Living
Queery: William B. Dennis Jr./Inertia Dolce
Last year’s High Heel Race winner answers 20 gay questions
William Dennis’s entry into drag came about innocuously. A friend told him he’d be good at it, so he gave it a try about two years ago.
His first appearance as alter ego Inertia Dolce came about through a queen competition hosted by Ba’Naka at JR.’s.
Last year at this time, against hundreds of other contestants, he won the High Heel Race wearing a pair of knee-high dominatrix-style boots. A trained runner, he says the key to not breaking an ankle is running on the front part of the foot.
“I enjoy drag because it gives me a chance to have an outlet for another side of my persona,” he says.
He came to Washington in 2008 after college. Dennis started as a server at Grillfish but worked his way up to management and in July, moved over to Commissary (same owner as Grillfish), the popular P Street restaurant he says is “always busy.”
The 27-year-old Spring Lake, N.C., native lives in Columbia Heights with his boyfriend of nine months, Kyle Craig.
He is planning to run again in this year’s race, slated for Tuesday night from 7-10 p.m. on 17th Street, N.W. (find the event on Facebook for details).
Dennis enjoys video games, kickball, tennis, TV and Netflix in his spare time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I’ve been out since I was 14. The hardest person to tell was my mother, because I didn’t want to disappoint her.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
Honestly I’d have to say RuPaul. Due to the fact that I do drag, she’s been an inspiration in helping not only me but others in my community to become more comfortable expressing themselves through this type of art.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
JR.’s
Describe your dream wedding.
I’ve never really given it much thought to be honest. I do know I want it to be outside, near a body of water, with close family and friends.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
Higher education reform.
What historical outcome would you change?
The blood donation laws that prohibit gay men from donating blood.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Watching and falling in love with “Queer as Folk.” For me that was a big pop culture moment even though it was only somewhat mainstream. It was a great way to get a sense of gay culture before I immersed myself in it personally.
On what do you insist?
I insist on being around folks who live with a good moral compass, who are compassionate to those in need and carry themselves with a positive attitude.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
It was probably something dealing with Commissary, the restaurant I manage.
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“Paint, Glitter, & Booze in the Big City: the story of William Dennis.” Or something like that.
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
I wouldn’t change a thing! I’m accepting and loving of who I am.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
I do believe in a higher being. Rather it be God or some other spiritual force, I know there is some sort of energy that helps us make certain decisions and guide us into the right direction.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
That’s a tough one! I think it would be more of a question. I would like to ask them what they are doing for underrepresented LGBT communities.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
My mother.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
That all flamboyant men are non masculine or non athletic.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
“Party Monster,” “Camp” and “Paris is Burning.”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
I don’t think I can pinpoint just one!
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
My college degree. I was the first person in my family to attend and graduate college.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
About half of the things I know now! I wish I knew there was a community like the one I have when I was 18. Growing up in rural North Carolina, I didn’t have that community or those friends.
Why Washington?
I traveled up here often when in college for conferences, meetings, etc. I got a post undergrad fellowship doing electoral organizing in Northern Virginia. After that I decided I didn’t want to go back to North Carolina and I had started making a solid community of friends, so I decided to stay.
Real Estate
Yes, Virginia, there is down payment assistance
Tax abatement, homestead deductions among options to research
Let’s be honest – the average person in the Washington, D.C. area has not been living under a rock, knows how to Google whatever they are looking for, and probably has plenty of connections in their graduate program, place of employment, or at their family holiday dinner who can help them figure out how to purchase a home.
But there were lessons learned as I was working in real estate, that, otherwise, I wouldn’t have even known to ask about. In other words, “How do you know what you don’t even know?”
For example:
- Some lenders can help you find ways to pay off certain amounts of student loan debt before going to settlement. Depends on the jurisdiction you plan to buy in.
- Some down payment assistance loans are available in almost every state. Certain cities and counties have their own versions of this assistance. Some of these programs can be stacked up.
- In D.C., and in many other places, you are required to get a home inspection if you are receiving money from the government to buy a home. That way they aren’t giving you (or lending you) money to buy what Tom Hanks and Shelley Long would call a “Money Pit.” (If you haven’t seen that movie, do yourself a solid and watch it.)
- Did you know that certain lending institutions have what are called “Doctor’s Loans” for people with higher amounts of student loan debt?
- Some jurisdictions have various types of tax abatement for first-time homebuyers. Ask about topics such as “Tax Abatement” and “Homestead Deductions.” This will reduce your tax bill for a property that is owner occupied, OR delay paying property taxes for a set period of time.
This is by no means an exhaustive list of topics to consider. But it is meant as an idea generator. There could be some programs where you live that would help you find a way to get into homeownership, get out of paying high monthly rents, and start socking away a monthly investment. Is homeownership for everyone? Probably not. But for some people, including many of the clients I’ve worked with, it was an easy way to put a large sum of money away monthly. Eventually that money could become a nest egg for leveling up their housing, taking the money back for other purposes, or just one of the tools in their tool belt of personal wealth building.
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with Metro Referrals. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].
Real Estate
What LGBTQ buyers, sellers need to know about new real estate rules
Regulations are reshaping how transactions are conducted
In recent months, the real estate landscape has undergone significant changes, with new rules and regulations reshaping how transactions are conducted. These changes affect buyers and sellers across the board, but LGBTQ individuals and couples navigating the housing market should be particularly aware of how these updates might impact their decisions and opportunities. At GayRealEstate.com, we’re here to keep you informed and empowered.
1. Transparency in Agent Compensation
One of the most notable changes involves how real estate agents are compensated. New rules aim to increase transparency, requiring agents to clearly disclose their commissions and how they are paid. For LGBTQ buyers and sellers, this means you’ll have a better understanding of the financial side of your transaction, making it easier to avoid hidden fees or misunderstandings.
Tip: Make sure your agent explains their compensation structure up front. Working with an LGBTQ-friendly real estate agent through GayRealEstate.com ensures you’re connected with professionals who prioritize clarity and fairness.
2. Contracts Before Home Tours
In some areas, buyers are now required to sign a representation agreement before touring homes. While this adds a layer of formality, it can also help you establish a stronger relationship with your agent and ensure they’re working in your best interest.
What It Means for LGBTQ Buyers: Choosing an agent who understands your unique needs is critical. Signing a contract ensures that your agent is committed to helping you find a home in a community where you’ll feel safe and welcome.
3. New Protections Against Discrimination
Recent policy changes reinforce anti-discrimination measures in housing, which is particularly relevant for LGBTQ individuals. While federal laws like the Fair Housing Act prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, some states have gone further by implementing additional protections.
How to Navigate: Familiarize yourself with your state’s specific laws, and rely on LGBTQ-friendly agents who are committed to advocating for your rights throughout the transaction process.
4. Market Conditions: Buyers vs. Sellers
The current housing market is in flux, with inventory levels, interest rates, and demand varying widely by region. Sellers may face longer listing times, while buyers could encounter more competitive environments in desirable areas.
5. Mortgage Updates for LGBTQ Couples
Lenders are becoming more inclusive in recognizing diverse family structures, but disparities still exist. It’s essential to work with lenders who understand your unique situation and ensure fair treatment during the mortgage process.
Advice: An LGBTQ-friendly agent can connect you with lenders who are sensitive to your needs and knowledgeable about programs that support equal access to home financing.
Why These Changes Matter
The new rules emphasize fairness, transparency, and accountability — values that align closely with the mission of GayRealEstate.com. However, navigating these changes requires expert guidance, especially for LGBTQ buyers and sellers who may face additional challenges in the market.
Take Action Today
Buying or selling a home is one of the most significant decisions you’ll make, and having the right support can make all the difference. At GayRealEstate.com, we connect LGBTQ buyers and sellers with experienced, LGBTQ-friendly agents who are committed to protecting your rights and helping you achieve your goals.
Whether you’re just starting your real estate journey or ready to make your next move, we’re here to help. Visit GayRealEstate.com to find your perfect agent and get started today.
This article is brought to you by GayRealEstate.com, the nation’s largest network of LGBTQ-friendly real estate agents.
Jeff Hammerberg is founding CEO of Hammerberg & Associates, Inc. Reach him at 303-378-5526.
Real Estate
Your holiday home journey
Real estate decisions often tap into our deeper desires for connection
Thanksgiving and real estate share an essential theme: the importance of home. It is traditionally a time of gratitude, togetherness, and reflection. While its hallmark symbols may include turkey dinners, family gatherings, and autumnal décor, it also invites us to think deeply about our values and who and what we hold dear.
For some people, the family home connotes a place of safety, comfort, and community. For others, visiting with family over the holiday can be a contentious and stressful ordeal best avoided. Countless of my friends have severed toxic relationships that can rival an exploding, deep-fried turkey. They have opted instead for dining out or hosting a gathering of food and football with like-minded people.
During Thanksgiving, the idea of “home” becomes particularly poignant. It is more than just a physical structure; it’s where people gather, memories are made, and traditions are passed down. For those involved in real estate — whether as professionals or as individuals embroiled in the market — this emotional dimension of home is a driving force.
When buying a house, it’s not just about square footage or the number of bedrooms. It’s about envisioning a Thanksgiving dinner in the dining room, imagining children playing in the backyard, or hosting friends in the cozy living space. Real estate decisions often tap into our deeper desires for connection, stability, and legacy — values closely tied to the spirit of Thanksgiving.
Thanksgiving falls in the quieter part of the real estate calendar, with spring and summer being the traditionally hot seasons for buying and selling. Yet, for those who choose to list their homes in November, the holiday offers unique opportunities. Sellers can use Thanksgiving’s warm, inviting atmosphere to their advantage, staging homes with seasonal touches like autumn wreaths, a cornucopia of fruits and nuts, the sparkle of a dining room chandelier, and the scent of freshly baked pies.
A well-decorated home during this time can evoke an emotional connection with potential buyers. A cozy environment can help them imagine spending their future holidays in that very space. Additionally, homes listed during the Thanksgiving season often face less competition, as fewer properties are on the market. This can lead to more serious offers from motivated buyers.
For buyers, Thanksgiving can function as a reminder of why they are on the hunt for a new home in the first place. Perhaps they are looking for a bigger space for a growing family. They may be downsizing to retire or to simplify life. They might be looking for home to accommodate both children and aging parents simultaneously. The holiday season underscores the importance of finding a home that aligns with lifestyle needs and future goals.
In our tight real estate market, buyers still face challenges such as limited inventory and higher interest rates; however, Thanksgiving encourages a shift in perspective. It’s a time to focus on gratitude for what is within reach — whether it’s finding a starter home, securing a dream property, or taking incremental steps toward long-term, financial goals.
Interestingly, Thanksgiving weekend has become an increasingly popular time for real estate research. Families can gather around the table and begin discussing the future, including moving to a new city, upgrading their home, or purchasing an investment property. Digital tools like web searches and virtual tours can help buyers and sellers stay connected to the real estate market without disrupting their Thanksgiving traditions.
Whether you are buying or selling, Thanksgiving offers an opportunity to reflect on the role of gratitude in real estate. For buyers, it’s about being thankful for the chance to find a home that meets their needs, even if the journey is challenging. For sellers, it’s a moment to appreciate the memories made in a home while looking forward to new opportunities.
For real estate agents and other industry professionals, Thanksgiving is a time to express gratitude to clients and colleagues, build stronger relationships, and highlight the human aspect of a business often driven by transactions alone.
If you are staying put this Thanksgiving, you have a chance to celebrate your current home, no matter its size or condition. Simple gestures like decorating with fall colors, rearranging furniture for a cozy feel, or preparing a special meal can deepen your connection to your space. Inviting neighbors, friends, or family to share in the festivities can reinforce the sense of community that makes a house a home.
Whether it’s the home you currently have, the one you’re searching for, or the one you are leaving behind, each holds a unique place in your life story. Take stock of the journey so far, recognize the progress made, and look forward to the possibilities ahead.
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