t used to insult gay people. I first heard that word in fifth grade. I was called that word before I even knew what it meant and before I even knew I was gay. And starting in middle school I probably heard it every day to the point I heard that word while being punched, or shoved at the same time.

I have lost friendships and family relationships over that word. I hope Buckaloo understands when you use these offensive terms toward gay people, trying to be humorous, you might actually be hurting someone. A small comment can stick with a person for a very long time. Personally, this word itself has a violent history for me so it is very important he understand its meaning and its impact on people before posting it to describe anything in the gay community. The lack of awareness was probably the most shocking thing about this entire situation. The people I know in the community never use that word so it was very ignorant and inappropriate to think that he could too.

At the meeting with Buckaloo after his offensive post on social media, I suggested new levels of sensitivity training for older and new members of the fire department. It will be beneficial for them to familiarize themselves with LGBTQ organizations such as the It Gets Better Project – a nonprofit focused on empowerment of LGBTQ+ youth. It Gets Better began as a wildly successful social media campaign to provide hope and encouragement to LGBTQ+ youth who have been bullied or victimized. This organization has evolved into a major, multi-media platform capable of reaching millions of young people every year through inspiring media programming. Also, The Trevor Project is the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ+ youth. These organizations were created because our gay youth are hearing and seeing these insulting slurs and are thinking they were less than and sadly it’s still going on everyday.

I recommended volunteering, donating, and simply familiarizing yourself with these organizations not just to help you as a first responder but to know that bullying and hate crimes against LGBTQ+ people are happening every day and there is support for those going through it.

I do accept Buckaloo’s apology. He should know that the LGBTQ+ community of Rehoboth Beach and Lewes is strong. I cannot thank everyone enough who reached out to me in the past week apologizing for someone else’s behavior. I never had this amount of support when I was being bullied in school so the fact an entire community rallied behind me to make their voices heard and to let the community know that this is not OK warms my heart.

I was so overwhelmed by the love and encouragement this week and it makes me so happy to call Rehoboth Beach my home. I sincerely hope the Lewes Fire Department knows that for the foreseeable future this community is on high alert and wanting to see the difference they are asking for.

Jeremy Bernstein performs as Magnolia Applebottom at the Blue Moon in Rehoboth Beach and other venues.

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Candidates should pledge to nominate LGBTQ judge to Supreme Court

Presidential, Senate hopefuls need to go on the record

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As soon as the final votes are cast and counted and verified after the November 2026 elections are over, the 2028 presidential cycle will begin in earnest. Polls, financial aid requests, and volunteer opportunities ad infinitum will flood the public and personal media. There will be more issues than candidates in both parties. The rending of garments and mudslinging will be both interesting and maybe even amusing as citizens will watch how candidates react to each and every issue of the day.

There is one particular item that I am hoping each candidate will be asked whether in private or in public. If a Supreme Court vacancy occurs in your potential administration, will you nominate an open and qualified LGBTQ to join the remaining eight?

Other interest groups on both sides have made similar demands over the years and have had them honored. Is it not time that our voices are raised as well? There are several already sitting judges on both state and federal benches that have either been elected statewide or approved by the U.S. Senate.

Our communities are being utilized and abused on judicial menus. Enough already! Challenge each and every candidate, regardless of their party with our honest question and see if honest answers are given. By the way … no harm in asking the one-third of the U.S. Senate candidates too who will be on ballots. Looking forward to any candidate tap dancing!

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2026 elections will bring major changes to D.C. government

Mayor’s office, multiple Council seats up for grabs

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Next year will be a banner year for elections in D.C. The mayor announced she will not run. Two Council members, Anita Bonds, At-large, and Brianne Nadeau, Ward 1, have announced they will not run. Waiting for Del. Norton to do the same, but even if she doesn’t, there will be a real race for that office. 

So far, Robert White, Council member at-large, and Brooke Pinto, Council member Ward 2, are among a host of others, who have announced. If one of these Council members should win, there would be a special election for their seat. If Kenyon McDuffie, Council member at-large, announces for mayor as a Democrat, which he is expected to do, he will have to resign his seat on the Council as he fills one of the non-Democratic seats there. Janeese George, Ward 4 Council member, announced she is running for mayor. Should she win, there would be a special election for her seat. Another special election could happen if Trayon White, Ward 8, is convicted of his alleged crimes, when he is brought to trial in January. Both the Council chair, and attorney general, have announced they are seeking reelection, along with a host of other offices that will be on the ballot.  

Many of the races could look like the one in Ward 1 where at least six people have already announced. They include three members of the LGBTQ community. It seems the current leader in that race is Jackie Reyes Yanes, a Latina activist, not a member of the LGBTQ community, who worked for Mayor Fenty as head of the Latino Affairs Office, and for Mayor Bowser as head of the Office of Community Affairs. About eight, including the two Council members, have already announced they are running for the delegate seat.

I am often asked by candidates for an endorsement. The reason being my years as a community, LGBTQ, and Democratic, activist; and my ability to endorse in my column in the Washington Blade. The only candidate I endorsed so far is Phil Mendelson, for Council chair. While he and I don’t always agree on everything, he’s a staunch supporter of the LGBTQ community, a rational person, and we need someone with a steady hand if there really are six new Council members, out of the 13. 

When candidates call, they realize I am a policy wonk. My unsolicited advice to all candidates is: Do more than talk in generalities, be specific and honest as to what you think you can do, if elected. Candidates running for a legislative office, should talk about what bills they will support, and then what new ones they will introduce. What are the first three things you will focus on for your constituents, if elected. If you are running against an incumbent, what do you think you can do differently than the person you hope to replace? For any new policies and programs you propose, if there is a cost, let constituents know how you intend to pay for them. Take the time to learn the city budget, and how money is currently being spent. The more information you have at your fingertips, the smarter you sound, and voters respect that, at least many do. If you are running for mayor, you need to develop a full platform, covering all the issues the city will face, something I have helped a number of previous mayors do. The next mayor will continue to have to deal with the felon in the White House. He/she/they will have to ensure he doesn’t try to eliminate home rule. The next mayor will have to understand how to walk a similar tightrope Mayor Bowser has balanced so effectively. 

Currently, the District provides lots of public money to candidates. If you decide to take it, know the details. The city makes it too easy to get. But while it is available, take advantage of it. One new variable in this election is the implementation of rank-choice voting. It will impact how you campaign. If you attack another candidate, you may not be the second, or even third, choice, of their strongest supporters. 

Each candidate needs a website. Aside from asking for donations and volunteers, it should have a robust issues section, biography, endorsements, and news. One example I share with candidates is my friend Zach Wahls’s website. He is running for United States Senate from Iowa. It is a comprehensive site, easy to navigate, with concise language, and great pictures. One thing to remember is that D.C. is overwhelmingly Democratic. Chances are the winner of the Democratic primary will win the general election. 

Potential candidates should read the DCBOE calendar. Petitions will be available at the Board of Elections on Jan. 23, with the primary on June 16th, and general election on Nov. 3. So, ready, set, go! 


Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist.

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Lighting candles in a time of exhaustion

Gunmen killed 15 people at Sydney Hanukkah celebration

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In the wake of the shooting at Bondi Beach that targeted Jews, many of us are sitting with a familiar feeling: exhaustion. Not shock or surprise, but the deep weariness that comes from knowing this violence continues. It is yet another reminder that antisemitism remains persistent.

Bondi Beach is far from Washington, D.C., but antisemitism does not respect geography. When Jews are attacked anywhere, Jews everywhere feel it. We check on family and friends, absorb the headlines, and brace ourselves for the quiet, numbing normalization that has followed acts of mass violence.

Many of us live at an intersection where threats can come from multiple directions. As a community, we have embraced the concept of intersectional identity, and yet in queer spaces, many LGBTQ+ Jews are being implicitly or explicitly asked to play down our Jewishness. Jews hesitate before wearing a Magen David or a kippah. Some of us have learned to compartmentalize our identities, deciding which part of ourselves feels safest to lead with. Are we welcome as queer people only if we mute our Jewishness? Are those around us able to acknowledge that our fear is not abstract, but rooted in a lived reality, one in which our friends and family are directly affected by the rise in antisemitic violence, globally and here at home?

As a result of these experiences, many LGBTQ+ Jews feel a growing fatigue. We are told, implicitly or explicitly, that our fear is inconvenient; that Jewish trauma must be contextualized, minimized, or deferred in favor of other injustices. Certainly, the world is full of horror. And yet, we long for a world in which all lives are cherished and safe, where solidarity is not conditional on political purity or on which parts of ourselves are deemed acceptable to love.

We are now in the season of Chanuka. The story of this holiday is not one of darkness vanishing overnight. It is the story of a fragile light that should not have lasted. Chanuka teaches us that hope does not require certainty; it requires persistence and the courage to kindle a flame even when the darkness feels overwhelming.

For LGBTQ+ Jews, this lesson resonates deeply. We have survived by refusing to disappear across multiple dimensions of our identities. We have built communities, created rituals, and embraced chosen families that affirm the fullness of who we are.

To our LGBTQ+ siblings who are not Jewish: this is a moment to listen, to stand with us, and to make space for our grief. Solidarity means showing up not only when it is easy or popular, but especially when it is uncomfortable.

To our fellow Jews: your exhaustion is valid. Your fear is understandable, and so is your hope. Every candle lit this Chanuka is an act of resilience. Every refusal to hide, every moment of joy, is a declaration that hatred will not have the final word.

Light does not deny darkness. It confronts it.

As we light our candles this Chanuka season, may we protect one another and bring light to one another, even as the world too often responds to difference with violence and hate.

Joshua Maxey is the executive director of Bet Mishpachah, D.C.’s LGBTQ synagogue.

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