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Queery: Richard Legg

20 questions for the Destiny B. Childs performer

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Richard Legg (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Capital Pride this year was a double whammy for Richard Legg, who performs as Destiny B. Childs. He was named a Capital Pride hero — an honor given to only a handful of community leaders each year — and also won the Miss Capital Pride title in his first year competing in the event.

“It was an honor above anything else,” the 32-year-old Pensacola, Fla., native says. “Especially the hero. It wasn’t something I ever tried to get. I just did what I did and was who I am and by doing that, the Capital Pride Alliance honored me. When I got the e-mail, I cried.”

Legg joined the Army just before he finished high school as a jab at his father, with whom he was angry after a nasty divorce with his mom. It had the opposite effect and Legg spent eight years working mostly as a medical supply specialist at Walter Reed. He soon met another gay soldier who introduced him to Dupont Circle, Remington’s and more and soon he was at Tracks every Saturday night. Were there many gays in the Army?

“Surprisingly yes,” Legg says. “As soon as I didn’t keep quiet anymore, they started coming out of the woodwork. I didn’t really make a big announcement, but I just said, ‘These are the clubs where I go. They’re really fun. You should come.'”

Legg’s had a full-time government job since 2004, just a year after he first did drag. He’d been Mr. Remington’s that year but there was a “turnabout” night and the guy performers and the drag queens flip-flopped. He was so convincing in drag and enjoyed it, that his drag mother, Ophelia Bottoms (Charles McWilliams), encouraged him to stick with it. He did and now performs every Sunday night at Freddie’s and most weekends at Ziegfeld’s and at the Academy. Legg guesses he has about 300 dresses and 50 wigs. “It’s one thing if you just want to do a number every once in awhile, but if you really want to perform regularly and compete for titles, you have to put money into it.”

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Destiny B. Childs (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

He met his husband, Rudy Benavides, 10 years ago at Dave and Buster’s. They had a commitment ceremony in 2003 but are getting legally married this year. They live together on North Capitol Street and enjoy the local gay leather community and hanging out with their drag pals when they have down time.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I have been out since I was 20 and my mother was the hardest person to tell. She did not take it well and we did not talk for two years. But she has accepted me and my life and we are very close again.

Who’s your gay hero?
Carl Rizzi (Mame Dennis). Carl has been through a lot in his lifetime and he always fought for what he believes in and it shows. He’s successfully run the Academy for more than 45 years!

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
Freddies Beach Bar, Ziegfeld’s, Motley Bar

What’s your dream gay wedding?
To marry the love of my life!

What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?
Education! I feel that everyone should be given an opportunity to be able to continue his or her education beyond high school. There are tons of people out there who really cannot afford college but want to go. I wish there was an easy way to allow them to go.

What historical outcome would you change?
Honestly, nothing. Everything that has happened in the past is what has gotten us to where we are today and made us who we are today as a nation. Changing anything could alter society in a way we might not be happy with.

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Cher’s final 10 tours.

On what do you insist?
I insist on everybody following their dreams and believing in themselves.

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
LOL … I am at work and exhausted!!!

If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“Lipstick and Paint, Makes a Man What He Ain’t: The life of a Drag Queen”

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Nothing really, except be happy for those could take advantage of this discovery and be able to live their life the way they feel.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. In him all things are possible. He watches over us everyday, although he tests us from time to time. He loves us all equally.

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Don’t stop fighting! We will always stand behind you!

What would you walk across hot coals for?
My family. Both blood family and drag/gay family.

What gay stereotype annoys you most?
Simply the fact that gay people are different and wrong. We are the same as anyone else and we love and hurt like everyone else.

What’s your favorite gay movie?
“Beautiful Thing”

What’s the most overrated social custom?
Phone calls. People are very busy and I get so annoyed when you run into someone you haven’t talked to in a long time and they say, “You never call!” Well first of all, the phone works both ways. Secondly, people are busy and sometimes don’t think about a call or even have the time to have a conversation! E-mail and text messages work wonders!

What trophy or prize do you most covet?
My husband and kids, both my stepdaughter and my drag kids! Without them I would be lost. I love and cherish all my kids and thank God everyday for them in my lives. If I had to choose one award or title, it would be “Mother of the Year.”

What do you wish you’d known at 18?
Everything I know now!

Why Washington?
I was stationed here at Walter Reed back in 1996 while I was in the U.S. Army and I fell in love with the city. I vowed I would never leave and I am not going anywhere.

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With gas prices soaring again, a staycation is a good plan

Home can be your personal retreat and your own private resort

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Retreat to your own deck or backyard for an affordable, stress-free staycation. (Photo by Artazum LLC/Bigstock)

When airfare costs more than your monthly utility bill and a weekend road trip requires a second mortgage just to fill the gas tank, many homeowners are discovering an unexpected luxury: the staycation.

A staycation isn’t settling for less—it’s reaping the benefits of one of the biggest investments you can make: your home. Much more than a place to sleep, it’s your personal retreat, your gathering place and, with a little preparation, your very own private resort.

Whether you own a single-family home, a townhouse, or a condo, creating a memorable staycation starts with appreciating what made you fall in love with your property in the first place.

Start with a home refresh. Think about checking into a beautiful vacation rental. It’s spotless, organized, and inviting. You can recreate that same feeling by spending a day preparing your home before your staycation officially begins.

Clear away clutter, deep clean the bathrooms and kitchen, wash the windows, and put fresh linens on every bed – even if you’re not expecting guests. Fluff the pillows, light a favorite candle, and place fresh flowers on the table. These small touches instantly make your home feel more luxurious.

If your budget allows, hiring a professional cleaning service can be one of the best staycation perquisites you make. After all, vacation should begin the moment you wake up and not after you’ve spent the day scrubbing floors.

Treat your staycation like a real trip. Set away messages on your phone and out of office notices on your email. Skip unnecessary chores for a few days. Giving yourself permission to relax may be the most valuable part of the entire experience.

One of the greatest advantages homeowners have over travelers is private outdoor living space. Whether it’s a spacious backyard, a screened porch, a rooftop terrace, or a cozy condo balcony, these areas can become the centerpiece of your staycation.

Stringing lights and adding comfortable seating, colorful planters, and outdoor rugs can completely transform the atmosphere without spending thousands of dollars. Add a portable fire pit, a tabletop fountain, or a hammock, and suddenly your backyard starts competing with many resorts.

Host an evening cookout, organize a game night, invite neighbors over for dessert, or gather around the fire pit for conversation after sunset. These simple moments often become the memories we treasure most.

Inside, transform your family room into a home theater complete with popcorn and comfortable blankets. Turn your breakfast room into a morning coffee café. Designate a quiet reading corner where phones are prohibited. Create a spa-like bathroom with plush towels, candles, bath salts, and relaxing music.

One of the highlights of traveling is experiencing new food. Instead of dining out every night, create themed dinners inspired by your favorite destinations. Prepare homemade Italian pasta one evening, Caribbean grilled seafood another, or a backyard Texas barbecue over the weekend. For a touch of whimsy, dress the part.

Pair each meal with music and libations from the region and enjoy dinner outdoors whenever possible. Suddenly, your dining room becomes part of the vacation experience instead of just another place to eat.

Families with children can turn a staycation into an adventure by seeing their home through a child’s eyes. Set up a backyard camping experience with a tent, flashlights, and s’mores around the fire pit. Transform the living room into an indoor campground complete with sleeping bags and a movie under a blanket “fort.” Organize a backyard Olympics with relay races, water balloon tosses, scavenger hunts, or miniature golf using household items. 

Encourage children to plan a family picnic in the backyard or on the patio, choose a theme for a movie marathon, or help prepare meals inspired by countries they’d like to visit someday. The goal is to create experiences your children will remember long after summer is over.

Enjoy the amenities you already pay for. Condominium communities and many planned neighborhoods offer amenities that residents often overlook.

Swimming pools, fitness centers, tennis and pickleball courts, walking trails, clubhouses, grilling stations, and community gardens are designed to enhance your lifestyle. During your staycation, make a point of exploring everything your community offers. You may discover you’ve been living beside your own private resort all along.

Real estate professionals often talk about resale value, appreciation, and return on investment. While those things certainly matter, there’s another return that’s harder to measure: the enjoyment you get from living in your home every day.

You don’t need a boarding pass to recharge. You don’t need a hotel reservation to make memories. Sometimes the perfect getaway is the one you already own.


Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at [email protected] or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.

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Hot hatchbacks: Honda Civic, Subaru Impreza

Two fun and functional rides

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The latest Honda Civic hatchback and Subaru Impreza are two of the segment’s stars. Both offer sensible pricing, excellent utility and enough personality to avoid feeling like appliances.

The Civic is more polished. The Impreza, more rugged. Luckily, neither is trying to be obnoxiously flashy. 

HONDA CIVIC

$28,000

MPG: 30 city/38 highway

0 to 60 mph: 8.9 seconds

Cargo space: 24.5 cu. ft. 

PROS: Fuel efficient. Spacious cargo area. Good resale value.

CONS: No all-wheel drive. Fussy infotainment. Low rear headroom.

WHAT’S NEW: Only minor updates for 2026. The biggest change carries over from last year’s refresh: the addition of the hybrid, which has become a star performer. 

The Honda Civic hatchback won’t scream for attention. It won’t arrive wearing sequins and carrying a smoke machine. It’s more like Nomi Marks from “Sense8”: intelligent, sophisticated and impressively capable.

The styling remains handsome and clean. Long hood. Low roofline. Crisp lines everywhere.Honda resisted the urge to make this vehicle look like a spaceship or an angry robot. That’s refreshing.

Inside, the dashboard is simple and elegant. The honeycomb air-vent treatment remains one of the coolest interior details in the segment. Materials feel expensive. Controls are easy to understand. And visibility is excellent. 

I love how the cargo space is generous, with rear seats that fold flat. A bicycle, several suitcases or enough supplies for an ambitious weekend road trip fit without much hassle.

Then there’s the hybrid. The system produces a healthy amount of power while delivering fuel economy that borders on the absurd. Around town, handling feels smooth, quiet and surprisingly quick. You almost glide through traffic. The standard gasoline engine isn’t bad, but the hybrid is stellar.

The Civic also shines on twisty roads. Steering is precise. Body motions stay controlled. The suspension strikes a sweet balance between comfort and sportiness. 

Biggest weakness? No all-wheel drive. For drivers in snowy climates, that’s not so good. 

Still, the Civic’s stellar combination of efficiency, quality, and driving enjoyment remains incredibly hard to beat.

SUBARU IMPREZA

Subaru Impreza

$27,000

MPG: 27 city/33 highway

0 to 60 mph: 8.5 seconds

Cargo space: 20.4 cubic feet

PROS: All-wheel drive. User-friendly tech. Safety cred.

CONS: No hybrid version. Some road noise. Modest cargo room.

WHAT’S NEW: The Impreza receives relatively minor updates for 2026. Subaru continues refining this hatchback rather than reinventing it.

If the Honda Civic is urbane, the Subaru Impreza is unfussy. There’s a kind of Kristen Stewart energy here. Cool without trying too hard.

The styling isn’t dramatic, but it works. This hauler appears ready to tackle rain, snow, dirt roads or an impromptu weekend escape.

And all-wheel drive comes standard on every Impreza. (Most competitors only offer front-wheel drive or include all-wheel drive as a pricey option.)

The result: Slippery roads simply don’t create much anxiety. The suspension absorbs bumps nicely. Long trips are comfortable. Visibility is great, thanks to relatively thin roof pillars and large windows.

I like how the cabin is functional rather than fancy. Materials don’t quite match the Civic’s upscale vibe, but everything feels sturdy. A large infotainment screen dominates the dashboard and generally works well, though some drivers may prefer more physical buttons.

Cargo space is respectable, and the design makes loading bulky items easy.

Performance depends heavily on trim. The base engine gets the job done, but nobody will confuse it for a sports car. The RS trim’s larger engine provides more power and makes the ride livelier. But even then, acceleration remains merely adequate.

The Impreza’s real appeal lies elsewhere, with a mix that few rivals can match: hatchback practicality, standard all-wheel drive, strong safety scores and reasonable pricing.

Perhaps that’s the key difference between these two hatchbacks. The Honda Civic impresses immediately. The Subaru Impreza grows on you. 

Fortunately, choosing between them is less stressful than deciding who gets the last mimosa at brunch.

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When buying a home, it’s decisions, decisions, decisions

Keeping notes on the process makes for an informed purchase

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If you’re buying a home, take careful notes throughout the process. (Photo by Andy Dean Photography/Bigstock)

When looking to buy a home, there are lots of details to consider. Many of my clients would come to me and say, “Joe I want to buy a place, but I haven’t decided which neighborhood to buy in.” And the struggle was real. A few clients had everything decided from the color of the hallway walls to the cabinet handles and sometimes which three square blocks they wanted to look at. 

But other clients were occasionally looking at properties in areas as distinct as Union Market/NOMA, Brookland, Logan Circle, and then we would even go across the river to look at a property in Shirlington or the Van Dorn areas of Virginia, which all have their own unique flavor and characteristics.

Sometimes clients would tell me, “I only want to look in Mount Pleasant or Adams Morgan.” Or, “don’t even show me any properties west of this street or south of that street.” My job wasn’t to convince people where to live. It was to just take the parameters they set for me and find as good of a property in that zone as I could, coordinate the showings and, if necessary, offer the strategy.  

One can see that buyers often had more decisions to make than a seller. From a seller’s perspective, the house was where it was, and we just had to make the best of it. But working with a buyer could mean looking at five different neighborhoods, and then being a “thought partner” to help them figure out which were the top two or three areas they had seen, and then further distilling those down into what was available and weighing those options against each other. 

One house could have the dream bathroom but also be located six blocks further from a Metro stop, walkable shopping and dining, and “just too far away from my friends.” Another house could have all the neighborhood options a client was looking for, but was just not in turnkey condition, and would require an additional $30,000 of upgrades once purchased to make it into the dream home they envisioned.  

One activity I often asked buyers to do was to keep an active list in their heads of the properties they liked, and to keep a running rank of the top three. I often encouraged them to bring a notebook along on the journey where they could take notes and write down questions they thought of as they looked. It was an important decision, and sometimes the largest purchase of their lives. Why not take it a little seriously, and take notes? This could often help the buyer later when they felt it was time to decide.  

The point here is, keeping a notebook handy can sometimes help a person with what feels like an overwhelming process. It provides a space to explore how one feels, jot down important details to remember, and then use that to make an informed decision.  


Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with RLAH. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].

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