National
High hopes for Obama’s speech to HRC
Some want president to endorse marriage, denounce N.C. and Minn. anti-gay initiatives

For the second time in three years, President Obama is the scheduled keynote speaker at the Human Rights Campaign National Dinner.
Some LGBT rights supporters are hoping that Obama will take advantage of the opportunity to endorse marriage equality and to denounce initiatives that would ban marriage rights for same-sex couples in Minnesota and North Carolina.
Obama is scheduled to keynote HRC’s 15th annual National Dinner in Washington, D.C. on Saturday. About 3,000 attendees are expected for the event, which will take place at the Washington Convention Center.
Obama has suggested since last year that his views could “evolve” to support same-sex marriage, but he hasn’t yet endorsed marriage rights for gay and lesbian couples.
John Aravosis, the gay editor of AMERICAblog, said the HRC speech is an opportunity for Obama to complete his evolution.
“I want to hear him say that he is once again for marriage equality,” Aravosis said. “And I think it would be big news, and it would help us politically and legally, if he does. If he doesn’t, then it will be just another HRC dinner where important people come to tell us nothing new.”
In 1996, Obama, during his bid to become an Illinois state senator, said in a questionnaire response to the Windy City Times, “I favor legalizing same-sex marriages, and would fight efforts to prohibit such marriages.”
Obama in June faced pressure to come out for same-sex marriage during an LGBT fundraiser in New York City as marriage legislation was making its way through the New York Legislature. The president didn’t explicitly endorse marriage equality at the time and instead said states such as New York should decide the marriage issue for themselves.
Evan Wolfson, president of Freedom to Marry, said Obama should recommit to backing marriage equality even before his speech on Saturday.
“President Obama should not wait for a dinner to heed Freedom to Marry’s call — joined by more than 117,000 Americans on our ‘Say I Do’ Open Letter — to speak out clearly and authentically in support of the freedom to marry,” Wolfson said.
The “Say I Do” letter is an online open letter from Freedom to Marry to President Obama urging him to endorse same-sex marriage. Among the celebrity signers are lesbian talk show host Ellen DeGeneres and her spouse Portia; gay singer Rufus Wainwright; straight actress Anne Hathaway; and gay media mogul David Geffen.
Wolfson added that Obama should endorse same-sex marriage in some capacity before a non-gay audience to demonstrate the importance of allowing gay couples to marry.
“I’d like to see the president bring his message of support for the freedom to marry to a non-gay audience, or lay it out in an interview with a national journalist, so that Americans can hear him talk about gay families, why marriage matters, and the case for opening their hearts to the values of fairness and treating others as they would want to be treated,” Wolfson said.
While Obama doesn’t support same-sex marriage, his administration has taken steps to extend benefits to same-sex couples and put them on more equal footing with married straight couples.
Obama has called for repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act, which prohibits federal recognition of same-sex marriage. In February, after initially defending the anti-gay law against litigation, Obama declared the law unconstitutional and said his administration would no longer defend it in court.
What Obama will ultimately say during his speech remains to be seen. The president is likely to tout the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” which came to an end on Sept. 20 as a result of legislation he signed in December. Shin Inouye, a White House spokesperson, said he didn’t have a preview of the president’s remarks.
It isn’t the first time Obama — or a sitting U.S. president — has addressed the HRC dinner. Obama previously spoke at the dinner in 2009. In 1997, then-President Bill Clinton gave the keynote address.
In 2009, Obama recommitted to repealing the military’s gay ban as he declared, “I will end ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” Obama has since fulfilled that promise.
But also in 2009, Obama faced pressure during his HRC speech at that time to come out against a referendum in Maine to rescind a law enabling same-sex couples to marry. But Obama didn’t explicitly mention the initiative in his address. The referendum ultimately succeeded in November 2009, taking marriage rights away from gay couples there.
In addition to coming out for marriage equality, some advocates see the HRC speech as an opportunity for Obama to denounce initiatives set for the ballot next year. Both North Carolina and Minnesota are set to vote on amendments that would ban marriage rights for same-sex couples. The North Carolina initiative will come before voters in May and the Minnesota initiative will come before voters in November 2012.
In both places, state law already prohibits same-sex couples from marrying. But the proposed amendment would prevent the state legislatures from legalizing marriage equality at a later time or state courts from ruling in favor of marriage equality.
Wolfson said Obama should take every chance he has, including the HRC speech, to oppose anti-gay attacks such as those underway in Minnesota and North Carolina.
“And he should underscore at every opportunity, in the clearest terms, the moral urgency of voting ‘no’ on anti-gay ballot measures such as North Carolina’s and Minnesota’s,” Wolfson said.
LGBT advocates on the ground in North Carolina and Minnesota have mixed views on whether public opposition from Obama would be beneficial to campaigns against the amendments in those states.
Alex Miller, interim executive director of Equality North Carolina, said Obama should speak out against the North Carolina amendment during his speech because a lot of people from the Tar Heel State will attend the dinner.
“A lot of people feel very invested in this presidency, and gave a lot to make it happen,” Miller said. “I think it’s imperative that the president speak out and defend folks in North Carolina from the amendment that would do so much harm not only to LGBT North Carolinians, but to all unmarried couples, and to everybody that will be exposed to the harsh and ugly rhetoric that’s about to be broadcast across the state from the other side.”
Miller said he doesn’t believe opposition from Obama on its own would be enough to defeat the amendment, but said opposition would be “showing the leadership that we all want from him on the issue.”
Richard Carlbom, who started this week as campaign manager for Minnesotans United for All Families, said he isn’t concerned about whether Obama will speak out against the amendment.
“I’d never recommend what the president should or should not say to a crowd like the HRC dinner,” Carlbom said. “I think President Obama has been pretty clear where he stands, and we’re focused on winning this thing in Minnesota, so I’m not concerned about what he’s going to say on Saturday or what he won’t say.”
Asked whether he wants Obama to speak out at some point against the measure, Carlbom replied, “This is my second day on the job. Obviously, we want everybody to speak out against this amendment, but there’s a lot of work to do on the ground here in Minnesota, and that’s what I remain focused on right now.”
U.S. Federal Courts
Judge temporarily blocks executive orders targeting LGBTQ, HIV groups
Lambda Legal filed the lawsuit in federal court

A federal judge on Monday blocked the enforcement of three of President Donald Trump’s executive orders that would have threatened to defund nonprofit organizations providing health care and services for LGBTQ people and those living with HIV.
The preliminary injunction was awarded by Judge Jon Tigar of the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of California in a case, San Francisco AIDS Foundation v. Trump, filed by Lambda Legal and eight other organizations.
Implementation of the executive orders — two aimed at diversity, equity, and inclusion along with one targeting the transgender community — will be halted pending the outcome of the litigation challenging them.
“This is a critical win — not only for the nine organizations we represent, but for LGBTQ communities and people living with HIV across the country,” said Jose Abrigo, Lambda Legal’s HIV Project director and senior counsel on the case.
“The court blocked anti-equity and anti-LGBTQ executive orders that seek to erase transgender people from public life, dismantle DEI efforts, and silence nonprofits delivering life-saving services,” Abrigo said. “Today’s ruling acknowledges the immense harm these policies inflict on these organizations and the people they serve and stops Trump’s orders in their tracks.”
Tigar wrote, in his 52-page decision, “While the Executive requires some degree of freedom to implement its political agenda, it is still bound by the constitution.”
“And even in the context of federal subsidies, it cannot weaponize Congressionally appropriated funds to single out protected communities for disfavored treatment or suppress ideas that it does not like or has deemed dangerous,” he said.
Without the preliminary injunction, the judge wrote, “Plaintiffs face the imminent loss of federal funding critical to their ability to provide lifesaving healthcare and support services to marginalized LGBTQ populations,” a loss that “not only threatens the survival of critical programs but also forces plaintiffs to choose between their constitutional rights and their continued existence.”
The organizations in the lawsuit are located in California (San Francisco AIDS Foundation, Los Angeles LGBT Center, GLBT Historical Society, and San Francisco Community Health Center), Arizona (Prisma Community Care), New York (The NYC LGBT Community Center), Pennsylvania (Bradbury-Sullivan Community Center), Maryland (Baltimore Safe Haven), and Wisconsin (FORGE).
U.S. Supreme Court
Activists rally for Andry Hernández Romero in front of Supreme Court
Gay asylum seeker ‘forcibly deported’ to El Salvador, described as political prisoner

More than 200 people gathered in front of the U.S. Supreme Court on Friday and demanded the Trump-Vance administration return to the U.S. a gay Venezuelan asylum seeker who it “forcibly disappeared” to El Salvador.
Lindsay Toczylowski, president of the Immigrant Defenders Law Center, a Los Angeles-based organization that represents Andry Hernández Romero, is among those who spoke alongside U.S. Rep. Mark Takano (D-Calif.) and Human Rights Campaign Campaigns and Communications Vice President Jonathan Lovitz. Sarah Longwell of the Bulwark, Pod Save America’s Jon Lovett, and Tim Miller are among those who also participated in the rally.
“Andry is a son, a brother. He’s an actor, a makeup artist,” said Toczylowski. “He is a gay man who fled Venezuela because it was not safe for him to live there as his authentic self.”
(Video by Michael K. Lavers)
The White House on Feb. 20 designated Tren de Aragua, a Venezuelan gang, as an “international terrorist organization.”
President Donald Trump on March 15 invoked the Alien Enemies Act of 1798, which the Associated Press notes allows the U.S. to deport “noncitizens without any legal recourse.” The Trump-Vance administration subsequently “forcibly removed” Hernández and hundreds of other Venezuelans to El Salvador.
Toczylowski said she believes Hernández remains at El Salvador’s Terrorism Confinement Center, a maximum-security prison known by the Spanish acronym CECOT. Toczylowski also disputed claims that Hernández is a Tren de Aragua member.
“Andry fled persecution in Venezuela and came to the U.S. to seek protection. He has no criminal history. He is not a member of the Tren de Aragua gang. Yet because of his crown tattoos, we believe at this moment that he sits in a torture prison, a gulag, in El Salvador,” said Toczylowski. “I say we believe because we have not had any proof of life for him since the day he was put on a U.S. government-funded plane and forcibly disappeared to El Salvador.”
“Andry is not alone,” she added.
Takano noted the federal government sent his parents, grandparents, and other Japanese Americans to internment camps during World War II under the Alien Enemies Act. The gay California Democrat also described Hernández as “a political prisoner, denied basic rights under a law that should have stayed in the past.”
“He is not a case number,” said Takano. “He is a person.”
Hernández had been pursuing his asylum case while at the Otay Mesa Detention Center in San Diego.
A hearing had been scheduled to take place on May 30, but an immigration judge the day before dismissed his case. Immigrant Defenders Law Center has said it will appeal the decision to the Board of Immigration Appeals, which the Justice Department oversees.
“We will not stop fighting for Andry, and I know neither will you,” said Toczylowski.
Friday’s rally took place hours after Attorney General Pam Bondi said Kilmar Abrego Garcia, a Maryland man who the Trump-Vance administration wrongfully deported to El Salvador, had returned to the U.S. Abrego will face federal human trafficking charges in Tennessee.
National
A husband’s story: Michael Carroll reflects on life with Edmund White
Iconic author died this week; ‘no sunnier human in the world’

Unlike most gay men of my generation, I’ve only been to Fire Island twice. Even so, the memory of my first visit has never left me. The scenery was lovely, and the boys were sublime — but what stood out wasn’t the beach or the parties. It was a quiet afternoon spent sipping gin and tonics in a mid-century modern cottage tucked away from the sand and sun.
Despite Fire Island’s reputation for hedonism, our meeting was more accident than escapade. Michael Carroll — a Facebook friend I’d chatted with but never met — mentioned that he and his husband, Ed, would be there that weekend, too. We agreed to meet for a drink. On a whim, I checked his profile and froze. Ed was author Edmund White.
I packed a signed copy of Carroll’s “Little Reef” and a dog-eared hardback of “A Boy’s Own Story,” its spine nearly broken from rereads. I was excited to meet both men and talk about writing, even briefly.
Yesterday, I woke to the news that Ed had passed away. Ironically, my first thought was of Michael.
This week, tributes to Edmund White are everywhere — rightly celebrating his towering legacy as a novelist, essayist, and cultural icon. I’ve read all of his books, and I could never do justice to the scope of a career that defined and chronicled queer life for more than half a century. I’ll leave that to better-prepared journalists.
But in those many memorials, I’ve noticed something missing. When Michael Carroll is mentioned, it’s usually just a passing reference: “White’s partner of thirty years, twenty-five years his junior.” And yet, in the brief time I spent with this couple on Fire Island, it was clear to me that Michael was more than a footnote — he was Ed’s anchor, editor, companion, and champion. He was the one who knew his husband best.
They met in 1995 after Michael wrote Ed a fan letter to tell him he was coming to Paris. “He’d lost the great love of his life a year before,” Michael told me. “In one way, I filled a space. Understand, I worshiped this man and still do.”
When I asked whether there was a version of Ed only he knew, Michael answered without hesitation: “No sunnier human in the world, obvious to us and to people who’ve only just or never met him. No dark side. Psychology had helped erase that, I think, or buffed it smooth.”
Despite the age difference and divergent career arcs, their relationship was intellectually and emotionally symbiotic. “He made me want to be elegant and brainy; I didn’t quite reach that, so it led me to a slightly pastel minimalism,” Michael said. “He made me question my received ideas. He set me free to have sex with whoever I wanted. He vouchsafed my moods when they didn’t wobble off axis. Ultimately, I encouraged him to write more minimalistically, keep up the emotional complexity, and sleep with anyone he wanted to — partly because I wanted to do that too.”
Fully open, it was a committed relationship that defied conventional categories. Ed once described it as “probably like an 18th-century marriage in France.” Michael elaborated: “It means marriage with strong emotion — or at least a tolerance for one another — but no sex; sex with others. I think.”
That freedom, though, was always anchored in deep devotion and care — and a mutual understanding that went far beyond art, philosophy, or sex. “He believed in freedom and desire,” Michael said, “and the two’s relationship.”
When I asked what all the essays and articles hadn’t yet captured, Michael paused. “Maybe that his writing was tightly knotted, but that his true personality was vulnerable, and that he had the defense mechanisms of cheer and optimism to conceal that vulnerability. But it was in his eyes.”
The moment that captured who Ed was to him came at the end. “When he was dying, his second-to-last sentence (garbled then repeated) was, ‘Don’t forget to pay Merci,’ the cleaning lady coming the next day. We had had a rough day, and I was popping off like a coach or dad about getting angry at his weakness and pushing through it. He took it almost like a pack mule.”
Edmund White’s work shaped generations — it gave us language for desire, shame, wit, and liberation. But what lingers just as powerfully is the extraordinary life Ed lived with a man who saw him not only as a literary giant but as a real person: sunny, complex, vulnerable, generous.
In the end, Ed’s final words to his husband weren’t about his books or his legacy. They were about care, decency, and love. “You’re good,” he told Michael—a benediction, a farewell, maybe even a thank-you.
And now, as the world celebrates the prolific writer and cultural icon Edmund White, it feels just as important to remember the man and the person who knew him best. Not just the story but the characters who stayed to see it through to the end.