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Many churches in the D.C. suburbs openly welcome the LGBT faithful

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A Metropolitan Community Church service (Photo by Jonahthunder via Wikimedia Commons)

Many D.C. churches welcome LGBT worshippers to varying degrees. But aside from avoiding certain denominations, how does one know which churches are safe out in the suburbs?

Though not meant to be exhaustive, our list is a good place for starters. If we missed you this time, please e-mail the Blade’s Features Editor Joey DiGuglielmo so your church or synagogue can be included in a gay-friendly church resource guide we’ll unveil soon at washingtonblade.com.

Metropolitan Community Church, founded in 1968, is an international organization of Protestant congregations with a special ministry to LGBT believers. MCC describes itself as “the vanguard of civil and human rights movements.” The church fights for marriage equality in the U.S. and serves as a voice for the LGBT equality movement. Among their 222 congregations around the world are five in Maryland and northern Virginia.

Maryland:

MCC Baltimore holds a traditional service at 9 a.m. and a praise and worship service at 11 a.m. on Sundays.

401 W. Monument St., Baltimore, MD 21201

410-669-6222

[email protected]

mccbaltimore.org

Open Door MCC holds services on Sundays at 10 a.m.

15817 Barnesville Rd, Boyds, MD 20841

301-916-5777

[email protected]

Opendoormcc.com

Holy Redeemer MCC holds its worship Sundays at 11 a.m.

4907 Niagara Rd Suite 201, College Park, MD 20740

301-982-5775

[email protected]

hrmcc.org

New Light MCC holds services on Sundays at 10:30 a.m.

40 West Church St., Hagerstown, MD 21740

301-797-5698

[email protected]

Newlightmcc.com

Virginia:

MCC of Northern Virginia holds Sunday worships at 11 a.m.

10383 Democracy Lane, Fairfax, VA 22030

703-691-0930

[email protected]

mccnova.com

Bull Run Unitarian Universalist Church in Manassas, Va., is a welcoming congregation that values justice, equality and compassion. The church believes in social justice, particularly for the LGBTcommunity. The church donates to, among other groups, Equality Virginia. Sunday services are at 10:45 a.m. with an additional 9 a.m. service from September through June.

9350 Main St., Manassas, VA 20110

703-361-6269

[email protected]

bruu.org

Commonwealth Baptist Church says of itself, “all are welcome — no exceptions.” Together with the Association of Welcoming and Affirming Baptists, the church walked in the 2012 Capital Pride Parade. Worship is on Sundays at 11 a.m.

700 Commonwealth Ave, Alexandria, VA 22301

703-548-8000

commonwealthbaptistchurch.org

Two other churches in Virginia are members of the Association of Welcoming and Affirming Baptists:

Virginia:

Ravensworth Baptist Church worships on Sundays at 11 a.m.

5100 Ravensworth Rd, Annandale, VA 22003

703-941-4113

rbc-va.org

Washington Plaza Church holds services at 11 a.m. on Sundays.

1615 Washington Plaza, Reston, VA 20190

703-471-5225

washingtonplazachurch.com

Several synagogues are openly LGBT welcoming.

Adat Shalom Reconstructionist is celebrating its 25th anniversary and has Shabbat services Saturday mornings at 9:30 a.m.

7727 Persimmon Tree Lane

Bethesda, MD 20819

301-767-3333

adatshalom.net

Congregation Etz Hayim is an active synagogue with monthly themed Shabbats, special events going on constantly and several Passover services planned all next week.

2920 Arlington Blvd.

Arlington, VA 22204

703-979-4466

etzhayim.net

Kehila Chadasha meets at various locations in North Bethesda and cherishes Jewish heritage, history and traditions through a “non-dogmatic approach.”

e-kehila.org

Kol Ami: The Northern Virginia Reconstructionist Community also has a bounty of weekly activities and meet at various locations in and around Arlington.

Kolaminvrc.org

Machar is a diverse Jewish community serving secular Jews, Humanists and interfaith and mixed-heritage families.

Machar.org

Temple Rodef Shalom is the largest Jewish congregation in Virginia serving McLean, Arlington, Falls Church and more.

2100 Westmoreland Street

Falls Church, VA

703-532-2217

templerodefshalom.org

Mount Vernon Unitarian Church strives to be “a voice for liberal religion.” Unitarian Universalists pride themselves on having affirmed the rights of the LGBT community since 1970, and they support marriage equality. The church holds services at 9:15 and 11:15 a.m. on Sundays.

1909 Windmill Lane, Alexandria, VA 22307

703-765-5950

mvuc.org

DignityUSA is a Catholic organization that works to ensure the respect and justice for all people, regardless of gender, gender identity or sexual orientation. Their local chapters across the country include one in northern Virginia.

Dignity/Northern Virginia celebrates Mass each Saturday at 6:30 p.m. at Immanuel Church-on-the-Hill

3606 Seminary Rd., Alexandria, VA 22304

[email protected]

dignitynova.org

Holy Trinity Parish, an independent Catholic church, welcomes people of all sexual orientations to join in worship. Sunday Mass is held at 9 and 10:30 a.m.

13515-A Dulles Technology Dr., Herndon, VA 20171

800-603-0644 ext 1

bishopsantore@holytrinityhtp.org

holytrinityhtp.org

Emmaus United Church of Christ affirms all relationships, including those in the LGBT community. The church fully welcomes all people, regardless of gender identity and expression and sexual orientation. Worship is held on Sundays at 10:30 a.m.

900 Maple Avenue East, Vienna, VA 22180

703-938-1555

emmausucc.org

The United Church of Christ is, across the board, welcoming of the LGBT community. Several local churches are particularly proud of their support for the community.

Bethesda UCC bills itself as “on the forefront of progressive change.”

10010 Fernwood Road

Bethesda, MD

301-365-3387

bethesdaucc.org

Six:Eight UCC meets Sundays at noon and welcomes members of the queer community to participate in all levels of leadership.

Mobtown Theater

3600 Clipper Mill Rd. Ste. 114, Baltimore, MD 21211

sixeightucc.org

St. Mark’s UCC proudly counts among its church leadership openly gay and lesbian members of its congregation. Worship is held Sundays at 10 a.m.

1805 Wickes Ave., Baltimore, MD 21230

410-644-5466

[email protected]

st-marks-ucc.net

Immanuel UCC welcomes into full membership all people, regardless of sexual orientation. This includes equal employment opportunities and the celebration of holy unions for same-sex couples. Service begins at 10:30 a.m. on Sundays.

1905 Edmondson Ave., Catonsville, MD 21228

410-744-5014

[email protected]

immanuelucc21228.org

The Unity Fellowship Church Movement is a group of churches across the country working to empower those who have been oppressed, particularly gay and lesbian African Americans. It welcomes everyone, particularly those fighting for social justice. The church has two locations in Maryland.

Unity Fellowship Church of Columbia, Md., holds services Sundays at 10 a.m.

Locust Park Neighbor Center

8995 Lambskin Lane, Columbia, MD 21045

301-275-5310

thecolumbiaproject.org

Unity Fellowship Church of Baltimore holds services on Sundays at 10:45 a.m.

4007 Old York Rd., Baltimore, MD 21218

410-244-0884

[email protected]

ufcb.org

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Hidden hazards at home

Professional inspections can help catch safety issues early

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Test smoke detectors monthly and change batteries at least once a year. (Photo by Phonlamaiphoto/Bigstock)

As the spring market hits its stride, we are beginning to see more inventory and an increase in days on the market in parts of the DMV. This may result in professional home inspections becoming routine parts of contract offers again. A thorough home inspection can help catch safety issues early and is an opportunity to learn about the operation and maintenance of items in your home.

Pay attention to flickering lights, frequently tripped breakers, and discolored outlets—these are signs of potential electrical hazards. Outdated wiring, overloaded outlets, and faulty appliances can lead to electrical fires. 

Structural issues are often overlooked until it’s too late. Crumbling foundations, weak or damaged stairs, loose railings, and uneven flooring can cause trips and falls. Water damage from leaks or flooding can weaken the integrity of floors and walls, creating a risk of collapse. 

Toxic chemicals can pose serious threats to health and safety, often without obvious warning signs. Understanding and addressing these risks is crucial for maintaining a safe living environment for you and your loved ones.

Household products such as cleaners, pesticides, air fresheners, and even cosmetics can emit volatile organic compounds (VOCs). These compounds, when inhaled regularly, can cause a range of health issues including headaches, respiratory problems, hormonal disruptions, and in some cases, even cancer. To minimize these risks, homeowners should opt for low-VOC or VOC-free products, ventilate regularly, and consider investing in an air purifier. 

Formaldehyde is another common toxin found in pressed wood products, insulation, and certain paints. Long-term exposure can lead to chronic respiratory problems and has been linked to cancer. 

Radon gas, another possible carcinogen, is prevalent in the DMV. Your home inspector can do a radon test or there are DIY kits available at many hardware stores. If levels are above EPA standards, a professional remediation firm can install a system that extracts the radon and vents it safely outdoors.

Carbon monoxide (CO), a colorless, odorless gas, is produced by gas stoves, heaters, and fireplaces. Exposure can lead to headaches, dizziness, nausea, and even death. Install CO detectors near bedrooms and ensure that all fuel-burning appliances are properly maintained and ventilated. 

Additionally, older homes may still contain asbestos in insulation, floor tiles, or roofing materials. If disturbed, asbestos fibers can become airborne and are highly dangerous when inhaled, leading to serious diseases such as mesothelioma, so when renovating an older home, it’s critical to have materials tested for asbestos before beginning work.

Mold and mildew thrive in damp, poorly ventilated areas such as bathrooms, basements, and around leaky pipes. While some molds are harmless, others can cause allergic reactions or respiratory problems and aggravate conditions such as asthma. Black mold (Stachybotrys chartarum) is notorious for producing mycotoxins that may lead to severe health issues.

Signs of mold include musty odors, visible growth on walls or ceilings, and excessive humidity. Preventing mold growth requires controlling moisture levels—using dehumidifiers and vapor barriers, fixing leaks promptly, and ensuring adequate ventilation. Professional mold remediation may be necessary for severe infestations.

Though banned in residential paints in 1978, lead-based paint still exists in millions of older homes. Lead exposure is especially dangerous for children, causing developmental delays, learning difficulties, and behavioral issues. Adults are not immune – lead can lead to high blood pressure, kidney damage, and reproductive problems.

Even dust from deteriorating lead-based paint can be hazardous. The EPA recommends professional lead testing for any home built before 1978, especially if renovations are planned. Certified abatement professionals can safely remove or encapsulate lead paint.

Improper use of heating equipment, fireplaces, unattended candles, and cooking accidents are common sources of home fires. Smoke alarms and fire extinguishers are essential for early detection and response. Test smoke detectors monthly and change batteries at least once a year.

Homes that are safe for adults may not be safe for children or pets. Small objects, unsecured cabinets, toxic plants, and open staircases can pose significant risks. Childproofing measures such as outlet covers, safety gates, and cabinet locks, along with safe storage of chemicals and medications, are essential precautions.

The good news is that many of these risks can be mitigated with awareness and action. Here are a few simple steps to enhance home safety:

• Conduct a thorough safety audit using checklists available online.

• Ensure proper ventilation to reduce indoor air pollutants.

• Regularly check for leaks and signs of water damage.

• Keep cleaning and chemical products out of reach of children.

• Educate all household members about emergency procedures, including fire escapes and first aid.

Our homes should protect us, not pose threats to our well-being. By identifying and addressing these toxic and unsafe issues, we can transform our living spaces into truly safe havens.


Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her via DCHomeQuest.com, or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.

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I make more money than my partner and getting resentful

She’s taking advantage of a joint credit card

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Hi Michael,

I make a fair amount more money than my girlfriend does and I’m happy to contribute more to our life (we are both in our 20s and living together).

But Meg doesn’t seem to care how much money she spends and then asks me to front her when she’s running low. She seldom pays me back. 

Last week she had a big night on the town with her best friend (formerly her girlfriend) for the friend’s 30th birthday. She hired a limo and spent a lot on drinks and dinner. She put the entire night on our joint card which we are only supposed to use for shared household expenses, because she had maxed out her own card. Of course I will wind up paying for it. (And I am slightly jealous. Why am I paying for her evening out with her former GF?)

I pay for all sorts of stuff all the time because her credit card gets too big for her budget. 

And somehow I almost never end up getting her share of the rent, which is already prorated according to our incomes.

She always tells me she’ll pay me back but her tab pretty much just keeps getting bigger.

If I bring this up with her, she tells me I am cheap because I make a lot and we’re a couple; and if she made more, she’d have no problem sharing everything with me. 

Am I just being ungenerous? I don’t know. Sometimes I think she’s an ingrate, but then I think if you’re in love, you shouldn’t be thinking of money, just taking care of the person you love.

Also, although I make more than she does, I’m by no means rich. I have my own student loans, and paying for the bulk of our lifestyle stretches me thin some months.

Michael replies:

For starters: Most couples must contend with some version of your struggle with Meg, because most couples have some income disparity.

Do you maintain a lifestyle that both of you can afford? That works for some relationships where the lower earner may not want to feel indebted to the partner who makes more. Other couples work out a system where they pay for expenses in proportion to their income. And in some instances, the higher earner may have a “what’s mine is yours” philosophy and the lower earner is OK with that.

What matters is that both partners come to a mutual agreement and are comfortable with the arrangement. In other words, they collaborate.

That’s not the case with you and Meg. You sound resentful, angry, and feeling like Meg is taking advantage of you.  

It’s great to be generous in your relationship, but it’s also important to have a boundary when you think it’s important to have a boundary. Yet you’re continuing to subsidize Meg even when you have trouble making your own ends meet. 

Important question: Have you told Meg that you’re stretched thin some months? If not, I’d be curious as to how you’ve made that decision. If so, I’d be curious as to Meg’s response.

If you don’t want to keep serving as Meg’s piggy bank, what is stopping you?  

There’s a great saying in psychotherapy: If it’s hysterical, it’s historical. Meaning, our “big” actions and reactions have their roots in our history.

Think about your life history: How does it make sense that you are acting like a powerless victim?  

Is not having a boundary an old and familiar dynamic for you? Were there important players in your life—for example, your parents—who insisted it was their way or the highway?  Or perhaps you learned as a kid that if you ever said “no” to your friends, there’d be negative consequences?

Now ask yourself what might be keeping you stuck in a relationship of resentment. Are you re-creating an old and familiar dynamic? Sometimes we keep putting ourselves in the same miserable situation, over and over again. What’s familiar can be comfortable, even if it’s miserable; and we may be trying to get some understanding of the dynamic and some power over it, to finally get it right.  

I’m just speculating here, to encourage you to think for yourself why you are staying in the dynamic you describe. You haven’t mentioned anything positive about your relationship, or about Meg.

Another possibility: I wonder if you might be so fearful of being alone that you’re willing to tolerate all sorts of treatment in order to stay in your relationship. Or perhaps you don’t think you deserve to be treated any better than this.

Again, if this is the case, where might this belief be coming from? Understanding why we are stuck in behaviors that keep us miserable can help us to get unstuck.

You have an opportunity to do something different here: Set a boundary and take power over your life. Perhaps if you did so, Meg would surprise you by shifting her stance, which would be good news if you have some good reasons to stay. Or perhaps she would not. Your challenge now is to get some sense of what’s holding you back, if you want something different for yourself. And unless you act on your own behalf, you will stay in this position. 

One more point to consider, regarding Meg’s dinner date with her ex: Whether or not anything is going on, I take your jealousy as a sign that you don’t trust Meg. And without trust, you can’t have a decent relationship.

Michael Radkowsky, Psy.D. is a licensed psychologist who works with couples and individuals in D.C. He can be found online at michaelradkowsky.com. All identifying information has been changed for reasons of confidentiality. Have a question? Send it to [email protected].

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April showers bring May flowers in life — and in real estate

Third time’s the charm for buyer plagued with problems

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As Dolly Parton says, ‘If you want the rainbow, you’ve got to put up with a little rain’ (Photo by Rangizzz/Bigstock)

Working in the real estate sector in D.C. can be as uniquely “D.C.” as the residents feel about their own city. On any given day, someone could be selling a home that their grandmother bought, passed on to the relatives, and the transfer of generational wealth continues.  In that same transaction, the beginning steps of building of generational wealth could be taking place.

Across town, an international buyer could be looking for a condo with very specific characteristics that remind them of the way things are “back home.” Maybe they want to live in a building with a pool because they grew up by the sea. Maybe they want a large kitchen so they can cook grandma’s recipes. Maybe they will be on MSNBC once a month and need to have a home office fit for those Zoom sessions where they will be live on air, or recording their podcast.  Perhaps they play the saxophone and want a building with thick walls so they can make a joyful noise without causing their neighbors to file a cease-and-desist order.  

What I found fascinating was getting to know my buyers. Why were they purchasing their property? What did they want to do with it? Was this their grandmother’s dream that they would have a place of their own someday? Did they finally think they would write that award-winning play in the home office?  What dreams were going to be fulfilled while taking part in this transaction?  

Somedays, the muck and paperwork slog of navigating home inspection items and financing checklists could get to be distracting at best, and almost downright disheartening at worst.  

One of my clients was under contract on THREE places before we finally closed on a home. One building was discovered to have financing issues, and the residents were not keeping up with their condo fees. Another building had an issue with the title to the unit, which meant the seller could not sell the home for at least another year until that legal snag was resolved. As the months rolled by, she was losing heart and feeling defeated. When we finally found the third home, everything seemed great – and then about two weeks before the settlement, the rains came down and the windows leaked into the bedrooms.  

Another delay. (Our THIRD). This time, for several more weeks.

I think she wanted to pack a suitcase, go to the airport, get on a plane somewhere and never come back. What ultimately happened? The building repaired the windows, the seller’s insurance replaced the hardwood floors, and she bought her first condo, which she still enjoys to this day.  

As Dolly Parton says, “If you want the rainbow, you’ve got to put up with a little rain.”  And finally, after months of looking, waiting, and overcoming obstacles, the rainbow peeked out from behind the clouds.  


Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with Metro Referrals.  He can be reached at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].

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