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Queery: Taunee Grant

20 questions with the Gay Men’s Chorus marketer

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Taunee Grant (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Taunee Grant wasn’t initially sure if the marketing/communications job with the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington was right. The Theresa, N.Y., native had been in Buffalo for 10 years when Grant’s partner of six years, Tessa Lew, was offered a full-time position in the costume department of Shakespeare Theatre Company in late 2008.

“I hemmed and hawed a little,” Grant admits. “It was the first job that was offered and I didn’t know if I should take the first one that came along but then Tessa’s mother said, ‘This could be great blessing, don’t look a gift horse in the mouth,’ and that ended up being so true. It’s a dream job for me. Perfect.”

Grant, 32, identifies as queer and trans and is transitioning but hasn’t decided if a name change is in the cards. “It’s kind of an awkward time,” Grant says. “I probably will but I don’t know for sure yet.”

So what’s it like being surrounded by gay men all the time? Grant calls the Chorus “very warm” and “a big family” but also keeps a separate social life with a partner and a group of friends — mostly gay and straight couples who share their interests such as organic gardening, kayaking, whitewater canoeing and the arts.

The Chorus is gearing up for its fall season after taking July and August off. “Men in Tights: a Pink Nutcracker” opens in December while Grant toils away at subscription renewals. Grant admits the job has challenges but finds it rewarding. “Working in the gay community just feels right for me,” Grant says. “I’d kind of been moving toward it for a while. It just feels right.” Grant lives in Capitol Hill.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I’ve never been really in the closet, whether I look like a lesbian, transgendered, or like a guy, I just look queer. There is no option for me to pass as straight unless I decide to create an elaborate and ridiculous costume for myself. My mother asked me if I thought I was gay my junior year in high school. That was a tough conversation. She was so flustered that we missed our exit on the way home and had to turn the car around when we found ourselves at the foot of the bridge to Canada.

Who’s your gay hero?
There are many. Allen Ginsberg. I think the way that his work has documented a gay man’s voice in America is profoundly important. I think that Michaelangelo Signorile’s book “Queer In America” was responsible for inspiring an entire generation of activists. I have to include John Waters, Dorothy Alison, Leslie Feinberg, Urvashi Vaid, Sapphire, Audre Lorde and Adrienne Rich.

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
I’m still exploring all there is to offer but I do know 275 gay men who will be happy to give you their opinion, perhaps in the form of a song.

Describe your dream gay wedding.
I don’t dream in gay wedding. If I did, I hope it would look like a Kenneth Anger film.

What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?
Sustainable agriculture. Producing food below the cost of production is bad for farmers, communities, nutrition and the environment. I also think it is bringing us into a state of living where preparing and sharing quality food isn’t meaningful.

What historical outcome would you change?
I’d spare the world from eight years of Bush, Jr.

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
During my first week of work with GMCW, the Chorus was invited to sing at “We Are One: the Obama Inaugural Celebration” at the Lincoln Memorial. Two weeks later I found myself backstage where I met Martin Luther King III, spoke with a delightful woman who sang in choirs for at least three inaugural ceremonies and stood directly in front of Stevie Wonder when he stopped on the grass to sing a few verses of “My Cherie Amour” with GMCW.

On what do you insist?
Joy. Fresh air. Honesty. A good haircut. Good shoes. Good pens.

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
“I found out I’m going to the Americans for the Arts National Arts Marketing Project Conference this fall. Very exciting.”

If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“On the Road to Find Out” or maybe “The Tranny in the Rye”

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would do you?
I’d like to joke that I’d torment Maggie Gallagher and Bishop Harry Jackson with the prospect of turning them gay. But in seriousness, I’ll be writing letters and making calls to say that homosexuality should not be treated as a disease.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
There is a common bond that unites human beings and all natural things. It’s not an iPhone.

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Keep the words gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender out in the forefront. It is celebratory, relevant and our unique culture as LGBT people should be respected. We change hearts by telling the stories of all of our lives. I was so inspired by young LGBT activists at the National Equality March last October. I think they have the power to call out the classism in the LGBT movement and that they are a generation who sees the dark consequences of assimilationist ideas in the LGBT movement. To those young leaders, my advice is to hang on to your ideals.

What would you walk across hot coals for?
My partner, Tessa. Absolutely. And maybe at the end of the row of coals we’d meet in a circle and have that gay dream wedding you asked me about.

What gay stereotype annoys you most?
Most any stereotype that isn’t “by gays for gays” for our own enjoyment or cultural relevance. It irritates me when I sometimes see straight people suddenly become usually loud, superficial, catty or flamey in the company of gay men. It’s so offensive and so very lame.

What’s your favorite gay movie?
“The Cockettes,” “Paris is Burning,” “Antonia’s Line” and all early Almodovar or Waters films.

What’s the most overrated social custom?
Assigning everything under the sun, inanimate or living, a male or female or “appropriated other” gender whether they want one or not.

What trophy or prize do you most covet?
A comment I heard at Nellie’s Sports Bar made it on Overheard in D.C.

What do you wish you’d known at 18?
You are defined by what you do, not necessarily by your potential to do it.

Why Washington?
Aside from the obvious cultural tourism stuff, which is fantastic, I love that I can leave the office and get in a boat to get a different perspective or escape for a few hours. I appreciate Washington’s rich and long standing cultural diversity. … It’s a great city to enjoy the company of intelligent, opinionated people who are passionate about their work, whatever it may be.

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Exciting electrics: Hyundai Ioniq 5, Volkswagen ID.4

Why EVs still make sense

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Hyundai Ioniq 5

Electric-vehicle tax credits may have faded earlier this year, but EVs themselves are far from losing their spark. There are more charging stations than ever, battery ranges are longer and more realistic, and automakers have finally figured out that EVs don’t all need to look like geeky science projects or feel like failed beta tests. 

Just look at these two compact electrics, which are futuristic, fun and flexible enough for work or play.

HYUNDAI IONIQ 5

$37,000 to $48,000

Range: 245 to 318 miles

0 to 60 mph: 4.5 to 7.4 seconds

Cargo space: 26.3 cu. ft. 

PROS: Fast charging. Roomy cabin. Silky-smooth suspension. 

CONS: Wide turning radius. Rear wiper not on all trims. Price creep.

 After being introduced three years ago, what’s new for the latest Hyundai Ioniq 5? Mostly refinement. Charging is quicker, software is smarter and Hyundai continues to quietly listen to feedback, tweaking ride comfort and usability. Think of it as switching from messy eyeliner to a perfectly sharp wing.

Exterior styling remains one of this EV’s biggest conversation starters. Those pixel-inspired lights, crisp lines and slick hatchback-meets-crossover proportions exude refreshing confidence. There’s no trying to blend in, and that’s the point. Park this Hyundai anywhere and heads will turn. 

On the road, the Ioniq 5 prioritizes calm over chaos. Steering is light, the suspension smooths out rough pavement and acceleration feels brisk without being aggressive. Safety tech is plentiful and well-calibrated—adaptive cruise control, lane-centering, blind-spot monitoring—all working together without seeming like a nervous backseat driver. IOW, this ride is supportive, not clingy.

Inside, the user-friendly cabin shines. The flat floor and long wheelbase create a lounge-like atmosphere, with excellent legroom and airy visibility. Seats are well-bolstered and available with eco-friendly materials, and the sliding center console adds flexibility. Cargo space is generous, and the wide windshield makes city driving stress-free. Alas, the rear wiper is only available on select models. Overall, though, I appreciated how everything looks modern without feeling cold.

What makes this Hyundai special is its vibe. An EV that embraces individuality without shouting about it. 

Fun fact: The Ioniq’s ultra-fast charging can add hundreds of miles in under 20 minutes—perfect for those who hate waiting almost as much as they hate small talk on awkward first dates.

VOLKSWAGEN ID.4

$46,000 to $59,130

Range: 206 to 291 miles

0 to 60 mph: 4.4 to 7.7 seconds

Cargo space: 30.3 cu. ft. 

PROS: Sure handling. Decent range. Good storage. 

CONS: Body roll in curves. Fussy infotainment. No frunk.

The latest VW ID.4 focuses on polish. Software updates have fixed earlier frustrations, and overall drivability feels more cohesive. Less “learning curve” and more “hop in and go,” like a dependable bestie who doesn’t overthink things.

Styling-wise, this EV is intentionally inoffensive. Soft curves, friendly lighting and a familiar crossover shape make it approachable. While the ID.4 won’t turn heads like the Ioniq 5, that’s OK. It’s more akin to a classic outfit that always works—timeless, not trendy.

Driving the ID.4 is relaxed and predictable. This SUV prioritizes comfort over thrills, with a suspension tuned for daily commuting and long highway drives. Safety features are comprehensive and reassuring, including excellent lane assistance and collision-prevention systems. It’s the kind of car that quietly has your back, no drama required.

Inside, the ID.4 offers a calm, uncluttered cabin with good space for passengers and cargo alike. Rear-seat legroom is especially strong, making it a solid road-trip companion. The seats are plush, visibility is good and while the infotainment system isn’t the most intuitive, it’s improved enough to be more than tolerable.

The ID.4’s special sauce is balance. It doesn’t try to reinvent the wheel—it just electrifies it.

Fun fact: This is one of the most globally popular EVs, proving that sometimes being universally liked is a strength, not a personality flaw. Think, gold star gay who still surprises you.

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Child- and pet-proofing your home for the holidays

It isn’t about being perfect but about being prepared

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Christmas trees are tempting for pets to climb so be sure to anchor them well. (Photo by sharomka/Bigstock)

The holidays are meant to be joyful, cozy, and full of laughter — but if you have young children or pets, they can also feel a little chaotic. Twinkling lights, shiny decorations, guests coming and going, and tables full of tempting food can turn your home into a wonderland of curiosity and mischief. The good news? With a little thoughtful planning, you can keep the holiday magic alive while making your home safer for everyone who lives there.

There’s something oddly comforting about movies where animals go to war with holiday decorations, turning carefully strung lights and perfectly placed ornaments into chaos. Whether it’s a mischievous dog tangled in tinsel or a curious cat launching a full-scale assault on a Christmas tree, these scenes tap into a universal experience for pet owners. 

The humor comes from the contrast: the human characters are trying to create warmth, tradition, and picture-perfect cheer, while the animals see the decorations as toys, obstacles, or personal enemies. The resulting destruction — trees tipping over, ornaments shattering, lights blinking out—feels exaggerated but relatable, especially during the already hectic holiday season. 

Let’s start with decorations because they tend to be the biggest attraction. Ornaments sparkle, garlands dangle, and everything seems designed to be touched, pulled, or tasted. If you have little ones or pets, consider placing your most fragile ornaments higher on the tree and using shatterproof options on the lower branches. Tinsel and ribbon may look festive, but they can be dangerous if swallowed, so skipping them or keeping them well out of reach is a simple way to reduce risk without sacrificing style.

Holiday lights are another favorite fascination. Before hanging them, take a few minutes to inspect each strand for frayed wires or broken bulbs. Secure cords along walls or behind furniture so they’re harder to grab or chew and unplug them when you leave the house or head to bed. Not only does this help prevent accidents, but it also gives you one less thing to worry about during a busy season.

The Christmas tree itself can become a focal point for exploration. Make sure it’s sturdy and well-anchored so it doesn’t tip if a toddler tugs on a branch or a pet decides to investigate. If you use a real tree, cover the water base since tree water can contain additives that aren’t safe if consumed. For artificial trees, keep an eye out for loose pieces or needles that could become choking hazards.

Food is a big part of holiday celebrations, and it’s also one of the most common sources of trouble. Many traditional treats—like chocolate, grapes, raisins, alcohol, and foods containing xylitol—are dangerous for pets. Keep plates and serving dishes up high, secure the trash can, and gently remind guests not to slip pets or kids “just a little bite” without checking first. For children, be mindful of hard candies, nuts, and small treats that could pose choking risks.

Candles and fireplaces add warmth and charm, but they deserve extra caution. Flameless candles are a wonderful alternative if you want ambiance without worry. If you do use real candles, place them well out of reach and never leave them unattended. Fireplaces should always have a sturdy screen or gate, especially with crawling babies or curious pets nearby.

Holiday gatherings bring wonderful energy into your home, but they can also create new challenges. Doors opening frequently make it easier for pets to slip outside, so consider setting up a quiet, comfortable space where they can relax during busy get-togethers. This can help reduce stress for them and give you peace of mind. For children, stair gates, locked cabinets, and clear boundaries can help prevent accidents when there’s extra excitement in the air.

New toys and gifts are another thing to watch closely. Packaging, twist ties, plastic wrap, and especially button batteries should be cleaned up promptly. These items are easy to overlook in the excitement of gift-opening but can be dangerous if swallowed. Taking a few minutes to tidy up as you go can make a big difference.

Lastly, try to keep routines as steady as possible. The holidays naturally disrupt schedules, but familiar mealtimes, naps, walks, and bedtime rituals help children and pets feel secure. A calmer household often means fewer accidents and a happier experience for everyone.

At the end of the day, child- and pet-proofing your home for the holidays isn’t about being perfect but about being prepared. A few small adjustments can help you relax, enjoy your guests, and focus on what truly matters: creating warm, happy memories with the ones you love. When your home feels safe, the holidays feel even sweeter.


Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at [email protected] or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.

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In real estate, trust the process

With rates coming down, we could see spring surge in buyers

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The average 30-year mortgage rate is falling, little by slowly. With predictions that the rate will continue to adjust downward in the next year or two, there may be a busier spring market than we have seen in the last few year, especially for the DMV market, which has been reeling from thousands of layoffs this past year.  The frenzied activity resulting from interest rates close to 3% for some borrowers will probably not occur; however, this spring could add up to be a few notches busier than the last. 

What does this mean for buyers and sellers? Lender Tina Del Casale with Waterstone Mortgage says she has seen “low to mid 6’s as the average for conventional loans.” If rates continue downward into the 5% range, there may be more activity than we saw in the last year or two. This could release a little bit of pent up demand.  

Many buyers will have found that for whatever reason, their current home is not meeting their needs. Sellers may want to finally take the plunge and put a for sale sign in the yard and online, now that they might find a more reasonable rate on their next home. This winter can be an opportunity to assess financial situations, home conditions, and optimize one’s chances to have a sale with more agreeable terms, or put one’s best foot forward in an offer. In addition to checking with a lender or favorite handy person, let’s review what sellers and buyers typically spend their energy negotiating while enjoying the lovely process called “going under contract”:

  • Timelines – Sellers might want to have their house solidly under contract (papers signed, thumbs up from the lenders, all inspection items decided upon and settled) so that they can put an offer down on a new home, and then negotiate that timeline with the other sellers.  Remember, making a move is not only about the buyer taking possession of a new home, but also about the sellers figuring out their situation as well. 
  • Sale Price – unfortunately for buyers, in the eyes of most sellers, “money talks.”  So, in a non-competitive situation, a seller might be happy to just get one offer at a price that was within the desired range. As soon as another interested buyer enters the equation, it can become a little bit like RuPaul’s Drag Race, and one will have to lip sync for one’s life, honey! And only one buyer will get to hear the words, condragulations!”
  • Tone/Vibes/Energy in the Room – Remember:  Human beings are emotional creatures. All of us have feelings. And all of us want to put energy into situations where we feel appreciated, where a level of self-awareness exists, and a sense that each side is trying one’s hardest to act in good faith.   The best transactions I saw were where a little grace was the “grease on the wheels” of the transaction.  Occasionally, a buyer had cold feet and wanted to see the unit a few more times before the settlement date, or a seller forgot to scrub the bathroom with a little extra elbow grease before the settlement date.  Life happens; misunderstandings can occur. A wise therapist once said: “You don’t have to like it, but can you allow it?” The tone of one or both parties in the transaction can be what seals the deal, or results in one party exiting the contract. (In the case of the dirty bathroom, the seller left a check with the title company for the buyer to pay a housekeeper to come clean what they couldn’t.) 


Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with Metro Referrals. He can be reached at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].

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