Living
Queery: Ron Simmons
The Us Helping Us president answers 20 gay questions


Ron Simmons (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Us Helping Us has grown by leaps and bounds since its humble origins. Founded in 1985 but incorporated in 1988, the black AIDS organization has its 25th anniversary event Monday night.
āWhat started as a support group in living rooms is now a certified treatment center with more than a dozen HIV and AIDS services from prevention support, service programs, HIV testing, screening, treatment adherence, behavioral intervention and more,ā says Ron Simmons, president of the organization.
āA Passion for Living,ā the agencyās anniversary event, is from 6-9 p.m. Monday at Arena Stage (1101 Sixth Street, S.W.). The agency will present awards to Dr. Theo Hodge, Darlene Nipper, Dana Fonville and others. Broadway actress/singer Jennifer Holliday (of āDreamgirlsā fame) will perform a 30-minute set. Proceeds from sales of the $150 tickets (tickets.arenastage.org) benefit Us Helping Us. Tickets are still available.
Simmons says it was apparent early on that something for black gay men was needed.
āGiven the racism in this country, many of the people doing HIV work were just not culturally competent in dealing with black gay men,ā he says. āWe had people go to support groups early on and it would be mainly white guys talking about having to sell their second house to make ends meet whereas many of our guys couldnāt even make rent. There was just a disconnect between our issues and their issues,ā Simmons says.
The agency, located at 3636 Georgia Ave., N.W., has 17 on staff and an annual operating budget of about $1.8 million. It tests about 2,000 people per year for HIV and about 3,000 come through its doors for various services.
Simmons, a 63-year-old Brooklyn native, came to Washington in 1980. After teaching mass communications at Howard University for about 12 years while earning a doctorate, he joined Us in 1992, the first year in a volunteer capacity. Heās single and lives in Petworth.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I have been out since 1968. Fortunately, it wasnāt hard to tell my parents. They caught my lover and me in a compromising position when they returned from a movie early. We were fully clothed but had obvious guilty facial expressions. The next morning I woke up feeling like a heavy weight was off my shoulder. The secret was out. Iāve been smiling ever since.
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Who’s your LGBT hero?
Black lesbian activist Mandy Carter.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?Ā
Past would be the Clubhouse, the Delta Elite, the Edge and the Brass Rail when it was on 13th Street, N.W. Presently I go out three times a year, usually to the Bachelorās Mill to see friends and hear house music.
Describe your dream wedding.
Something small and outdoors, but I would let my spouse decide. If he wanted a big church wedding, so be it.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
Economic inequality. Having hungry people in the richest nation upsets me.
What historical outcome would you change?
The assassinations of Malcolm X and Dr. Martin Luther King.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Seeing LaBelle at the New York City opera house and watching Patti descend from the ceiling.
On what do you insist?
Honesty.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
My essay, āSome Thoughts on the Challenges Facing Black Gay Intellectuals.ā
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
āThe Road Less Traveledā
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Nothing. I like being me.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?Ā
A spiritual realm and a supreme being encompassing all beings.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Move beyond the āgay-onlyā agenda, and collaborate with others fighting economic, racial, gender and political oppression.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
An end to poverty.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
That gay people only think about gay issues.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
āTongues Untiedā and āPariahā
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Judging people based on their physical attractiveness.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
A MacArthur Genius Award
What do you wish you’d known at 18.
That being gay is a blessing, not a curse.
Why Washington?
I am from New York. It was too fast and I didnāt want to live like that. But compared to New York, most cities are too slow. D.C. was just right. Itās cosmopolitan. I love it here.

In 2025, tile is emerging as a pivotal element in interior design. No longer just traditional ceramic or porcelain, todayās tiles offer a unique blend of functionality and artistry, making them a favorite among homeowners and designers alike. This year, several tile trends are making significant waves, each bringing a distinct character to modern homes.
1. Textured Tiles. Texture plays a crucial role in adding depth and tactile beauty to spaces. In 2025, there’s a noticeable shift toward tiles that celebrate imperfection and handcrafted beauty. These tiles often feature organic finishes, subtle color variations, and unique patterns that make each piece distinct.
2. Warm Minimalist Colors. While minimalism is still popular, 2025 brings a warmer palette to this aesthetic. Neutral tones like beige, taupe, soft terracotta, and Pantoneās mocha mousse are replacing the cooler grays and whites of previous years. These colors impart a sense of coziness and serenity, making spaces feel more inviting while maintaining the clean lines and simplicity of minimalism.
3. Tile Drenching. Tile drenching involves extending the same tile from the floor up the walls, creating a seamless, cohesive look. This technique is particularly effective in smaller spaces like bathrooms or as backsplashes in kitchens with open shelving instead of upper cabinets, where it can make the area appear larger and more unified.
4. Sustainable and Eco-Friendly Tiles. Environmental consciousness is increasingly influencing consumer choices, leading to a rise in sustainable tile options. Manufacturers are now offering tiles made from recycled materials using low-impact production processes and eco-friendly substances, such as glass and plastic. These tiles not only decrease environmental footprints but also align with reducing waste and conserving resources.
5. Large-Format Tiles. Large-format tiles (think 24ā x 48ā) are gaining traction due to their ability to create a seamless and expansive look. Fewer grout lines result in a cleaner appearance and easier maintenance, making spaces feel more open and less cluttered. These tiles are particularly favored in showers, where simplicity and continuity are desired, and yesterdayās plastic surrounds are rejected. Available in various materials and finishes, large-format tiles offer versatility, a sleek look, and faster installation.
6. Cement Tiles. Cement tiles are celebrated for their bold patterns, vibrant colors, and artisanal charm. Although they require sealing, they are known for their durability and handcrafted look. Unlike ceramic tiles, cement tiles are not fired; instead, they are cured at room temperature, which makes them more environmentally friendly. Their unique patterns can make a statement in any room, serving as a focal point that brings a touch of vintage elegance or contemporary flair, depending on the chosen motif.
7. Terracotta Tiles. Terracotta tiles are making a stylish comeback, bringing warmth, a rustic look, and a touch of Mediterranean elegance to modern interiors. Made from clay and fired at low temperatures, these tiles boast an earthy, organic appeal that supports the ongoing trend of incorporating natural elements in the home. When properly sealed, they are resistant to stains and moisture, and their ability to age gracefully and develop a patina over time adds character and depth, giving spaces a cozy feel.
8. Peel and Stick Tiles. Peel and stick tiles are gaining popularity as a versatile and budget-friendly option for quick home makeovers. Perfect for renters and DIY enthusiasts, these tiles offer a hassle-free installation process that requires no grout, mortar, or professional help. You simply peel off the adhesive backing and stick them onto a clean, smooth surfaceārendering them ideal for backsplashes, accent walls, and even flooring. They are low-maintenance, easy to clean, and a practical choice for kitchens and bathrooms.
9. Tile Stickers. Tile stickers are a fun and cost-effective trend, offering an easy way to update your tiles without the need for a complete renovation. Meant to be applied directly over existing tiles, these often removable, adhesive decals are perfect for renters or homeowners looking for a temporary method of personalization. Heat-resistant, waterproof, and easy to clean, tile stickers are available in a wide variety of colors, patterns, and finishes, allowing for endless customization.
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So, whether you’re renovating a single room, designing an entire home, or decorating with your landlord in mind, these 2025 trends offer many options to create spaces that resonate with your personal style and reflect a harmonious blend of aesthetics, functionality, and sustainability.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at DCHomeQuest.com, or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.Ā
Real Estate
It’s not right, but it’s okay, I’m gonna spring clean this house anyway!
New season a perfect time to create a serene, inviting home environment

Spring is right around the corner. During this season, spring represents a time for renewal, a fresh start, new beginnings, along with a sense of energy and optimism for the future. One of the best ways to get this feeling going is also inside and around the home. Now that the temps are a bit warmer, and the sun sets a little later, give yourself the gift of a spring refresh. Here are some tips to re-energize, declutter, āmove the energyā in the room, and create a serene and inviting home environment. If that alone isnāt reason enough, some people in the area may be deciding to put their homes on the market this year too.
Enhance Curb Appeal: There is never a second chance to make a first impression! Does the yard need tidying up? Does the front door need a fresh new coat of paint? Want to make it pop? Plant some shrubs or put some new flowers in the windowsills? Clean those windows. Tidy up the entryway, buy a new credenza for catching mail, keys, gloves, hats, etc. Mop the floors, get all that road salt off the tiles.
Deep Clean the Kitchen and Bathrooms: These rooms are key selling points. Clean the oven, refrigerator, and stove in the kitchen. In bathrooms, clean grout lines, remove soap scum, and make sure faucets and showerheads are free from water stains.
Neutralize the Space: This is more for those who want to sell their home. It becomes easier for a potential buyer to āsee themselvesā in a property the less they see YOU in the property. Put some photos away, declutter, take down anything that is very specific to you for any showings or open houses. I used to tell my clients, āMake it look like a Hampton Inn!ā (clean, organized, presentable, not exactly shouting political affiliations and humor that may or may not play well to all audiences.) Just think, āNEUTRAL!ā
Fix Minor Repairs: Take care of any small repairs such as leaky faucets, broken door handles, or cracked tiles. These little fixes show that the home has been well-maintained. They also help build that ācan doā muscle! If you donāt know a handyman/person you can always find how to videos on YouTube.
Reorganize Rooms: Consider rearranging furniture to create an open, welcoming flow. If needed, remove oversized pieces to make rooms feel larger. This can also help the āvibeā in any home. I used show homes to clients that were smaller, but smartly furnished, and they could really feel the difference. An extra 150 square feet in an empty hallway isnāt doing anyone much good, but if you put some nice artwork up, and tone down the size of bulky furniture in the main living areas, it can begin to look like a crisp $100 bill.
Stage the Home: If youāre selling, consider staging the home, either with your own furniture or with rented pieces. Well-placed furniture and decor can highlight your home’s best features.
Freshen Up with Scents: Letās be honest. Open those windows and air that bit*h out! Find your favorite candle company and invest in a few nice smells. I always wanted a nice candle burning during an open house. It helped the vibe!
Whether you are staying put or planning on making moves, a spring re-fresh, clean up, maintenance moment, or general tidy up/tidy down is going to make YOU feel, in the words of Whitney Houston, ālike a million-dollar bill! (OH OH OH OH!).ā
Editorās note: Playing anything by our beloved Whitney Houston is guaranteed to get any person, place, or home out of whatever current funk state it is in! If your house isnāt singing, āYou Give Good Love to Meā … now you know what to do!
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with Metro Referrals.Ā He can be reached at (703) 587-0597 orĀ [email protected].
Autos
Mad about Mercedes ā and a Mini Countryman, too
These three spiffy SUVs not too basic, not too complicated

Not too basic, not too complicated. Thatās what I enjoyed most about three spiffy SUVs recently. Call it the Goldilocks effect, but each rideātwo Mercedes and a Mini Countrymanāseemed just right. Thatās a big plus in todayās world of extremes.
MERCEDES AMG GLA 35
$59,000
MPG: 22 city/28 highway
0 to 60 mph: 4.7 seconds
Cargo space: 15.4 cu. ft.
PROS: Affordable luxury, smooth suspension, zippy.
CONS: Bit noisy inside, so-so storage, costly options.
IN A NUTSHELL: The subcompact GLAāthe most affordable Mercedes sold in the U.S.ācomes in two trim levels. With the average price of a vehicle topping $48,000, the base-model GLA 250 is a bargain at $43,000. On paper, the stats for acceleration, handling and braking look spot on. Ditto the fine amenities, including faux-leather seats, ambient lighting, wireless charging pad and power liftgate. Toss in numerous safety featuresāincluding forward-collision warning, blind-spot alert, an automated parking systemāand what could be better? The answer is the sport-tuned AMG GLA 35, which is the vehicle I tested. Zippier, grippier and ritzier than its entry-level sibling, this saucy SUV is also pricier. And beware: The long list of optionsāsuch as head-up display, surround-view camera, illuminated door sillsācan add up quickly. But oh, what a thrill. Stomp on the accelerator, and the GLA 35 scoots from 0 to 60 mph in just 4.7 secondsāa full two seconds quicker than the GLA 250. Along with a more powerful engine and all-wheel drive, thereās now a 48-volt hybrid-assist system. The GLC 35 also flaunts aggressive styling, including a sexy rear spoiler, large dual exhaust tips and bigger wheels. Fave feature: the flat-bottom, performance-oriented steering wheel with spiffy paddle shifters and a panoply of user-friendly buttons and dials.
MERCEDES AMG GLC 43 COUPE

$70,000
MPG: 18 city/24 highway
0 to 60 mph: 4.7 seconds
Cargo space: 19.2 cu. ft.
PROS: Posh styling, potent power, quiet cabin.
CONS: Pricey, limited rear visibility, reduced cargo room.
IN A NUTSHELL: Stepping up from the baby Mercedes GLA, the larger GLCāthough technically a compactāis 12 inches longer. Whatās more, this hauler comes with choice of five trim levels. And you can choose from either a traditional square-back design or sloped coupe-like styling. Confused? Donāt be. Just trust that the AMG GLC 43 Coupe, which is really an SUV, checks all the boxes. Thereās plenty of drama here, with a bulging snout and sinuous shape that any diva would love. Thereās also plenty of power, with a gritty turbo that allows the GLC to accelerate just as fast as the much lighter GLA. And the interior is stunning: NASCAR-like bucket seats, gigantic infotainment touchscreen and reinforced window glass to better insulate the cabin. A clever nav system can project traffic and other info onto the head-up display on the windshield, and rear automatic braking helps anticipate and prevent a back-end collision. Sure, the low-slung roofline cuts into rear-seat headroom and cargo space. But for me, the sacrifice was worth it. After all, itās hard to imagine any other glam-but-gutsy ride equally at home on a fashion runway or at the racetrack.
MINI COUNTRYMAN ALL4

$40,000
MPG: 24 city/32 highway
0 to 60 mph: 5.9 seconds
Cargo space: 24.9 cu. ft.
PROS: Bigger, faster, better.
CONS: Almost too big, bit less playful, higher MSRP.
IN A NUTSHELL: Fully redesigned for 2025, the Mini Countryman enjoys a slew of up-market changes but retains some of its retro quirks. Larger than before, this latest modelāwith so much extra room for passengers and cargoāfeels comfy and spacious. Almost too much so. At first blush, I was reminded of a Subaru Forester or Outback. Both fine vehicles, but without that familiar Mini vibe. Luckily, the steering wheel, head-up display and large Frisbee-shaped infotainment display all channel the previous Countryman. Ditto the overall exterior, which now boasts a redesigned grille, sleeker headlights and refined rear treatment. Yet I missed seeing all the toggle switches and some other playful touches. In their place, though, is a groovy dashboard with nifty LED lighting that changes colors based on the driving mode. While some digital readouts initially seemed too techy, they ended up being very user friendly. And there are two standout features: a huge panoramic moonroof and the use of sustainable materials for the carpeting, seats and such.