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Leisure World’s LGBT residents enjoy openness, camaraderie

Local retirees find support, acceptance in new affinity group

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From left, Mitch Harvey, Pat Ritter and Mary Twigger at Leisure World where they’ve found LGBT camaraderie. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

When Mitch Harvey came to Leisure World (3701 Rossmoor Blvd., Silver Spring, Md.) to take care of his ill mother, he had no idea what he was going to do with himself. Harvey felt like he wouldn’t fit in.

“I thought this is not for me,” Harvey says. “I’m too young, I’m gay. Who am I going to be friends with? I looked around and didn’t see anybody. I felt very much out of place.”

Harvey was less alone than he realized.

Pam Galef and Pat Ritter, longtime friends from Long Island, N.Y., decided to move to Leisure World to join Galef’s parents who lived there. Impressed by Leisure World’s amenities, sports and clubs, they thought it would be a good fit for them.

“As we’re walking through the community our gaydar is going off,” Ritter says. “I had a headache almost every day. I know that the people knew that I knew. They would look me in the eyes and there was recognition there and they would look away.”

After seeing how many gay people were living at Leisure World, Galef and Ritter got together with their friend Mary Twigger and decided to start an LGBT group last November. They put an ad in the Leisure World newspaper inviting people to come meet one another over coffee and cake. The plan was to meet at Twigger’s home. The interest in the meeting was far greater than the three expected and instead of meeting at Twigger’s home, they moved the meeting to the main clubhouse building. The group continued to meet there a few times before becoming an organized club.

Harvey was one of the residents who responded to the ad. He joined the group and became the secretary, Galef became president, Twigger vice president and Ritter became treasurer.

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Mitch Harvey created a website for out residents at Leisure World. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Leisure World’s LGBT group has since become a safe haven for senior LGBT members. The group hosts outings, including dinners, picnics, cruises and museum tours. They attend the theater together and have plans to participate in Hillwood Estate’s Rainbow Picnic.

Yet Leisure World’s residents’ diverse age range can sometimes make it tricky to plan events. Residents at Leisure World, a 55-and-over community, can be as young as mid-50s and go up through the 100s. Some residents are still working while others have been retired for many years. Harvey says that with this huge age range, it isn’t always easy to make an event that everyone can attend. He says residents in their 50s can feel overlooked in a community like Leisure World.

“If I say I want to set up a bowling trip, this group looks at me and says, ‘You think we can pick up bowling balls?’ It’s like saying, ‘Let’s go out and go boating,’ and even less can pick up a canoe paddle,” Harvey says.

There’s more diversity in the group than just age. Each resident has his or her own experiences being gay and their own coming out stories.

Harvey, who is 60 and from the suburbs of New York, came to the District area for college and settled here while working in the travel agency business. Eventually he married a woman and had children, not coming out until he was in his late 40s. He admits he didn’t really start living a gay life until he was 51 when he moved to South Beach, Fla., finally returning to the local area to care for his mother at Leisure World.

“I was taught to live a ‘normal’ lifestyle,” Harvey says. “ I was living a false life for 45 years.”

Twigger, a Washingtonian, was married to a man for 17 years and had a son. She lived with a previous partner for 18 years and even while living with another woman she did not come out until her mid 40s, after her relationship with her partner ended.

Ritter has been out since the 1970s and Galif has been out since the 1990s. Since Ritter came out sooner, her views on the struggles gay people have faced are a stark contrast to what Harvey and Twigger have been through.

While Harvey and Twigger say they haven’t experienced any blatant homophobia, they credit it to coming out later in life. Ritter recalls times when she would have to run from her car to the bar in order to avoid getting beat up by neighborhood boys for being a lesbian.

Although there are gay residents at Leisure World and an LGBT group to support them, some still find it difficult to come out of the closet at these stages in life. Harvey says that some may have had rough times with homophobia the way Ritter experienced and are still afraid to come out. These residents tend to come out after a major life change.

“There are still a lot of people in our community, especially the seniors, who are involved in a straight relationship and when the partner passes that’s when they come out. We have had a couple of people who have been in that situation,” Ritter says.

Even some residents who choose to participate in the LGBT group have chosen to remain as secretive about attending the meetings as they can. Some members will not sign their name on the roster because they do not want a record of them being there. Harvey says that some fear what their neighbors will think if they discovered that they are gay.

The culture of living a closeted life among this generation made it challenging to gain recognition for the group at first. Some residents had no idea that gay people were living in Leisure World and that there would be a need for the group at all. When Galef explained to one person about the group, the person responded by asking where these people were coming from and if they were going to bus them in.

Ritter recalls during a Leisure World dance party, she and her friend Galef got up in front of everyone and slow danced.

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Pat Ritter, left, and Mary Twigger say they enjoy life being out at Leisure World in Silver Spring. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

“It was like, ‘Oh my god, oh my god.’ But you have to break the ceiling, you have to do something,” Ritter says.

After the initial introduction, the Leisure World community’s reception has been overwhelmingly positive. Residents have been accepting of the group and the group’s float for Leisure World’s Fourth of July parade was greeted with smiles and cheers.

“It’s just amazing the reception,” Twigger says. “I think that’s the thing that has a lot of us going, ‘Oh my god.’”

Harvey created a website for the group, leisureworldlgbt.com, and the owner of the Leisure World Brand, Heidi Cortese, contacted Harvey. Cortese was impressed by the work Harvey and the others had done. Now, there are plans to expand the LGBT group into other Leisure World communities. Ideas include having meet ups in other states between different communities, setting up a program where members can swap houses for vacations and even a photo contest, one for gay residents and one for straight ones with a grand prize of a vacation.

Harvey, Ritter, Twigger and Galif are organizing a premiere party on Dec. 4 at their Leisure World location to celebrate being the first active LGBT group at Leisure World. An open bar, hors d’oeuvres and dancing are planned.

“I feel very passionate about it because I know what I lived through. There are many people that are gay that are afraid to say they’re gay that haven’t really had a life yet,” Harvey says. “It’s a very sad life and it shouldn’t be.”

He hopes this group can help those residents accept who they are and start living their lives fully.

“I can truly say that my happiness came when I was able to accept who I was,” Harvey says. “I didn’t have to pretend to be the husband of a wife and live like the Cleavers in ‘Leave it to Beaver.’ That’s why it’s important.”

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(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

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Memorial for groundbreaking bisexual activist set for May 2

Loraine Hutchins remembered as a ‘force of nature’

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Loraine Hutchins died last year. (File photo courtesy of Hutchins)

The Montgomery County Pride Center will host a celebration honoring the life and legacy of Loraine Hutchins, Ph.D., on May 2. People are invited to attend the onsite memorial or a livestream event. The on-site event will begin at 10 a.m. with a meet-and-greet mixer before moving into a memorial service around the theme “Loraine a Force of Nature!” at 11 a.m., a panel talk at 12 p.m., break out sessions for artists, academics, and activists to build on her legacy at 1 p.m. and a closing reception at 2 p.m. 

Attendees are encouraged to register for the on-site memorial gathering or the livestreamed memorial. The goal of this event is also to collect stories and memories of Loraine. Attendees and others can share their stories at padlet.com. 

An obituary for Hutchins was published in the Bladelast Nov. 24, where people can learn more about her activism in the bisexual community. A private service for friends and family was held in December but this memorial service is open to all. 

Alongside her groundbreaking work organizing for U.S. bisexual rights and liberation including co-editing “Bi Any Other Name: BIsexual People Speak Out” (1991), she also integrated faith into her sexual education and advocacy work. Her 2001 doctoral dissertation, “Erotic Rites: A Cultural Analysis of Contemporary U.S. Sacred Sexuality Traditions and Trends,” offered a pointed queer and feminist analysis to sex-neutral and sex-positive spiritual traditions in the United States. Her thesis was also groundbreaking in exploring the intersections between sex workers and those in caregiving professionals, including spiritual ones.

In an oral history interview conducted by Michelle Mueller back in August 2023, Hutchins described herself as a “priestess without a congregation.” While she has occasionally had a sense of community and feels part of a group of loving people, she admitted that “I don’t feel like we have the shape or the purpose that we need.”

“I’ve often experienced being the Cassandra in the room, the Cassandra in the community. Somebody who’s kind of way out there ahead, thinking through the strategic action points that my community hasn’t gotten to yet, and getting a lot of resistance and hostile responses from people who are frightened by dissent and conflict and not ready for the changes we have to make to survive,” she said.

“For somebody who’s bisexual in an out political way and who’s been a spokesperson for the polyamory movement in an out political way, it’s very exposing. And it’s very important to me to be able to try to explain and help other people understand the connection between spirituality and sexuality,” she explained citing how even as a graduate student she was “exploring how to feel erotic and spiritual, and not feel them in conflict with each other in my own spiritual contemplative life and my own sensual body awareness of being alive in the world.”

“Every religion has a sense of sacred sexuality. It’s just they put a lot of boundaries and regulations on it, and if we have a spiritual practice that is totally affirming of women’s priesthood and of gay people, queer people’s ability to minister to everyone and to be ministered to be everyone, what does that do to the gender of God, or our understanding of how we practice our spirituality and our sexuality in community and privately?”

“There’s no easy answer,” she concludes, and she continued to grapple with these questions throughout her life, co-editing another seminal text, “Sexuality, Religion and the Sacred: Bisexual, Pansexual, and Polysexual Perspectives,” published in 2012. Her work blending spiritual and queer liberation remains groundbreaking to this day. 

Rev. Eric Eldritch, a local community organizer and ordained Pagan minister with Circle Sanctuary who has worked for decades with the DC Center’s Center Faith to organize the Pride Interfaith Service, is eager to highlight this element of her legacy at the memorial service next month.  

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Queery: Meet artist, performer John Levengood

Modern creative talks nightlife, coming out, and his personal queer heroes

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John Levengood (he/him) describes himself as a modern creative with a wide‑ranging toolkit. He blends music, technology, civic duty, and a sharp sense of wit into a cohesive artistic identity. Known primarily as a recording artist and performer, he’s also a self‑taught music producer and software engineer who embodies a generation of creators who build their own lanes rather than wait for one to appear.

Levengood, 32, who is single and identifies as gay and queer, is best known as a recording artist who has performed at Pride festivals across the country, including the main stages of World Pride DC, Central Arkansas Pride, and Charlotte Pride.

“Locally in the DMV, I’m known for turning heads at nightlife venues with my eye-catching sense of style. When I go out, I don’t try to blend in. I hope I inspire people to be themselves and have the courage to stand out,” he says.

He’s also known for hosting karaoke at Freddie’s Beach Bar in Arlington, Va., on Thursday nights. “I like to create a space where people feel comfortable expressing themselves, building community, and showcasing their talents.”

He also creates social media content from my performances and do interviews at LGBTQ+ bars and theatres in the DMV. Follow the Arlington resident @johnlevengood.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?

I have been fully out of the closet since 2019. My parents were the hardest people to tell because my family has always been my rock and at the time I couldn’t imagine a world without them. Their reactions were extremely positive and supportive so I had nothing to fear all along.
I remember sitting on the couch with my mom, dad, and sister in our hotel room in New Orleans during our winter vacation and being so nervous to tell them. After I finally mustered up the nerve and made the proclamation, I realized my dad had already fallen asleep on the couch. My mom promised to tell him when he woke up.

Whos your LGBTQ hero?

My LGBTQ heroes are Harvey Milk for paving the way for gays in politics and Elton John for being a pioneer for the fabulous and authentic. My local heroes in the DMV are Howard Hicks, manager of Green Lantern, and Tony Rivenbark, manager of Freddie’s Beach Bar. Both of them are essential to creating spaces where I’ve felt welcome and safe since moving to the DMV.

Whats Washingtons best nightspot, past or present?

Trade tops the list for me because of the dance floor and outdoor space. It’s so nice to get a break from the music every once and a while to be able to have a conversation.

We live in challenging times. How do you cope?

I’m still figuring this out. What is working right now is writing music and spending time with family and friends. I’ve also been spending less time on social media going to the gym at least three times a week.

What streaming show are you binging?

After “Traitors” Season 4 ended, I was in a bit of a show hole, but “Stumble” has me in a laughing loop right now. The writing is so witty.

What do you wish youd known at 18?

At 18, I wish I would have known how liberating it is to come out of the closet. It would have been nice to know some winning lottery numbers as well.

What are your friends messaging about in your most recent group chat?

We are planning our next trip to New York City. If you can believe it, I visited NYC for the first time in 2025 for Pride and I’ve been back every quarter since. Growing up in the country, I was subconsciously primed to be scared of the city. But my mind has been blown. I can’t wait to go back.

Why Washington?

It’s the closest metropolitan area to my family, but not too close. I love the museums, the diversity, the history, and the proximity to the beach and mountains. It’s also nice to live in a city with public transportation.

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Project GLOW celebrates LGBTQ acts

D.C.’s electronic music festival set for May 30-31

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A scene from last year’s Project GLOW. (Photo courtesy organizers)

Aging RFK Stadium has come down, but the RFK grounds are still getting lit up. Welcome back to the stage Project GLOW, D.C.’s homegrown electronic festival, on May 30-31. Back for its fifth year on these musically inclined acres, Project GLOW returns with an even more diverse lineup, and one that continues to celebrate LGBTQ antecedents, attendees, and acts.

Project GLOW 2026 headliners include house and techno star Mau P, progressive house legend Eric Prydz, hard-techno favorite Sara Landry, and bass acts Excision b2b Sullivan King, among the lineup of trance, bass, house, techno, dubstep, and others for the fifth anniversary year.

President & CEO Pete Kalamoutsos — born and raised in D.C. — founded Club GLOW in 1999. In 2020, GLOW entered into a partnership with global entertainment company Insomniac Events to produce live events like Project GLOW, which kicked off in 2022.

As in past years, Project GLOW not only makes space, but is intentionally inclusive of the LGBTQ community, one of its most dedicated fan bases. The festival’s LGBTQ-focused Secret Garden stage blooms again — a more intimate dance area that stands on the strength of DJs and musicians who draw from the LGBTQ community. D.C.’s LGBTQ nightlife mastermind Ed Bailey is the creative mind behind Secret Garden again. He joined Project GLOW in 2023.

“Kalamoustos says that “he’s proud of his partnership with Ed Bailey, along with Capital Pride and [nightlife producer] Jake Resnikow. It’s amazing to collaborate with Bailey at the Secret Garden stage, especially after the curated lineup we worked on at Pride last year.”

The Secret Garden will be a bit different from other stages: Eternal (“At the Eternal stage, time stands still. Lose yourself in the dance of past, present, and future, surrendering to the eternal rhythm of the universe”) and Pulse (“Feel the rhythm of the beat pulse through your veins as the heartbeat of the crowd synchronizes into one. Here, every moment vibrates with life as it guides you through a new dimension of euphoria”). The Secret Garden stage is in the round, surrounded by 16 shipping containers. The containers play canvas to muralists from around the world, who are coming in to paint them in a vibrant garden-style vibe. “We gave this stage some extra love with this layout,” K says, “ we finally cracked the code.”

K says that this will be the biggest lineup yet for the Secret Garden, featuring Nicole Moudaber b2b Chasewest, Riordan b2b Bullet Tooth, Ranger Trucco, Cassian, Eli & Fur, Cosmic Gate and Hayla. The stage is also the largest yet, featuring an expanded dance floor and 360-degree viewing.

Across all stages, K says that his goal for the fifth anniversary is “More art and fan interactive experience, more like a festival, strive to be like a Tomorrowland, as budget grows to add more experience.” Last year’s Project GLOW alone drew 40,000 attendees over two days.

K, however, was not satisfied with one festival this spring. GLOW recently announced a “pop-up” one-day event. Teaming up with Black Book Records, GLOW is set to throw a first-of-its-kind dance-music takeover of Pennsylvania Avenue, N.W., headlined by electronic music star Chris Lake. Set for April 18, this euphoric block party will feature bass and vibes blocks from the White House. Organizers expect as many as 10,000 fans to attend. Beyond music, there will be food, activations, and plenty of other activities taking place around 6th St and Pennsylvania Ave NW – a location familiar to many in the LGBTQ community, as this sits squarely inside the blocks of the Capital Pride party that takes place in DC every June.

Over the past two decades, Club GLOW has produced thousands of events, from club nights to large-scale festivals including Project GLOW, Moonrise Festival, and more. Club GLOW also operates Echostage.

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