Arts & Entertainment
Colton Haynes dishes on how he lost his virginity
The actor revealed the encounter was with a guy and a girl
Colton Haynes candidly revealed how he lost his virginityĀ at the age of 13 in an interview with Andy Cohen on SiriusXM.
“I lost my virginity at 13 to a girl and a guy,” Haynes, 28, told Cohen. “I’ve never said that before. The girl was two years older than me, and the guy was, I would say, around 16.”
The “Arrow” actor wouldn’t classify the encounter as a threesome but said that, “everyone participated.”
“It was a real first time,” Haynes continued. “It was exciting.”
When Cohen continued to press if Haynes lost his virginity in a threesome the star replied, āWeāve all had them, but it wasnāt that time.ā
Haynes, who publicly came out in May 2016, is engaged to celebrity florist Jeff Leatham. The proposal included a fireworks display on the beach and a special recorded message from Cher.
The actor told Entertainment Tonight that he’s letting Leatham take over wedding planning.
āI suck at that stuff, and I do not want to help at all, so he’s gonna take care of it,ā Haynes says. āHe’s the best. He just finished his biggest wedding of his career three days ago.ā
Out & About
Nu Sass Productions to celebrate 15th anniversary
‘Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead’ performed at DC Arts Center
Nu Sass Productions will mark its 15th anniversary with a resurrection of āRosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Deadā beginning Friday, Sept. 20 at 8 p.m. at the DC Arts Center.
āRosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Deadā debuted at the Capital Fringe Festival in 2009 and will return this year with a new cast and crew.
Tickets cost $30 and can be purchased via the Nu Sass website.
Theater
Explore new venues, productions during D.C. Theatre Week
30 shows, including musicals, comedies, dramas, premieres, and more
2024 Theatre Week
Sept. 26-Oct. 13
Theatreweek.org
For Michael Ramirez, theater remains an ongoing source of inspiration and pleasure. As a little boy in El Paso, Texas, his mom took him to see lots of kidsā shows. And later in high school, he played one of the Sharks in āWest Side Story.ā All fond memories.
At the University of Texas in Austin for social work (undergraduate) and social work/public administration (graduate school) and then as a successful human resources professional and policy wonk in Washington, Ramirez continued to enjoy theater from the audience or behind the scenes. Now retired, he serves as a Helen Hayes Awards judge and board member at Woolly Mammoth Theatre.
Theatre Washington is the umbrella organization that not only produces the Helen Hayes Awards but also Theatre Week, an annual celebratory launch of the season with shows at low prices, a free kickoff fest, and other fun events.
The 2024 Theatre Week, explains Ramirez, features about 30 varied productions in the DMV, including musicals, comedies, dramas, new works, premieres, and works geared to young audiences. And tickets are affordably discounted at $60, $40, and $20.
āItās a great opportunity to take a chance on a theater that you might not be familiar with,ā he says. āWhen it comes to seeing shows, a lot of people think Kennedy Center or Fordās. This can be an introduction to something entirely new. D.C. is a busy theater town with lots of companies and venues.ā
At the heart of Theatre Week are its plays and musicals. Ramirez has already made his list.
His picks include GALA Hispanic Theatreās āThe 22+ Weddings of Hugoā featuring out actor Carlos Castillo as Hugo and staged by out director JosĆ© Zayas; busy out playwright Branden Jacobs-Jenkinsā āThe Comeuppanceā at Woolly Mammoth; and āRosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Deadā at Nu Sass Productions.
He also plans to see Mosaic Theatreās āLady Day at Emersonās Bar and Grill,ā a play with music about jazz legend/queer icon Billie Holiday starring Roz White; ExPats Theatreās āMarlene,ā featuring Karin Rosnizeck as legendary diva Marlene Dietrich; and Rorschach Theatreās āSleeping Giantā written by gay playwright Steve Yockey well known as the developer of the HBO Max comedy-drama television series āThe Flight Attendant.ā
Ramirez adds, āAnd as a good gay, I canāt miss āSondheim Tribute Revueā at Creative Cauldron.ā
There are also parties and outdoor events. He advises a few of his favorites.
On Monday, Sept. 9, Woolly Mammoth hosts a Theatre Week Launch Party replete with drinks and season sneak peaks (invitation only).
The Historic Theatre Walking Tour (Sept. 21) asks the public to check out downtown D.C. theaters with guides Farar Elliot and Chris Geidner (free). And with City on the River Concert (Sept. 22), Theatre Washington returns to the D.C. Wharf Transit Pier to present āmusical theater showstoppersā from a dozen of the seasonās upcoming shows (free).
Next up itās āDC Theatre at the Natsā (Sept. 24), a night out at the ballgame that baseball lover Ramirez is sure to attend. And typically, he says, performers from a local show or company are booked to sing the anthem ($20).
And big event Kickoff Fest 2024, an all-afternoon event for all ages, takes place on Sept. 28 at Arena Stage (also free).
Not surprisingly Ramirez fell for another theater aficionado. He and husband John Ralls got together in 1990 and married in 2014. Ralls is a board member at Rorschach.
As board members, they āfunction as ambassadors and marketers for the theater. We reach into our pockets and write the checks. We buy the season tickets, and encourage our friends to do the same.ā
Ramirez enthusiastically reiterates: āTheatre Week is especially fun. Again, tickets are reasonable. Thereās everything from puppet plays at Glen Echo Park to something more serious. Itās the perfect chance to try something new.ā
Movies
Timely doc celebrates Americaās most beloved president as āLover of Menā
Was Lincoln the most prominent LGBTQ hero in U.S. history?
Itās reasonable to assume, if youāre someone with an interest in āhiddenā queer history, that you are already aware of the speculation that Abraham Lincoln might have been gay, or at least bisexual.
Those labels didnāt exist in his time, but the 16th POTUS left a trail of eyebrow-raising same-sex relationships, nonetheless, which many scholars consider as evidence that he was likely a member of what we now call the LGBTQ community.
The discussion around Lincolnās sexuality has always been broadly drawn and ambiguously cloaked by 19th-century social norms (which [spoiler alert] were not quite as Puritanical as we might believe). Conclusions must be drawn by inference, so itās no surprise that many historians tend to be wary of projecting modern-day interpretations on a past era. Such experts warn against relying on a between-the-lines reading of āofficialā history to provide factual certainty; by that standard, whatever the implications might suggest, thereās simply no way to prove anything, one way or another, and thatās the end of the story.
Others, however, are not so eager to close the discussion; thatās why the creators of āLover of Men: The Untold History of Abraham Lincolnā ā a new documentary conveniently timed for release mere months ahead of what might, when it comes to the subject of LGBTQ acceptance and equality, be our most crucial election so far ā decided to step in and set the record (if youāll pardon the expression)Ā straight.
Directed by Shaun Peterson ā who co-wrote alongside Joshua Koffman, Grace Leeson, and Robert Rosenheck ā and unapologetically committed to piercing the opacity of a biography that contains too many āred flagsā to ignore, itās a documentary that eschews neutrality to make a case for claiming āHonest Abeā as the most prominent LGBTQ hero in the Great American Story. Unfolded by expert historians ā both queer and otherwise ā as an intimate portrait of a profoundly public figure, it charts Lincolnās life through a lens trained on private experience, and goes beyond that to frame the much-beloved presidentās growth and transformation into one of the worldās most significant leaders as a probable consequence of the āfriendshipsā he experienced with the men who were his closest companions during different periods of his life.
Most of the attention is directed, unsurprisingly, at Joshua Speed, the handsome shopkeeper with whom, for four years of his young manhood, Lincoln shared a bed as a matter of āconvenienceā ā despite offers of free and private lodgings elsewhere and a successful law practice that would have allowed him to buy a bed of his own and a house in which to put it. Casting Speed as āthe love of Lincolnās life,ā it positions him (through plentiful historical documentation) as the man who helped the future president find his mojo; even so, it goes on to present evidence supporting less well-known male companions as catalysts to Lincolnās maturation both as a commander-in-chief and a human being.
We wonāt go into much detail here; the movie does a better job of illuminating the record than we ever could ā and it does so not by relying solely on the speculation of possibly biased commentators, but by presenting āthe receiptsā as they appear in the indisputable (yet under-discussed) historical record. Gleaned from private correspondences and interviews with Lincolnās primary contemporary biographer, these details reveal (among other things) the future presidentās ambivalence toward women, the questionable context in which Lincoln bedded down with his various male companions, and the emotional bond he had with each of them that seemed to overshadow the one he shared with his eventual first lady, Mary Todd Lincoln ā who, at least through the lens cast upon her here, was probably more in love with the idea of being married to a president than she was to the president she married.
No, thereās no āsmoking gunā (again, pardon the expression) to be found by the erudite scholars who expound upon the persuasively numerous clues contained in Lincolnās biography during the course of the film. There are, however, plenty of tell-tale powder burns. By exploring the nuance behind the many documented-but-veiled suggestions about the martyred presidentās relationships, both male and female, this varied assortment of historians highlights the points that strike a familiar chord for queer people even if theyāre likely to go unconsidered by anyone else. By the end, āLover of Menā has expertly pleaded its case and rested it, relying on the weight and volume of its circumstantial evidence to satisfy any reasonable doubt.
The final verdict, of course, remains up to the individual viewer, and it unfortunately goes without saying that a good many will be watching with intent to discredit any hint of queerness within Lincolnās biography, if they even watch it at all. Yet while itās easy to reject an idea when youāve already made up your mind that itās false, itās just as easy to accept one that you want to be true; and though the historians of Petersonās smart and sassy movie carry an undeniable weight of credibility in their arguments, what remains indisputably accurate is that there is no way to know with certainty if our most-revered president was shaded with the ālavenderā referenced by his poetic biographer Carl Sandburg to describe his nature in a later-prudently deleted passage of prose.
Thatās perfectly all right, though. āLover of Menā never tries to claim, unequivocally, that Lincoln belonged in the LGBTQ rainbow, only that the likely probability that he did is worthy of consideration. Further, it goes on to highlight the open-minded empathy that allowed him to pivot his viewpoint in ways that are typically unthinkable in politics; the evolution it charts for Lincoln from gifted country bumpkin to fully aware (dare we say āwokeā?) humanitarian leader makes him an ideological model that feels crucial today. That having to suppress his true nature may have shaped the values and ideals that would ultimately help him to change the world makes the filmās arguments even more persuasive; and if its re-enactments of encounters between Lincoln and his alleged male lovers read as a little too modern to be true, they certainly convey a more plausible interpretation than can be found in any surface reading of the scrupulously polite language describing such events in the historic record.
Reinforced by filmed footage of the now-historically preserved sites (the smallness of an old shared cot speaks volumes) where Lincolnās intimate life took place, these fancifully anachronistic translations of 19th-century queer courtship into something instantly recognizable to modern queer viewers succeed in making it difficult to cling to a denial that this particular American icon might have been queer ā unless you are very deeply invested, for whatever reason, in doing so.
Sadly, that last point means a great many people will probably reject this passionately earnest piece of info-tainment sight unseen; but for those who donāt, it offers an intelligent and reasonable perspective on one of our most important national icons that can only increase his relevance in an age almost as divisive as the one over which he was destined to preside.
In other words, donāt miss it.
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