September 30, 2010 at 8:00 pm EDT | by Jessica Lee
Homocon was an affair to remember

Conservative pundit Ann Coulter brought her usual sense of audaciousness to last weekend's Homocon. (Blade file photo by Michael Key)

It was an affair to remember. Last Saturday, GOProud hosted its Homocon event, appropriating a term that has been used derisively to describe gay conservatives. The event, which organizers plan to make annual, took place at the Manhattan apartment of Peter Thiel, the billionaire co-founder of Pay Pal, who is based in the Bay Area.

The purpose of the event was to welcome GOProud supporters in a New York City venue and also make a national splash. But controversy quickly ensued as controversial Ann Coulter was the featured speaker. The event was something to behold: lots of hot young volunteers wearing tight “freedom is fabulous” T-shirts (a phrase coined in this column and newspaper), even hotter bartenders and wait staff and an apartment that made me wish that I had co-founded Pay Pal.

As I mingled around the room, I met people from just about everywhere. I met three Canadians who flew into New York just for Homocon. Other folks who traveled for the event were a North Carolinian, a Brit and a few from Los Angeles. There were also a lot of people from the District, GOProud’s home turf.

In sum, there were a lot of interesting people at the event, including a world-famous porn star. And, despite Esquire calling it a room of gay men, there were several women there. One of them was Margaret Hoover. She is a fabulous straight woman who is dedicated to marriage equality and is part of the American Foundation for Equal Rights. AFER’s purpose is to achieve marriage equality and is funding Ted Olson and David Boies’ court fight against Proposition 8.

Hoover had this to say about the event: “What’s unique about GOProud, particularly this event, is that they are the only group that actively strives to engage their skeptics.  Debating Joe Farah and inviting Ann Coulter to speak demonstrates the best of the American system — that when we talk to each other reasonably, with respect and persistence, we can win hearts and minds. Hearts were changed at the World Net Daily Take America Back conference. With Ann, we listened and disagreed, but the effort to reach out instead of speaking in an echo chamber is remarkable.”

And I also disagreed. Coulter went on a rant against gay marriage. She also does not like lesbians, as was demonstrated by her calling the Mississippi high schooler who wanted to take her girlfriend to the prom an “annoying lesbian.” When Coulter says that she likes gays, she means gay males. But Coulter was only a small part of a bigger event.

Tammy Bruce, an author, Fox News commentator and lesbian feminist who ran the Los Angeles chapter of NOW for several years was at Homocon. We got a chance to chat in the hall of Thiel’s apartment:


Jessica Lee: What was your overall reaction to the Homocon event tonight?

Tammy Bruce: I think it’s terrific; it’s our generation.

Lee: Can you define “our generation?”

Bruce: Our generation is we who are moving into our 40s and 50s and had to deal with AIDS and the ignorance on that issue. It is a generation that has moved from wanting more from government to realizing that maybe less government is the answer. As we get older, we have a sense that we are now in charge of our lives and the country. And while our lives are not necessarily easy, we are doing well because we are Americans. And we have to ask ourselves why we are doing well, especially being in New York today where Iranian leader Ahmadinijad has recently been. That reminds you of the power and importance of this nation and the power of importance of what we can do with it.

So our generation, and being a right of center gay, is about embracing who you are, knowing the importance of activism but also being respectful that we wake up first as Americans every day.

As we get older, we also see what works and was doesn’t. We have learned that liberalism does not work. That is why, when someone like Barack Obama, who is my age, doesn’t get it, something is wrong with that person.

Lee: Don’t you also think that the young voters who embraced Obama had never seen the Carter years, gas rationing and stagflation, and take prosperity as a given?

Bruce: It is a younger generation, and just like every younger generation there is a whole host of things that they have missed. Our responsibility as people who have gone through certain things, going through the Carter years and the 70s and 80s, AIDS and the abortion wars — any time when any group wants to interfere with the nature of who we are and what we do, however that manifests, at first we worked on it thinking that government is the answer, but you find out as you get older that it is not. Whenever government gets involved not only does it get screwed up, but then they want more power. Then we lose our individual power. The only answer regardless of the economic situation is for people to be able to live the lives that they want to live: personally, in business and as entrepreneurs.

Lee: Tonight Ann Coulter made a comment that gays are high income and therefore should not complain about being discriminated against. Is that not the same argument that has been used against Jews for centuries?

Bruce: It is. And the interesting thing is that we do earn more money, because the system has forced us to be independent. Those who are more successful are more isolated from government controls and support and we find ways to make our lives better.

Lee: Because we can’t rely on our families or the government?

Bruce: Exactly. And so when you look at that in a larger context, those who rely on government are still in poverty and hurting right now. It’s not about being a Jew or being gay, it is about striking out on one’s own. That is the thing that makes a person a success.

Lee: Which is what Jews have always had to do to survive.

Bruce: Exactly. So when you look at, historically, what works and what doesn’t, we know what works. What works is small government, individual initiative and the American individualist sensibility. I think that bodes well for gay conservatives, because Americans really want what is best for their families and the future. Supporting gays might be at odds with their faith, or may not be, but the bottom line, especially with Obama, is that we now know that this nation is at risk, that we must work shoulder to shoulder, that we have more in common than not even though there are people who say otherwise.

I think tonight is very exciting because it highlights my generation that is the power generation that realizes what is important, what we need to do now, and it bodes well for the future. It also sends a very good message to young people: that there is a different way of doing things, and it is at least worth considering. And I think that a lot of people now are open to different ideas because what they were told was going to work with Barack Obama not only didn’t, but it is destroying things that are very important in our lives.

Lee: And don’t you think that when you give the government the power to help you, via ENDA or something similar, you also give the government the power to discriminate against you. And if you look at it, it is the federal government that does 99 percent of the discrimination against gay people.

Bruce: Well, exactly. If you are looking to the federal government you are looking to politicians and politicians only care about themselves. You can look at the Clintons—they did more damage to gay civil rights than any Republican ever in office. So politicians are politicians. No one is going to be our daddy. No one is going to be our savior but ourselves. As long as you look to the government to feel good about yourself in the morning, you’re in trouble. As long as you are looking for someone else to help you, then you are putting off something that you have to do yourself.

  • What Coulter really likes is money. GOPROUD paid the Bitch to speak at their even so she did and like the idiots GOPROUD is made up of, they just sat there like fools and listened to her bash gay people. How do you like gays if you don’t support anything that benefits their rights and instead speak against them?

    She’s been known to be a speaker at the Family Research Council too. GoPROUD has not integrity. What is their to be proud of?? You’re just lap dogs for the GOP leadership salivating for any bone they will throw at you in exchange to make them look compassionate! Wake up you idiots. The GOP platform specifically works against gays not for them!

    • The two biggest mysteries in the English language are “Gay Republican” and “Black Repulican.” I submit that they simply cannot exist. That would be like “Jewish Nazis.” I know, we’re not supposed to use the “N” word, but it seems to be the only way to make a comparison. Gay people who support politicians who bash gays and do all they can to thwart gay rights. Very strange.

    • The family research council – the group that called for putting gays in Jail. The kind of jail with the sign over the gate that said “Arbreich Macht Frei” (work makes free.

      Yes, freedom when the ashes of the inmates went up hitler’s chimneys.

      Someone should take these kind of people and give them to the taliban with their bibles, and a video camera. Politics makes strange bedfellows, you know ( is that a pun)

      But it sure would make good theatre. Some people really do deserve cruel and unusual treatment.

      BTW, I wasn’t aware of the adams apple thing on that K#*t. But I did stumble on a website 6 mos ago by a trans wannabee. Who called for the Presidents elimination or something like that. Nazi sybols and the rest.

      I have absolutely nothing against trans people, work with them, even supported one financially in her campaign to become a state delegate. (she came in 4th, just behind the 3rd palce winner. Only the top 3 go to the general election.

      As they say, it takes all kinds of people to make a world. But for the crazy one, ti sent the url and time (youtube) to the FBI, and got a letter back saying it was not a form letter and thanking me.

      Too bad it wasn’t coulter on that website

  • GOProud is just plain gross… I mean really, you got a drag queen like Ann Butch Coulter to speak.


  • If you thought that Ann Coulter would finally come out of the transgender closet at Homocon, you were sorely disappointed — as was I. Look at the photo of her. That Adam’s apple is as plain as day — Women don’t have Adam’s apples.

  • In theory, I agree with AFER’s Margaret Hoover when she comments that inviting Ann Coulter to speak at Homocon demonstrates that we can win hearts and minds by listening to our opponents. However, a conversation such as this will only attain progress when both parties have a willing and open mind. Ann Coulter is an intractable bigot as evidenced by her remarks at this event and will never be a willing partner in advancing equal rights. The act of inviting her to speak was a shameless grab at controversy and publicity which reveals the self-motivated interests of every person in that room.

  • Wait a minute … to characterize as engagement the payment of a speaker who spews ad hominem crap is disingenuous. This event was BY monied gays FOR monied gays. Tammy Bruce’s ‘affirmation’ that “we do earn more money” is appallingly tonedeaf and imprecise. The perspective churned out by GOProud conveniently ignores the reality of working class and middle-class LGBTQ people … five of whom killed themselves recently, notwithstanding the fact that they had so much more income to look forward to when (if) they grew up.

    This article confirms only that the gays-who-are-better-than-you are absolutely the same as the rest of corporate-apologist America who make the case that it’s government regulation and taxes that are stunting America’s growth. Bullsh1t.

    My young brothers and sisters are killing themselves because the environment in which they grow up is made toxic by attitudes that are proliferated by the likes of GOProud. Classy.

    [In case anyone wants to shoot the messenger here, my perspective comes from 25 years of working, managing, and starting a business in the aerospace/defense industry. The company I started is now publicly traded. Real growth in revenue and profit doesn’t come from whining about the government burden. GOProud is buying into a belief system that emphasizes personal enrichment to the detriment of legitimate American business interest and American workers.]

  • Not surprising that there are many Gay Conservatives. Approximately 45 percent of Gay voters supported Ronald Reagan, maybe more. According to the New York Times, nearly half of self-identified Gay voters said they voted for Republicans in 1994 when the Gingrich-led Congress took over during the Clinton Administration. And, according to a liberal watch-dog group, over one-out-three Gays voted for John McCain in 2008. Of course the Big Lie in the GLBT community is that very, very, very few Gays are political conservatives. Just not true. Many Gays blow off “marriage equality” as undesirable and believe we have already turned the corner on job-protections; they put a higher premium on economic growth and upward mobility. When will we see an honest and balanced gay press?

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