Living
We asked LGBT locals about their adventures in home decor
A painting, a photograph and a wall hanging among most treasured items


(Photo courtesy Palmer) (Photo courtesy Goldmann) (Photo courtesy McMahon)
Bruce Palmer
Interior designer
Rehoboth Beach, Del.
What’s one of your favorite home decor finds that you got many years ago that still brings you joy?
So my favorite piece for probably 12 years has been this painting by Kamalky Laureano. It hangs at our beach house at the top of the stairs. Iām constantly walking by and still get pleasure every time I pass by. Itās such a conversation piece!Ā People often think itās a photograph until they get close and examine it.Ā Itās comprised of acrylic, oil and pastel on canvas. Itās so life like and real.Ā People often ask if itās a portrait of me (blush ā I wish).
What’s one item you thought you’d love but after a few years you were indifferent about?
I guess the one thing I thought would be amazing that everyone said I needed would be āAlexa.ā Maybe Iām not using her correctly since she never understands me? Or Iām not using her to the fullest. I guess this relationship just isnāt working out. However, she does do a nice job turning on the lamps.
Where do you like to shop for home decor items and what have you learned about your taste over the years in the process?
I still love shopping in New York City.Ā There is such an array of items, I can do one-stop shopping in a day. If Iām looking for vintage or antiques there are plenty of spots Uptown, Midtown and SoHo.Ā If shopping for new items, I love the New York Design Center, Design and Decoration building, DDC collection and the Fine arts building.Ā It has such a blend of periods, styles and inspiration.Ā The city has such an amazing energy about it. If Iām local, I can’t pass up a Home Goods ā youāre bound to find something!Ā I suppose my taste has developed over the years.Ā I started out much more traditional and classic, borderline Versailles almost.Ā While I still appreciate the details and craftsmanship, my design aesthetic is much more pared down and transitional these days. Iāve realized that good design is almost everywhere if you can recognize it. The classics have created a background of inspiration while reinterpreting them for todayās standard of living.
Holly Goldmann
D.C.-based trans activist
What’s one of your favorite home decor finds that you got many years ago that still brings you joy?
My Richard Avedon photo of Holly Woodlawn, Candy Darling and Jackie Curtis. It was a gift from a friend. It was the first piece of real art I acquired and the first thing I had framed. Iāve got another original print of Candy Darling too. Iām not 100 percent sure of the photographer. I thought it was Ron Galella, but just Googled it. So now Iām not sure. I bought that from a shop in L.A. The picture of Holly Woodlawn is special, as weād been friends when she was living.
What’s one item you thought you’d love but after a few years you were indifferent about?
A pink Missoni pouf. Oh did I want that. And it was Missoni for Target. I really needed it. And ended up paying double on eBay. Then it ended up 75 percent off. Well I think itās in storage. I got a Barbie Pink Jonathan Adler tray to go on it too, the tray is around. Iām just not sure what itās under now. Iāve got an awful lot of books.
Where do you like to shop for home decor items and what have you learned about your taste over the years in the process?
Now, I tend to make things or just repaint. My apartment is so tiny, itās more about space and storage. I like to sew, I made my curtains, headboard, bedding in the past. I prefer unique things and mix prints like I do when I get dressed. I think now itās more about space and storage, than actual furniture pieces. I got rid of my sofa, then chaise and started painting everything pink. You canāt go wrong with shocking pink.Ā
J. Michael McMahon
D.C.-based clergy/musician
What’s one of your favorite home decor finds that you got many years ago that still brings you joy?
My husbandās parents both immigrated to the United States from the Philippines before they met in Los Angeles and married there. When Ray Valido and I began to live together in 2010, I began to learn about many elements of Filipino culture that he had grown up with and continued to value. One of these customs is to display a large wooden fork and spoon on the wall of the dining room. For me itās a great symbol of welcome and of the importance of shared meals as a way of celebrating and strengthening bonds among people. I love the way that the Filipino fork and spoon are displayed in our home right next to one of the two built-in china cabinets that we added to our dining room. Those units were designed and constructed by a French immigrant who specializes in building fine furniture. I find the juxtaposition of simplicity and fine design very appealing and inclusive.
What’s one item you thought you’d love but after a few years you were indifferent about?
If I had to single out one piece of home dĆ©cor that I have tired of, it would be the futon in our recreation room. I had initially liked the idea of a piece of furniture that could function for seating or sleeping, but now I donāt think that it really is very comfortable for either.
Where do you like to shop for home decor items and what have you learned about your taste over the years in the process?
I think of home decor as an organic process, adding a piece here and a piece there. Rather than relying on a particular vendor, I prefer to decorate with gifts that are particularly meaningful, engage a custom builder, shop around various furniture stores or seek out pieces of art that resonate with our taste and feel right in our home. I’ve learned that my taste leans toward pieces that are simple in design and create a feeling of warmth in our home.
Real Estate
Chores for the fall before the chill arrives
Clean gutters, replace smoke detector batteries, and more

While it may not feel like fall is in the air yet, it wonāt be too long before pumpkin spice will explode everywhere ā in food, drinks, candles, and body lotions, to name a few places. If youāre not a fan, youāll find air freshener plug-ins in scents like Frosted Cranberry, Fresh Fall Morning, and Sweater Weather among the offerings at Bath and Body Works.
Soon after, hordes of December holiday decorations will appear in the stores, often bypassing a smidgen of items for Halloween and Thanksgiving. Except candy. Halloween candy will always figure prominently.
But before you hibernate and chow down on mini-Snickers bars, there is work to be done to prepare your home for the winter.
Inside the home. To ensure your safety, check your smoke and carbon monoxide detectors. Replace batteries or buy new detectors if they are more than 10 years old. Have your chimney inspected and cleaned, and make any necessary repairs, then test your fire extinguishers. Seal doors and windows that might allow drafts to enter with weatherstripping.
Now is the time to take advantage of the discount prices on heating system tune-ups that some HVAC companies are offering. As little as $59 for a check-up will help your equipment function better and extend its life.
A furnace tune-up should include cleaning all components, lubricating motor parts, checking electrical parts for rust or corrosion, making sure your thermostat is working properly, and replacing the filter. You may want to take this opportunity to have your vents cleaned as well.
A heat pump inspection includes cleaning and lubricating the blower and fan motors, inspecting indoor and outdoor coils, flushing the condensate drain, and testing the controls.
If you have a boiler instead of a furnace or heat pump, you can expect your serviceperson to inspect, test and calibrate all gauges and safety mechanisms, measure and record the flame pattern concentration and carbon monoxide, check electrical connections, and more.
Donāt forget to bleed the radiators to release air in the pipes and enhance the circulation of warm water. And if youāre like me, cross your fingers that your 47-year-old boiler will last one more season.
Outside the home. While the leaves havenāt started falling yet, the recent rain and winds may have blown yard debris into your gutters, so make sure they, and your downspouts, are clear. Position the downspouts so they will take any water away from your foundation and regrade the perimeter of your house, if needed.
Check your roof for lost shingles. Look for missing flashing or bricks in need of tuck-pointing or parging on the exterior of your chimney. Walk around your house and note any foundation cracks or unsealed openings. Check retaining walls for missing mortar. There is still plenty of time to make these repairs before the cold sets in.
Now that 90-degree temperatures have receded a bit, plan the power washing and painting of exterior surfaces that you have been putting off tackling. And since the Labor Day barbecue is now over, itās time to winterize your gas grill.
In the garden. Far be it for me to profess to be an expert in the garden. Iām the first one on the phone to a landscaper to seek help. In fact, there is a barrage of weeding going on at my home this week. Nonetheless, here are a few suggestions.
Prune trees and bushes to promote future growth. Water, aerate, and fertilize the lawn. Select any bulbs you want to plant and enjoy next spring and consult a source such as Better Homes and Gardens magazine for tips on how and when to plant them.
Drain garden hoses, detach them, and drain the pipes that run to the hose bibbs as well. If youāre lucky enough to have underground sprinklers (I am not), follow the manufacturerās instructions for winterizing them, or call a professional.
Store lawn furniture and cushions in a shed, garage, or basement. Or do as I do – throw away the cushions that are dirty or moldy and buy new ones next spring. And when the leaves fall en masse, rake them, bag them, and recheck your gutters and downspouts to be sure theyāre clear.
Finally, head to the hardware store to buy a snow shovel, some windshield de-icer and washer fluid, and a few bags of salt or pet-safe, snow-melting product before the rush. Youāll be glad you did.
And if you happen to live in a condominium or cooperative, when you have completed any relevant interior chores, relax for the rest of the season and enjoy some candy. I stash mine in the cabinet above the refrigerator.
Autos
Standout SUVs: Jeep Compass, Subaru Crosstrek
Americans still prefer larger vehicles to sedans

Last year Americans left many old-school chariots in the dust, buying twice as many SUVs as sedans. But while early pioneers like the Jeep Cherokee and Ford Explorer get props for leading the sport-ute charge, today there are more than 170 models. I recently test drove two newish SUVs that kinda-sorta remind me of my Pride bracelet: They make a statement, but at an affordable price.
JEEP COMPASS
$29,000
MPG: 24 city/32 highway
0 to 60 mph: 7.5 seconds
Cargo room: 27.2 cu. ft.
PROS: lots of amenities, good storage, all-wheel drive
CONS: some pricey options, stiff ride, bit noisy cabin
IN A NUTSHELL: Redesigned last year, the Jeep Compass gets a stronger engine for 2023. More power usually means reduced fuel efficiency, but mileage is up almost 10% from the previous model. Another plus: More stowage space, which had been sorely lacking. And all-wheel drive is now standard, so better traction and handling, especially on slick or gravelly terrain.
Despite having chiseled looks like the midsize Jeep Cherokee, the smaller Compass feels lighter and more limber. But while this compact SUV can handle light off-roading, the short wheelbase makes it hard to ignore potholes or speed bumps. In fact, I often had to slow down to a crawl to not seesaw jarringly over them. In other words, any Barbie or Ken wannabes with perfectly coiffed hair will want to stick to smoother surfaces when driving this vehicle.
The well-built cabin is much improved, with higher quality materials. The dash is covered in soft-touch leatherāa nice touchāwith a 7-inch digital instrument cluster and 10.1-inch touchscreen. Plenty of legroom and headroom in front, but tallish backseat passengers may feel a bit squished.
There are five trim levels, including the top-of-the-line Trailhawk, with more aggressive styling and solid off-road capability. I tested the mid-range Latitude Lux, which costs $5,000 more than the base model but comes with larger wheels, heated seats, and other niceties.
Notable tech features: smartphone integration, Wi-Fi hot spot, Bluetooth, wireless charging, voice recognition, remote start and nine-speaker Alpine stereo.
But itās the list of safety gear that rally wowed me, such as rearview camera, park assist, lane-departure warning, driver-attention monitoring, rear-seat passenger reminder, pedestrian and cyclist detection, blind-spot monitor, forward collision warning with active braking, andāwhew!āso much more.
SUBARU CROSSTREK
$27,000
MPG: 28 city/34 highway
0 to 60 mph: 9.1 seconds
Cargo room: 20 cu. ft.
PROS: decent mileage, comfy seats, user-friendly cabin
CONS: poky base engine, so-so storage, plasticky dashboard
IN A NUTSHELL: With so much sport-ute competition these days, automakers seem to be revamping their SUV models each year (not every four to six years, as in the past). This time, the Subaru Crosstrek receives some nifty design flourishes and major cabin upgrades. Compared to the butch Jeep Compass, the curvier Crosstrek looks trĆ©s chic. Think boyish Buck versus trendy Eddie on ā911.ā
Based on the nimble Impreza hatchback, the subcompact Crosstrek feels car-like and agile. Two engine choices, but opt for the more potent powerplant so it doesnāt feel like youāre just treading water. While the Crosstrek is smaller and slower than the Compass, the ride here is smoother and more composed. Higher ground clearance, tighter suspension and quick all-wheel drive system all help, as does a new direct-steering system. Plus, paddle shifters, which I only needed to use once or twice when merging into traffic, provide plenty of extra oomph.
The Crosstrek cabin, which is surprisingly quiet, offers good legroom for passengers in both the front and back. An optional 11.6-inch infotainment touchscreen is mounted vertically, similar to those iPad-like displays found in the Ford Mustang Mach-E and various luxury vehicles.
It says something when my biggest beef with the Crosstrek is the placement of the odometer reset button, which is only a smidge above the remote start button. Both buttons are completely obscured behind the steering wheel, so I was constantly reaching around and pressing the wrong one. A minor annoyance, to be sure. But if Subaru could fix this ergonomic annoyance, then I wouldnāt have to listen to my husband claim that the problem is actually my own āuser error.ā


Fresh off a hot summer of restaurant openings, fall shows no sign of slowing down for bar and restaurant openings and culinary events. Below is a taste of those openings, an exciting day-to-night festival and one fabulous fundraiser taking place this fall and winter.
The Square (1850 K St.). Debuting last week, The Square is D.C.ās newest food market opening within International Square. Although the first phase has just a handful of vendors, when fully operational, the food hall will feature a collection of more than 15 vendors, a full-service restaurant and bar, an expansive bar in the central atrium, and outdoor dining seating and retail. Opening right next door and from the same owner (Ruben Garcia) will be Casa Teresa, a family-style Spanish/Catalan restaurant.
Bistro Du Jour Capitol Hill (20 Massachusetts Ave., N.W.) is opening this month. Gay-owned KNEAD Hospitality + Design announced yet another jewel in its growing crown of a restaurant empire with the upcoming Bistro Capitol Hill. Building on their existing ventures in the D.C. market, Bistro Capitol Hill is for locals, Hill staff, and tourists, according to the owners. The upscale restaurant will expand upon the Wharf location of the same name, with a much bigger space featuring 200 seats, a full bar, and the addition of a lounge. It will open for happy hour, breakfast, brunch, lunch, and dinner. The upscale bistro will also expand its offerings beyond what they are known for at the Wharf, with a must more expansive menu.
The Atlas Alexandria Brewery & Tap Room (2501 Mandeville Lane) is slated to open later this year in the Carlyle Crossing development. The 6,000-square-foot space will include a brewery with a production capacity of 2,000 barrels. The adjoining tap room has 16 draft lines and a full kitchen facility, plus a huge outdoor patio. The brewery and tap room, not far from the King Street Metro stop, slices up pies from Andy’s Pizza. The brewery’s six core beers include Silent Neighbor, which recently won a gold medal at the 2023 World Beer Cup.
Cleveland Park is getting a flip when big-name restaurateur Ashok Bajaj of Knightsbridge Restaurant Group opens Little Black Bird (3309 Connecticut Ave.), replacing his Indian spot, Bindaas. Located next to Israeli resto Sababa (also by Bajaj), the name Little Black Bird is a nod to the French word for blackbird, merle, which is also related to the wine name, Merlot. This wine list, with 100 wines by the bottle and 12 by the glass, will be global in nature, alongside a big menu wth Mediterranean inspiration.
Restaurateur Stephen Starr, of Le Diplomate fame, opened El Presidente (1255 Union St., N.E.) last week in Union Market. This 6,000-square-foot space āartfully mirrors the essence of Mexico Cityās gastronomy,ā according to the restaurant. The menu, though, draws from across the country, serving oysters from the Pacific coast, al pastor tacos, and a handful of guac variations, including one topped with king crab. A raw bar anchors one corner of the vibrantly lit series of dining rooms, pairing well with several mezcal- and tequila-centric cocktails. Not far from Starrās other property, St. Anselm, El Presidente fits in appropriately alongside nearby La Cosecha, the Latin food hall also in the Union Market district.
On 14th Street, Bar Japonais (1520 14th St., N.W.) slides into the former Estadio space in early 2024. Similar to its sister restaurant Bar Chinois in Mount Vernon Square, Bar Japonais will blend French and Japanese flavors in an energetic atmosphere, much like Bar Chinois. Developed in the izakaya style, the restaurant will have Japanese-leaning food and French-leaning cocktails.
And over in National Landing by HQ2 will be Surreal (2117 Crystal Dr. in Arlington, Va.), from Seven Reasons owner Michelin-starred Venezuelan chef Enrique Limardo and Ezequiel VĆ”zquez-Ger. The Latin-inspired bistro has an eclectic menu, with dishes like queso fundido shakshuka, swordfish carpaccio, and “Flaming Hot Totopos.” The restaurant will have grab-and-go items and bakery for office workers, plus expansive beverage program to drink onsite ā and possibly be able to take with them to have the park right outside the restaurant.
After the first Art All Night lit up Shaw in 2011, the 2023 Art All Night is reaching all eight wards, Sept. 29-30. The festivalās activations differ each night, bringing visual and performing arts, including painting, photography, sculpture, crafts, fashion, music, literary arts, dance, theater, film, and poetry, to indoor and outdoor public and private spaces. This year, Dine All Night is joining the mix, with dozens of restaurants participating to offer special menus Sept.21-Oct. 1.
We would be remiss not to mention a signature fundraising culinary event for LGBTQ rights, Chefs for Equality. After a two-year hiatus due to the pandemic, the Human Rights Campaign Foundation and prominent food writer David Hagedorn are celebrating the return of Chefs for Equality on Monday, October 30, 2023, at the National Building Museum. Now in its 10th year, the evening of food, drink, entertainment, and live and silent auctions, supports the Human Rights Campaign Foundationās nationwide educational work and its fight for LGBTQ+ equality. This yearās theme, Plate of Emergency, calls attention to the state of emergency that the Human Rights Campaign has officially declared because of intensified attacks on the LGBTQ+ community, particularly transgender and non-binary people, says Hagedorn. The expansive event features 55 savory tasting stations and 30 cocktail bars helmed by chefs and mixologists from around the city and the region. There are also 13 personal chef tables serving five-course meals with chefs themselves.
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