January 5, 2012 at 10:11 am EST | by Meghann Novinskie and Kim Rosenberg
How to keep your resolutions

We love this time of the year. Many new clients come to us because they have decided to be proactive and do something different this year to change their single status.

Many want to make drastic changes in their lives in January and strive to make this year better than the last. Setting these goals usually comes with a lot of internal pressure, which leads to failure in many cases. Positive change is great, but change can be hard. Here are some tips on how to keep your resolutions for 2012, while pushing yourself outside your comfort zone to achieve them.

Before making your resolutions, always make sure they’re attainable. Think:  Can I stick to this resolution on a bad day? Can I continue to reset my goals as I accomplish the small ones? Can I really do this?

Being successful achieving lofty goals is easier when you release some of the extra pressure put on yourself by hiring a professional coach or working together with a buddy for support. Having a clear plan put in place by yourself and an adviser is always an effective way to achieve your goals. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from different support systems.                 .

If you are someone who wants to lose 20 pounds by the middle of May so you can be bikini/board short ready for summer, start making changes now. Yes, big lifestyle changes and weight loss can be difficult, but not if you put things into perspective. Small adjustments, such as shifting your food choices, eating smaller portions, limiting your alcohol intake, hitting the gym regularly (and actually sweating there) are doable for just about anyone. However, to truly be successful and efficient, you may need a trainer. Sure, you will have to invest more financially upfront, but you’ll have extra cash leftover anyway from all the booze/desserts/cigarettes you aren’t buying.

On that note, chances are if you read our column regularly and follow us on Facebook and Twitter, you have a goal of finding that “special someone” in 2012. Yes, we know —dating isn’t easy. So before you decide you are ready to be proactive and hire a matchmaker, ask yourself a few questions. Most importantly, are you in a position (emotionally, physically, financially) to start dating? Are you clear about what you are looking for in a relationship/partner, and is it a realistic vision? Are you ready to let go of control and perhaps “date outside the box?”

If you are single and wondering why, here’s news: What you are doing isn’t working for you. It doesn’t mean you’re not “dateable” or won’t ever find someone; you just need to be proactive. Pushing yourself to find someone outside your comfort zone is hard to do on your own. Let an expert — a matchmaker, a therapist, a relationship coach — help you achieve your relationship goals and support you in the process.

Many of us resolve in the new year to further our careers and professional stability. Is this the year you want to take your career to the next level? Are you ready to branch out on your own and start your dream business? It’s going to be tough, but there is nothing better than being passionate and loving what you do for a living. You can do all the planning in the world to launch the next stage of your career, but sometimes getting over that next hump and getting motivated to work twice as hard to get there requires working with a mentor.

Hiring experts to assist you in keeping your new year’s resolutions is a great use of your time and money. Remember that using support systems is only going to allow you to achieve your goals efficiently and effectively. Be sure that you are in a good place in all aspects of your life, prior to making changes. Change will only be welcomed if you are ready to push yourself outside your comfort zone.  Don’t expect to see results unless you make a true effort to change. Change takes time. Change is hard, but don’t be afraid of it.

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