Arts & Entertainment
Queery: Vanessa Holmes
The Black History Month concert singer answers 20 gay questions
(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Vanessa Holmes is starting a new chapter in life — in May, she’s scheduled to finish up a bachelor’s degree in criminal justice and in March, she and partner Gia’Donna Nichols will tie the knot.
“This is definitely a new chapter,” the 55-year-old Lanham, Md., native says. “I feel like I could write a book right now. This year is very key to me feeling settled and finally some things are coming together that I’ve long awaited.”
Holmes, a 12-year Air Force veteran who works as a business manager at University of Maryland’s College of Journalism, met Nichols at Metropolitan Community Church of Washington (MCC-D.C.) where Holmes recently returned to the choir after an 18-month break. She’s singing in Sunday’s 2:30 p.m. Black History Month concert at the church (474 Ridge Street, N.W.) that’s dubbed “A Myriad of Sound.” It’s a new era for the church’s music program as it’s establishing itself under new direction. The concert will feature a variety of African-American musical styles.
Holmes says it’s important to honor Black History Month.
“If anyone knows our history, they’ll know that going way back to the way the slaves communicated, it was through singing,” she says. “Many times they weren’t allowed to speak, even their movement was controlled, but they sang while they worked. Sang negro spirituals and many songs written in those days reflected the struggles people had. It’s very important for us to continue to sing so we remember the struggles they faced and the struggles our community is still facing. I see lots of correlations. For me singing is a relief and a wonderful form of worship.”
Holmes has one adult son, Asa, a Baptist minister. She enjoys bowling, watching movies and quiet evenings at home with Gia. Holmes lives in Hyattsville, Md.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
Since 1982. I was outed by my mother to my sister and that never felt right to me. I’m happy that we have a good relationship now.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
My Gia’Donna for her strength and belief that all people are equal and all of the pastors within the Metropolitan Community Churches who continue to fight for equality.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
We spend a lot of time at Annie’s and Busboys and Poets.
Describe your dream wedding.
Funny you should ask. We are about to make our dream come true. We are being married in our church, MCC-D.C., followed by a beautiful reception at the Oxon Hill Manor. The only thing better would be to be able to be married in our home state of Maryland.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
Equality for all and finding a way to stop bullying, protecting the poor and underprivileged, getting guns and criminals off the streets.
What historical outcome would you change?
I would love to have seen what impact President Kennedy and Martin Luther King would have had on the world had they not been assassinated. I wish that slavery never happened and the destruction by Hitler, all wars, 9-11.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
The election of President Obama, the death of Michael Jackson and the recent death of Whitney Houston, wow!
On what do you insist?
Equal and fair treatment
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
A happy birthday message to a friend
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“God’s Not Done With Me Yet!”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Nothing. I love me just the way I am.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
I know there is a God somewhere that watches over all of us.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Continue to fight and keep people informed about what you need from us.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
Gia’Donna and my granddaughters.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
That people define us by what they believe we do in the bedroom. We are a strong people that want equality and freedom to live our lives like everyone else.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
I really don’t have a favorite but really enjoyed a great love story, “Hannah Free.”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
I don’t know about overrated. I wish people would use the courteous ones more often like, saying excuse me, please and thank you when appropriate.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
My life
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
Everything I know now. Not sure I would do anything different but life sure would make a lot more sense!
Why Washington?
I grew up just six miles away and never really appreciated what the city has. I’m close enough now to visit when I want, to enjoy everything the city has to offer and I can’t imagine living anywhere else. I’m close to family and friends and it’s a central location for travel.
Movies
‘Things Like This’ embraces formula and plus-size visibility
Enjoyable queer romcom challenges conventions of the genre
There’s a strange feeling of irony about a spring movie season stacked with queer romcoms – a genre that has felt conspicuously absent on the big screen since the disappointing reception met by the much-hyped “Bros” in 2022 – at a time when pushback against LGBTQ visibility is stronger than it’s been for 40 years.
Sure, part of the reason is the extended timeline required for filmmaking, which tells us, logically, that the numerous queer love stories hitting theaters this year – including the latest, the Manhattan-set indie “Things Like This,” which opened in limited theaters last weekend – began production long before the rapid cultural shift that has taken place in America since a certain convicted fraudster’s return to the White House.
That does not, however, make them any less welcome; on the contrary, they’re a refreshing assertion of queer existence that serves to counter-balance the hateful, politicized rhetoric that continues to bombard our community every day. In fact, the word “refreshing” is an apt description of “Things Like This,” which not only celebrates the validity – and joy – of queer love but does so in a story that disregards “Hollywood” convention in favor of a more authentic form of inclusion than we’re ever likely to see in a mainstream film
Written, starring, and directed by Max Talisman and set against the vibrant backdrop of New York City, it’s the story of two gay men named Zack – Zack #1 (Talisman) is a plus-sized hopeful fantasy author with a plus-sized personality and a promising-but-unpublished first novel, and Zack #2 (Joey Pollari) an aspiring talent agent dead-ended as an assistant to his exploitative “queen-bee” boss (Cara Buono) – who meet at an event and are immediately attracted to each other. Though Zack #2 is resigned to his unsatisfying relationship with longtime partner Eric (Taylor Trensch), he impulsively agrees to a date the following night, beginning an on-again/off-again entanglement that causes both Zacks to re-examine the trajectories of their respective lives – and a lot of other heavy baggage – even as their tentative and unlikely romance feels more and more like the workings of fate.
Like most romcoms, it relies heavily on familiar tropes – adjusted for queerness, of course – and tends to balance its witty banter and starry-eyed sentiment with heart-tugging setbacks and crossed-wire conflicts, just to raise the stakes. The Zacks’ attempts at getting together are a series of “meet-cutes” that could almost be described as fractal, yet each of them seems to go painfully awry – mostly due to the very insecurities and self-doubts which make them perfect for each other. The main obstacle to their couplehood, however, doesn’t spring from these mishaps; it’s their own struggles with self-worth that stand in the way, somehow making theirs more of a quintessentially queer love story than the fact that both of them are men.
All that introspection – relatable as it may be – can be a downer without active energy to stir things up, but fortunately for “Things Like This,” there are the inevitable BFFs and extended circle of friends and family that can help to get the fun back on track. Each Zack has his own support team backing him up, from a feisty “work wife” (Jackie Cruz, “Orange is the New Black”) to a straight best friend (Charlie Tahan, “Ozark”) to a wise and loving grandma (veteran scene-stealer Barbara Barrie, “Breaking Away” and countless vintage TV shows) – that fuels the story throughout, providing the necessary catalysts to prod its two neurotic protagonists into taking action when they can’t quite get there themselves.
To be sure, Talisman’s movie – his feature film debut as a writer and director – doesn’t escape the usual pitfalls of the romcom genre. There’s an overall sense of “wish fulfillment fantasy” that makes some of its biggest moments seem a bit too good to be true, and there are probably two or three complications too many as it approaches its presumed happy ending; in addition, while it helps to drive the inner conflict for Zack #2’s character arc, throwing a homophobic and unsupportive dad (Eric Roberts) into the mix feels a bit tired, though it’s hard to deny that such family relationships continue to create dysfunction for queer people no matter how many times they’re called out in the movies – which means that it’s still necessary, regrettably, to include them in our stories.
And in truth, “calling out” toxic tropes – the ones that reflect society’s negative assumptions and perpetuate them through imitation – is part of Talisman’s agenda in “Things Like This,” which devotes its very first scene to shutting down any objections from “fat shamers” who might decry the movie’s “opposites attract” scenario as unbelievable. Indeed, he has revealed in interviews that he developed the movie for himself because of the scarcity of meaningful roles for plus-sized actors, and his desire to erase such conventional prejudices extends in every direction within his big-hearted final product.
Even so, there’s no chip-on-the-shoulder attitude to sour the movie’s spirit; what helps us get over its sometimes excessive flourishes of idealized positivity is that it’s genuinely funny. The dialogue is loaded with zingers that keep the mood light, and even the tensest scenes are laced with humor, none of which feels forced. For this, kudos go to Talisman’s screenplay, of course, but also to the acting – including his own. He’s eminently likable onscreen, with wisecracks that land every time and an underlying good cheer that makes his appeal even more visible; crucially, his chemistry with Pollari – who also manages to maintain a lightness of being at his core no matter how far his Zack descends into uncertainty – isn’t just convincing; it’s enviable.
Cruz is the movie’s “ace in the hole” MVP as Zack #2’s under-appreciated but fiercely loyal bestie, and Buono’s hilariously icy turn as his “boss from hell” makes for some of the film’s most memorable scenes. Likewise, Tahan, along with Margaret Berkowitz and Danny Chavarriaga, flesh out Zack #1’s friend group with a real sense of camaraderie that should be recognizable to anyone who’s ever been part of an eclectic crew of misfits. Trensch’s comedic “ickiness” as Zack #2’s soon-to-be-ex makes his scenes a standout; and besides bigger-name “ringers” Roberts and Barrie (whose single scene is the emotional climax of the movie), there’s also a spotlight-grabbing turn by Diane Salinger (iconic as Francophile dreamer Simone in “Pee-Wee’s Big Adventure”) as the owner of a queer bar where the Zacks go on one of their dates.
With all that enthusiasm and a momentum driven by a sense of DIY empowerment, it’s hard to be anything but appreciative of “Things Like This,” no matter how much some of us might cringe at its more unbelievable romcom devices. After all, it’s as much a “feel-good” movie as it is a love story, and the fact that we actually do feel good when the final credits role is more than enough to earn it our hearty recommendation.
Friday, May 23
“Center Aging Monthly Luncheon and Yoga” will be at 12 p.m. in person at the DC Center for the LGBT Community. For more details, email [email protected].
Trans Discussion Group will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This group is intended to provide an emotionally and physically safe space for trans people and those who may be questioning their gender identity and/or expression. For more details, email [email protected].
Go Gay DC will host “LGBTQ+ Community Happy Hour” at 7 p.m. at DIK Bar. This event is ideal for making new friends, professional networking, idea-sharing, and community building. This event is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.
Saturday, May 24
Go Gay DC will host “LGBTQ+ Community Brunch” at 11 a.m. at Freddie’s Beach Bar and Restaurant. This fun weekly event brings the DMV area LGBTQ community, including Allies, together for delicious food and conversation. Attendance is free and more details are available on Eventbrite.
Black Lesbian Mixer will be at 11 a.m. on Zoom. This is a support group dedicated to the joys of being a Black lesbian. For more details, email [email protected].
Sunday, May 25
“The Queen’s Table: A Women’s Empowerment Brunch” will be at 11 a.m. at Zooz. This event will celebrate queer women’s strength. For more details visit Eventbrite.
Monday, May 26
“Center Aging Monday Coffee and Conversation” will be at 10 a.m. on Zoom. This is a social hour for older LGBTQ+ adults. Guests are encouraged to bring a beverage of choice. For more details, email [email protected].
Tuesday, May 27
Genderqueer DC will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a support group for people who identify outside of the gender binary. Whether you’re bigender, agender, genderfluid, or just know you’re not 100 percent cis — this is your group. For more details, visit genderqueerdc.org or Facebook.
Coming Out Discussion Group will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This support group is a safe space to share experiences about coming out and discuss topics as it relates to doing so. For more details, visit the group’s Facebook.
Wednesday, May 28
Job Club will be at 6 p.m. on Zoom. This is a weekly job support program to help job entrants and seekers, including the long-term unemployed, improve self-confidence, motivation, resilience and productivity for effective job searches and networking — allowing participants to move away from being merely “applicants” toward being “candidates.” For more information, email [email protected] or visit thedccenter.org/careers.
Thursday, May 29
The DC Center’s Fresh Produce Program will be held all day at the DC Center for the LGBT Community. To be fairer with who is receiving boxes, the program is moving to a lottery system. People will be informed on Wednesday at 5 p.m. if they are picked to receive a produce box. No proof of residency or income is required. For more information, email [email protected] or call 202-682-2245.
Virtual Yoga with Charles M. will be at 7 p.m. on Zoom. This is a free weekly class focusing on yoga, breathwork, and meditation. For more details, visit the DC Center for the LGBT Community’s website.
Photos
PHOTOS: Helen Hayes Awards
Gay Men’s Chorus, local drag artists have featured performance at ceremony
The 41st Helen Hayes Awards were held at The Anthem on Monday, May 19. Felicia Curry and Mike Millan served as the hosts.
A performance featuring members of the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington and local drag artists was held at the end of the first act of the program to celebrate WorldPride 2025.
The annual awards ceremony honors achievement in D.C.-area theater productions and is produced by Theatre Washington.
(Washington Blade photos by Michael Key)
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