Local
A Welcome Lifeline
Paul Johnson went on a mini-vacation to Puerto Rico in April 2017. But his r&r was interrupted when his then-boyfriend noticed Paul’s feet, calves and thighs were extremely swollen. His feet barely fit in his shoes on the return flight to D.C.
In the next few months, Paul underwent several medical tests to determine what was wrong. Ultimately, he was diagnosed with a rare genetic autoimmune disorder. The news was bleak—Paul would need a kidney transplant if he had any chance of living a long life.
Paul, who rapidly gained 42 pounds of fluid and could hardly breathe at times, would receive overnight dialysis treatment several times a week so a machine could filter his blood to keep him alive. Despite his condition, Paul maintained his social life to stave off the depression. Unbeknownst to him, there was someone in his circle of friends paying extra close attention to Paul.
It was 2011 when Paul first met Ryan Maddock playing on opposing Stonewall Kickball teams. “There are certain people you meet, and right away you can tell they have a good heart. Ryan was one of those people,” said Paul.
When Paul grew ill, Ryan, a hospital social worker, knew something was up. During the next year or so, Ryan would check in with Paul and ask about his condition. “He didn’t just scratch the surface. Instead, he asked meaningful questions that brought me comfort. He was my lifeline.”
One day when the two were chatting on the sidelines, Ryan offered to be Paul’s kidney donor. Paul brushed him off because several friends had already started the process to see if they could be his donor, but each backed out. Paul figured Ryan would be no different.
In August 2019, Ryan pulled Paul aside for the fifth time and said, “I want to give you a kidney. I want to do this for you.”
Paul finally realized Ryan was serious and with his blessing, Ryan began the process to determine if his kidney was a match for Paul. Both were disappointed to learn that they were not a match. However, Ryan was determined to save Paul’s life so the two signed up to participate in a kidney swap. This meant Ryan would donate a kidney to someone else whom he matched with and in exchange Paul would receive a kidney from a matching donor.
On July 14, Paul and Ryan both went into surgery at Medstar Georgetown Transplant Institute. That morning, Ryan donated his kidney to an anonymous recipient in Boston. By evening, Paul received a new kidney from an anonymous donor in Cincinnati.
After Paul woke up from surgery, he had a visitor. It was Ryan, who needed to see for himself the relief on Paul’s face. “We are two good friends doing something extraordinary. We were always in this together.”
Both are recovering well after their surgeries and are already back to work. Paul plans to write a letter to show his gratitude to his kidney donor and hopes they can all meet someday.
“I don’t think there are words that are big enough to express my appreciation. This gift extended my life and changed everything for the better.”
Everyone can register to be an organ donor. Get the facts and register at BeADonor.org.
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Congratulations to Yadiel Meléndez, on their new role as Community Associate, with the Wanda Alston Foundation. Meléndez is piloting a new role as a Community Associate at the Wanda Alston Foundation, where they support queer and trans young people in finding their footing, building independence, and experiencing a housing community where they are seen, valued, and affirmed. They are coming into this role with more than a decade of experience as a community organizer and operations specialist, supporting diverse communities through service, advocacy, and program coordination.
Previously they worked for Right Proper Brewing Shaw as a server and bartender and at Sephora, Washington, DC, and at FreshFarm, DC, in bilingual food access. They also worked freelance to build foundational structures for local queer BIPOC performance art coalitions, producing variety shows to curate space for marginalized performance artists in the community. They were a production manager for Haus of Hart Productions, a BIPOC centric performance art production. They also worked as field staff with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention in Stafford, Va.
Meléndez is bilingual, Spanish and English. Their work is guided by a commitment to dignity, safety, and trauma-informed engagement, particularly within LGBTQ and BIPOC communities.
Congratulations also to Ben Rosen LICSW, on his new role as program director, with the Wanda Alston Foundation. Rosen previously worked with Fountain House’s OnRamps program, helping to build a new, innovative outreach program for individuals considered chronically homeless, and living with serious mental illness, in the Times Square area of New York. Rosen is a Psychotherapist, having worked with SG Psychotherapy, and as the psychotherapist with the Nest Community Health Center (URAM).
Rosen has a B.F.A. in Theatre Arts: Musical Theatre, Minor in Psychology (Cum Laude) from Malloy University Conservatory; and his M.S.W. in Clinical Practice with Individuals, Families, and Groups, from The Silberman School of Social Work, Hunter College, N.Y. He is independently licensed in New York and Washington, D.C.
Rehoboth Beach
BLUF leather social set for April 10 in Rehoboth
Attendees encouraged to wear appropriate gear
Diego’s in Rehoboth Beach hosts a monthly leather happy hour. April’s edition is scheduled for Friday, April 10, 5-7 p.m. Attendees are encouraged to wear appropriate gear. The event is billed as an official event of BLUF, the free community group for men interested in leather. After happy hour, the attendees are encouraged to reconvene at Local Bootlegging Company for dinner, which allows cigar smoking. There’s no cover charge for either event.
District of Columbia
Celebrations of life planned for Sean Bartel
Two memorial events scheduled in D.C.
Two celebrations of life are planned for Sean Christopher Bartel, 48, who was found deceased on a hiking trail in Argentina on or around March 15. Bartel began his career as a television news reporter and news anchor at stations in Louisville, Ky., and Evansville, Ind., before serving as Senior Video Producer for the D.C.-based International Brotherhood of Electrical Workers union from 2013 to 2024.
A memorial gathering is planned for Friday, April 10, 11:30 a.m.-1:30 p.m. at the IBEW International Office (900 7th St., N.W.), according to a statement by the DC Gay Flag Football League, where Bartel was a longtime member. A celebration of life is planned that same evening, 6-8 p.m. at Trade (1410 14th St., N.W.).
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