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Clinging to hope amid Kavanaugh debacle

#MeToo may not be enough to stop deplorable nominee

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“‘Hope’ is the thing with feathers/That perches in the soul –/And sings the tune without the words/And never stops – at all ,” Emily Dickinson said.

For millions of us watching the debacle surrounding Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s Supreme Court nomination process, hope, if not completely stopped, is nearly at a standstill.

Even as we, queer and hetero, dared to believe that #MeToo was changing the culture, the events around Kavanagh’s nomination have led us to temper our hopes.

Who will ever forget what they ate for breakfast or when they stopped working to look at their phone that day, Sept. 27? When Christine Blasey Ford courageously, before the Senate Judiciary Committee and the world, testified that Kavanaugh had sexually assaulted her when they were teens. (Kavanaugh denies that he sexually assaulted or engaged in sexual misconduct with Ford or any of the other women who have accused him of sexual assault or sexual misconduct.)

One of the most telling moments for me was when Ford said that Kavanaugh and Mark Judge had laughed at her, “having fun at my expense.”

As I heard Ford’s story, like so many women, I recalled the times in my life when I’d experienced sexual harassment. Thankfully, I’ve never been raped or sexually assaulted. But there was the time when I was in an elevator between two men joking about rape. There was the day when I quickly got out of a cab at a stoplight because the driver began coming on to me.

I was in an airport days after Matt Lauer and Charlie Rose were fired because they had sexually harassed women they’d worked with. The news about their firings was on the airport TV. As I waited for my flight, a man said to me, “hey, you should give Matt Lauer your phone number! It would be great for you!”    

As so often happens with survivors of sexual assault, Ford has been dogged by people (mostly men) wanting to know why she waited so long to tell anyone — her family or the police — about what happened to her. Only recently, with #MeToo, has it begun to be understood why women (and men) don’t immediately come forward when they’ve been sexually assaulted or harassed. Shame, fear of being blamed or of facing reprisals (if, for example, the sexual assault occurred in the workplace) can keep victims from coming forward.

So, sexual assault survivors often turn inward or to counseling. “I brought it up in therapy, which seemed an appropriate place to deal with the sequelae [aftereffect] of the assault,” Ford said at the hearing.

Kavanaugh’s demeanor was a brutal contrast to Ford’s brave honesty and vulnerability.  Kavanaugh’s red-faced fury and partisan insults will be forever etched in our brains. “This whole two-week effort has been a calculated … political hit fueled with pent-up anger about President Trump and the 2016 election,” Kavanaugh fumed, “revenge on behalf of the Clintons and millions of dollars in money from outside left-wing opposition groups.”

The Senate could vote on Kavanaugh’s nomination late this week after the FBI conducts an investigation into the allegations against Kavanaugh. It’s hard to believe that the investigation will be fair or impartial.

The votes may not be there to keep Kavanaugh from being confirmed, and even if he isn’t, the Republicans would likely have the votes to confirm another conservative justice to the Supreme Court.

Yet, not all hope is lost. Queer women supported gay men during the height of the AIDS epidemic. Sexual violence is as vital an issue for LGBTQ people as marriage equality or employment discrimination. #MeToo is an opportunity for LGBTQ folk to support male, female and gender queer sexual assault survivors in our community and the wider culture. Do this so your sisters, spouses, children, friends and colleagues will still have Emily D’s “thing with feathers.”

 

Kathi Wolfe, a writer and a poet, is a regular contributor to the Blade.

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Candidates should pledge to nominate LGBTQ judge to Supreme Court

Presidential, Senate hopefuls need to go on the record

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As soon as the final votes are cast and counted and verified after the November 2026 elections are over, the 2028 presidential cycle will begin in earnest. Polls, financial aid requests, and volunteer opportunities ad infinitum will flood the public and personal media. There will be more issues than candidates in both parties. The rending of garments and mudslinging will be both interesting and maybe even amusing as citizens will watch how candidates react to each and every issue of the day.

There is one particular item that I am hoping each candidate will be asked whether in private or in public. If a Supreme Court vacancy occurs in your potential administration, will you nominate an open and qualified LGBTQ to join the remaining eight?

Other interest groups on both sides have made similar demands over the years and have had them honored. Is it not time that our voices are raised as well? There are several already sitting judges on both state and federal benches that have either been elected statewide or approved by the U.S. Senate.

Our communities are being utilized and abused on judicial menus. Enough already! Challenge each and every candidate, regardless of their party with our honest question and see if honest answers are given. By the way … no harm in asking the one-third of the U.S. Senate candidates too who will be on ballots. Looking forward to any candidate tap dancing!

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2026 elections will bring major changes to D.C. government

Mayor’s office, multiple Council seats up for grabs

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Next year will be a banner year for elections in D.C. The mayor announced she will not run. Two Council members, Anita Bonds, At-large, and Brianne Nadeau, Ward 1, have announced they will not run. Waiting for Del. Norton to do the same, but even if she doesn’t, there will be a real race for that office. 

So far, Robert White, Council member at-large, and Brooke Pinto, Council member Ward 2, are among a host of others, who have announced. If one of these Council members should win, there would be a special election for their seat. If Kenyon McDuffie, Council member at-large, announces for mayor as a Democrat, which he is expected to do, he will have to resign his seat on the Council as he fills one of the non-Democratic seats there. Janeese George, Ward 4 Council member, announced she is running for mayor. Should she win, there would be a special election for her seat. Another special election could happen if Trayon White, Ward 8, is convicted of his alleged crimes, when he is brought to trial in January. Both the Council chair, and attorney general, have announced they are seeking reelection, along with a host of other offices that will be on the ballot.  

Many of the races could look like the one in Ward 1 where at least six people have already announced. They include three members of the LGBTQ community. It seems the current leader in that race is Jackie Reyes Yanes, a Latina activist, not a member of the LGBTQ community, who worked for Mayor Fenty as head of the Latino Affairs Office, and for Mayor Bowser as head of the Office of Community Affairs. About eight, including the two Council members, have already announced they are running for the delegate seat.

I am often asked by candidates for an endorsement. The reason being my years as a community, LGBTQ, and Democratic, activist; and my ability to endorse in my column in the Washington Blade. The only candidate I endorsed so far is Phil Mendelson, for Council chair. While he and I don’t always agree on everything, he’s a staunch supporter of the LGBTQ community, a rational person, and we need someone with a steady hand if there really are six new Council members, out of the 13. 

When candidates call, they realize I am a policy wonk. My unsolicited advice to all candidates is: Do more than talk in generalities, be specific and honest as to what you think you can do, if elected. Candidates running for a legislative office, should talk about what bills they will support, and then what new ones they will introduce. What are the first three things you will focus on for your constituents, if elected. If you are running against an incumbent, what do you think you can do differently than the person you hope to replace? For any new policies and programs you propose, if there is a cost, let constituents know how you intend to pay for them. Take the time to learn the city budget, and how money is currently being spent. The more information you have at your fingertips, the smarter you sound, and voters respect that, at least many do. If you are running for mayor, you need to develop a full platform, covering all the issues the city will face, something I have helped a number of previous mayors do. The next mayor will continue to have to deal with the felon in the White House. He/she/they will have to ensure he doesn’t try to eliminate home rule. The next mayor will have to understand how to walk a similar tightrope Mayor Bowser has balanced so effectively. 

Currently, the District provides lots of public money to candidates. If you decide to take it, know the details. The city makes it too easy to get. But while it is available, take advantage of it. One new variable in this election is the implementation of rank-choice voting. It will impact how you campaign. If you attack another candidate, you may not be the second, or even third, choice, of their strongest supporters. 

Each candidate needs a website. Aside from asking for donations and volunteers, it should have a robust issues section, biography, endorsements, and news. One example I share with candidates is my friend Zach Wahls’s website. He is running for United States Senate from Iowa. It is a comprehensive site, easy to navigate, with concise language, and great pictures. One thing to remember is that D.C. is overwhelmingly Democratic. Chances are the winner of the Democratic primary will win the general election. 

Potential candidates should read the DCBOE calendar. Petitions will be available at the Board of Elections on Jan. 23, with the primary on June 16th, and general election on Nov. 3. So, ready, set, go! 


Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist.

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Lighting candles in a time of exhaustion

Gunmen killed 15 people at Sydney Hanukkah celebration

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In the wake of the shooting at Bondi Beach that targeted Jews, many of us are sitting with a familiar feeling: exhaustion. Not shock or surprise, but the deep weariness that comes from knowing this violence continues. It is yet another reminder that antisemitism remains persistent.

Bondi Beach is far from Washington, D.C., but antisemitism does not respect geography. When Jews are attacked anywhere, Jews everywhere feel it. We check on family and friends, absorb the headlines, and brace ourselves for the quiet, numbing normalization that has followed acts of mass violence.

Many of us live at an intersection where threats can come from multiple directions. As a community, we have embraced the concept of intersectional identity, and yet in queer spaces, many LGBTQ+ Jews are being implicitly or explicitly asked to play down our Jewishness. Jews hesitate before wearing a Magen David or a kippah. Some of us have learned to compartmentalize our identities, deciding which part of ourselves feels safest to lead with. Are we welcome as queer people only if we mute our Jewishness? Are those around us able to acknowledge that our fear is not abstract, but rooted in a lived reality, one in which our friends and family are directly affected by the rise in antisemitic violence, globally and here at home?

As a result of these experiences, many LGBTQ+ Jews feel a growing fatigue. We are told, implicitly or explicitly, that our fear is inconvenient; that Jewish trauma must be contextualized, minimized, or deferred in favor of other injustices. Certainly, the world is full of horror. And yet, we long for a world in which all lives are cherished and safe, where solidarity is not conditional on political purity or on which parts of ourselves are deemed acceptable to love.

We are now in the season of Chanuka. The story of this holiday is not one of darkness vanishing overnight. It is the story of a fragile light that should not have lasted. Chanuka teaches us that hope does not require certainty; it requires persistence and the courage to kindle a flame even when the darkness feels overwhelming.

For LGBTQ+ Jews, this lesson resonates deeply. We have survived by refusing to disappear across multiple dimensions of our identities. We have built communities, created rituals, and embraced chosen families that affirm the fullness of who we are.

To our LGBTQ+ siblings who are not Jewish: this is a moment to listen, to stand with us, and to make space for our grief. Solidarity means showing up not only when it is easy or popular, but especially when it is uncomfortable.

To our fellow Jews: your exhaustion is valid. Your fear is understandable, and so is your hope. Every candle lit this Chanuka is an act of resilience. Every refusal to hide, every moment of joy, is a declaration that hatred will not have the final word.

Light does not deny darkness. It confronts it.

As we light our candles this Chanuka season, may we protect one another and bring light to one another, even as the world too often responds to difference with violence and hate.

Joshua Maxey is the executive director of Bet Mishpachah, D.C.’s LGBTQ synagogue.

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