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Ultimate guide to queer gift giving
Champagne, candles, cologne, lawnmowers, and more
Some gifts scream practical, others whisper luxury, and a few flat-out blur the lines. From cocoa that feels ceremonial to a cologne that linger like a suggestive smirk, this yearโs ultimate gift picks prove that thoughtful (and occasionally naughty) presents donโt have to be prosaic. Welcome to your holiday cheat sheet for festive tangibles that get noticed, remembered, and maybe even result in a peck of gratitude planted under the mistletoe. Consensually, of course.
Amber Glass Champagne Flutes
Pop the champs โ but make it vintage. These tulip-shaped stunners in amber-tinted glass bring all the Gatsby vibes without the Jazz-age drama. Whether youโre toasting a milestone or celebrating a Tuesday, their seven-ounce capacities and hand-wash-only care make โem as practical as they are pretty. Pair with a thoughtful bottle of bubs and gift with a glittering wink. $18,ย NantucketLooms.com
Disaster Playbook by Here Comes the Apocalypse
Because the end of the world shouldnโt be a solo act, this spiral-bound guide is your step-by-step roadmap to surviving and thriving when everything else goes sideways, which might be sooner than you think. Packed with checklists, drills, and a healthy dose of humor, itโs like a survival manual written by your most prepared (and slightly snarky) friend. Whether youโre prepping for a zombie apocalypse or, more realistically, REVOLUTION!, this playbookโs got your back. $40,ย HereComesTheApocalypse.com

Wickless Vulva Candles
Bold, luxurious, and completely flame-free, CTOANโs wickless candles melt from beneath on a warmer, releasing subtle, sophisticated fragrances, like sandalwood or lavender. The vulva-shaped wax adds a playful, provocative element to any space โperfect for a bedroom, living room, or anywhere you want elegance with an edge. A gift that celebrates form, intimacy and self-expression, no fire required. $39,ย CTOANCO.com
Villeroy & Boch Royal Classic Christmas Collection
Every meal is a mini celebration โ with whimsy at every place setting โ in Villeroy & Bochโs Royal Classic festive dinnerware collection that hits all the right notes. Made from premium German porcelain, it features nostalgic little toys, nutcrackers, and rocking horses in delicate relief, giving your holiday spread a playful but refined twist. Dishwasher- and microwave-safe, itโs luxe without the fuss. Gift a piece to a special someone, or start a collection theyโll use (and show off) for years to come. $22-$363,ย Villeroy-Boch.com
Greenworks Electric Lawnmower
You a โhood queen who considers lawn care performance art โ or just wants to rule the cul-de-sac in quiet, emission-free glory? Greenworksโ zero-turn electric mower has the muscle of a 24-horsepower gas engine but none of the fumes, drama or maintenance. Six 60V batteries and a 42-inch deck mean you can mow up to two-and-a-half acres on a single charge โ then plug in, recharge, and ride again. Itโs whisper-quiet, slope-ready, and smooth enough to make you wonder why you ever pushed anything besides your queer agenda. The perfect gift for the homeowner who loves sustainability, symmetry, and showing off their freshly striped yard like that fresh fade you get on Fridays. $5,000,ย GreenworksTools.com
Molekule Air Purifier
For the friend who treats their space like a sanctuary (or just canโt stand sneezes), the Molekule Air Pro is magic in motion. Covering up to 1,000โฏsquare feet, it doesnโt just capture allergens, VOCs, and smoke โ it destroys them, leaving your air feeling luxury-clean. FDA-cleared as a ClassโฏII medical device, itโs serious science disguised as modern design. Gift it to your city-dwelling, pet-loving, candle-burning friend who likes their living room as pristine as their Instagram feed. $1,015,ย Molekule.com

Cipriani Prosecco Gift Set
Effervescent with stone-fruit sweetness and a touch of Italian flair, the Cipriani Bellini & Prosecco gift set brings brunch-level glamour to any day of the week. The Bellini blends rich white-peach purรฉe with sparkling wine, while the dry โsecco keeps things crisp and celebratory. Pop a bottle, pour a flute, and suddenly winter weeknights feel like a party โ even with your pants off. $36,ย TotalWine.com
Woo(e)d Cologne
British GQ recently crowned Woo(e)d by ALTAIA the โBest Date Night Fragrance,โ and honestly, they nailed it. Confident without being cocky โ smoky gaรฏac and Atlas cedarwood grounds the room while supple leather and spicy cardamom do all the flirting โ itโs a scent that lingers like good conversation and soft candlelight. Gift it to the one who always turns heads โ or keep it for yourself and let them come to (and then on) you. $255,ย BeautyHabit.com

Lococo Cocoa Kit
Keep the run-of-the-mill mugs in the cabinet this Christmas and pull out Lococoโs handcrafted Oaxacan versions that demand you slow down and sip like it matters. Paired with a wooden scoop, rechargeable frother, and Lococoโs signature spice hot-chocolate blend (vegan, gluten-free, with adaptogenic mushrooms), this holiday kit turns Mexi-cocoa into a mini ritual youโll look forward to. Perfect for anyone who loves a little indulgence with a side of ยกA huevo! energy.
Manta Sleep Mask
Total blackout, zero pressure on the eyes, and Bluetooth speakers built right into the straps, this ainโt your mamaโs sleep mask โ but it could be. The Manta SOUND sleep mask features C-shaped eye cups that block every hint of light while ultra-thin speakers deliver your favorite white noise, meditation, or late-night playlist straight to your ears. With 24-hour battery life, breathable fabric, and easy-to-adjust sound, it turns any bed (or airplane seat) into a five-star sleep suite. Perfect for anyone who treats shut-eye like an art form (or just wants to escape their roommateโs late-night binginโ and/or banginโ). $159,ย MantaSleep.com

Shacklelock Necklace
Turn the industrial-chic vibe of a shackle into a sleek statement. Mi Tesoroโs platinum-plated stainless-steel necklace sits on an 18-inch wheat chain, featuring a shackle-style latch pendant thatโs waterproof, tarnish-free, and totally fuss-les. Beyond style, it nods to a classic gesture in the queer leather community: replacing a traditional Master lock with something elegant to quietly signal belonging to someone special. Wear it solo for a minimalist edge or layer it like you mean it; either way this piece locks in both your look and your intentions. $90,ย MiTesoroJewelry.com
Parkside Flask Mojave Edition
Wine nights get a desert glow-up with Parksideโs limited-edition 750-milliliter all-in-one flask draped in sun-washed bronze and badland hues like sage, sand, and terracotta โ with magnetic stemless tumblers that snap on for effortless shareability. It keeps your vino chilled for 24 hours, pours without drips (no tears for spilled rosรฉ, please), and even lets you laser-engrave your own mantra or inside joke. Perfect for picnics, surprise rooftop clinks, or gifting to your favorite wine (or desert) rat. $149,ย HighCampFlasks.com

Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with him on Instagramย @mikeyroxtravels.
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D.C. prepares to party as Pride celebrations kick off Saturday
Bars, clubs have busy lineups; Pride on the Pier returns
Capital Prideโs date change isnโt slowing down the festivities. Back in December, the Capital Pride Alliance shifted the calendar for Pride celebrations in the nationโs capital from the second weekend of June to two weeks later to the weekend of June 20-21 to not conflict with President Trumpโs birthday and 250th anniversary of America celebrations, with the aim that โour community can gather safely and without unnecessary barriersโฆ We are protecting our space and preserving Pride as a powerful act of visibility, solidarity, and resistance.โ
On the heels of WorldPride last year, the city shows no sign of slowing down. Instead, restaurants, bars, clubs, and neighborhoods are taking the opportunity to be even more visible. The Blade has put together a (non-comprehensive) list of parties, activations, and activities across town:
Pride on the Pier returns on Saturday, June 13 to the Wharf on the Southwest waterfront. The event, sponsored and hosted by the Washington Blade, is free and runs from 4-9 p.m. There will be vendors, DJs, and drag performances all day. VIP tickets are $25 and come with air conditioned party room, private bathrooms, and free cocktail. More details at prideonthepierdc.com.
Capital Pride Official Opening Party: RIOT! is the official opening dance party of Capital Pride, taking place Friday June 19, 9 PM-3AM. The 2026 edition headlining performer is Myki Meeks, a finalist of โRuPaulโs Drag Raceโ season 18; Bob The Drag Queen will perform a special set. DMV-area DJs and performers include: Bambi, Baphomette, Bumper, Cake Pop!, Connor, DJ Ed Bailey, DJ Diyanna Monet, Evry Pleasure, Jakknife Complex, Mari Con Carne, Pussy Noir, WessTheDJ. Trade owner Ed Bailey is producing the event.
Kinetic Presents brings the heat across the entirety of Pride weekend as well. It again is partnering with Capital Pride Alliance to produce four events over four days this Pride, including the Official Main Event on Saturday (the Friday official event is at Echostage). Kineticโs parties are splayed across various D.C. venues, with special performances, massive productions, shirtless dancers, play zones, dance-forward audio and visuals, and international DJ talent. Thursday, June 18 at 10 PM at District Eagle is Lust, with music by Dan Slater and TOMI. Friday, June 19 at 10 PM is UNCUT XXL Heavy Load, at A.i. Warehouse in Union Market District, with music by Alex Acosta, Felipe Lira & Mitch Ferrino; the party is a โhigh-octane night of muscular house and tribal rhythms.โ Saturday, June 20 at 10 PM brings that official main event, Kinetic Toy Land, at Echostage, with music by GSP & Matt Suave. Alaska Thunderfuck headlines. Sunday evening June 21 at 10 PM closes with discoVERS at SAX. A portion of tickets supports the DC LGBTQ+ community through Capital Pride Alliance.
9:30 Club always comes in clutch for the LGBTQ community. Already in June, it produced Kitty Kat Ball on June 7, and Kiesza performed on June 8. On June 20 at 10 PM, the famed Mixtape party hits the stage, care of gay DJs Shea van Horn and Matt Bailer, who have spun together for coming up on two decades. Mixtape has been held at several venues across the city over those years, and now settled on 9:30 Club for Pride. On June 25 at 7 PM, Big Freedia – the bounce artist from New Orleans – hits the 9:30 Club scene for the eighth time, as part of the Big Freedom Tour.
Crush: New this year from the 14th Street bar is the Pride Pop-Up, sitting pretty in the parking lot at 1820 14th St., N.W., at the corner of Swann Street by the start of the Pride Parade route. Hours are Friday from 2-10 PM and Saturday from 12-10 PM. Friday evening features Grizzly Bear Happy Hour, a DJ will set up shop on Saturday, and for those needing another layer, thereโs a Crush merch store. Co-owner Mark Rutstein โhas always wanted to throw a party in that parking lot, so he did,โ said co-owner Stephen Rutgers. Note that Crush (the bar) will have a cover on Friday and Saturday.
Kiki: Over at Kiki, thereโs a full slate of Pride-themed programming all week. Tuesday, June 16 at 9 PM brings karaoke; Wednesday, June 17 at 7:30 PM is trivia; Thursday June 18 at 9PM is โNight of 1000 Tatianna’s Drag Showโ, and Friday June 19 at 9 PM brings the Juneteenth Serve Drag Show. Saturday, June 20 at 10 PM, post-parade, is a Pride Dance Party with DJ Lemz. Sunday daytime at 5 PM is the Father Figures Daddy Issues Special Drag Show; and after the festival at 8 PM, DJ Tezrah hits the tapes.
Jane Jane: Right along the parade route, gay-owned Jane Jane has transformed its space into a โNo Kings, Yas Queensโ activation in a direct response to the America 250th commemorations happening downtown, from the colorful window installation, to merch (including a custom bandana and tank) to disco wig installations. Events include industry night on Mondays, donations to LGBTQ charities, and to-go cocktails during the Pride Parade.
Shawโs Tavern: Gay-owned Shawโs Tavern on Florida Avenue celebrates Pride week with a full lineup of themed events, entertainment, and specials, including Pride trivia on Monday, June 15 at 7:30 PM, bingo on Tuesday, June 16 at 8 PM, a cabaret on Thursday, June 18 at 9 PM, Juneteenth Drag Brunch on Friday, June 19 at 12:30 PM, and both a pre-parade brunch (10 AM-4 PM) and post-parade party (5-9 PM) on Saturday, June 20. Sunday, June 21 at 7 PM brings Mama’s Sunday Supper & Drag Pride Show in the evening for anyone who is still awake.
Trade: This classic has a weekend of events, starting on Thursday, with Tiburon Pride Edition, a Latin Dance party in the Shark Tank. On Friday, the bar opens early (at 2 PM), with all-day happy hour and the Jx&Evry Show. On Saturday, the bar opens at noon, offering a prime parade viewing spot from its windows. There will be the CLASH drag show hosted by Tatianna and Crimsyn, and Sweet Spot party that night. On Sunday, the bar opens for normal hours at 2 PM, with DJs Adam K, Alex Love, and WESSTHEDJ.
Pitchers: The multi-level bar in Adams Morgan is hosting a Pride-themed show on Thursday, June 18 at 10 PM, with drawstring bag giveaways – the only kind of bag that will be allowed into the bar during Pride weekend. The show features drag queen Kyle Sonique Love.
Barrel House Cafe and Bar: Also by the parade route on 14th Street, Barrel House Cafe takes advantage of its large patio to have a slate of events during Pride week, including Schism, a drag and burlesque show on June 18 at 10 PM, as well as an all-day Pride party coinciding on parade day.
Bunker: Bunker again plays host to a series of afters. Friday night (Saturday 3:30 AM) is Unhinged, and Saturday night (Sunday 3:30AM) is Unholy. The regular Saturday night party (10 PM) brings in Venetian and Tiara Missou. All parties have cover charges.
District Eagle: Beyond the Kinetic party on Friday, June 19 brings Gear Night at 10 PM; Saturday, June 20 at 10 PM is LOBO presents PRISM, and Sunday, June 21 is Sundaze wit Papi at 6 PM.
African Art Museum: On Thursday, June 18 at 5 PM, this Smithsonian museum is hosting a free event with artists and curators celebrating its exhibit, โHere: Pride and Belonging in African Art,โ โbased on years of close collaboration and dialogue with African visual art practitioners who claim belonging in the LGBTQ+ community, however they define those terms,โ according to the museum.
KNEAD Hospitality & Design: The gay-owned KNEAD restaurant group (including spots like Gatsby, Mi Vida, Succotash The Grill) is featuring the GLITTERATI cocktail, made with Titoโs, St-Germain Elderflower, Butterfly Flower, ginger, and yes, glitter. A portion of proceeds from every Glitterati cocktail sold will benefit The Trevor Project. The cocktail will be sold throughout June.
The Fountain Inn is partnering with Rhodium spirits (Rhode Island’s first LGBTQ+ owned distillery) all month, making cocktails like gimlets and espresso martinis featuring Rhodiumโs liquors. Proceeds benefit SMYAL, an organization dedicated to empowering LGBTQ+ youth.
Hard Rock Cafe: Hard Rock DC is taking part in the chainโs annual โLOVE OUT LOUDโ campaign, with Pride merch, specials on June 20, and a donation to The Trevor Project.
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Fighting โRainbow Panicโ in museums
Hereโs how we can resist the escalation of anti-LGBTQ censorship
Back in February of 2025, I wrote a piece for New York City-based arts publication Hyperallergic about the importance of museums stepping up for their LGBTQ staff. I was right to be concerned. Over the last three years, censorship of LGBTQ histories and art has exploded in the museum field. Discourse surrounding censorship of art and artifacts reflects galleries, libraries, archives, and museums (GLAM) institutions’ push to erase LGBTQ stories, language, and people from not just exhibitions but also the wider museum field.ย
Many now recognize this rush of censorship in the early 2020s as the โrainbow panic,โ first coined by historian Wendy Rouse in her piece published in July 2025.ย
While LGBTQ censorship in GLAM institutions is not new, the recent push to censor queer and trans histories under the Trump administration began in May 2024 when members of the City Council of Lubbock, Texas cut funding for the First Friday Art Trial due to the inclusion of a drag performance.
Additional cancellations followed, including in February 2025, when the Art Museum of the Americas canceled “Nature’s Wild With Andil Gosine” scheduled to open in March. While the museum did not say why, some of Gosine’s work that was set to be part of the exhibition reflected on LGBTQ identity and activism in the Caribbean.
That same month, the National Park Service removed mentions of transgender people from the Stonewall National Memorial website, now seen as a watershed moment in queer erasure. In response, the LGBTQ+ History Association issued a statement warning about the recent moves to censor and erase LGBTQ history and art.
The Association was right to be concerned because the following month, Trump released his Executive Order titled “Restoring Truth and Sanity to American History” where he targeted the National Museum of American History, National Museum of African American History and Culture, and the American Women’s History Museum.
But it wasnโt just erasure, it was also intentional renaming. Also in February 2025, the Scottsdale Museum of Contemporary Art changed its traveling exhibition of work by women, queer and trans artists, changing the title that was originally “transfeminisms.” By June, the Art Institute of Chicago changed the title of an exhibition of Gustave Caillebotte’s work and removed discussions of gender and sexuality from the wall text that were included when the show was displayed in Paris and Los Angeles.
In the last year, censorship has especially escalated with Amy Sherald cancelling her show โAmerican Sublimeโ at the National Portrait Gallery (and moving it to the Baltimore Museum of Art) and art scholar Ignacio Darnaude writing in an Out op-ed that the National Portrait Gallery (NPG) exhibition “Felix Gonzalez-Torres: Always to Return” did not include information about the artist’s queer identity or the work’s connections to AIDS. The National Portrait Gallery has denied claims of erasure.
This leads us to the most recent happening when in February 2026, a Pride flag was removed from the Stonewall National Monument after a directive from the Trump administration. Thankfully, later that month, protesters re-raised the flag. In April 2026, the National Park Service agreed to restore the Pride flag at the Stonewall National Memorial and keep it up permanently. But even with this victory โ the result of queer and trans organizing โ attacks on LGBTQ histories remain.
As the histories we fought to collect and interpret are censored and erased, through museumsโ compliance-in-advance as well as government discrimination and decree, we (I write as a queer GLAM worker) see a willingness to sacrifice those histories and our communities for institutional safety, funding, and government support.
Please know the LGBTQ community will remember the hard truths we learned this past year โ that we and our histories were expendable. If we can be cast aside, hidden, or disowned, whose histories are safe? How can (and can we) rebuild trust in the institutions that failed us this past year? Itโs not just the LGBTQ community. In fact, just this January, the National Park Service removed signage from the Independence National Historical Park in Philadelphia that referenced slavery at the President’s House Site.
Please help us to fight the erasure of queer and trans histories and communities. Please stand with the LGBTQ community (and LGBTQ+ GLAM workers) against the violence we are facing โ not just outside museums, but inside them too.
For ways that you can help to fight historical erasure, including against the LGBTQ community, please consider the following:
Consume queer history content. Whether it be by visiting exhibitions, listening to a podcast, going on a walking tour or lecture, or buying queer history books, your presence and money speak volumes. And learn your local queer histories. Often, we focus on the large-scale histories that surround the Stonewall Uprising, Compton Cafeteria Riots, and other pivotal moments, but thereโs queer history all around us. Itโs time to learn and celebrate these histories.
On that topic, volunteer and contribute your time to local LGBTQ history initiatives. Everyone is based in different parts of the country, so another great option for access are online projects like The Pink Triangle Legacies Project, Queer Zine Archive Project, Queer Digital History Project, and Invisible Histories. Everyone has skills, especially GLAM workers, to support the work of these independent history groups.
Financially support and visit grassroots LGBTQ+ archives and museums. Despite mass censorship and violence over the past year, queer and trans history workers have created and facilitated groundbreaking exhibitions and community action at the Museum of Transology (specifically the TRANSCESTRY exhibition), the Museum of Transgender Hirstory & Art, and other grassroots archives, libraries, and museums created by and for our communities.ย
Queer and trans museum workers refuse to be silenced and shut out of institutions that have long ignored our histories. The work that we do to seek representation is too important, too urgent, to abandon. We look to these grassroots efforts as models for how our institutions can preserve and tell queer and trans histories because many of them were founded themselves during times of censorship and violence.
Find and support your local LGBTQ (and other) employee resource groups and other organizations pushing for transparency and accountability at your workplaces. Right now, many of these groups have gone underground. Where you can, provide mutual aid and financial and organizational support to these groups, and you can be an advocate (especially if you have privilege and protection) for these organizations and their efforts.
Support the unionization of GLAM workers โ show up for pickets and use your attendance and money to support institutions that support and invest in their LGBTQ cultural workers. This past year has been incredibly difficult for LGBTQ museum workers โ from censorship and erasure of our histories to the firing of and discrimination against LGBTQ federal workers, federal agencies have denied our existence, cut off lifesaving care for LGBTQ people, and ordered the termination of employee community resource groups.
Mobilize and fight against anti-LGBTQ legislation affecting your queer and trans GLAM colleagues (and your neighbors). As goes LGBTQ histories and representation, so goes rights for queer and trans museum staff. The best examples of this are the experiences of queer and trans federal and trust workers. Call your representatives, participate in resistance efforts, and contribute to mutual aid supporting people most hurt by the legislation.
Hope is not lost! LGBTQ history, as I can attest, is not going anywhere, but amid the rising tide of censorship and erasure, there has never been a more important time to show up in support of LGBTQ preservation, curation, and education efforts. As the victory surrounding the Pride flag at the Stonewall National Monument represents, these are hard-fought battles but ones that we can win with your support.
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From Media Matters to massive queer ragers: the rise of Tara Dikhof
The Washington Blade sits down with the DJ and drag star on her summer tour, rise to prominence, and how Musk helped shape her path.
Before becoming the โfull-time party girlโ with the power to turn any room with Instagram Reels into a dingy dance floor packed with queer people โ at least for a minute or two โ Tara Dikhof was much like a lot of queer Washingtonians: upset at how the first Trump administration quickly began attacking marginalized communitiesโ rights, and in need of a creative, constructive outlet.
โI used to be a journalist at Media Matters, where I worked on our online extremism and LGBTQ program,โ Tara Dikhof told the Blade when asked how she became the actualized drag performer she is today. โI did extensive work documenting how the right wing media ecosystem poisons the debate on queer issues โ and spreads virulent lies about LGBTQ people online.โ
Media Matters is a nonprofit that describes itself as a โprogressive research and information centerโ with the goal of โmonitoring, analyzing, and correcting conservative misinformation in the U.S. media.โ
Tara, who, while working at Media Matters lived up to that goal. She wrote โ or assisted the media watchdog with โ more than 150 articles for the web-based organization. While she covered a wide variety of topics, she became a leading voice covering Joe Rogan during her tenure as a senior researcher for the LGBTQ Program at Media Matters.

โI think some of my most impactful work from my time at Media Matters was when I was the leading journalist reporting on Joe Roganโs extremism and right wing misinformation. I broke the story that he was encouraging young people not to get the COVID vaccine,โ Dikhof said. โI reported that the presidential debates hadnโt asked a question about LGBTQ issues since the 2000s. I also led a study looking at TV news reporting on anti-trans violence, showing that TV news stations, cable and broadcast combined, collectively reported on anti-trans violence for less than an hour almost every year.โ
In addition to media coverage, Dikhof also worked on the inside as a Truman-Albright Fellow and policy analyst at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, working to improve the health and safety of Americans.
That effort was recognized from both sides of the political aisle. She and her detailed research appeared in a slew of outlets, includingDemocracy Now!, The Atlantic, and even the Bladeโs West Coast sister publication, the LA Blade, among others. While her work began making headlines informing people about the dangers of under coverage of LGBTQ issues, it also garnered attention from staunch anti-LGBTQ voices.
One of those voices โ and the one Dikhof ultimately credits as the reason she bowed out of the media watchdog world โ was Elon Musk. Musk, the CEO of Tesla, founder and chief engineer of SpaceX, and owner of X, was not pleased with coverage of the platformโs questionable practices under his leadership. The app relaxed censorship policies, dissolved its Trust and Safety Council, and reinstated thousands of previously banned accounts โ many of them far-right accounts found to be pushing harmful misinformation and disinformation.
โHe was trying to silence fact-based journalism that revealed that his platform X was running advertisements next to Nazi content,โ Dikhof said. โWhen you’re facing lawsuits against the richest man in the world, unfortunately, the facts don’t matter as much.โ
She said it led to her being let go from the media watchdog organization โ something she had worked so long to help grow awareness about the dangers of growing authoritarianism on platforms and across the airwaves.
โThat was incredibly devastating. I dedicated my entire adult life to the progressive movement, to trying to stop right wing misinformation, and to have that drop out from under me was defeating, to say the least. But you canโt keep a powerful girl down.โ
She didnโt stay down for long. She tapped into the drag and DJ world after leaving the nationโs capital. Since then, she has expanded on her drag journey and opened for some of the worldโs biggest performers โ from Aliyahโs Interlude, to Violet Chachki, to massive pop superstar Chappell Roan. It seems the Dikhof rocket has taken off and doesnโt look like itโs slowing down.

That switch, she explained, has her feeling like she is doing more for the LGBTQ community than she could at Media Matters.
โI started throwing parties and community events for queer people in Boston, and I now throw parties for over 1,200 people a month,โ she said. โI honestly donโt feel like Iโve ever had more of an impact on queer and trans people than I am now. I believe, from the bottom of my heart, that getting a group of LGBTQ people in a room together and letting them radically express themselves through dance and movement and to build new friendships and to find the love of their life โ is a radical act.โ
Her goal is simple โ provide a place for LGBTQ people, specifically trans people, to let down their hair โ or in her case, giant wigs and fantastical headpieces โ and just dance.
โIโm just trying to give people a space to exist, which for a lot of queer and trans people right now is not something they can do. They donโt feel safe at work, they donโt feel safe at home, they donโt feel safe in public, and the one oasis that they can access is the gay club. Itโs a place where they can dress however they want, they can love whoever they want.โ
That radical act, she explained, should be as inclusive as America is diverse. She sees the waves of conservatism that have hit the federal government โ and state offices around the country swinging to the right โ reflected in the nightlife scene she encounters. LGBTQ clubs have long been a proxy for the social standards in mainstream America, which often focus heavily on young, white, cisgender men.
โIt is one of the most connecting things we can do while weโre on this planet. My guiding light is, I am trying to build dance floors that are multigenerational and multiracial. Iโm trying to start a new chapter in queer nightlife, where dance floors arenโt just dominated by white, buff gay men.โ
While in-person nightlife has led to a diverse dance floor thumping with bops from Slayyyterโs new release โWor$t Girl In Americaโ to gay club classics like Ariana Grandeโs โInto Youโ โ with wild-haired Dikhof at the helm in looks that could make even Cher do a double take โ her rise has also been immensely assisted by some of the very platforms she once called out while living in Washington.
She has amassed quite the following โ 142,000 followers on Instagram, 2.6 million likes on TikTok, and thousands of streams on SoundCloud.
Despite this growing and visibly powerful media presence, she has hard limits on when and where she deems it appropriate. The dance floor is not always one of those places โ not just due to the growing data on the harm social media causes to usersโ health, but also to stay true to her goal of helping the LGBTQ community become a stronger, more accepting place.
โSocial media promises connection and relationships, but itโs not true. What we actually need is a way for people to put their phones down and connect with others in real life,โ she said. โIโm trying to build a coalition that represents the true power of the LGBTQ community, where we can all exist in harmony together. At a lot of my parties, I have a no-phones policy, because what I want people to do is disconnect from social media, disconnect from our system of mass surveillance, and just be present for a few hours.โ

โFor my party, Feral, which is [a] no-phones LGBTQ rager, at the door before anyone enters the party, we tell them our partyโs policies, and we make sure they have a verbal yes agreeing to them,โ she said. โThose policies are no phones, no photos, no videos on the dance floor, treat yourself and others with respect.โ
She sees this intentional inclusivity as a major way to combat the hate trickling down from the Trump-Vance administration and regurgitated by mainstream media organizations that feed into that bias.
โI believe that we can create, and we can continue to build radical change in this country on the dance floor. So much mainstream media has consistently allowed conservative media to set the terms of debate for LGBTQ rights. Mainstream media outlets like the Washington Post, outlets like New York Times, put trans rights up for debate when we can all agree that human rights are not something that we can debate.โ
She continued, explaining that the bias mainstream media imposes โ like with The New York Timesโ consistently criticized coverage of transgender people, which often has little or no actual transgender voices in its reporting โ frames these issues as cultural debates rather than basic human rights.
โThese mainstream outlets donโt debunk those claims. They donโt push back on them. We need to say that lesbians belong at the gay club. We need to say that we donโt tolerate anti-Black discrimination at the gay club. We need to say that trans people deserve to be loud and messy in the gay club, just like everyone else gets to.โ
She explained that what she is trying to do is simple in theory โ make the space truly a dance haven for everyone in the community.
โWhat Iโm really trying to do is Iโm trying to open a portal of transcendence. Iโm trying to create magical moments where all of the problems in the world drop out of your mind.โ
Dikhof attempts to do this, she explained, by tapping into that deeply human โ and animalistic โ need for connection.
โHumans are primates and primates are animals that need physical touch. We need community spaces, and increasingly, with social media, late stage capitalism, and a horrible economic outlook, people donโt have a public forum to connect with others. There have been nights where I have taken a $3,000 loss, but itโs part of it.โ
To her, the value queer nightlife gives to the community canโt be measured by ticket sales or ad clicks โ itโs measured by acts of queer joy and defiance that echo the communityโs need for broader survival in an era of book bans and hostility for the sake of cruelty.
โAll we need is a room for four hours, a DJ, a working sound system, and a community that cares about protecting each other. If you have that, you can create total bliss. I think the beauty and transcendence of queer nightlife is something that Republican lawmakers will probably never understand.โ
She sees the dance floor as just as important for queer people as the Senate floor. Not separate from politics โ it is politics.
โI do believe that having queer community spaces is an integral part of political organizing. We cannot let the bastards steal our joy. Getting out of the house and being loudly queer is a form of resistance.โ

โRight now, Iโm really living my wildest dreams and Iโm hungry. This is just the beginning for Tara Dikhof. Weโre living in a society where we have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, and God like technology, and I am going to use that God like technology to the best of my ability.โ
Tara Dikhof is currently on her summer tour, starting at Project GLOW for Queer Chaos in Washington. She will return โ after crisscrossing the country โ to perform at Bunker on June 20 during Capital Pride weekend.
