Arts & Entertainment
NFL kiss cam PSA shows ‘Love has no labels’
ad features couples of all kinds


(Screenshot via YouTube.)
The NFL and the Ad Council released a pro-love PSA that celebrates all types of love and features two same-sex couples, including a Pulse nightclub survivor.
“Love has no labels” features a diverse group of people at the Pro Bowl in Orlando hugging and kissing when the kiss-cam shows them on screen.
In one clip the cam settles on a man and woman who laugh before the man kisses his male partner sitting on his other side. Another couple shows a woman wearing an “Orlando Survivor” T-shirt who kisses her partner while the audience cheers. Other football fans included in the ad are an interracial couple and an older couple.
āWe noticed that [the kiss cam] was often focused on traditional notions of love,ā Chris Northam, an executive creative director at R/GA, told The Wall Street Journal. āWe thought, what if we could showcase a more modern take? We hope it does cause conversation and, more than anything else, that the fans embrace this message and help spread this movement.ā
Watch the ad below.

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Television
No, āMid-Century Modernā is not a āGolden Girlsā remake
And thatās a good thing

Thereās long been a desire for a gay version of āThe Golden Girls.ā
GenX (and younger) fans who have loved that showās iconic quartet of aging female āfrenemiesā have been clamoring for it since the actual āGolden Girlsā was still on the air ā so by the time the creators of āMid-Century Modernā came up with the idea for a show about three gay friends āof a certain ageā (and one cantankerous mother) living together in Palm Springs, it was hardly an original idea. Yet even if they werenāt the first to fantasize about a show featuring the gay male equivalents of Dorothy, Blanche, Rose, and Sophia, it hardly matters. They were the ones that actually made it happen.
Thatās due in large part to who they are – or at least, what theyāve done before. The two men who hatched the plot (Max Mutchnick and David Kohan) were also responsible for āWill & Grace.ā After they teamed up for a brainstorming session with queer TV powerhouse Ryan Murphy ā who eagerly joined forces with them as the showās executive producer ā there was enough viability behind it to bring the long-gestated dream to fruition at last.
The āat lastā came this week, when all 10 episodes of the showās debut season dropped on Hulu, and itās undeniable that there was not only a dream behind it, but also a considerable amount of talent ā most obviously in its casting. Headlining (as ālingerie mogulā Bunny Schneiderman) is longtime stage/screen/TV star Nathan Lane, a multi-award winner who is a legend for his āBird Cageā performance alone, with eternally hunky Matt Bomer adding a whole different flavor of star power as ditsy-but-sweet-hearted (and blithely promiscuous) flight attendant Jerry. The trio of friends is rounded out by former fashion columnist Arthur, played with imperious aplomb by Nathan Lee Graham, a lesser-known but equally well-rounded veteran performer whose resume includes roles in āZoolanderā and āPriscilla, Queen of the Desert,ā as well as a guest appearance on āAbsolutely Fabulous.ā Finally, sitcom royalty (and Tony-winner) Linda Lavin ā who passed away in December, after filming had completed on the showās inaugural season ā is on hand to steal scenes as Sybil, Bunnyās pull-no-punches mother, who owns the house they all live in and makes sure to assert her matriarchal dominance at every opportunity.
In the pilot episode, titled āBye, George,ā Bunny, Jerry, and Arthur reunite to mourn the death of an old companion, with whom the trio of friends once formed a quartet. With each of them facing the uncertainty of a new life after changes in the old one have left them to cope on their own, Bunny decides to invite his two remaining buddies to move with him to Palm Springs, to live with his mother Sybil in a spectacular mid-century modern (hence the name) house that would probably make Frank Sinatra jealous. The arrangement, however, becomes precarious even before it officially begins, when Bunny connects with a much-younger hook-up and becomes smitten ā forcing his two would-be roommates into a scheme to bring him back to his senses before he rescinds their invitation and offers it to his new āboyfriendā instead. Itās classic sitcom material, of course, with lots of crossed wires and jumped conclusions to fuel the wackiness ā though in this case, at least, the show stops short of the zany hijinks one might expect from Lucy and Ethel (or even Rose or Blanche) before wrapping things up with a friendship-affirming bow. We canāt fault it for that; thereās a premise to be launched here, after all.
Besides, thereās plenty of other comfortable old-school sitcom fun to be had throughout: a sparring match between Arthur and Sybil, whose love-hate dynamic quickly sets the stage for an ongoing battle of sharp wits and sharper tongues; the air-headed naivete of Jerry, with Bomer both leaning into and undercutting the clichĆ© of the pretty-but-dumb aging ātwunkā; and Bunnyās sincere but impulsive starry-eyed sentimentality, which is frequently undercut by his āDorothy-esqueā natural instinct (and Laneās natural talent) for bitchy queendom.
Yet while there are clear choices to mirror the iconic personality traits of the original āGolden Girlsā crew in āMid-Century Modern,ā the new series seems less regimented in defining each of its characters quite so succinctly, opting instead for a sort of āblendā in which the familiar personas of the former showās leading ladies are spread a little more evenly between the four of them together. The result is a show that is obviously a new variation on an established theme, but one in which echoes of the original can be detected in each of its disparate elements rather than confined within the plainly-delineated parameters from which they have been inherited. To put it more plainly, itās a show that acknowledges and embraces the material which inspired it, but goes beyond mere imitation to carve a space of its own. Neither a remake nor a reboot, itās more like an offspring, a separate entity unto itself despite the DNA it shares with its progenitor.
Which is, of course, the only way a show like this can have any real chance of success; to attempt a direct copy of the series that inspired it would spark inevitable (and well-deserved) criticisms of laziness, along with the myriad quibbles which would undoubtedly arise from displeased āGolden Girlsā fans; yet to diverge too radically from the established format would eliminate the very reason for its existence. Its seasoned creators were savvy enough to know that a gimmick only goes so far, and they build a show that leaves room for growth beyond its origin as a nostalgic homage into a series with the potential to succeed in its own right. And with the first season helmed by director James Burrows (an 11-time Emmy-winner for his work on shows like āTaxi,ā āCheersā āFrasierā and āWill & Graceā), who brings the experienced hand necessary to create the kind of authentically āretroā piece of entertainment that this one aspires to be, the old-school vibe feels as fresh as it did when āThe Golden Girlsā debuted ā almost 40 full years ago.
Whether that nostalgic pull is enough to make the show a hit is hard to predict. It has laugh-out-loud moments, and convincingly reasserts the importance of genuine friendship and chosen family that has always been a common element in such shows. At the same time, while āThe Golden Girlsā was unequivocally queer-friendly, it was not specifically queer-themed. Given todayās polarized sensibilities around queer content, the timing might be wrong to permit this decidedly queer evolution of its premise ā which saucily pulls no punches when it comes to the details of queer sexuality as personified in its three very different but equally randy protagonists ā to have the same universal appeal that made it a long-running mainstream hit.
Only time will tell. For now, you can watch the entire first season on Hulu, and make that call for yourself. For our part, weāre just happy to have another high-profile queer show to enjoy, because we all really need that right about now.
Books
āHurt Capitalā chronicles young life of bipolar, trans writer
New book from Isaac Amend a rich and complicated tale

Washington Blade contributor Isaac Amend has published a new book, āHurt Capital,ā chronicling a range of topics related to his transgender status, a personal struggle following a psychotic breakdown, and more.

BLADE: Why did you write this book and why now?
ISAAC AMEND: In college, I was an avid writer for the Yale Daily News, and tried to prepare myself for a good writing career, taking classes with Pulitzer Prize-winner Michael Cunningham, and other notable authors, including Anne Fadiman and Cynthia Zarin. But when I got out of college, I spent six or seven years in the real world, outside of Ivy gates, racking up experiences to write about ā whether it was falling in love with a woman, getting hit by a car in Cyprus, or being manic for 13 months straight. But once all of those things were done, I went back to my literary roots, frantically scribbling books and articles in my room at night. Now I want to have some sort of writing career, and I can partly thank the Blade for that, as you welcome most of my op-eds.
I felt like it was important to write about bipolar disorder in very honest and raw terms. I experienced a psychotic break from reality when I was 19 years old that I felt ashamed to tell everyone in my life about, but now I want to come clean with it. Recovering from a psychotic break is a complicated process, and Iāll never really know if my mind has fully recovered, but I do know that because of my break from reality, Iām able to tackle difficult problems in life without getting scared. I feel like itās also important for the general public to know about how much hurt and pain transgender people feel on a daily basis, hence the name āHurt Capital.ā
BLADE: Who’s the audience for your book?
AMEND: Itās funny, this is a question that all authors need to answer in a book proposal to agents, and I did exactly that, querying dozens of agents. My book has three target audiences. The first are expats, or expatriates. These are people who live overseas ā either on embassies in South Asia or in suburban compounds on the outskirts of Moscow. These are the places that I grew up in, and I felt āgenderlessā for some of my time as an expatriate, frolicking to and fro with not a worry in the world as I grew up in Pakistan and India. I want to connect with other people who have lived overseas.
The second target audience for my book are twins. I have an identical twin named Helen who is my best friend. Iām constantly trying to be a good brother to her, whether itās helping her move apartments or buying her groceries. We connect on a very deep level, and Iām sure that my gender transition partly shocked her and in some ways, may have made her feel upset. Itās a unique phenomenon when one identical twin wants to be a man, and the other one wants to stay a woman. Iāll never fully understand how God made me bipolar and trans while he made my twin sister non-bipolar and cisgender.
The third target audience for my book are individuals with mental health issues. I want to connect with other people who have also gone through psychotic breaks, been manic, talked at the speed of light, felt depressed, or felt so anxious that they had to pop a lot of pills and stay in bed. I want to connect with people who suffer from schizophrenia, bipolar, ADHD, and OCD, among many other diseases. These disorders are so complicated in nature, but we need to be honest about their dimensions and how to best treat them.
BLADE: How long did it take to write and what was your process?
AMEND: The book didnāt take me long to write. I churned out around 5,000 to 7,000 words in one week, then I had a 500 word per day policy ā itās a policy I implement with all of my books. I would write 500 words per day usually at a bar at night. I was living in D.C. back then and would frequent Nanny OāBrienās, a well-known Irish dive bar open late. I would pull out my iPhone and write 500 words (but usually more) in Google Docs. There were all sorts of characters at Nanny OāBrienās ā bartenders who would scream at me if I didnāt tip enough, people from the Russian embassy, and famous politicos who would bring their golden retriever in tow. I almost got into a fistfight there with a Russian diplomat, but still miss the memories that bar curated. I even told my landlord at the time that I associated Nanny OāBrienās with the book.
BLADE: What are you thoughts on how the new Trump administration has attacked trans rights and do you see any hope in the near future?
AMEND: Itās a travesty, whatās going on. The new administration is cruel beyond belief, yet I still retain some semblance of hope for the future. I see our nation as divided, but a nation that still elects an almost equal amount of Republicans to the presidency as it does Democrats. Most large cities in the U.S. are dominated by progressive people who understand the value in diversifying sexuality and gender identities, and celebrating that diversity. I always tell people to āvote with their feet,ā as in, if you have the privilege of being able to move to a new location, move to a city that is full of liberal minded people. But many trans youth donāt have the privilege of moving; they are stuck in schools full of students that bully them for their gender. Indeed, there is a massive mental health crisis happening among trans youth. The Trump administration has banned everyone under the age of 19 from receiving gender affirming care, and that is cruel. I have spoken openly about my belief that adolescents and other youth should be able to access puberty blockers, and I maintain that stance.
This seems out of left field, but Iāve seriously thought about pooling money together to pay for trans youth to receive medical care in Canada. Itās sort of a gauche idea, because trans youth presumably need to stay in school in the U.S., and their parents would have to agree to them going up north, but the idea still persists in my head. I guess I dream of ways that these kids can feel better, and receiving care in Canada comes to mind.
BLADE: What’s your message to young trans kids who are frightened during these difficult times?
AMEND: Keep your head up. Older trans people like me are fighting for you to have better lives. If someone tries to put you down in school just remember that they are putting you down out of an insecurity they harbor about themself or the world. Secretly, they feel inferior. Donāt forget that the qualities that you bring to the table ā your unique gender and/or sexual identity ā is what makes you beautiful.
BLADE: There are many queer memoirs out there; what’s unique about your story?
AMEND: My story is intersectional, meaning I weave a story about a transgender man who is also bipolar and is a twin and grew up overseas in Saudi Arabia, Pakistan, India, Russia, and Jordan. Itās not a one-dimensional story. Itās rich and complicated with tales of being manic and going on testosterone and being psychotic and hoping that I donāt lose all of my marbles in front of my twin and little sister and the rest of my family. I speak of KGB henchmen in Russia and spooks here in D.C. (kind of like that Russian diplomat who almost tried to punch me). I speak of many thingsānot just being queer.
The following is an excerpt from āHurt Capital,ā which is available now at Amazon and other retailers.
Dear Mom,
The pills in my bathroom cabinet are sitting next to each other like fifteen linebackers on a football field. Bolton. Edmunds. Greenlaw. Wagner. Warner. The Chiefs are winning, and I havenāt even spotted Travis Kelce yet. Theyāre all famousāeach single pill bottleāeach capsule I need to swallow with orange juice at night. I get the high pulp kind, now, from Trader Joeās, that costs around four bucks. Semi pulp doesnāt put the tablets down fast enough. Iāve got every kind of med imaginable since my first episode ten years ago.
Bipolar has never felt so bad. But itās also never felt so good. The mania that lasted for a year last September has crept away, but its high still remains in my head. At least partly. Partially. Essentially. Basically, it was awesome. I celebrated at every turn. Went walking for hours on end, only to feel my breath creeping into my lungs, and out, past midnight, when I dreamt of fairytales and candy cane land and piles of dollars stacked so high in front of Rick Ross. So high that he forgot he sold coke. I forgot he sold coke. I forgot a lot of that year, Mom.
Iwant to be like Rick Ross one day. I want to star in a song with Drake. Rapping about lemon pepper chicken and taking my celebrity son to French Montessori. I want to be a hustler, a gangster at every turn, a coke warlord just fiending for a kingdom. The kingdom I create is in my mind: itās ruled by Dostoevsky and Tolstoy and even Pushkin. I named a cat after Pushkin. Russian writers have never felt so real. I want them to come back from the dead and resurrect themselvesāall polished and everything. No wax. I remember visiting Tolstoyās grave with you in Moscow, when henchmen roamed the city at night and CIA officers were prowling the embassyās corridors. I was scared in Moscow. Scared back then. Scared of my female body. But now itās a male one, and Iām a son. Iām your son, Mom. But Iām troubled. Very troubled indeed.
I went to a soccer game again. We are named Footyholics. We played near Logan Circle, in the backyard of a school, and I swear the soccer ball was going to kill me. It hit my head, with a bangānot a whimperāand zoomed past some crust on my earlobes. My black stud almost shook for a bit. I clenched the ring you got me on my index finger. You got it from Delhi, and now Iām remembering things back there as well, when you and I lived in India. But there are many things I still canāt remember, Mom. Just trust me on that one. Trust me.
Hereās one thing I do remember, though: getting in that car accident with you. In Delhi. You were all up in the front seat, and Helen and I were in the back. And a motorcyclist went clamp on the right window, and his flesh and blood were splayed all near for us to see. He died that day, and I think thatās the first time I ever saw you cry. I only saw you cry a second time, when Dad was in Kabul, and you missed him like hell, and Phoebe had a tantrum on the National Gallery steps, and you drove us back home, teary-eyed, and you just sat crying that day, in the DC suburbs. And there was not a damn thing I could do about it.
We lost the soccer game. Footyholics lost. But we grabbed a few beers after, at a place near the traffic circle, where expats and missionaries and bankers were fiending for a beer as well, all alike, just as I was fielding for a kingdom in my head. I swear this city is ruled by sociopaths sometimes. They just crawl around here, like ants around a hill, waiting to wreak havoc.
At the bar we were sitting outside, on a wooden table, and we all ordered some beers and some tacos and stuff. And some burritos with chicken. And I swear I shouldnāt drink, but Iām just like your husbandāthereās nothing that tastes better than alcohol in this world, Mom. But beer is bad for me. Itās bad for a guy who thinks a soccer ball is going to kill him. At the restaurant, I spotted a street sweeper brushing away leaves. I suddenly fixated on the sweeper: on his crew cut, his black boots, his leather skin. I thought he was manic for leaves. I also thought the waitress hated Jesus until a cross kissed her neck. I thought many things, Mom, and none of them were true.
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