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‘The first lady is a beautiful person inside and out’

Makeup artist Carl Ray assists Michelle Obama with her public face

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‘Working with her is a great experience, the honor of a lifetime,’ says Carl Ray, who works as first lady Michelle Obama’s makeup artist. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

As a child, he first began applying makeup to the visage of the most important woman in his life. An aptitude for art and affinity for beauty would eventually lead to doing the same for the first lady of the United States.

At age 14, now long prominent and locally pioneering D.C.-based makeup artist Carl Ray casually commented to his mother while she was seated at her vanity mirror, “I don’t think you’re doing that right.” His keen painterly instinct and developing eye for facial enhancement so impressed her that she insisted on his assistance each morning, even waking him up at times to work his magic. Recently divorced from his father, Ray wanted to get her out on dates and happily re-married. He succeeded.

A quick study at honing a fascination for fashion and the styles of the day, Ray was drawn to immersing himself in red-carpet looks and celebrity runway appearances through the pages of magazines.

An only child, born at Andrews Air Force Base in Prince Georges County, Navy brat Ray would spend his early years growing up in Italy, Morocco and Puerto Rico. He returned to the U.S. with his parents to attend junior high school in Virginia Beach.

Accustomed to living near water, the athletic Ray excelled as a high school swimmer, winning state and AAU competitions. Up early every morning to hit the pool, he was known for his breaststroke prowess and also as an avid and accomplished surfer. The popular athlete often hung out with the girls in his classes and dated cheerleaders.

“I did the whole girlfriend thing,” the 49-year-old Ray says, noting he had “never met a gay person and didn’t know what that meant. I just thought I was a weirdo for being attracted to men. But I knew it was something people disapproved of being.”

Also a member of the baseball team, Ray played first base and was a pitcher. “I still am,” he says with a hearty laugh. He came out to his friends shortly before graduation.

He would next earn an associate degree in business while studying commercial art. Ray discovered that painting helped him overcome dyslexia through concentration on activities focusing the right side of his brain. Impressionism was his early love, later developing a more abstract style on the canvas. A painter’s brushes and an artist’s color blending captivated his attention, later fueling a self-taught career.

“I became a fiend for art, painting and photography,” Ray says.

Moving to D.C. in 1991, Ray said the city reminded him of his youth in Europe. His childhood experiences drew him to “a lively city with an abundance of culture,” even if D.C. was more conservative in tone and texture. He soon landed a job at a trendsetting high-end cosmetics and luxury beauty product retailer on Connecticut Avenue near Dupont Circle. He quickly developed relationships with visiting brand representatives, who recognized his interest in makeup and skin care when introducing new products to staff.

“It was a very organic path to a career,” Ray says. “I established a niche for myself as the first resident makeup artist.” He assisted customers in selecting products and training them on how to use and apply them. “I understood that I had a talent and an ability to make women look and feel beautiful.”

Customers began requesting appointments with Ray, hoping he would help them determine what skin care regimens, makeup products and colors, and application techniques would work best for them. He had created his dream job.

“D.C. was playing catch-up in the field and the time was right,” he says. “The opportunity to evolve our services allowed me to pioneer an in-house position that existed in only a few cities then and is more available in D.C. now.”

Ray, who is single, describes himself as a “bridal guru.” He refers to weddings as the closest thing to a “runway event” in local lifestyles. As he developed a client roster, Ray welcomed a bride’s makeup request for a high-profile Georgetown wedding, a service that has since grown to become a specialty.

It was that wedding engagement as an on-site makeup artist that propelled Ray to seek an advance in his then-nascent career in 1999. With only a magazine tear sheet of the nuptial event coverage highlighting his bridal makeup artistry, he walked into the premier salon in D.C. hoping to interest management in bringing him on as their first makeup specialist. He was hired, both for his craft and his chutzpah, and has been the exclusive Artistic Talent at the George Salon at the Four Seasons Hotel ever since.

Recalling his early days at the salon being like “a fish out of water,” Ray would float through the space “bravely” offering to apply lipstick on salon patrons, providing suggestions regarding new shades and discussing additional products that might be of interest. “Clients would see me working or be recommended by others,” he remembers, but “I had to learn how to approach people.” It was a task that proved easily compatible with Ray’s affable manner and winsome personality.

As Ray’s client list expanded, he also garnered gigs for editorial features, magazine covers, film and studio work, fashion events, celebrity and political appearances, TV interviews, foreign dignitary visits, photography shoots and advertising campaigns. His work began appearing in Vogue, the Wall Street Journal, the New Yorker, Glamour, Allure, Elle, Ebony, Town & Country, Bride & Groom, Bride, Lady’s Home Journal and other publications, as well as on television network news and entertainment programs.

Ray’s fashion credits include makeup work seen on the catwalk for Donna Karan, Escada, Gucci, Carolina Herrera, Dolce & Gabbana, Yeollee, and the Vera Wang Fashion Show. His wedding credits include the Reem Acra Bridal Show, Oscar de la Renta Bridal, Monique Lhuillier Bridal, Rivini Bridal and Marchesa Bridal.

Ray has been honored as the top makeup artist for 15 consecutive years by Washingtonian magazine. Freelance work often has him traveling to New York, Los Angeles and other cities.

As accolades and achievements grew as numerous as the brushes in his black canvas Zuca makeup case, Ray received a call nearly six years ago that he remembers well. He was invited to the White House to prepare first lady Michelle Obama for a public appearance, the first of several “audition” opportunities that would lead to joining her personal staff as exclusive makeup artist.

“The first lady is a beautiful person inside and out,” Ray says. “She is a special woman who is very strong, very passionate. Working with her is a great experience, the honor of a lifetime. She is the most ‘real’ individual I have ever met.”

“I love the canvas, she has a beautiful face,” Ray says of “one of the most photographed women in the world, who also has a fashion style recognized around the world.” He notes that his favorite portfolio piece is Obama’s Vogue magazine cover photographed by Annie Liebovitz. His favorite moment was her recent visit with Queen Elizabeth at Buckingham Palace.

Describing Michelle Obama as “very much an easygoing person,” Ray praises her down-to-earth personality. “She is very sweet,” he notes, “and so damn funny and hilarious. I feel privileged to be so close to her, and appreciate her being a big supporter of me professionally and personally. She is a great mentor to me and the rest of the world.”

During the 2012 campaign, Ray admits to sometimes not knowing what city he was in due to an often-whirlwind schedule. Accompanying FLOTUS, he points out, “feels like being on television’s ‘The Amazing Race.’” He hastens to emphasize that “we never discuss politics and I am tight-lipped about talking about her and her family. I respect her and respect her privacy.”

Ray continues to see clients on a regular schedule at the George Salon, balanced with his White House duties and other work. He is proud to provide services to a full complement of Washington women, and a number of men, some famous and most not.

His intrinsic skills, success in trailblazing a new-to-Washington career, and achieving distinction in his field excite Ray about future opportunities to “continue to be a part of the progression of the industry,” he says.

Ray’s response to the frequent letters he receives from young people from across the country asking for advice about becoming a makeup artist is emblematic of his path so far. “Follow your heart and your passion,” he offers in reply, “and you may get to do what you love — like I have.”

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First lady Michelle Obama addressed the Democratic National Convention in 2012. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)

For more information, visit Carl Ray’s website at CarlRayMakeupArtist.com or CarlRayMakeupArtist on Instagram.

 

Mark Lee is a long-time entrepreneur and community business advocate. Follow him on Twitter: @MarkLeeDC or reach him at [email protected].

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D.C. LGBTQ sports bar Pitchers listed for sale

Move follows months of challenges for local businesses in wake of Trump actions

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Pitchers is for sale at an undisclosed price. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)

A Santa Monica, Calif.-based commercial real estate company called Zacuto Group has released a 20-page online brochure announcing the sale of the D.C. LGBTQ sports bar Pitchers and its adjoining lesbian bar A League of Her Own.

 The brochure does not disclose the sale price, and Pitchers owner David Perruzza told the Washington Blade he prefers to hold off on talking about his plans to sell the business at this time.

He said the sale price will be disclosed to “those who are interested.” 

“Matthew Luchs and Matt Ambrose of the Zacuto Group have been selected to exclusively market for sale Pitchers D.C., located at 2317 18th Street, NW in Washington, D.C located in the vibrant and nightlife Adams Morgan neighborhood,” the sales brochure states.

 “Since opening its doors in 2018, Pitchers has quickly become the largest and most prominent LGBTQ+ bar in Washington, D.C., serving as a cornerstone of D.C.’s modern queer nightlife scene,” it says, adding, “The 10,000+ SF building designed as a large-scale inclusive LGBTQ+ sports bar and social hub, offering a welcoming environment for the entire community.”

It points out that the Pitchers building, which has two years remaining on its lease and has a five-year renewal option, is a multi-level venue that features five bar areas, “indoor and outdoor seating, and multiple patios, creating a dynamic and flexible layout that supports a wide range of events and high customer volume.”

“Pitchers D.C. is also home to A League of Her Own, the only dedicated lesbian bar in Washington, D.C., further strengthening its role as a vital and inclusive community space at a time when such venues are increasingly rare nationwide,” the brochure says. 

Zacuto Group sales agent Luchs, who serves as the company’s senior vice president, did not immediately respond to a phone message left by the Blade seeking further information, including the sale price. 

News of Perruzza’s decision to sell Pitchers and A League of Her Own follows his Facebook postings last fall saying Pitchers, like other bars in D.C., was adversely impacted by the Trump administration’s deployment of National Guard soldiers on D.C. streets   

In an Oct. 10 Facebook post, Perruzza said he was facing, “probably the worst economy I have seen in a while and everyone in D.C. is dealing with the Trump drama.” He told the Blade in a Nov. 10 interview that Pitchers continued to draw a large customer base, but patrons were not spending as much on drinks.

The Zacuto Group sales brochure says Pitchers currently provides a “rare combination of scale, multiple bars, inclusivity, and established reputation that provides a unique investment opportunity for any buyer seeking a long-term asset with a loyal and consistent customer base,” suggesting that, similar to other D.C. LGBTQ bars, business has returned to normal with less impact from the Trump related issues.

The sales brochure can be accessed here.

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Alexander Skarsgård describes ‘Pillion’ in 3 words: lube, sweat, leather

Highly anticipated film a refreshingly loving look at Dom-sub life

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Harry Melling and Alexander Skarsgård star in ‘Pillion,’ which premieres in the U.S. on Feb. 6. (Photo courtesy of A24)

Whether you’ve seen him in popular HBO series like “True Blood,” “Succession,” or “Big Little Lies,” the dynamic Swedish actor Alexander Skarsgård has that smoldering gaze that immediately draws viewers in. 

Following in the footsteps of his father Stellan, (who just won the Golden Globe for “Sentimental Value”) the Golden Globe, Emmy, and SAG winner Skarsgård continues to be an actor who is fearless in the roles he takes on. 

That courageousness is evident in Skarsgård’s latest film, the BDSM black comedy “Pillion,”which he also executive produces. He plays Ray, the handsome, hyper-dominant leader of a gay bike gang. The film was written and directed by Harry Lighton, and is based on the 2020 novel “Box Hill,” by Adam Mars-Jones. 

“This was a small film by a first time filmmaker and it wasn’t financed when I read it,”  Skarsgård told journalists at a recent awards news conference. “And I felt that, if I could help in any small way of getting it financed, I wanted to, because I thought it was such an incredible screenplay and I believe in Harry Lighton so much as a filmmaker. And it felt tonally unlike anything I’d ever read. It was such an exciting, surprising read.”

Skarsgård was blown away by the quality of the unconventional script. “When I heard BDSM relationship, biker culture, I expected something very different. I didn’t expect it to have so much sweetness and tenderness and awkwardness.”

For the sex scenes and nudity with co-star, Harry Melling — who excels in his portrayal as Ray’s submissive Colin — Skarsgård talked very early on with Lighton about how he wanted to shoot those scenes, and why they were in the film. 

“I often find sex scenes quite boring in movies because a lot of the tension is in the drama leading up to two people hooking up, or several people hooking up, as in our movie. But what I really enjoyed about these scenes — they are all pivotal moments in Colin’s journey and his development. It’s the first time he gets a blowjob. It’s the first time he has sex. It’s the first time he has an orgasm. And these are pivotal moments for him, so they mean a lot. And that made those scenes impactful and important.” 

Skarsgård was happy that Lighton’s script didn’t have gratuitous scenes that shock for the sake of just shocking. “I really appreciated that because I find that when this subculture is portrayed, it’s often dangerous and crazy and wild and something like transgressive.”

He continued: “I really love that Harry wanted it to feel real. It can be sexy and intense, but also quite loving and sweet. And you can have an orgy in the woods, rub up against a Sunday roast with the family. And that kind of feels real.”

One of the obstacles Skarsgård had to work with was Ray’s emotionally distant personality.

“Ray is so enigmatic throughout the film and you obviously never find out anything about him, his past. He doesn’t reveal much. He doesn’t expose himself. And that was a challenge to try to make the character interesting, because that could easily feel quite flat…That was something that I thought quite a lot about in pre production…there are no big dramatic shifts in his arc.”

For the film, Lighton consulted the GMBCC, the UK’s largest LGBT+ biker club, attending their annual meetup at which 80 riders were present. 

“Working with these guys was extraordinary and it brought so much texture and richness to the film to have them present,” said Skarsgård. “They were incredibly sweet and guiding with us — I can’t imagine making this movie without them. I’d go on a road trip with them anytime.”

Added Skarsgård: “To sum up ‘Pillion’ in three words: lube, sweat, and leather. I hope people will connect with Colin and his journey, and come to understand the nuance and complexity of his bond with Ray.”

This year is shaping up to be a busy one for Skarsgård. “Pillion” premieres in select cities on Feb. 6 and then moves into wide release on Feb. 20. After that for Skarsgård is a role in queer ally Charli XCX’s mockumentary, “The Moment,” which premieres at the Sundance Film Festival. HIs sci-fi comedy series,  Apple TV’s “Murderbot,” which he also executive produces, will begin filming its second season. And this weekend, he hosts “Saturday Night Live.”

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MISTR’s Tristan Schukraft on evolution of HIV prevention

From ACT UP to apps, embracing stigma-free care

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Tristan Schukraft (Photo courtesy of Schukraft)

It was not too long ago that an HIV diagnosis was read as a death sentence. In its earlier decades, the HIV/AIDS crisis was synonymous with fear and loss, steeped in stigma. Over recent years, open conversation and science have come together to combat this stigma while proactively paving the way for life-saving treatments and preventive measures like PrEP. Now, in 2026, with discreet and modern platforms that meet people where they’re at in their lives, HIV prevention has evolved from hushed words of warning into something far more sex-positive and accessible. Game-changing services like MISTR are a testament to this shift, showing our community that healthcare doesn’t have to feel clinical or shaming to work. It can be empowering and, dare I say,  celebratory.

Few people embody this evolution quite like Tristan Schukraft, founder of MISTR. With one hand in healthcare and the other high-fiving through queer nightlife, Schukraft gets that, from the bar to the bedroom and beyond,  prevention happens in person and in real life. His approach has helped turn PrEP, DoxyPEP, and testing into normalized parts of our daily queer life, reaching hundreds of thousands of people across the US.

In our conversation, Schukraft shares candidly about stigma, policy, and why the future of sexual health depends on keeping it real.

BLADE: You have one hand in healthcare and the other in nightlife and queer spaces. Can you share with us how these two spheres impact and inform each other? How do they impact and inform you? 

SCHUKRAFT: Honestly, for me, they’ve never been separate. Nightlife and queer spaces are where people meet, date, hook up, fall in love, and make friends. That’s real life. Being in queer spaces all the time keeps me grounded and reminds me who we’re building MISTR for. 

BLADE: MISTR markets sexual health in a sex-positive, stigma-free fashion. Can you share with us how you measure the impact of this approach? 

SCHUKRAFT: This year, we held the first-ever National PrEP Day.  Dua Lipa performed, and Cardi B was there.  After the event, Cardi B went on her Instagram live to encourage people to sign up for PrEP.  

When you make sexual health stigma-free and sex positive, people talk about it. We see it in how people use the platform. When 700,000 people are willing to sign up, get tested, start PrEP, and add things like DoxyPEP, that tells us we’ve made it feel safe and normal instead of scary or awkward. And then we see it in the results. Since we expanded DoxyPEP, STI positivity among our patients dropped by half.  

BLADE: How have you seen the conversation of sexual health in our LGBTQ+ community change in mainstream culture in recent years? 

SCHUKRAFT: Ten years ago, nobody was casually talking about PrEP, and if they did, it likely referenced one being a Truvada whore. Now it’s part of the culture. Popstars like Troye Sivan post pictures of their daily PrEP pill on social media. Cardi B goes on Instagram Live telling people to get on PrEP.  

For many sexually active gay men, taking PrEP is simply part of the gay experience.  For people in more remote areas, it might not be as talked about. Particularly in rural or more conservative places, MISTR can be a life-changing option. No awkward visits to the family doctor or the local pharmacy where everybody knows your business. It’s all done discreetly online and shipped straight to your door. 

BLADE: You have publicly argued that cuts to government HIV prevention funding are of high risk. Would you please elaborate for us on what those budget decisions mean on an individual level? 

SCHUKRAFT: It means real people fall through the cracks. Someone doesn’t get tested. Someone waits too long to start PrEP. Someone finds out they’re HIV-positive later than they should have. Community clinics will be the hardest hit, especially those in underserved communities. The good news is that MISTR is ready to help people who might lose their access to care. All you need to do is sign up at mistr.com, and it’s totally free with or without insurance. 

BLADE: From your (and MISTR’s) perspective, how do these funding cuts threaten ongoing efforts to end the HIV epidemic? 

SCHUKRAFT: For the first time, we have all the tools to end HIV. If everybody who is HIV negative is taking PrEP and everyone HIV+ is virally suppressed, we can end all new HIV transmissions in the United States.  We have everything we need today.  All we need is to get more people on PrEP. Cutting funding risks losing that momentum. Ending HIV requires scale and consistency. Every time funding gets cut, you lose momentum, trust, and infrastructure, and rebuilding that takes years. 

HIV transmissions don’t pause because budgets change. 

BLADE: In our current climate of decreased federal investment, what role do you feel private healthcare and business should play in sexual health? 

SCHUKRAFT: With reports that the current administration is considering cuts to HIV and prevention funding,  we face a moment of reckoning. At the same time, some employers are seeking to exclude PrEP and HIV prevention from their coverage on religious freedom grounds. If these challenges succeed, and if federal funding is slashed, the consequences for public health will be devastating. But this is where the private sector must step up to fill the gap, bridge divides, and deliver results. 

Businesses have the power and platform to normalize HIV prevention and drive measurable outcomes. At MISTR, we see firsthand what’s possible: since introducing DoxyPEP, STI positivity rates among our patients have been cut in half. But it’s not just about medication. It’s about messaging.  

Our sex-positive, stigma-free marketing speaks directly to our community, making sexual health part of everyday life. No awkward doctor visits, no needles, no paperwork — just free online PrEP and STI testing, prescribed by real physicians and delivered to your door. That kind of impact could grow exponentially if more employers embraced this approach and made HIV prevention part of their employee wellness programs. 

Employers, this is your call to action. Start by making sure your health plans cover PrEP and DoxyPEP. Partner with platforms like MISTR to give employees private, stigma-free access to care. Offer on-site testing. Talk openly about sexual health, not just during Pride, but every day of the year. This is not political — this is about protecting lives, strengthening communities, and building a healthier, more productive workforce. Because healthy employees aren’t just good for public health — they’re good for business. 

When the private sector steps up, outcomes improve. And when businesses align with platforms like MISTR, scaling impact isn’t just possible — it’s happening. 

BLADE: Has MISTR experienced any direct effects from these recent shifts in public health funding? 

SCHUKRAFT: MISTR’s unique model is totally free for patients with or without insurance, and we don’t cost the government or taxpayers a penny. We are scaling up our efforts to reach people who might be losing their access or care. 

BLADE: What would be your message to policymakers who are considering further cuts to HIV/AIDS programs? 

SCHUKRAFT: During his first term, President Donald Trump committed unprecedented resources to the Ending the HIV Epidemic initiative here at home. Bipartisan support has shown what’s possible when bold leadership meets smart strategy. To policymakers: I urge you to reconsider any cuts to HIV prevention funding. This is not the time to pull back. It’s the time to push forward. Ending HIV is within reach — but only if government, private industry, and community organizations stand together. 

BLADE: What is one perhaps overlooked win from last year that impacted you on a personal level? 

SCHUKRAFT: Seeing our STI positivity rate drop by half after expanding DoxyPEP. 

BLADE: Looking at the year ahead, what are MISTR’s most significant priorities for sexual health in 2026? 

SCHUKRAFT: Expanding access, especially in the South and in communities that still get left out. Rolling out injectable PrEP. And just continuing to make sexual healthcare easier and more normal. 

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