Commentary
Rematch in Maryland
Ehrlich, O’Malley to face off again, but Gansler is the real story
Maryland Attorney General Doug Gansler isn’t one to mince words.
“In 10 or 15 years, we will have same-sex marriage in every state in the country,” he told a mostly gay and lesbian audience last week in Baltimore.
Gansler won praise from local and national LGBT rights groups in February after issuing a long-awaited legal opinion that Maryland may recognize out-of-state same-sex marriages. Since then, anti-gay conservatives have denounced and even tried to impeach him while the state’s gay and lesbian couples have tried to make practical sense of what the opinion means to them.
In an effort to address some of those issues, Gansler spoke at Govans Presbyterian Church in Baltimore before fielding questions from the audience that included many same-sex couples unsure of the opinion’s meaning.
One male couple, together for 53 years and preparing to marry in D.C., worried about the financial implications marriage might have on their investments. Another long-term lesbian couple, also planning to marry in D.C., was similarly concerned about unforeseen consequences of marital rights.
Gansler was a good sport and deserves much credit for taking time to meet with the state’s gay couples. He’s a refreshingly candid alternative to Gov. Martin O’Malley, who always sounds like he’s reading from a poll-tested cue card. Unfortunately, it became clear that no one, including Gansler, seems to know what exactly the legal opinion means.
He rightly pointed out that the opinion merely provides guidance for state agencies and that it would likely be short lived as the courts and legislature will now have to weigh in. So, should couples begin filing lawsuits demanding recognition of their legal marriages? Gansler said he hoped that wouldn’t be necessary but conceded it was probably inevitable. Will the legislature take action? Gansler doesn’t think so. And what about the impact of the opinion on private businesses? He didn’t address that issue. And what about taxes?
“In my view, married gay couples should be filing joint [state] taxes,” he said.
In response to a question from DC Agenda, he deflected criticism that his office took too long — nine months — to issue the opinion and denied that political considerations played a role in the delay.
“I would have liked it earlier,” he said. “I’m never concerned about the politics because you lose your credibility. I don’t engage in the politics of it.”
Of course, an elected official claiming not to be concerned about the political implications of handling a hot-button issue like same-sex marriage is guffaw inducing. But on other matters, Gansler was much more direct.
He pointed the finger at Republicans and Catholics and, most surprisingly, at conservative African-American “old school” pastors, accusing them of aggressively lobbying him to reject relationship recognition for the state’s same-sex couples. This sort of candor is exactly what’s needed to overcome the stalemate in Maryland. Too many anti-gay Democrats have gotten a pass from criticism by fellow Democrats and even LGBT rights activists.
Although Gansler is right about those forces opposing LGBT rights, he ignored the fact that Democrats have had near monopolistic control of state government for decades. If Maryland Democrats wanted to do the right thing and enact marriage equality, they could do so without a single Republican vote. The Democrats — especially entrenched, “old school” politicians like Senate President Thomas V. Mike Miller — are the real problem in Maryland.
Despite the confusion over the opinion and the ongoing frustration felt by the state’s same-sex couples, it’s a relief to hear Gansler speak so openly about gay issues. He is clearly comfortable talking about our issues, unlike O’Malley, who has trouble even uttering the word “gay.”
“There aren’t more gay people now than there were 50 years ago,” Gansler said, “there are just more people telling you they’re gay.”
He even engaged in a little pop psychology about his conservative critics.
“Those who protest too much are probably gay themselves,” he said.
Let’s hope that as Gansler prepares for his inevitable run for governor in 2014, that his handlers don’t muzzle him too much. The state needs honest, fearless leadership and politicians willing to expend a little capital in the interest of justice. Unfortunately, O’Malley has demonstrated that he won’t lead on these issues; he doesn’t deserve LGBT votes or money in this year’s rematch with Robert Ehrlich, who announced last week he will run for his old job.
As bad as O’Malley has been, Ehrlich was worse during his tenure as governor. He vetoed the Medical Decision Making Act, which would have granted unmarried gay and straight couples hospital visitation rights, and he supported a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage. Ehrlich also vetoed the Transfer & Recordation Tax Exemption Act, which would have exempted gay couples from the taxes involved in transferring the title of a home.
He also promised to veto legislation that would have extended domestic partner benefits to partners of state employees in 2003, and once told a constituent that he does not “condone the promulgation of homosexual and bisexual activities.” The Ehrlich administration supported an anti-gay marriage demonstration in Annapolis. In four years in office, Ehrlich never agreed to field a single question from a Washington Blade reporter, despite countless attempts. Instead, he often restricted his public remarks to conservative talk radio hosts and even barred officials in his administration from speaking to certain Baltimore Sun reporters, including the Annapolis bureau chief.
The choice for 2010 may seem obvious, but, for the first time since I was old enough to vote, I plan to sit it out rather than pick between these two. I cannot cast a vote for O’Malley, whose betrayals and flip-flops must not be forgotten. I stood with heartbroken gay and lesbian couples after the 2007 Maryland high court decision denying marriage rights as they coped with canceling their wedding plans. At a post-decision rally, they gathered in front of a Baltimore church, many in tears, as several passing motorists yelled anti-gay epithets. And their governor — who once pledged to support the case and told the plaintiffs privately that he backed full civil marriage rights for same-sex couples — issued a cruel statement that he respected the court’s decision and invoked the Catholic sacraments to justify it.
LGBT Marylanders must remember that stinging rebuke in November and punish O’Malley for his duplicity.
Regardless of the outcome of that election, Maryland’s same-sex couples are likely facing a four-year wait for progress. Gansler unequivocally supports full marriage equality for same-sex couples and is the early frontrunner for governor in 2014.
In the meantime, the Baltimore event was a good start at communicating directly with those impacted by Gansler’s legal opinion, but state agencies have a long way to go in translating the opinion to actual benefits for Marylanders. These are life-and-death issues for many of us and Maryland’s gay and lesbian taxpayers deserve a full explanation of just what marriage recognition means to them.
Kevin Naff is editor of DC Agenda. Reach him at [email protected].
Today, on World AIDS Day, we honor the resilience, courage, and dignity of people living with HIV everywhere especially refugees, asylum seekers, and queer displaced communities across East Africa and the world.
For many, living with HIV is not just a health journey it is a journey of navigating stigma, borders, laws, discrimination, and survival.
Yet even in the face of displacement, uncertainty, and exclusion, queer people living with HIV continue to rise, thrive, advocate, and build community against all odds.
To every displaced person living with HIV:
• Your strength inspires us.
• Your story matters.
• You are worthy of safety, compassion, and the full right to health.
• You deserve a world where borders do not determine access to treatment, where identity does not determine dignity, and where your existence is celebrated not criminalized.
Let today be a reminder that:
• HIV is not a crime.
• Queer identity is not a crime.
• Seeking safety is not a crime.
• Stigma has no place in our communities.
• Access to treatment, care, and protection is a human right.
As we reflect, we must recommit ourselves to building systems that protect not punish displaced queer people living with HIV. We must amplify their voices, invest in inclusive healthcare, and fight the inequalities that fuel vulnerability.
Hope is stronger when we build it together.
Let’s continue to uplift, empower, and walk alongside those whose journeys are too often unheard.
Today we remember.
Today we stand together.
Today we renew hope.
Abraham Junior lives in the Gorom Refugee Settlement in South Sudan.
Commentary
Perfection is a lie and vulnerability is the new strength
Rebuilding life and business after profound struggles
I grew up an overweight, gay Black boy in West Baltimore, so I know what it feels like not to fit into a world that was not really made for you. When I was 18, my mother passed from congestive heart failure, and fitness became a sanctuary for my mental health rather than just a place to build my body. That is the line I open most speeches with when people ask who I am and why I started SWEAT DC.
The truth is that little boy never really left me.
Even now, at 42 years old, standing 6 feet 3 inches and 225 pounds as a fitness business owner, I still carry the fears, judgments, and insecurities of that broken kid. Many of us do. We grow into new seasons of life, but the messages we absorbed when we were young linger and shape the stories we tell ourselves. My lack of confidence growing up pushed me to chase perfection as I aged. So, of course, I ended up in Washington, D.C., which I lovingly call the most perfection obsessed city in the world.
Chances are that if you are reading this, you feel some of that too.
D.C. is a place where your resume walks through the door before you do, where degrees, salaries, and the perfect body feel like unspoken expectations. In the age of social media, the pressure is even louder. We are all scrolling through each other’s highlight reels, comparing our behind the scenes to someone else’s curated moment. And I am not above it. I have posted the perfect photo with the inspirational “God did it again” caption when I am feeling great and then gone completely quiet when life feels heavy. I am guilty of loving being the strong friend while hating to admit that sometimes I am the friend who needs support.
We are all caught in a system that teaches us perfection or nothing at all. But what I know for sure now is this: Perfection is a lie and vulnerability is the new strength.
When I first stepped into leadership, trying to be the perfect CEO, I found Brené Brown’s book, “Daring Greatly” and immediately grabbed onto the idea that vulnerability is strength. I wanted to create a community at SWEAT where people felt safe enough to be real. Staff, members, partners, everyone. “Welcome Home” became our motto for a reason. Our mission is to create a world where everyone feels confident in their skin.
But in my effort to build that world for others, I forgot to build it for myself.
Since launching SWEAT as a pop up fundraiser in 2015, opening our first brick and mortar in 2017, surviving COVID, reemerging and scaling, and now preparing to open our fifth location in Shaw in February 2026, life has been full. Along the way, I went from having a tight trainer six pack to gaining nearly 50 pounds as a stressed out entrepreneur. I lost my father. I underwent hip replacement surgery. I left a relationship that looked fine on paper but was not right. I took on extra jobs to keep the business alive. I battled alcoholism. I faced depression and loneliness. There are more stories than I can fit in one piece.
But the hardest battle was the one in my head. I judged myself for not having the body I once had. I asked myself how I could lead a fitness company if I was not in perfect shape. I asked myself how I could be a gay man in this city and not look the way I used to.
Then came the healing.
A fraternity brother said to me on the phone, “G, you have to forgive yourself.” It stopped me in my tracks. I had never considered forgiving myself. I only knew how to push harder, chase more, and hide the cracks. When we hung up, I cried. That moment opened something in me. I realized I had not neglected my body. I had held my life and my business together the best way I knew how through unimaginable seasons.
I stopped shaming myself for not looking like my past. I started honoring the new ways I had proven I was strong.
So here is what I want to offer anyone who is in that dark space now. Give yourself the same grace you give everyone else. Love yourself through every phase, not just the shiny ones. Recognize growth even when growth simply means you are still here.
When I created SWEAT, I hoped to build a home where people felt worthy just as they are, mostly because I needed that home too. My mission now is to carry that message beyond our walls and into the city I love. To build a STRONGER DC.
Because strength is not perfection. Strength is learning to love an imperfect you.
With love and gratitude, Coach G.
Gerard Burley, also known as Coach G, is a D.C.-based fitness entrepreneur.
Commentary
Elusive safety: what new global data reveals about gender, violence, and erasure
Movements against gender equality, lack of human rights data contributing factors.
“My identity could be revealed, people can say whatever they want [online] without consequences. [Hormone replacement therapy] is illegal here so I’m just waiting to find a way to get out of here.”
-Anonymous respondent to the 2024 F&M Global Barometers LGBTQI+ Perception Index from Iraq, self-identified as a transgender woman and lesbian
As the campaign for 16 Days Against Gender-Based Violence begins, it is a reminder that gender-based violence (GBV) — both on– and offline — not only impacts women and girls but everyone who has been harmed or abused because of their gender or perceived gender. New research from the Franklin & Marshall (F&M) Global Barometers and its report A Growing Backlash: Quantifying the Experiences of LGBTQI+ People, 2022-2024 starkly show trends of declining safety among LGBTQI+ persons around the world.
This erosion of safety is accelerated by movements against gender equality and the disappearance of credible human rights data and reporting. The fight against GBV means understanding all people’s lived realities, including those of LGBTQI+ people, alongside the rights we continue to fight for.
We partnered together while at USAID and Franklin & Marshall College to expand the research and evidence base to better understand GBV against LGBTQI+ persons through the F&M Global Barometers. The collection of barometers tracks the legal rights and lived experiences of LGBTQI+ persons from 204 countries and territories from 2011 to the present. With more than a decade of data, it allows us to see how rights have progressed and receded as well as the gaps between legal protections and lived experiences of discrimination and violence.
This year’s data reveals alarming trends that highlight how fear and violence are, at its root, gendered phenomena that affect anyone who transgresses traditional gender norms.
LGBTQI+ people feel less safe
Nearly two-thirds of countries experienced a decline in their score on the F&M Global Barometers LGBTQI+ Perception Index (GBPI) from 2022-2024. This represents a five percent drop in global safety scores in just two years. With almost 70 percent of countries receiving an “F” grade on the GBPI, this suggests a global crisis in actual human rights protections for LGBTQI+ people.
Backsliding on LGBTQI+ human rights is happening everywhere, even in politically stable, established democracies with human rights protections for LGBTQI+ people. Countries in Western Europe and the Americas experienced the greatest negative GBPI score changes globally, 74 and 67 percent, respectively. Transgender people globally reported the highest likelihood of violence, while trans women and intersex people reported the highest levels of feeling very unsafe or unsafe simply because of who they are.
Taboo of gender equality
Before this current administration dismantled USAID, I helped create an LGBTQI+ inclusive whole-of-government strategy to prevent and respond to GBV that highlighted the unique forms of GBV against LGBTQI+ persons. This included so-called ‘corrective’ rape related to actual or perceived sexual orientation, gender identity, or expression” and so-called ‘conversion’ therapy practices that seek to change or suppress a person’s gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, or sex characteristics. These efforts helped connect the dots in understanding that LGBTQI+ violence is rooted in the same systems of inequality and power imbalances as the broader spectrum of GBV against women and girls.
Losing data and accountability
Data that helps better understand GBV against LGBTQI+ persons is also disappearing. Again, the dismantling of USAID meant a treasure trove of research and reports on LGBTQI+ rights have been lost. Earlier this year, the US Department of State removed LGBTQI+ reporting from its annual Human Rights Reports. These played a critical role in providing credible sources for civil society, researchers, and policymakers to track abuses and advocate for change.
If violence isn’t documented, it’s easier for governments to deny it even exists and harder for us to hold governments accountable. Yet when systems of accountability work, governments and civil society can utilize data in international forums like the UN Universal Periodic Review, the Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women, and the Sustainable Development Goals to assess progress and compliance and call for governments to improve protections.
All may not be lost if other countries and donors fill the void by supporting independent data collection and reporting efforts like the F&M Global Barometers and other academic and civil society monitoring. Such efforts are essential to the fight against GBV: The data helps show that the path toward safety, equality, and justice is within our reach if we’re unafraid of truth and visibility of those most marginalized and impacted.
Jay Gilliam (he/him/his) was the Senior LGBTQI+ Coordinator at USAID and is a member of the Global Outreach Advisory Council of the F&M Global Barometers.
Susan Dicklitch-Nelson (she/her/hers) is the founder of the F&M Global Barometers and Professor of Government at Franklin & Marshall College.
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