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Queery: Dito Sevilla

The Floriana bar manager answers 20 gay questions

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(Blade photo by Michael Key)

The story of Dito Sevilla coming out to his father ā€” as he tells it ā€” is like hearing a rapid-fire stand-up comedy routine. It would be impossible to duplicate in print but its core components ā€” a decree from his mother that he tell his father within days and a horoscope that led to confession-via-fax ā€” give Sevilla a lot of fodder with which to play.

Shifting voices and accents ā€” his family is Nicaraguan ā€” and bringing into play several relatives, his description is a tour de force. It incorporates much of the charm and personality Sevilla undoubtedly uses at Floriana, where heā€™s been bar manager since 2004, a gig he stumbled into. He was working on his aunt and uncleā€™s web business at the time when the spot opened and the owners, who knew him as a regular, twisted his arm to join their staff. Heā€™d just closed an antique store in Kensington, Md., and was ready for something new.

The 32-year-old has spent most of his life in the D.C. area. He was born near Georgetown and has also lived in Forest Hills and Potomac, Md. He went to college in Delaware and spent four summers with his family in Argentina, but considers D.C. home. Heā€™s been on 17th Street for seven years. Sevilla, whoā€™s single, enjoys reading, especially history and biographies. He also likes collecting memorabilia and antiques. His apartment walls are covered and heā€™s an eBay junkie. ā€œI love things that connect me to the past or to history or things that remind me of people I love or wish I could have known,ā€ he says.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?

I came out on October 20, 2000. After coming out to my mother, the hardest person to tell was my father. I sent him a fax. Needless to say, it was not my shining moment.

Who’s your LGBT hero?

ā€œShow me a hero and I will write you a tragedyā€Ā ā€” F. Scott Fitzgerald, and now the poor guy is buried on Rockville Pike. You just canā€™t win.

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?

Nothing compares to the clandestine elegance of Mark Leeā€™s original Sunday night Lizard Lounge. A welcoming and totally unexpected oasis of style. VIP glamour on what then was a much different 14th Street. I made some great friends there. Then again, ā€˜01, ā€˜02, ā€™03 ā€¦ those were some great years for D.C.ā€™s nightlife. Who can forget Chaosā€™s Tuesday night drag bingo or the triumvirate of debauchery that was Southeast then? Great times.

Describe your dream wedding.

My dream is that as a community we would learn from our straight forefathersā€™ track record and focus less on the wedding and more on the marriage. That aside, two grooms in white tie, escorting their mothers up an aisle flanked on both sides by family and friends, gathering at an altar to commit their lives to each other does seem pretty dreamy.

What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?

The fight to prevent the spread of HIV and AIDS.

What historical outcome would you change?

The election of our 39th president.

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?

It involved an Oval Office, a cigar, a nice Jewish girl and one very soiled blue dress.

On what do you insist?

Authenticity, loyalty and freshly cut, seedless Persian limes. I am repulsed by liars, traitors and old fruit.

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?

ā€œEgypt still has better internet than Comcast customers.ā€

If your life were a book, what would the title be?

ā€œDicktatorā€

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?

Russian science already has. They call it vodka. Serve it chilled. The results are mixed and short lived, but very effective.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?

Redemption

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?

Get it together. Literally, unite. Stop trampling over each otherā€™s messages and form one diverse but clear resounding voice, and use it. Loudly.

What would you walk across hot coals for?

Family, friends, Gnocchi (my dog, not the pasta) and David Rak. As they would for me.

What gay stereotype annoys you most?

That which portrays gays as weak not only annoys me, but more importantly insults the men and women serving in our armed forces. Gay means many things, but weakness is not among them.

What’s your favorite gay movie?

ā€œAuntie Mame.ā€ I have been blessed with a life overflowing with beautiful, powerful and inspiring women. ā€œMameā€ resembles them all in different ways.

What’s the most overrated social custom?

Without good manners and traditions weā€™d be barbarians. The world as we know it today is held together with duct tape and thank-you notes.Ā Though we could do away with the exchanging of heart-shaped crap on Valentineā€™s Day.

What trophy or prize do you most covet?

It is an honor just to be nominated.

What do you wish you’d known at 18?

Gravy is not a beverage.

Why Washington?

Interns, motorcades, proximity to power, a 555-foot obelisk ā€” because thereā€™s no place like home.

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Snatching your dream home in D.C. this winter

A good time to get a deal during slower season

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Dreaming of a D.C. home? Winter is a great time to buy. (Photo by dmiller/Bigstock)

If you’re thinking about planting roots in the DC Metro, then the winter months are a time when you can get a good deal during a slower time in the market. D.C. isn’t just for politicians and monuments; itā€™s a city brimming with diverse neighborhoods, chic eateries, and more rainbow flags than you can shake a stiletto at. But before you slip into those house-hunting boots, letā€™s make sure youā€™re well equipped for the real estate game in our nationā€™s capital.

1. Credit Check. Before you even start ogling those gorgeous row houses in Capitol Hill or swooning over condos in Logan Circle, make sure your credit score is ready. Lenders love to see a credit score thatā€™s as high as my hair. If itā€™s looking a little low, then pay down those cards and keep your balances low.

2. Budget Realness. We all love a little splurge now and then (those D.C. brunches aren’t cheap), but buying a home is no time for financial fantasy. Work out your budget and know what you can afford monthly. Factor in those hidden costs like HOA fees and property taxes. Stay within your budget so you can keep rocking those designer threads without a sweat.

3. Location, Location, Location! D.C. is all about neighborhoods with character. Are you more of a Dupont Circle fan or perhaps Petworth? Maybe you fancy the historic vibes of Georgetown or the up-and-coming cool of Navy Yard. Each neighborhood has its own vibe and price tag, so do your homework and figure out where you fit in. Pro tip: Visit at different times of day to really feel the neighborhoodā€™s pulse.

4. Find a Real Estate Agent. Find yourself a real estate agent who not only knows the market but also gets you ā€” someone who can dish out honest advice and help you avoid any missteps. The right agent will be your guide, confidante, and maybe even your future brunch buddy. Remember, youā€™re in this together, so choose someone whoā€™s as excited about finding your dream home as you are.

5. Mortgage Pre-Approval ā€“ The Golden Ticket. Nothing says ā€œIā€™m seriousā€ like a pre-approval letter from your lender. It’s the ultimate accessory to your house-hunting outfit, giving sellers that warm, fuzzy feeling that you’re not just window shopping. Plus, it helps you know exactly how much home you can afford, so youā€™re not falling head over heels for something out of reach.

6. House Hunting: The Fun Part! Time to put on your walking shoes and start touring. Donā€™t be afraid to ask questions, take notes, and envision yourself hosting fabulous dinner parties in these spaces. But be prepared to act fast. D.C.ā€™s real estate market moves quicker than a ā€œRuPaulā€™s Drag Raceā€ elimination round, so if you find ā€œthe one,ā€ donā€™t hesitate to make an offer.

7. Inspection, Baby. Once youā€™ve got an offer accepted, itā€™s time for the home inspection. Think of it as the all-important makeover montage. You want to uncover any issues before they become your problems. Trust your inspector and get those deets ā€” everything from the roof to the basement needs a thorough once-over.

8. Closing Day ā€“ Youā€™ve made it. The grand finale! You’ve done the work, and now itā€™s time to close the deal. Gather your paperwork, bring your ID, and maybe wear something that screams ā€œIā€™m a homeowner!ā€ After the signatures and happy tears, the keys are yours. Pop the Champagne and toast to your new fabulous life in D.C.

Final Thought: Love is Love, and Home is Home. Remember, your home should be a place where you feel comfortable, safe, and fabulous. Whether you’re single, partnered, or part of a chosen family, the D.C. Metro offers a vibrant, inclusive community that’s ready to welcome you with open arms. So go out there and claim your slice of this iconic city ā€” youā€™ve got this.


Justin Noble is a Realtor with Sothebyā€™s International Realty licensed in D.C., Maryland, and Delaware for your DMV and Delaware beach needs. Specializing in first-time homebuyers, development and new construction as well as estate sales, Justin provides white glove service at every price point. Reach him at 202-503-4243, BurnsandNoble.com or [email protected].

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2024 D.C. residential real estate market in review

Insights and trends for the LGBTQ community

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The year 2025 promises big changes in the local real estate market as the Trump administration takes office. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)

As 2024 ends, the residential real estate market reflects a year of notable shifts, with both progress and setbacks impacting LGBTQ homebuyers and sellers. While strides have been made in fostering inclusivity in some areas, the overall landscape has grown increasingly complex. The political climate, coupled with emerging challenges to diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) programs, has significantly influenced the housing market and the LGBTQ+ community’s experiences within it.

Impact of Political and Social Shifts

The incoming Trump administration has signaled a rollback of DEI initiatives across various industries, and housing is no exception. Efforts to reduce funding for fair housing programs and weaken protections against discrimination have raised concerns for LGBTQ individuals seeking equitable access to housing. Many previously inclusive initiatives in real estate development and local government policy may be scaled back or abandoned altogether, creating a climate of uncertainty.

Despite these challenges, organizations like GayRealEstate.com continue to advocate for LGBTQ buyers and sellers, providing a critical safety net in an increasingly polarized environment.

  1. Increased Caution in Relocation Decisions:

LGBTQ+ individuals and families have grown more deliberate in choosing relocation destinations. States with strong anti-discrimination protections, such as California, New York, and Massachusetts, remain top choices, while states perceived as less LGBTQ+ friendly have seen a decline in migration.

  1. Emergence of “Safe Zones”:

Many LGBTQ+ buyers are seeking out neighborhoods and cities that actively uphold inclusivity despite national trends. These “safe zones” often feature strong community support and resources, but their limited availability can lead to higher housing costs.

  1. Barriers to Homeownership Persist:

Discrimination in lending and housing remains a significant challenge. If you experience discrimination in lending or housing, itā€™s essential to report it and seek support.

At the Local Level: Report incidents to your city or stateā€™s Fair Housing Office or Human Rights Commission. To find your local office, check your city or state government website for contact details.

At the National Level: U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD):

  • Phone: 1-800-669-9777 (Toll-Free)
  • TTY: 1-800-877-8339
  • Online Complaint Form: HUD Discrimination Complaint

Additionally, working with an LGBTQ professional through GayRealEstate.com provides an added layer of security and advocacy. These experts understand your unique needs and are committed to ensuring you experience a fair and inclusive home-buying or selling process. 

  1. Focus on Financial Security:

With the economic uncertainty brought about by political shifts, LGBTQ buyers are prioritizing affordability and long-term financial stability. This has led to increased interest in shared housing arrangements, multi-generational living, and cooperative housing solutions.

  1. Advocacy for Fair Housing Protections:

Advocacy groups and legal organizations are ramping up efforts to defend and expand fair housing protections for LGBTQ individuals. These efforts remain a crucial counterbalance to the rollback of federal DEI programs.

Challenges and Opportunities in the Current Climate

The expected rollback of federal protections and reduced funding for fair housing programs will pose significant challenges, particularly in regions already struggling with inclusivity. However, the resilience of our LGBTQ+ community and our allies has created opportunities for grassroots movements to push for local-level inclusivity and support.

Looking Ahead to 2025

As the new administration takes office, the housing market’s inclusivity for LGBTQ individuals may face further obstacles. However, the strength of community-driven initiatives and the unwavering support of advocacy organizations like GayRealEstate.com (and the 21+ National LGBTQ non-profit organizations they support financially monthly) offer hope for continued progress at local and regional levels.

LGBTQ buyers and sellers are encouraged to stay informed, seek out trusted allies in the real estate industry, and leverage platforms like GayRealEstate.com to ensure their home-buying or selling experience remains as smooth and equitable as possible.

Despite the challenges of an evolving political and social climate, one thing remains certain: LGBTQ individuals have allies who stand by their side, fighting for equality and inclusivity in housing and beyond. For more than 30 years, GayRealEstate.com has been a steadfast advocate for LGBTQ rights, helping thousands of individuals and families navigate the home-buying and selling process safely and confidently.

Not only does GayRealEstate.com connect clients with LGBTQ-friendly agents, but the organization also actively supports LGBTQ non-profit initiatives, ensuring that the community continues to thrive. No matter the obstacles ahead, we want you to know: Weā€™re not going anywhere.

Whether youā€™re buying, selling, or relocating, GayRealEstate.com is here to provide the expertise, resources, and unwavering support you deserve. Together, weā€™ll continue building a brighter, more inclusive futureā€”one home at a time.


Jeff Hammerberg is founding CEO of Hammerberg & Associates, Inc. Reach him at 303-378-5526 or [email protected].

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SUV rundown: ā€˜tis the season for traveling

6 standouts whether trekking home for the holidays or taking daily commutes

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Here are six standout SUVs from which to choose if youā€™re looking for a new ride this holiday season.

BMW X5

Price range: $67,000-$90,000

MPG: 23 city/27 highway

0 to 60 mph: 5.3 seconds

Cargo space: 72.3 cu. ft.

WHATā€™S TO LIKE: With a base model nudging $70,000, the midsize BMW X5 costs a pretty penny. Yet this dream machine offers a choice of boffo engines, exciting handling and enticing features. Four trim levels, including a plug-in hybrid and gnarly M60i (a V8-powered ride that costsā€”yikes!ā€”$20,000 more but scoots from 0 to 60 mph in just 3.6 seconds). Spacious, too, with oodles of room. And if youā€™re jonesing for glitz, thereā€™s a glass-trimmed shifter that looks like real crystal, massaging seats, panoramic roof with embedded LED lighting, rear window shades and more. Thereā€™s also the latest tech: 12.3-inch digital display, 14.9-inch infotainment touchscreen, wireless charger and 20-speaker Bowers & Wilkins stereo. Pricey? Yes. Worth it? Drive one and see. 

BUICK ENCORE

Price range: $27,000-$34,000

MPG: 29 city/31 highway

0 to 60 mph: 8.8 seconds

Cargo space: 50.2 cu. ft.

WHATā€™S TO LIKE: Buick keeps hitting the high notes with its bravura designs, and the Encoreā€”a sassy subcompactā€”is no exception. Surprisingly spry, with comfy seats, concise handling and a classy cabin. Thereā€™s beaucoup standard gear, including remote start, LED headlights, smartphone integration and the latest safety systems. Open your wallet a bit more to add larger wheels, 360-degree camera, hands-free liftgate, Bose audio and other niceties. A big plus: lotsa storage. Alas, not the peppiest engine, but capable enough to not feel sluggish. Compared to upscale divasā€”Audi Q3, BMW X1,Mercedes GLA 250ā€”the affordable Encore deserves, well, an encore. 

GMC ACADIA 

Price range: $44,000-$57,000

MPG: 20 city/27 highway

0 to 60 mph: 6.7 seconds

Cargo space: 97.5 cu. ft.

WHATā€™S TO LIKE: The third-gen Acadia, redesigned for 2024, is the best yet. This full-sizer is now larger, more potent and full of gizmos, including hands-free driving assist, wireless charging, Wi-Fi and more. For off-roading, thereā€™s a tighter suspension, all-terrain tires and even a steel skid plate. My only beef was with the automatic braking system, which scared me silly the first time I was backing into a garage. The driverā€™s seat began vibrating and buzzing wildly, even though there was nothing nearby. Then the brakes slammed onā€”hard. Most vehicles only beep or apply the brakes when too close to an object. This, though, felt and sounded like a manic whoopee cushion. But yes, after driving the Acadia for a week, I missed having such a quirky alert on my next test vehicle.

JEEP GRAND CHEROKEE 

Price range: $37,000-$69,000

MPG: 19 city/26  highway

0 to 60 mph: 7.4 seconds

Cargo space: 70.8 cu. ft.

WHATā€™S TO LIKE: A glam ride on a gutsy chassis. Earlier this year I reviewed the mid-range Overland model. Now it was time for the top-of-the-line Summit Reserve. Mixing pizzazz, power and pampering, this gung-ho SUV spoiled me good. And at $69,000, it should. This is BMW X5 territory, yet the Jeep delivers virtually the same creature comforts and advanced safety monitors. The seats may not be as taut, but thatā€™s a minor quibble. A trailer-tow package also canā€™t be beat: automatic headlight leveling, load-leveling rear suspension, and heavy-duty cooling and electrical systems.

LINCOLN NAUTILUS 

Price range: $52,000-$75,000

MPG: 21 city/29 highway

0 to 60 mph: 7.2 seconds

Cargo space: 71.3 cu. ft.

WHATā€™S TO LIKE: Lincoln previously appealed mainly to Gramps and G-ma, but now the target is a younger crowd. For the midsize Nautlius, this means mod styling, a finely crafted interior and eye-popping features like a four-foot digital display. The ginormous screen is part of a sweeping dashboard that stretches onto the door panels. Handling and cornering are smooth yet sporty, especially in the new hybrid model. When the Nautilus was parked, I could indulge in some guilty pleasures with a multisensory setup that integrated the panoramic screen, surround-sound stereo, massaging seats and a fragrance diffuser into a truly spa-like ambiance. Nirvana, indeed. 

SUBARU FORESTER 

Base model: $29,000-$38,000

MPG: 26 city/33 highway

0 to 60 mph: 9.3 seconds

Cargo space: 74.2 cu. ft.

WHATā€™S TO LIKE: Solid, steady, a sure thing. Thanks to all-wheel drive, the Foresterā€™s handling is excellentā€”especially in rain or snow. And even though this is no speedsterā€”the powerplant is a tad pokeyā€”the fuel economy outshines most rivals. My test drive was the midrange Sport model, which boasted 18-inch black-painted wheels, raised roof rails, foglights, tinted rear windows and an all-weather package with a windshield-wiper de-icer. Best of all: the cargo room was big enough for all my holiday shopping, including a very wicked outfit for my husbandā€”my own Prince Fiyero.

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