Local
Many reeling after list of marriage opponents revealed
“Just found out that our next door neighbors of 10 YEARS signed the Civil Marriage Petition to repeal the change coming in Maryland. A sad day.”

‘Just found out that our next door neighbors of 10 YEARS signed the Civil Marriage Petition to repeal the change coming in Maryland. A sad day,’ Randee posted to his Facebook page.
Randee and Josh, a gay couple living in Columbia and raising two young sons, were taken aback when they had the opportunity to review the names and addresses of people in their neighborhood who signed the petition to force the issue of marriage equality to the ballot in November.
“Just found out that our next door neighbors of 10 YEARS signed the Civil Marriage Petition to repeal the change coming in Maryland. A sad day,” Randee posted to his Facebook page.
The Washington Blade obtained a database of the names last week from the public record and posted them to its website.
Howard County Register of Wills Byron Macfarlane of Woodstock, Md. — the first openly gay office holder in the county — was stunned by the list. “As any of us looks through this list I think we’ll receive a wake-up call to just how much work we have to do to win at the polls this November,” he told the Blade. “It really is disappointing to see so many people we know on this list. Personally, finding that aunts and uncles and my own father had signed was very upsetting. My hope is that over the next few months we’re able to tell our stories and talk to them about love and commitment and win their votes.”
Marriage advocates from around the state who have reviewed the list of more than 113,000 names are discovering similar surprises by noticing family members, neighbors and co-workers have signed the petition. Their reactions have ranged from resignation to sheer anger. People in the heart of traditionally gay neighborhoods, such as Waverly and Charles Village, are included among the petitioners as are a large number of folks from normally progressive areas in Howard and Montgomery counties.
“Apparently a lot of people didn’t realize their signatures would be made public,” noted Bob Ford of Clarksville. “This brings into question the validity of recent polling data.”
Activist Gerry Fisher of Baltimore sees the revelation of the petitioners as an opportunity. “I think it’s worthwhile asking them if they’d be open to sitting down over coffee and chatting about each other’s families,” says Fisher. “If they say yes, then they are ‘in the moveable middle.’ If they say no, move on. The real ‘tragedy’ would be to let this list distract us from having persuasive conversations with those in the moveable middle, because it’s those people who will determine this election.”
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Congratulations to Yadiel Meléndez, on their new role as Community Associate, with the Wanda Alston Foundation. Meléndez is piloting a new role as a Community Associate at the Wanda Alston Foundation, where they support queer and trans young people in finding their footing, building independence, and experiencing a housing community where they are seen, valued, and affirmed. They are coming into this role with more than a decade of experience as a community organizer and operations specialist, supporting diverse communities through service, advocacy, and program coordination.
Previously they worked for Right Proper Brewing Shaw as a server and bartender and at Sephora, Washington, DC, and at FreshFarm, DC, in bilingual food access. They also worked freelance to build foundational structures for local queer BIPOC performance art coalitions, producing variety shows to curate space for marginalized performance artists in the community. They were a production manager for Haus of Hart Productions, a BIPOC centric performance art production. They also worked as field staff with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention in Stafford, Va.
Meléndez is bilingual, Spanish and English. Their work is guided by a commitment to dignity, safety, and trauma-informed engagement, particularly within LGBTQ and BIPOC communities.
Congratulations also to Ben Rosen LICSW, on his new role as program director, with the Wanda Alston Foundation. Rosen previously worked with Fountain House’s OnRamps program, helping to build a new, innovative outreach program for individuals considered chronically homeless, and living with serious mental illness, in the Times Square area of New York. Rosen is a Psychotherapist, having worked with SG Psychotherapy, and as the psychotherapist with the Nest Community Health Center (URAM).
Rosen has a B.F.A. in Theatre Arts: Musical Theatre, Minor in Psychology (Cum Laude) from Malloy University Conservatory; and his M.S.W. in Clinical Practice with Individuals, Families, and Groups, from The Silberman School of Social Work, Hunter College, N.Y. He is independently licensed in New York and Washington, D.C.
Rehoboth Beach
BLUF leather social set for April 10 in Rehoboth
Attendees encouraged to wear appropriate gear
Diego’s in Rehoboth Beach hosts a monthly leather happy hour. April’s edition is scheduled for Friday, April 10, 5-7 p.m. Attendees are encouraged to wear appropriate gear. The event is billed as an official event of BLUF, the free community group for men interested in leather. After happy hour, the attendees are encouraged to reconvene at Local Bootlegging Company for dinner, which allows cigar smoking. There’s no cover charge for either event.
District of Columbia
Celebrations of life planned for Sean Bartel
Two memorial events scheduled in D.C.
Two celebrations of life are planned for Sean Christopher Bartel, 48, who was found deceased on a hiking trail in Argentina on or around March 15. Bartel began his career as a television news reporter and news anchor at stations in Louisville, Ky., and Evansville, Ind., before serving as Senior Video Producer for the D.C.-based International Brotherhood of Electrical Workers union from 2013 to 2024.
A memorial gathering is planned for Friday, April 10, 11:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m. at the IBEW International Office (900 7th St., N.W.), according to a statement by the DC Gay Flag Football League, where Bartel was a longtime member. A celebration of life is planned that same evening, 6-8 p.m. at Trade (1410 14th St., N.W.).
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