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Ultimate guide to queer gift giving

Champagne, candles, cologne, lawnmowers, and more

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Some gifts scream practical, others whisper luxury, and a few flat-out blur the lines. From cocoa that feels ceremonial to a cologne that linger like a suggestive smirk, this yearโ€™s ultimate gift picks prove that thoughtful (and occasionally naughty) presents donโ€™t have to be prosaic. Welcome to your holiday cheat sheet for festive tangibles that get noticed, remembered, and maybe even result in a peck of gratitude planted under the mistletoe. Consensually, of course.


Amber Glass Champagne Flutes

Pop the champs โ€“ but make it vintage. These tulip-shaped stunners in amber-tinted glass bring all the Gatsby vibes without the Jazz-age drama. Whether youโ€™re toasting a milestone or celebrating a Tuesday, their seven-ounce capacities and hand-wash-only care make โ€˜em as practical as they are pretty. Pair with a thoughtful bottle of bubs and gift with a glittering wink. $18,ย NantucketLooms.com


Disaster Playbook by Here Comes the Apocalypse

Because the end of the world shouldnโ€™t be a solo act, this spiral-bound guide is your step-by-step roadmap to surviving and thriving when everything else goes sideways, which might be sooner than you think. Packed with checklists, drills, and a healthy dose of humor, itโ€™s like a survival manual written by your most prepared (and slightly snarky) friend. Whether youโ€™re prepping for a zombie apocalypse or, more realistically, REVOLUTION!, this playbookโ€™s got your back. $40,ย HereComesTheApocalypse.com


Wickless Vulva Candles

Bold, luxurious, and completely flame-free, CTOANโ€™s wickless candles melt from beneath on a warmer, releasing subtle, sophisticated fragrances, like sandalwood or lavender. The vulva-shaped wax adds a playful, provocative element to any space โ€“perfect for a bedroom, living room, or anywhere you want elegance with an edge. A gift that celebrates form, intimacy and self-expression, no fire required. $39,ย CTOANCO.com


Villeroy & Boch Royal Classic Christmas Collection

Every meal is a mini celebration โ€“ with whimsy at every place setting โ€“ in Villeroy & Bochโ€™s Royal Classic festive dinnerware collection that hits all the right notes. Made from premium German porcelain, it features nostalgic little toys, nutcrackers, and rocking horses in delicate relief, giving your holiday spread a playful but refined twist. Dishwasher- and microwave-safe, itโ€™s luxe without the fuss. Gift a piece to a special someone, or start a collection theyโ€™ll use (and show off) for years to come. $22-$363,ย Villeroy-Boch.com


Greenworks Electric Lawnmower

You a โ€™hood queen who considers lawn care performance art โ€“ or just wants to rule the cul-de-sac in quiet, emission-free glory? Greenworksโ€™ zero-turn electric mower has the muscle of a 24-horsepower gas engine but none of the fumes, drama or maintenance. Six 60V batteries and a 42-inch deck mean you can mow up to two-and-a-half acres on a single charge โ€“ then plug in, recharge, and ride again. Itโ€™s whisper-quiet, slope-ready, and smooth enough to make you wonder why you ever pushed anything besides your queer agenda. The perfect gift for the homeowner who loves sustainability, symmetry, and showing off their freshly striped yard like that fresh fade you get on Fridays. $5,000,ย GreenworksTools.com


Molekule Air Purifier

For the friend who treats their space like a sanctuary (or just canโ€™t stand sneezes), the Molekule Air Pro is magic in motion. Covering up to 1,000โ€ฏsquare feet, it doesnโ€™t just capture allergens, VOCs, and smoke โ€“ it destroys them, leaving your air feeling luxury-clean. FDA-cleared as a Classโ€ฏII medical device, itโ€™s serious science disguised as modern design. Gift it to your city-dwelling, pet-loving, candle-burning friend who likes their living room as pristine as their Instagram feed. $1,015,ย Molekule.com


Cipriani Prosecco Gift Set

Effervescent with stone-fruit sweetness and a touch of Italian flair, the Cipriani Bellini & Prosecco gift set brings brunch-level glamour to any day of the week. The Bellini blends rich white-peach purรฉe with sparkling wine, while the dry โ€™secco keeps things crisp and celebratory. Pop a bottle, pour a flute, and suddenly winter weeknights feel like a party โ€“ even with your pants off. $36,ย TotalWine.com


Woo(e)d Cologne

British GQ recently crowned Woo(e)d by ALTAIA the โ€œBest Date Night Fragrance,โ€ and honestly, they nailed it. Confident without being cocky โ€“ smoky gaรฏac and Atlas cedarwood grounds the room while supple leather and spicy cardamom do all the flirting โ€“ itโ€™s a scent that lingers like good conversation and soft candlelight. Gift it to the one who always turns heads โ€“ or keep it for yourself and let them come to (and then on) you. $255,ย BeautyHabit.com


Lococo Cocoa Kit

Keep the run-of-the-mill mugs in the cabinet this Christmas and pull out Lococoโ€™s handcrafted Oaxacan versions that demand you slow down and sip like it matters. Paired with a wooden scoop, rechargeable frother, and Lococoโ€™s signature spice hot-chocolate blend (vegan, gluten-free, with adaptogenic mushrooms), this holiday kit turns Mexi-cocoa into a mini ritual youโ€™ll look forward to. Perfect for anyone who loves a little indulgence with a side of ยกA huevo! energy.


Manta Sleep Mask

Total blackout, zero pressure on the eyes, and Bluetooth speakers built right into the straps, this ainโ€™t your mamaโ€™s sleep mask โ€” but it could be. The Manta SOUND sleep mask features C-shaped eye cups that block every hint of light while ultra-thin speakers deliver your favorite white noise, meditation, or late-night playlist straight to your ears. With 24-hour battery life, breathable fabric, and easy-to-adjust sound, it turns any bed (or airplane seat) into a five-star sleep suite. Perfect for anyone who treats shut-eye like an art form (or just wants to escape their roommateโ€™s late-night binginโ€™ and/or banginโ€™). $159,ย MantaSleep.com


Shacklelock Necklace

Turn the industrial-chic vibe of a shackle into a sleek statement. Mi Tesoroโ€™s platinum-plated stainless-steel necklace sits on an 18-inch wheat chain, featuring a shackle-style latch pendant thatโ€™s waterproof, tarnish-free, and totally fuss-les. Beyond style, it nods to a classic gesture in the queer leather community: replacing a traditional Master lock with something elegant to quietly signal belonging to someone special. Wear it solo for a minimalist edge or layer it like you mean it; either way this piece locks in both your look and your intentions. $90,ย MiTesoroJewelry.com


Parkside Flask Mojave Edition

Wine nights get a desert glow-up with Parksideโ€™s limited-edition 750-milliliter all-in-one flask draped in sun-washed bronze and badland hues like sage, sand, and terracotta โ€“ with magnetic stemless tumblers that snap on for effortless shareability. It keeps your vino chilled for 24 hours, pours without drips (no tears for spilled rosรฉ, please), and even lets you laser-engrave your own mantra or inside joke. Perfect for picnics, surprise rooftop clinks, or gifting to your favorite wine (or desert) rat. $149,ย HighCampFlasks.com


Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with him on Instagramย @mikeyroxtravels.

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From Media Matters to massive queer ragers: the rise of Tara Dikhof

The Washington Blade sits down with the DJ and drag star on her summer tour, rise to prominence, and how Musk helped shape her path.

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Tara Dikhof is ready for Queer Chaos in D.C. (Photo courtesy of Alejandro Carvajal)

Before becoming the โ€œfull-time party girlโ€ with the power to turn any room with Instagram Reels into a dingy dance floor packed with queer people โ€” at least for a minute or two โ€” Tara Dikhof was much like a lot of queer Washingtonians: upset at how the first Trump administration quickly began attacking marginalized communitiesโ€™ rights, and in need of a creative, constructive outlet.

โ€œI used to be a journalist at Media Matters, where I worked on our online extremism and LGBTQ program,โ€ Tara Dikhof told the Blade when asked how she became the actualized drag performer she is today. โ€œI did extensive work documenting how the right wing media ecosystem poisons the debate on queer issues โ€” and spreads virulent lies about LGBTQ people online.โ€

Media Matters is a nonprofit that describes itself as a โ€œprogressive research and information centerโ€ with the goal of โ€œmonitoring, analyzing, and correcting conservative misinformation in the U.S. media.โ€

Tara, who, while working at Media Matters lived up to that goal. She wrote โ€” or assisted the media watchdog with โ€” more than 150 articles for the web-based organization. While she covered a wide variety of topics, she became a leading voice covering Joe Rogan during her tenure as a senior researcher for the LGBTQ Program at Media Matters.

Tara Dikhof in one of her usual, over the top, queer fantastical outfits she wears when DJ-ing and performing. (Photo courtesy of Alejandro Carvajal)

โ€œI think some of my most impactful work from my time at Media Matters was when I was the leading journalist reporting on Joe Roganโ€™s extremism and right wing misinformation. I broke the story that he was encouraging young people not to get the COVID vaccine,โ€ Dikhof said. โ€œI reported that the presidential debates hadnโ€™t asked a question about LGBTQ issues since the 2000s. I also led a study looking at TV news reporting on anti-trans violence, showing that TV news stations, cable and broadcast combined, collectively reported on anti-trans violence for less than an hour almost every year.โ€

In addition to media coverage, Dikhof also worked on the inside as a Truman-Albright Fellow and policy analyst at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, working to improve the health and safety of Americans.

That effort was recognized from both sides of the political aisle. She and her detailed research appeared in a slew of outlets, includingDemocracy Now!, The Atlantic, and even the Bladeโ€™s West Coast sister publication, the LA Blade, among others. While her work began making headlines informing people about the dangers of under coverage of LGBTQ issues, it also garnered attention from staunch anti-LGBTQ voices.

One of those voices โ€” and the one Dikhof ultimately credits as the reason she bowed out of the media watchdog world โ€” was Elon Musk. Musk, the CEO of Tesla, founder and chief engineer of SpaceX, and owner of X, was not pleased with coverage of the platformโ€™s questionable practices under his leadership. The app relaxed censorship policies, dissolved its Trust and Safety Council, and reinstated thousands of previously banned accounts โ€” many of them far-right accounts found to be pushing harmful misinformation and disinformation.

โ€œHe was trying to silence fact-based journalism that revealed that his platform X was running advertisements next to Nazi content,โ€ Dikhof said. โ€œWhen you’re facing lawsuits against the richest man in the world, unfortunately, the facts don’t matter as much.โ€

She said it led to her being let go from the media watchdog organization โ€” something she had worked so long to help grow awareness about the dangers of growing authoritarianism on platforms and across the airwaves.

โ€œThat was incredibly devastating. I dedicated my entire adult life to the progressive movement, to trying to stop right wing misinformation, and to have that drop out from under me was defeating, to say the least. But you canโ€™t keep a powerful girl down.โ€

She didnโ€™t stay down for long. She tapped into the drag and DJ world after leaving the nationโ€™s capital. Since then, she has expanded on her drag journey and opened for some of the worldโ€™s biggest performers โ€” from Aliyahโ€™s Interlude, to Violet Chachki, to massive pop superstar Chappell Roan. It seems the Dikhof rocket has taken off and doesnโ€™t look like itโ€™s slowing down.

Tara Dikhof DJ-ing for a huge, queer crowd. (Photo courtesy of Adrianna Dirany)

That switch, she explained, has her feeling like she is doing more for the LGBTQ community than she could at Media Matters.

โ€œI started throwing parties and community events for queer people in Boston, and I now throw parties for over 1,200 people a month,โ€ she said. โ€œI honestly donโ€™t feel like Iโ€™ve ever had more of an impact on queer and trans people than I am now. I believe, from the bottom of my heart, that getting a group of LGBTQ people in a room together and letting them radically express themselves through dance and movement and to build new friendships and to find the love of their life โ€” is a radical act.โ€

Her goal is simple โ€” provide a place for LGBTQ people, specifically trans people, to let down their hair โ€” or in her case, giant wigs and fantastical headpieces โ€” and just dance.

โ€œIโ€™m just trying to give people a space to exist, which for a lot of queer and trans people right now is not something they can do. They donโ€™t feel safe at work, they donโ€™t feel safe at home, they donโ€™t feel safe in public, and the one oasis that they can access is the gay club. Itโ€™s a place where they can dress however they want, they can love whoever they want.โ€

That radical act, she explained, should be as inclusive as America is diverse. She sees the waves of conservatism that have hit the federal government โ€” and state offices around the country swinging to the right โ€” reflected in the nightlife scene she encounters. LGBTQ clubs have long been a proxy for the social standards in mainstream America, which often focus heavily on young, white, cisgender men.

โ€œIt is one of the most connecting things we can do while weโ€™re on this planet. My guiding light is, I am trying to build dance floors that are multigenerational and multiracial. Iโ€™m trying to start a new chapter in queer nightlife, where dance floors arenโ€™t just dominated by white, buff gay men.โ€

While in-person nightlife has led to a diverse dance floor thumping with bops from Slayyyterโ€™s new release โ€œWor$t Girl In Americaโ€ to gay club classics like Ariana Grandeโ€™s โ€œInto Youโ€ โ€” with wild-haired Dikhof at the helm in looks that could make even Cher do a double take โ€” her rise has also been immensely assisted by some of the very platforms she once called out while living in Washington.

She has amassed quite the following โ€” 142,000 followers on Instagram, 2.6 million likes on TikTok, and thousands of streams on SoundCloud.

Despite this growing and visibly powerful media presence, she has hard limits on when and where she deems it appropriate. The dance floor is not always one of those places โ€” not just due to the growing data on the harm social media causes to usersโ€™ health, but also to stay true to her goal of helping the LGBTQ community become a stronger, more accepting place.

โ€œSocial media promises connection and relationships, but itโ€™s not true. What we actually need is a way for people to put their phones down and connect with others in real life,โ€ she said. โ€œIโ€™m trying to build a coalition that represents the true power of the LGBTQ community, where we can all exist in harmony together. At a lot of my parties, I have a no-phones policy, because what I want people to do is disconnect from social media, disconnect from our system of mass surveillance, and just be present for a few hours.โ€

Tara Dikhof getting “FERAL” at her monthly party. (Photo courtesy of ZIGGSPHOTO)

โ€œFor my party, Feral, which is [a] no-phones LGBTQ rager, at the door before anyone enters the party, we tell them our partyโ€™s policies, and we make sure they have a verbal yes agreeing to them,โ€ she said. โ€œThose policies are no phones, no photos, no videos on the dance floor, treat yourself and others with respect.โ€

She sees this intentional inclusivity as a major way to combat the hate trickling down from the Trump-Vance administration and regurgitated by mainstream media organizations that feed into that bias.

โ€œI believe that we can create, and we can continue to build radical change in this country on the dance floor. So much mainstream media has consistently allowed conservative media to set the terms of debate for LGBTQ rights. Mainstream media outlets like the Washington Post, outlets like New York Times, put trans rights up for debate when we can all agree that human rights are not something that we can debate.โ€

She continued, explaining that the bias mainstream media imposes โ€” like with The New York Timesโ€™ consistently criticized coverage of transgender people, which often has little or no actual transgender voices in its reporting โ€” frames these issues as cultural debates rather than basic human rights.

โ€œThese mainstream outlets donโ€™t debunk those claims. They donโ€™t push back on them. We need to say that lesbians belong at the gay club. We need to say that we donโ€™t tolerate anti-Black discrimination at the gay club. We need to say that trans people deserve to be loud and messy in the gay club, just like everyone else gets to.โ€

She explained that what she is trying to do is simple in theory โ€” make the space truly a dance haven for everyone in the community.

โ€œWhat Iโ€™m really trying to do is Iโ€™m trying to open a portal of transcendence. Iโ€™m trying to create magical moments where all of the problems in the world drop out of your mind.โ€

Dikhof attempts to do this, she explained, by tapping into that deeply human โ€” and animalistic โ€” need for connection.

โ€œHumans are primates and primates are animals that need physical touch. We need community spaces, and increasingly, with social media, late stage capitalism, and a horrible economic outlook, people donโ€™t have a public forum to connect with others. There have been nights where I have taken a $3,000 loss, but itโ€™s part of it.โ€

To her, the value queer nightlife gives to the community canโ€™t be measured by ticket sales or ad clicks โ€” itโ€™s measured by acts of queer joy and defiance that echo the communityโ€™s need for broader survival in an era of book bans and hostility for the sake of cruelty.

โ€œAll we need is a room for four hours, a DJ, a working sound system, and a community that cares about protecting each other. If you have that, you can create total bliss. I think the beauty and transcendence of queer nightlife is something that Republican lawmakers will probably never understand.โ€

She sees the dance floor as just as important for queer people as the Senate floor. Not separate from politics โ€” it is politics.

โ€œI do believe that having queer community spaces is an integral part of political organizing. We cannot let the bastards steal our joy. Getting out of the house and being loudly queer is a form of resistance.โ€

Tara Dikhof dancing at one of her “FERAL” shows. (Photo courtesy of ZIGGSPHOTO)

โ€œRight now, Iโ€™m really living my wildest dreams and Iโ€™m hungry. This is just the beginning for Tara Dikhof. Weโ€™re living in a society where we have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions, and God like technology, and I am going to use that God like technology to the best of my ability.โ€

Tara Dikhof is currently on her summer tour, starting at Project GLOW for Queer Chaos in Washington. She will return โ€” after crisscrossing the country โ€” to perform at Bunker on June 20 during Capital Pride weekend.

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What is queer food?

Two experts tackle unique question in conference, books

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The 2026 Queer Food Conference was held earlier this month in Montreal. (Photo courtesy the conference)

Just as humans have always had meals, queer humans, too, have enjoyed meals. Yet what is it that makes “queer foodโ€ distinct?

At the beginning of May in Montreal, the Queer Food Conference 2026 sought not to answer that question, but to further interrogate it. The conference united scholars, activists, artists, journalists, farmers, chefs, and other food industry professionals for three days of panels, workshops, discussions, and, yes, meals, in an inclusive, thoughtful, contemplative-yet-whimsical environment, taking a comprehensive view of the landscape of queer food.

The two organizers โ€“ Professor Alex Ketchum, at the Institute for Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies of McGill University in Montreal, and Professor Megan Elias, Director of Food Studies & Gastronomy at Boston University โ€“ met in 2022 when Elias acted as a peer reviewer for Ketchumโ€™s second book, โ€œIngredients for a Revolution,” a wide-ranging history of more than 230 feminist and lesbian-feminist restaurants, cafes, and coffeehouses from 1972 to the present in the US.

Elias, taken by the book and its exploration, invited Ketchum to speak at one of Eliasโ€™s courses, at which pastries were served and feminist bread making was baked into conversation. Elias floated the idea of co-organizing a queer food conference โ€“ and a hot 24 hours later, Ketchum said yes, with plans sketched out, from grants to topics to speakers. In parallel, the duo started to conceptualize โ€œQueers at the Table,โ€ a book based on their work (published last year).

The conference, the book, the research: their work is, in part, grounded in the question: What is queer food? True to queer theory, each has her own nuanced response as drivers of their research, challenging the traditional and looking beyond norms of food studies. Ketchumโ€™s view is that it is grounded on food by and for the queer community, in specific histories, and especially in the labor behind the food. Elias posits that queer food is at the intersection of queerness and culinary studies, beyond gender norms and binaries, back to the societal basics of queer food as part of queer humans always having meals. โ€œQueer food destabilizes assumptions about food, gender and sexuality, making space for a wider range of relationships to food,โ€ she says.

The academicsโ€™ professed enthusiasm, however, rarely reached beyond small circles.

โ€œI regularly attended big food studies conferences, but almost never saw presentations about gender identity beyond women’s roles,โ€ says Elias about her prior work, and when her students would ask for additional literature about sexuality and food, results had been sparse. Ketchum echoed this gap: When she was in graduate studies, she received hesitation from leadership about her chosen field of study. By 2024, however, queer food as an area of study and practice had grown, whether in popular culture or well as in publishing, setting the stage for the first Queer Food Conference in 2024 in Boston. Their aim at that even was to launch the subfield of queer food studies into the mainstream, so that fellow academics, students, and those interested in the space could convene, โ€œcreating space for others to build,โ€ says Ketchum. โ€œPeople were enthusiastic.โ€

Once Ketchum and Elias published โ€œQueers at the Tableโ€ in 2025 (notably, gay author John Birdsall also published a book examining queer identity through food last year, โ€œWhat Is Queer Food?โ€), they laid the foundation for the 2026 conference in Montreal. This edition was an โ€œembodiedโ€ conference, inclusive of various ontologies in queer food studies: theory, labor, art, taste, an interdisciplinary, expansive grounding.

Topics ranged from cookbooks and influencers to farming and land movements, bars and cafes, brewing and baking, history and sociology, writing and printmaking, healthcare and community, and centering marginalized โ€“ especially trans โ€“ voices.

Naturally, food was centered. The conferenceโ€™s keynotes were not academics, but the chefs themselves who created the food with their own hands that attendees ate over the three days. โ€œNot to disregard a pure academic space,โ€ says Ketchum, โ€œbut to not have food in a room when we talk about food would be wild.โ€

Jackson Tucker, a Distinguished Graduate Fellow at the University of Delaware, said that โ€œWhat I found [at the conference] was a genuinely diverse gathering: scholars who did grounded social research but also practitioners, organizers, and people who had never thought about an academic conference in their lives and didnโ€™t need to. That mix is the soul of this whole project for me. Without the people who are out in the world doing queer food, the conference wouldnโ€™t exist.โ€

Ketchum โ€“ her home being Montreal โ€“ also worked to fold in community-driven events so that attendees could get a taste of queer food in the city outside of classroom walls; for example, attendees participated in a collaborative evening pizza-making class at a queer-owned pizzeria.

The interdisciplinary nature of the conference led to sharing of research, thoughts, activities, and planning. There was a โ€œvalue of bringing people together of different backgrounds, which leads to richer discussion,โ€ she says.

Elias picked up on this theme: โ€œI saw people bonding and connecting and believing in Queer Food Studies,โ€ โ€“ one of the central goals that Ketchum noted, further legitimizing a nascent field. As both professors continue their research and leadership, they envision a continued layering of centering the queer experience and community through the shared value and study of food.

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Gay Men’s Chorus celebrates 45 years at annual gala

‘Sapphire & Sparkle’ Spring Affair held at the Ritz Carlton

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17th Street Dance performs at the Gay Men's Chorus of Washington's Spring Affair 'Sapphire & Sparkle' gala at the Ritz Carlton Washington, D.C. on Saturday, May 16. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

The Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington held the annual Spring Affair gala at the Ritz Carlton Washington, D.C. on Saturday. The theme for this year’s fete was “Sapphire & Sparkle.” The chorus celebrated 45 years in D.C. with musical performances, food, entertainment, and an awards ceremony.

Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington Executive Director Justin Fyala and Artistic Director Thea Kano gave welcoming speeches. Opening remarks were delivered by Spring Affair co-chairs Tracy Barlow and Tomeika Bowden. Uproariously funny comedian Murray Hill performed a stand-up set and served as the emcee.

There were performances by Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington groups Potomac Fever, 17th Street Dance, the Rock Creek Singers, Seasons of Love, and the GenOUT Youth Chorus.

Anjali Murthy speaks at the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington’s Spring Affair on Saturday, May 16. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Anjali Murthy, a member of the chorus and a graduate of the GenOUT Youth Chorus, addressed the attendees of the gala.

“The LGBTQ+ community isn’t bound by blood ties: we are brought together by shared experience,” Murthy said. “Being Gen Z, I grew up with Ellen [DeGeneres] telling me through the TV screen that it gets better: that one day, it’ll all be okay. The sentiment isn’t wrong, but it’s passive. What I’ve learned from GMCW is that our future is something we practice together. It exists because people like you continue to show up for it, to believe in the possibilities of what we’re still becoming”

The event concluded with the presentation of the annual Harmony Awards. This year’s awardees included local drag artist and activist Tara Hoot, the human rights organization Rainbow Railroad as well as Rocky Mountain Arts Association Executive Director, Dr. Chipper Dean.

(Washington Blade photos and videos by Michael Key)

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