Living
Queery: Taunee Grant
20 questions with the Gay Men’s Chorus marketer
Taunee Grant wasn’t initially sure if the marketing/communications job with the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington was right. The Theresa, N.Y., native had been in Buffalo for 10 years when Grant’s partner of six years, Tessa Lew, was offered a full-time position in the costume department of Shakespeare Theatre Company in late 2008.
“I hemmed and hawed a little,” Grant admits. “It was the first job that was offered and I didn’t know if I should take the first one that came along but then Tessa’s mother said, ‘This could be great blessing, don’t look a gift horse in the mouth,’ and that ended up being so true. It’s a dream job for me. Perfect.”
Grant, 32, identifies as queer and trans and is transitioning but hasn’t decided if a name change is in the cards. “It’s kind of an awkward time,” Grant says. “I probably will but I don’t know for sure yet.”
So what’s it like being surrounded by gay men all the time? Grant calls the Chorus “very warm” and “a big family” but also keeps a separate social life with a partner and a group of friends — mostly gay and straight couples who share their interests such as organic gardening, kayaking, whitewater canoeing and the arts.
The Chorus is gearing up for its fall season after taking July and August off. “Men in Tights: a Pink Nutcracker” opens in December while Grant toils away at subscription renewals. Grant admits the job has challenges but finds it rewarding. “Working in the gay community just feels right for me,” Grant says. “I’d kind of been moving toward it for a while. It just feels right.” Grant lives in Capitol Hill.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I’ve never been really in the closet, whether I look like a lesbian, transgendered, or like a guy, I just look queer. There is no option for me to pass as straight unless I decide to create an elaborate and ridiculous costume for myself. My mother asked me if I thought I was gay my junior year in high school. That was a tough conversation. She was so flustered that we missed our exit on the way home and had to turn the car around when we found ourselves at the foot of the bridge to Canada.
Who’s your gay hero?
There are many. Allen Ginsberg. I think the way that his work has documented a gay man’s voice in America is profoundly important. I think that Michaelangelo Signorile’s book “Queer In America” was responsible for inspiring an entire generation of activists. I have to include John Waters, Dorothy Alison, Leslie Feinberg, Urvashi Vaid, Sapphire, Audre Lorde and Adrienne Rich.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
I’m still exploring all there is to offer but I do know 275 gay men who will be happy to give you their opinion, perhaps in the form of a song.
Describe your dream gay wedding.
I don’t dream in gay wedding. If I did, I hope it would look like a Kenneth Anger film.
What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?
Sustainable agriculture. Producing food below the cost of production is bad for farmers, communities, nutrition and the environment. I also think it is bringing us into a state of living where preparing and sharing quality food isn’t meaningful.
What historical outcome would you change?
I’d spare the world from eight years of Bush, Jr.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
During my first week of work with GMCW, the Chorus was invited to sing at “We Are One: the Obama Inaugural Celebration” at the Lincoln Memorial. Two weeks later I found myself backstage where I met Martin Luther King III, spoke with a delightful woman who sang in choirs for at least three inaugural ceremonies and stood directly in front of Stevie Wonder when he stopped on the grass to sing a few verses of “My Cherie Amour” with GMCW.
On what do you insist?
Joy. Fresh air. Honesty. A good haircut. Good shoes. Good pens.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
“I found out I’m going to the Americans for the Arts National Arts Marketing Project Conference this fall. Very exciting.”
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“On the Road to Find Out” or maybe “The Tranny in the Rye”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would do you?
I’d like to joke that I’d torment Maggie Gallagher and Bishop Harry Jackson with the prospect of turning them gay. But in seriousness, I’ll be writing letters and making calls to say that homosexuality should not be treated as a disease.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
There is a common bond that unites human beings and all natural things. It’s not an iPhone.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Keep the words gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender out in the forefront. It is celebratory, relevant and our unique culture as LGBT people should be respected. We change hearts by telling the stories of all of our lives. I was so inspired by young LGBT activists at the National Equality March last October. I think they have the power to call out the classism in the LGBT movement and that they are a generation who sees the dark consequences of assimilationist ideas in the LGBT movement. To those young leaders, my advice is to hang on to your ideals.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
My partner, Tessa. Absolutely. And maybe at the end of the row of coals we’d meet in a circle and have that gay dream wedding you asked me about.
What gay stereotype annoys you most?
Most any stereotype that isn’t “by gays for gays” for our own enjoyment or cultural relevance. It irritates me when I sometimes see straight people suddenly become usually loud, superficial, catty or flamey in the company of gay men. It’s so offensive and so very lame.
What’s your favorite gay movie?
“The Cockettes,” “Paris is Burning,” “Antonia’s Line” and all early Almodovar or Waters films.
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Assigning everything under the sun, inanimate or living, a male or female or “appropriated other” gender whether they want one or not.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
A comment I heard at Nellie’s Sports Bar made it on Overheard in D.C.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
You are defined by what you do, not necessarily by your potential to do it.
Why Washington?
Aside from the obvious cultural tourism stuff, which is fantastic, I love that I can leave the office and get in a boat to get a different perspective or escape for a few hours. I appreciate Washington’s rich and long standing cultural diversity. … It’s a great city to enjoy the company of intelligent, opinionated people who are passionate about their work, whatever it may be.
Real Estate
With gas prices soaring again, a staycation is a good plan
Home can be your personal retreat and your own private resort
When airfare costs more than your monthly utility bill and a weekend road trip requires a second mortgage just to fill the gas tank, many homeowners are discovering an unexpected luxury: the staycation.
A staycation isn’t settling for less—it’s reaping the benefits of one of the biggest investments you can make: your home. Much more than a place to sleep, it’s your personal retreat, your gathering place and, with a little preparation, your very own private resort.
Whether you own a single-family home, a townhouse, or a condo, creating a memorable staycation starts with appreciating what made you fall in love with your property in the first place.
Start with a home refresh. Think about checking into a beautiful vacation rental. It’s spotless, organized, and inviting. You can recreate that same feeling by spending a day preparing your home before your staycation officially begins.
Clear away clutter, deep clean the bathrooms and kitchen, wash the windows, and put fresh linens on every bed – even if you’re not expecting guests. Fluff the pillows, light a favorite candle, and place fresh flowers on the table. These small touches instantly make your home feel more luxurious.
If your budget allows, hiring a professional cleaning service can be one of the best staycation perquisites you make. After all, vacation should begin the moment you wake up and not after you’ve spent the day scrubbing floors.
Treat your staycation like a real trip. Set away messages on your phone and out of office notices on your email. Skip unnecessary chores for a few days. Giving yourself permission to relax may be the most valuable part of the entire experience.
One of the greatest advantages homeowners have over travelers is private outdoor living space. Whether it’s a spacious backyard, a screened porch, a rooftop terrace, or a cozy condo balcony, these areas can become the centerpiece of your staycation.
Stringing lights and adding comfortable seating, colorful planters, and outdoor rugs can completely transform the atmosphere without spending thousands of dollars. Add a portable fire pit, a tabletop fountain, or a hammock, and suddenly your backyard starts competing with many resorts.
Host an evening cookout, organize a game night, invite neighbors over for dessert, or gather around the fire pit for conversation after sunset. These simple moments often become the memories we treasure most.
Inside, transform your family room into a home theater complete with popcorn and comfortable blankets. Turn your breakfast room into a morning coffee café. Designate a quiet reading corner where phones are prohibited. Create a spa-like bathroom with plush towels, candles, bath salts, and relaxing music.
One of the highlights of traveling is experiencing new food. Instead of dining out every night, create themed dinners inspired by your favorite destinations. Prepare homemade Italian pasta one evening, Caribbean grilled seafood another, or a backyard Texas barbecue over the weekend. For a touch of whimsy, dress the part.
Pair each meal with music and libations from the region and enjoy dinner outdoors whenever possible. Suddenly, your dining room becomes part of the vacation experience instead of just another place to eat.
Families with children can turn a staycation into an adventure by seeing their home through a child’s eyes. Set up a backyard camping experience with a tent, flashlights, and s’mores around the fire pit. Transform the living room into an indoor campground complete with sleeping bags and a movie under a blanket “fort.” Organize a backyard Olympics with relay races, water balloon tosses, scavenger hunts, or miniature golf using household items.
Encourage children to plan a family picnic in the backyard or on the patio, choose a theme for a movie marathon, or help prepare meals inspired by countries they’d like to visit someday. The goal is to create experiences your children will remember long after summer is over.
Enjoy the amenities you already pay for. Condominium communities and many planned neighborhoods offer amenities that residents often overlook.
Swimming pools, fitness centers, tennis and pickleball courts, walking trails, clubhouses, grilling stations, and community gardens are designed to enhance your lifestyle. During your staycation, make a point of exploring everything your community offers. You may discover you’ve been living beside your own private resort all along.
Real estate professionals often talk about resale value, appreciation, and return on investment. While those things certainly matter, there’s another return that’s harder to measure: the enjoyment you get from living in your home every day.
You don’t need a boarding pass to recharge. You don’t need a hotel reservation to make memories. Sometimes the perfect getaway is the one you already own.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at [email protected] or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
The latest Honda Civic hatchback and Subaru Impreza are two of the segment’s stars. Both offer sensible pricing, excellent utility and enough personality to avoid feeling like appliances.
The Civic is more polished. The Impreza, more rugged. Luckily, neither is trying to be obnoxiously flashy.
HONDA CIVIC
$28,000
MPG: 30 city/38 highway
0 to 60 mph: 8.9 seconds
Cargo space: 24.5 cu. ft.
PROS: Fuel efficient. Spacious cargo area. Good resale value.
CONS: No all-wheel drive. Fussy infotainment. Low rear headroom.
WHAT’S NEW: Only minor updates for 2026. The biggest change carries over from last year’s refresh: the addition of the hybrid, which has become a star performer.
The Honda Civic hatchback won’t scream for attention. It won’t arrive wearing sequins and carrying a smoke machine. It’s more like Nomi Marks from “Sense8”: intelligent, sophisticated and impressively capable.
The styling remains handsome and clean. Long hood. Low roofline. Crisp lines everywhere.Honda resisted the urge to make this vehicle look like a spaceship or an angry robot. That’s refreshing.
Inside, the dashboard is simple and elegant. The honeycomb air-vent treatment remains one of the coolest interior details in the segment. Materials feel expensive. Controls are easy to understand. And visibility is excellent.
I love how the cargo space is generous, with rear seats that fold flat. A bicycle, several suitcases or enough supplies for an ambitious weekend road trip fit without much hassle.
Then there’s the hybrid. The system produces a healthy amount of power while delivering fuel economy that borders on the absurd. Around town, handling feels smooth, quiet and surprisingly quick. You almost glide through traffic. The standard gasoline engine isn’t bad, but the hybrid is stellar.
The Civic also shines on twisty roads. Steering is precise. Body motions stay controlled. The suspension strikes a sweet balance between comfort and sportiness.
Biggest weakness? No all-wheel drive. For drivers in snowy climates, that’s not so good.
Still, the Civic’s stellar combination of efficiency, quality, and driving enjoyment remains incredibly hard to beat.
SUBARU IMPREZA

$27,000
MPG: 27 city/33 highway
0 to 60 mph: 8.5 seconds
Cargo space: 20.4 cubic feet
PROS: All-wheel drive. User-friendly tech. Safety cred.
CONS: No hybrid version. Some road noise. Modest cargo room.
WHAT’S NEW: The Impreza receives relatively minor updates for 2026. Subaru continues refining this hatchback rather than reinventing it.
If the Honda Civic is urbane, the Subaru Impreza is unfussy. There’s a kind of Kristen Stewart energy here. Cool without trying too hard.
The styling isn’t dramatic, but it works. This hauler appears ready to tackle rain, snow, dirt roads or an impromptu weekend escape.
And all-wheel drive comes standard on every Impreza. (Most competitors only offer front-wheel drive or include all-wheel drive as a pricey option.)
The result: Slippery roads simply don’t create much anxiety. The suspension absorbs bumps nicely. Long trips are comfortable. Visibility is great, thanks to relatively thin roof pillars and large windows.
I like how the cabin is functional rather than fancy. Materials don’t quite match the Civic’s upscale vibe, but everything feels sturdy. A large infotainment screen dominates the dashboard and generally works well, though some drivers may prefer more physical buttons.
Cargo space is respectable, and the design makes loading bulky items easy.
Performance depends heavily on trim. The base engine gets the job done, but nobody will confuse it for a sports car. The RS trim’s larger engine provides more power and makes the ride livelier. But even then, acceleration remains merely adequate.
The Impreza’s real appeal lies elsewhere, with a mix that few rivals can match: hatchback practicality, standard all-wheel drive, strong safety scores and reasonable pricing.
Perhaps that’s the key difference between these two hatchbacks. The Honda Civic impresses immediately. The Subaru Impreza grows on you.
Fortunately, choosing between them is less stressful than deciding who gets the last mimosa at brunch.
Real Estate
When buying a home, it’s decisions, decisions, decisions
Keeping notes on the process makes for an informed purchase
When looking to buy a home, there are lots of details to consider. Many of my clients would come to me and say, “Joe I want to buy a place, but I haven’t decided which neighborhood to buy in.” And the struggle was real. A few clients had everything decided from the color of the hallway walls to the cabinet handles and sometimes which three square blocks they wanted to look at.
But other clients were occasionally looking at properties in areas as distinct as Union Market/NOMA, Brookland, Logan Circle, and then we would even go across the river to look at a property in Shirlington or the Van Dorn areas of Virginia, which all have their own unique flavor and characteristics.
Sometimes clients would tell me, “I only want to look in Mount Pleasant or Adams Morgan.” Or, “don’t even show me any properties west of this street or south of that street.” My job wasn’t to convince people where to live. It was to just take the parameters they set for me and find as good of a property in that zone as I could, coordinate the showings and, if necessary, offer the strategy.
One can see that buyers often had more decisions to make than a seller. From a seller’s perspective, the house was where it was, and we just had to make the best of it. But working with a buyer could mean looking at five different neighborhoods, and then being a “thought partner” to help them figure out which were the top two or three areas they had seen, and then further distilling those down into what was available and weighing those options against each other.
One house could have the dream bathroom but also be located six blocks further from a Metro stop, walkable shopping and dining, and “just too far away from my friends.” Another house could have all the neighborhood options a client was looking for, but was just not in turnkey condition, and would require an additional $30,000 of upgrades once purchased to make it into the dream home they envisioned.
One activity I often asked buyers to do was to keep an active list in their heads of the properties they liked, and to keep a running rank of the top three. I often encouraged them to bring a notebook along on the journey where they could take notes and write down questions they thought of as they looked. It was an important decision, and sometimes the largest purchase of their lives. Why not take it a little seriously, and take notes? This could often help the buyer later when they felt it was time to decide.
The point here is, keeping a notebook handy can sometimes help a person with what feels like an overwhelming process. It provides a space to explore how one feels, jot down important details to remember, and then use that to make an informed decision.
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with RLAH. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].
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