Living
Queery: Ellen Davis
Ellen Davis never thought she’d be a mom but an unexpected epiphany changed all that. “I never thought I’d have kids,” the 45-year-old insurance broker says. “But I just woke up one morning at 27 and it was truly like my body was saying, ‘OK, where’s the kid? Where’s the baby?’ At first I couldn’t quite understand it and I know it may be hard for you to grasp, but it was literally like my body was saying this and it did that every day. It really got to be a driving force.”
Davis, a lesbian, found a spouse who shared her dreams and they were married 16 years ago (she declines to name her partner). Davis gave birth to their two sons, 10-year-old Noah and 7-year-old Jacob, and says their life in Potomac, Md., is wonderful 99 percent of the time.
“Sure, there are those moments where I feel like my head is going to explode, but they’re so brief.” Davis says she’s much more conscious of how quickly her sons are growing rather than being a lesbian family. “The time we actually have them in our arms is a very short period of time,” she says. “Sure, I hope they always come over even in their 20s and 30s and want to snuggle on the couch and watch a soccer game or share a meal or whatever. But of course eventually they’ll have their own life. I’m sure we’ll always have a fantastic relationship but I’m also aware that the time I have them, to see them, touch them, feel them, play with them, go places — it’s very brief.”
An insurance broker for 26 years and a mortgage broker for 24, Davis branched out and started her own company, Life Health Home Insurance Group in Potomac and Gaithersburg last year. The New York native enjoys family time, reading, traveling and cooking but says relaxing moments are rare with two kids, a wife and a company. “My first thought for the book question,” she says with a chuckle, was, “Mom, mom … MOM! because that’s what I hear all the time.” (Blade photo by Michael Key)
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
Out since I’m 14. I thought the hardest person to tell would be my mother but when I said the words “Mom I’m gay” it was the easiest thing I had ever said to her. I came out to my parents when I was 18.
Who’s your gay hero?
My brother Eric, who passed away two years ago. While alive he was an education evaluator for the New York City public school system for 23-plus years. He worked with emotionally and physically handicapped/disturbed students and they and their families adored him. In his short life he was able to touch thousands of lives.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
By the time we moved to the D.C. area we were past the bar scene so I would have to say any of our friends’ homes or ours having a dinner party with good food, good wine and a ton of laughter!
What’s your dream gay wedding?
At the time we had our ceremony, 13 years ago, we were able to have a wedding and reception that met all of our expectations and dreams at that point in our lives. If we chose to do the wedding and reception over again now I would definitely do some things differently but for the most part we created what we wanted.
What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?
Anything that deals with my children, their education, their safety, their health, etc.
What historical outcome would you change?
The Holocaust.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Dancing at the Palladium in NYC.
On what do you insist?
Integrity, honesty and being as positive as you can in your statements, actions and life.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
Today is “Bring your Child to Work Day” and my two boys made a very convincing argument yesterday as to why they should not go to school today and “work” with me. They have been so excited that they have already filled out their applications for employment, at 6 a.m. It’s 7 a.m. and I already have two new agents in training — it’s already a banner day. I’m so glad I’ll have the opportunity to share my day with them.
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“2.2 Kids and a White Picket Fence”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Celebrate who I am.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
I believe that after our bodies die that our souls continue to be.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Keep working together to create the opportunity for the federal government to recognize same-sex marriage/partnership. Every person deserves to have the protections and benefits of the federal government.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
My children.
What gay stereotype annoys you most?
Any negative stereotype that are highlighted and chosen for the media.
What’s your favorite gay movie?
There are several but every time we see “Imagine You & Me” on TV we have to watch it. It’s just a great, feel good movie and both leading ladies are beautiful and sexy!
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Having dessert after dinner instead of as your main course.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
My wife.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
Hahahaha, wait I have to stop laughing so I can catch my breath. What do you mean “what do I wish I’d known at 18?” I knew everything at 18!
Why Washington?
We moved here 15 years ago looking for a culturally diverse city that we could comfortably raise a family in. Washington gave us that.
Real Estate
New year, new housing landscape for D.C. landlords
Several developments expected to influence how rental housing operates
As 2026 begins, Washington, D.C.’s rental housing landscape continues to evolve in ways that matter to small landlords, tenants, and the communities they serve. At the center of many of these conversations is the Small Multifamily & Rental Owners Association (SMOA), a D.C.–based organization that advocates for small property owners and the preservation of the city’s naturally occurring affordable housing.
At their December “DC Housing Policy Summit,” city officials, housing researchers, lenders, attorneys, and housing providers gathered to discuss the policies and proposals shaping the future of rental housing in the District. The topics ranged from recent legislative changes to emerging ballot initiatives and understanding how today’s policy decisions will affect housing stability tomorrow.
Why Housing Policy Matters in 2026
If you are a landlord or a tenant, several developments now underway in D.C., are expected to influence how rental housing operates in the years ahead.
One of the most significant developments is the Rebalancing Expectations for Neighbors, Tenants and Landlords (RENTAL) Act of 2025, a sweeping piece of legislation passed last fall and effective December 31, 2025, which updates a range of housing laws. This broad housing reform law will modernize housing regulations and address long-standing court backlogs, and in a practical manner, assist landlords with shortened notice and filing requirements for lawsuits. The Act introduces changes to eviction procedures, adjusts pre-filing notice timelines, and modifies certain tenant protections under previous legislation, the Tenant Opportunity to Purchase Act.
At the same time, the District has expanded its Rent Registry, to have a better overview of licensed rental units in the city with updated technology that tracks rental units subject to and exempt from rent control and other related housing information. Designed to improve transparency and enforcement, Rent Registry makes it easier for all parties to verify rent control status and compliance.
Looking ahead to the 2026 election cycle, a proposed ballot initiative for a two-year rent freeze is generating significant conversation. If it qualifies for the ballot and is approved by voters, the measure would pause rent increases across the District for two years. While still in the proposal phase, it reflects the broader focus on tenant affordability that continues to shape housing policy debates.
What This Means for Rental Owners
Taken together, these changes underscore how closely policy and day-to-day operations are connected for small landlords. Staying informed about notice requirements, registration obligations, and evolving regulations isn’t just a legal necessity. It’s a key part of maintaining stable, compliant rental properties.
With discussions underway about rent stabilization, voucher policies, and potential rent freezes, long-term revenue projections will be influenced by regulatory shifts just as much as market conditions alone. Financial and strategic planning becomes even more important to protect your interests.
Preparing for the Changes
As the owner of a property management company here in the District, I’ve spent much of the past year thinking about how these changes translate from legislation into real-world operations.
The first priority has been updating our eviction and compliance workflows to align with the RENTAL Act of 2025. That means revising how delinquent rent cases are handled, adjusting notice procedures, and helping owners understand how revised timelines and court processes may affect the cost, timing, and strategy behind enforcement decisions.
Just as important, we’re shifting toward earlier, more proactive communication around compliance and regulatory risk. Rather than reacting after policies take effect, we’re working to flag potential exposure in advance, so owners can make informed decisions before small issues become costly problems.
A Bigger Picture for 2026
Housing policy in Washington, D.C., has always reflected the city’s values from protecting tenants to preserving affordability in rapidly changing neighborhoods. As those policies continue to evolve, the challenge will be finding the right balance between stability for renters and sustainability for the small property owners who provide much of the city’s housing.
The conversations happening now at policy summits, in Council chambers, and across neighborhood communities will shape how rental housing is regulated. For landlords, tenants, and legislators alike, 2026 represents an opportunity to engage thoughtfully, to ask hard questions, and to create a future where compliance, fairness, and long-term stability go hand-in-hand.
Real Estate
Unconventional homes becoming more popular
HGTV show shines spotlight on alternatives to cookie cutter
While stuck in the house surrounded by snow and ice, I developed a new guilty pleasure: watching “Ugliest House in America” on HGTV. For several hours a day, I looked at other people’s unfortunate houses. Some were victims of multiple additions, some took on the worst décor of the ‘70s, and one was even built in the shape of a boat.
In today’s world, the idea of what a house should look like has shifted dramatically. Gone are the days of cookie-cutter suburban homes with white picket fences. Instead, a new wave of architects, designers, and homeowners are pushing the boundaries of traditional housing to create unconventional and innovative spaces that challenge our perceptions of what a home can be.
One of the most popular forms of alternative housing is the tiny house. These pint-sized dwellings are typically fewer than 500 square feet and often are set on trailers to allow for mobility. Vans and buses can also be reconfigured as tiny homes for the vagabonds among us.
These small wonders offer an affordable and sustainable living option for those wishing to downsize and minimize their environmental footprint. With clever storage solutions, multipurpose furniture, and innovative design features, tiny homes have become a creative and functional housing solution for many, although my dogs draw the line at climbing Jacob’s Ladder-type steps.
Another unusual type of housing gaining popularity is the shipping container home. Made from repurposed shipping containers, these homes offer a cost-effective and environmentally friendly way to create modern and sleek living spaces. With their industrial aesthetic and modular design, shipping container homes are a versatile option for those contemplating building a unique and often multi-level home.
For those looking to connect with nature, treehouses are a whimsical and eccentric housing option. Nestled high up in the trees, these homes offer a sense of seclusion and tranquility that is hard to find in traditional housing. With their distinctive architecture and stunning views, treehouses can be a magical retreat for those seeking a closer connection to the natural world.
For a truly off-the-grid living experience, consider an Earthship home. These self-sustaining homes use recycled construction materials and rely on renewable energy sources like solar power and rainwater harvesting. With their passive solar design and natural ventilation systems, Earthship homes are a model of environmentally friendly living.
For those with a taste for the bizarre, consider a converted silo home. These cylindrical structures provide an atypical canvas for architects and designers to create modern and minimalist living spaces. With curved walls and soaring ceilings, silo homes offer a one-of-a-kind living experience that is sure to leave an impression.
Barn homes have gained popularity in recent years. These dwellings take the rustic charm of a traditional barn and transform it into a modern and stylish living space. With their open, flexible floor plans, lofty ceilings, and exposed wooden beams, barn homes offer a blend of traditional and contemporary design elements that create a warm and inviting atmosphere, while being tailored to the needs and preferences of the homeowner.
In addition to their unique character, barn homes also offer a sense of history and charm that is hard to find in traditional housing. Many of them have a rich and storied past, with some dating back decades or even centuries.
If you relish life on the high seas (or at a marina on the bay), consider a floating home. These aquatic abodes differ from houseboats in that they remain on the dock rather than traverse the waterways. While most popular on the West Coast (remember “Sleepless in Seattle”?), you sometimes see them in Florida, with a few rentals available in Baltimore’s Inner Harbor and infrequent sales at our own D.C. Wharf. Along with the sense of community found in marinas, floating homes offer a peaceful retreat from the hustle and bustle of city life.
From tiny homes on wheels to treehouses in the sky or homes that float, these distinctive dwellings offer a fresh perspective on how we live and modify traditional thoughts on what a house should be. Sadly, most of these homes rely on appropriate zoning for building and placement, which can limit their use in urban or suburban areas.
Nonetheless, whether you’re looking for a sustainable and eco-friendly living option or a whimsical retreat, there is sure to be an unconventional housing option that speaks to your sense of adventure and creativity. So, why settle for a run-of-the-mill ranch or a typical townhouse when you can live in a unique and intriguing space that reflects your personality and lifestyle?
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at [email protected] or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
Real Estate
Convert rent check into an automatic investment, Marjorie!
Basic math shows benefits of owning vs. renting
Suppose people go out for dinner and everyone is talking about how they are investing their money. Some are having fun with a few new apps they downloaded – where one can round up purchases and then bundle that money into a weekly or monthly investment that grows over time, which is a smart thing to do. The more automatic one can make the investments, the less is required to “think about it” and the more it just happens. It becomes a habit and a habit becomes a reward over time.
Another habit one can get into is just making that rent check an investment. One must live somewhere, correct? And in many larger U.S. cities like New York, Chicago, D.C., Los Angeles, Miami, Charlotte, Atlanta, Dallas, Nashville, Austin, or even most mid-market cities, rents can creep up towards $2,000 a month (or more) with ease.
Well, do the math. At $2,000 per month over one year, that’s $24,000. If someone stays in that apartment (with no rent increases) for even three years, that amount triples to $72,000. According to Rentcafe.com, the average rent in the United States at the end of 2025 was around $1,700 a month. Even that amount of rent can total between $60,000 and $80,000 over 3-4 years.
What if that money was going into an investment each month? Now, yes, the argument is that most mortgage payments, in the early years, are more toward the interest than the principal. However, at least a portion of each payment is going toward the principal.
What about closing costs and then selling costs? If a home is owned for three years, and then one pays out of pocket to close on that home (usually around 2-3% of the sales price), does owning it for even three years make it worth it? It could be argued that owning that home for only three years is not enough time to recoup the costs of mostly paying the interest plus paying the closing costs.
Let’s look at some math:
A $300,000 condo – at 3% is $9,000 for closing costs.
One can also put as little as 3 or 3.5% down on a home – so that is also around $9,000.
If a buyer uses D.C. Opens Doors or a similar program – a down payment can be provided and paid back later when the property is sold so that takes care of some of the upfront costs. Knowledgeable lenders can often discuss other useful down payment assistance programs to help a buyer “find the money.”
Another useful tactic many agents use is to ask for a credit from the seller. If a property has sat on the market for weeks, the seller may be willing to give a closing cost credit. That amount can vary. New construction sellers may also offer these closing cost credits as well.
And that, Marjorie, just so you will know, and your children will someday know, is THE NIGHT THE RENT CHECK WENT INTO AN INVESTMENT ACCOUNT ON GEORGIA AVENUE!
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with Metro Referrals. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].
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