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After 30 years, still summering in Rehoboth

Resort town teeming with gay-friendly businesses

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A group of women playing football on Rehoboth Beach in 1989 (Washington Blade archive photo by Doug Hinckle)

Memorial Day is the official start of summer and that means crowds in Rehoboth Beach, Del. This will be one of the busiest years ever at the Delaware beaches because of the havoc created by Hurricane Sandy on the Jersey and New York shoreline. All of us want those communities to rebuild but in the meantime Rehoboth can expect a new crowd of summer tourists.

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For more than 30 years, Rehoboth has been my choice for summer vacation and for the last 15, I’ve owned a small home there. The town has grown up in that time and is now a year-round place to live. But summer is still the time when business owners have to make their year. This will be a good year for them.

Like many, I spend a great deal of my time in Rehoboth on Baltimore Avenue, the gayest block in town. You can eat breakfast, lunch and dinner; do your shopping; and go to happy hour and late night dancing all on the same block.

As always there are new places opening and one of note this year is Frank and Louie’s Italian Specialties at 58 Baltimore Ave. Frank and Louie are known to many as the nice guys from Touch of Italy but they are now on their own. Their shop is welcoming and their secret weapon is ‘mom’ who is a fantastic chef and baker. I recently tasted her lasagna at a small dinner party and it was delicious. I recommend you stop in and try their full range of Italian specialty items including great sandwiches, cheeses and baked goods and then call them to cater your parties.

The Blue Moon (35 Baltimore Ave.) is all spruced up for its fourth decade. They have a new bar and newly tiled floors and a sound system in the bar and chef extraordinaire Lion Gardner is still at the helm in the dining room. The bartending staff includes Chandler and Matt, who always remember what you’re drinking. Pamala Stanley will again be ensconced there Sundays through Thursdays. There is the always fun Aqua Grille (57 Baltimore Ave.) and everyone always waits for the unveiling of their new bar staff. Bill Shields never disappoints with his hires. There is nothing as nice as happy hour on the Aqua deck on a mild Rehoboth evening and after a few drinks being lazy and staying for a casual, good and very reasonably priced dinner. This year you should also try the newly expanded and upgraded Maggio and Shields Café on the mezzanine (70 Rehoboth Ave.). They have great new comfortable seating and the chef and some staff from the now closed Cloud 9.

Lori’s is still in the CAMP courtyard and good as always. Stop in for a quick and easy breakfast bagel or good hearty sandwiches for lunch. While in the courtyard peek into the Ward Ellinger Gallery and browse his incredible artwork. Then move on to some of the other shops on the block. Elegant Slumming with its fine jewelry and beautiful items for the home and the Philip Morton Gallery now owned by Eric Davison where you can see some very special art work. Eric also owns Gallery Fifty on Wilmington Avenue.

One of the fun places to shop on Baltimore Avenue is Universal Gear, owned by David Franco. The Universal Gear stores just celebrated their 20th anniversary. Part of the fun of shopping at Universal Gear is chatting with manager Denis Dmitriev. Denis spent the winter working at VIDA in D.C. building both his body and modeling portfolio.

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Bartender at the Blue Moon (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Other places not to miss are on Rehoboth Avenue. The Purple Parrot for a good meal and happy hour, the back beach bar and karaoke make it fun any time day or evening. Look into Gidget’s Gadgets for fun retro toys and games and stop at the Coffee Mill for a good cup of coffee or a pound of your favorite beans.

If you have been to Rehoboth Beach you know how great it is and if you haven’t make sure that the summer of 2013 will be your first trip there. You will return time and time again.

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Opinion | The importance of marching for Black trans lives

Youth deserve to see their allies help create change

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I am a member of the LGBTQ+ community, and an ally to the trans community. Identifying myself as an ally, rather than a member of the trans community is important to note. I could never assume a position of resonance, or complete understanding of the struggle and strife of trans folks. 

As the program manager for BSH, I have witnessed countless justifications, and matter-of-fact necessity, for the Black Trans Lives Matter marches. While escorting my clients to meetings with multiple institutions and organizations, I have often witnessed, even after the first correction, serial misgendering. My clients are young adults between ages 18-24. I fear that the resentment that surely multiplies, both internally and externally, with each misgendering experience, is likely to result in depression and anxiety. 

To dismiss one’s identity is to erase their existence. It is my duty as an ally, and a leader, to confront these scenarios head on, by identifying and educating misguided professionals, while setting a threshold of accountability during subsequent encounters. 

Trans youth deserve to know and feel allyship; they deserve to see an ally create change on their behalf. All trans people, including the youth of the community, have the fundamental right to exist and be recognized for who they know themselves to be; visibility matters beyond a community level. 

This year we lost one of our trans sisters in a cold city jail cell. Kim Wirtz’s life mattered. She was a Black trans woman who had not seen the likes of a courtroom but was sentenced to death, without the allowance of exercising her right to a trial. She was a sister, a daughter, an aunt and a friend. 

We march for reform, so that our sisters will never be forced into unsafe housing. We need reform and we need it now! No trans woman deserves to be forced to appear male because she is incarcerated. We march for those who started this work before many of us were born. We march in the legacy of Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera. We march for the youth so they can grow up and be free to be themselves without shame.

 I ask that you march alongside us, as we inspire and create positive change, and as we churn the oceans of reform on behalf of our trans brothers and sisters, and subsequently, on behalf of all of us.

Tashi-Kali Acket is program manager for Baltimore Safe Haven.

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Claiming our power in the HIV-AIDS epidemic

‘It is my experience that our community is heroic’

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Larry Kramer (Washington Blade archive photo by Doug Hinckle)

“Unless we fight for our lives, we shall die,” wrote Larry Kramer in the New York Native in March 1983. Before Kramer’s article “1,112 and Counting,” gay people were doing what they could to care for the sick and mourn their dead with quiet dignity. 

After the article appeared in gay papers across the country, gay people grew increasingly unwilling to be quiet about the deaths of gay men and the preternatural silence about the epidemic from elected officials.

In San Francisco, the momentum generated by a July 1984 political march spiraled into support for an independent gay AIDS activist group in San Francisco. Gay community leaders tapped Paul Boneberg, then 31 and president of the Stonewall Democratic Club, to head the new group.

Mobilization Against AIDS came into existence in the fall of 1984 with the express goal of organizing street demonstrations, a goal it accomplished by staging monthly protests. Besides its street demos, Mobilization, beginning in 1985, took on the task of organizing the annual AIDS candlelight vigil that the San Francisco People with AIDS Coalition had started in 1983. 

As the 1980s wore on, and tens of thousands of gay men died with still no effective treatment for AIDS, Larry Kramer’s nerves were shot. 

In a March 10, 1987, speech Kramer gave at the New York Lesbian and Gay Community Services Center, today known as the LGBT Center of New York, he laid into the gay community as only Larry Kramer could. “If my speech tonight doesn’t scare the shit out of you, we’re in real trouble,” he told the group. 

By then, 32,000 AIDS cases had been reported across the country—nearly a third of them in New York. President Reagan still hadn’t spoken about AIDS to frightened Americans. 

“If what you’re hearing doesn’t rouse you to anger, fury, rage, and action, gay men will have no future here on earth,” said Kramer. “How long does it take before you get angry and fight back?” The crux of the speech was Kramer’s simple question: “Do we want to start a new organization devoted solely to political action?”

The answer was a resounding “Yes!” Two days later, about 300 people again showed up at the center where they formed ACT UP, the AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power. The group’s first demonstration—a protest on Wall Street against the exorbitant price of just-approved AZT, the most expensive drug ever to that point—introduced what became the group’s distinctive brand of street theater. ACT UP took the camp humor and theatricality of the Gay Liberation Front “zaps” to a whole new level.

As Kramer told me in our interview for “Victory Deferred,” “The fact that everybody responded to ACT UP, I think was more just a question of time, and moment, and frustration. It was the right time for it to happen.”

As in every catastrophe humans have faced throughout history, there were only two options for gay men when the viral cluster bomb erupted in the community: fight or flight. 

“AIDS made us choose,” said Paul Boneberg, in our interview in San Francisco for “Stonewall Strong.” “Most chose to stay and fight.” In his characteristically understated manner, Boneberg added, “It is my experience that our community is heroic.”

Larry Kramer put it a little differently in our 1995 interview. We talked in the living room of his Fifth Avenue apartment, the setting for some of gay America’s most historic moments, including the world’s first AIDS fundraiser in 1981 and, in 1982, the formation of GMHC, the world’s first AIDS service organization. Reflecting in particular on ACT UP, Kramer said, “Singlehandedly, we changed the image of gay people from limp-wristed fairies to guerrilla warriors.”

John-Manuel Andriote has reported on HIV-AIDS as a journalist since 1986. His most recent book, which he calls a bookend for acclaimed debut novel ‘Victory Deferred’, is ‘Stonewall Strong: Gay Men’s Heroic Fight for Resilience, Good Health, and a Strong Community.’ The research materials and recorded interviews for Victory Deferred comprise a special collection curated by the Smithsonian’s National Museum of American History.

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Opinion | This gay conservative wants Equality Act to pass now

Pro-equality control on Capitol Hill is likely fleeting

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Limiting the heavy hand of government in the lives of everyday Americans naturally results in more personal freedom. To be sure, elected leaders that govern closest to their constituents are typically more accountable to us. 

Lately, however, the horrendous actions taken by legislatures across America to restrict the rights of transgender youth, a problem exacerbated by the current patchwork of state and local protections for LGBTQ Americans, makes clear that we still have much work ahead to ensure that LGBTQ people in all 50 states are treated with dignity and respect. That is why, as a conservative, I feel it’s critical to get the Equality Act passed through Congress.

Despite the fact that 80 million Americans cast a ballot in support of Joe Biden last year, we have yet to witness a leftward shift in the country’s politics in favor of Democrats. In fact, the Senate is merely one seat flip away from Mitch McConnell becoming majority leader. Surveying the electoral landscape in 2022, it’s more than likely that the GOP will assume control of one or both chambers in Congress. Pro-equality control on Capitol Hill is likely fleeting, so now is the time to advance LGBTQ rights and nondiscrimination protections. 

After working tirelessly to pass the Employment Non-discrimination Act (ENDA) through the Senate in 2013, I found myself sitting with a prominent lobbyist who argued that time would take care of moving the country in support of equality. It was believed then that culture wars would reignite, and the majority of Americans would take a stand to ensure full protections regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity. The notion that “time will take care of it” has been a consistent voice, however it ignores that discrimination is clear and present today. In many places it’s getting worse.

The Equality Act would update federal law to include express and enduring protections for LGBTQ Americans in key areas of life. Swift passage of the bill through the U.S. House with bipartisan support clearly illustrated the priorities of the Democratic leadership. With the bill now under consideration in the Senate, we should not expect a similar set of circumstances. Not even an elimination of the filibuster would allow Democrats to go it alone. To become law, the Equality Act will require compromise and cooperating with Republicans.

Democrats would be wise to heed the protestations of conservative, faith-based leaders regarding the merits of the bill. Even though recent public polling illustrates strong support for the basic tenets of the legislation from Catholics, Mormons, Jews and rank-and-file people of faith, legitimate concerns remain among some religious communities. 

Republican leaders in the Senate with a track record of support for LGBTQ issues, including Susan Collins, Lisa Murkowski, Pat Toomey and Rob Portman, have publicly illustrated the need for discussions around religious protections. Modest adjustments to the Equality Act, that will advance nondiscrimination protections while ensuring faith-based institutions can continue their work, will certainly lead to more inclusive communities that are less reliant on federal taxpayers for support.

Despite Democratic control of the White House and Congress, the reality is that compromise is essential in order for important bills to become the law of the land. Regardless of your ideological persuasion, we can all agree that now is the time for action. So, for the sake of a gay veteran searching for a place to live, or a transgender woman trying to find a job, or any one of the countless members of our community who continue to endure discrimination on a daily basis, Congress should work together find a bipartisan path forward to pass the Equality Act.

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