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End of the movement?
Allies, athletes, bloggers, celebrities, musicians, lawmakers & locals discuss the future of LGBT advocacy


The National Equality March in Oct. 2009 (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
With the Supreme Court wrestling with some of our biggest issues and marriage rights expanding around the country, we asked several LGBT folks from all walks of life if the end of the movement could be near. Specifically, we asked:
āHave we reached a turning point in the LGBT rights movement and what does the end of the movement look like to you?ā
Their answers will delight, surprise, provoke ā and make you think.
(Compiled by Blade staff writers Michael K. Lavers, Chris Johnson, Lou Chibbaro Jr., Phil Reese and Joey DiGuglielmo)
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Heather Mizeur (Maryland State Delegate)

Maryland state Del. Heather Mizeur (D-Montgomery Co.) (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
We have definitely reached a tipping point.Ā With 12 states and counting, LGBT equality is on the march and there is no turning back. It was exciting for Maryland to play such a central role in being the first state below the Mason-Dixon line to pass marriage equality, and the first to affirm its support through the popular vote at the ballot box in 2012.Ā In Takoma Park, when I ran for City Council a decade ago, my sexual orientation was not seen as anything interesting or special because the community had already grown to fully embrace all of its LGBT residents. Now, as I explore a run for governor of Maryland, I find that voters throughout the state are more impressed and interested in my ideas for the future than any concern over the fact that my wife would be their First Lady.Ā We have come a long way.
I do not ever envision an āend of the movementā because as soon as we are done securing our own equality, we move on together as a community to address and tackle inequality every place it exists ā poverty, racial bias and gender discrimination, to name a few.Ā We will continue to work collaboratively, putting our communityās best talents forward, to affect positive social change for everyone.
Felipe Sousa-Rodriguez (GetEQUAL)

Felipe Sousa-Rodriguez (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
Itās time to push for what we deserve.
Forty-four years ago, a group of drag queens and trans women of color ā tired of the constant institutional violence perpetuated against our community ā led the Stonewall riots. Riots turned into Pride and Pride continues to be our community’s opportunity to reflect on our progress, set forth our vision for equality and organize ā because our lives depend on it.
Though we have made many gains, we are still severely unequal under United States law. We only have 15 percent of the rights of our straight counterparts. In my home state of Florida, I can be denied work, credit, housing, a marriage license and all manner of other rights essential to living the American dream. These issues become even more magnified when taking into account the multiple oppressions of race, immigration status, gender, etc. We have much ground to cover and waiting around is not an option.
Congress and the White House will continue to play politics with our lives unless we stand up now and push for what we truly deserve. Recently, Democratic leaders denied same-sex bi-national couples protections under immigration law; the president is sitting on an executive order that could protect 25 percent of the labor force in our nation against workplace discrimination. The incremental approach to equality is ineffective. We need aĀ full federal equalityĀ bill. We owe it to those first mavericks who rose up and fought back against our oppression. Itās time for us to push our allies in Congress to stand up for our equality.
Gautam Raghavan (White House adviser)

White House advisorĀ Gautam Raghavan (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
In his second inaugural address, President Obama spoke of our nationās commitment to advancing equality for all people, a journey that āguided our forebears through Seneca Falls and Selma and Stonewall.āĀ For the LGBT community and allies, those words were received with deep gratitude, applause and more than a few tears.
Since 2009, we have seen tremendous change unfold across the country: āDonāt Ask, Donāt Tellā repealed, hate crimes laws expanded to better protect the community,Ā anti-bullying efforts increased, discrimination in federal housing prohibited and benefits for same-sex couples extended.Ā As President Obama has said, this progress has not been led by lawmakers in Washington, but by ordinary citizens.Ā Itās change driven by friends, families, colleagues and neighbors having important, heartfelt, sometimes tough conversations in neighborhoods, small towns and cities all across America.
As we reflect upon this rapid progress in the context of a decades-long movement toward equality, it can be easy to assume weāre near our journeyās end.
But if we take the presidentās words to heart ā āSeneca Falls, Selma, Stonewallā ā we remember that movements for equality and social justice require continued commitment.Ā Today, more than 160 years after the Seneca Falls Convention, women still donāt receive equal pay in the workplace.Ā Nearly 50 years after Bloody Sunday, we continue to work toward full racial equality in education, housing and voting.Ā And although the protesters at Stonewall may not have imagined marriage equality in their lifetime, their experience of violence, harassment and discrimination at work and at home still resonate in our community today.
This Pride month, we celebrate the progress we have made ā through laws, policies and victories at the ballot box and in the courtroom ā and we recommit ourselves to continuing our march toward a more perfect union.
Iām confident that our president will be with us every step of the way.
U.S. Rep. Mark Takano (D-Calif.)

Rep. Mark Takano (D-Calif.) (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
The LGBT rights movement is undoubtedly at a turning point as public opinion has moved in favor of LGBT rights and there are more LGBT federal elected officials than ever before.
But even more evident is that legislation coming out of Congress has become more reflective of true equality as laid out in the Constitution. With the Matthew Shepard Act and the repeal of āDonāt Ask, Donāt Tell,ā hate-crimes protections were expanded and gay service members were allowed to serve openly in the military. Meanwhile, an increasing number of states have approved marriage equality and prohibited employment discrimination against the LGBT community through state initiatives and legislation.
For the first time in United States history, the president and a majority of United States senators support marriage equality and the Department of Justice is no longer defending the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in court.
Martin Luther King Jr. once said, āThe arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.ā At this moment in the LGBT rights movement, the arc is actuallyĀ an acceleration curve. This is a turning point, but there is more to do before we reach the end of the arc,Ā where full equality is recognized under the law and throughout our society.
Hassan Naveed (Gays and Lesbians Opposing Violence)

Hassan Naveed (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
I think weāre at a crossroads. Weāve witnessed tremendous strides toward equality in the past few years. Public opinion on LGBT issues is progressing unquestionably in our communityās favor.
The recent political victories for marriage equality in several states represent major milestones. As we celebrate these successes and others to come, itās important to recognize that only history will attest to the true turning points of the LGBT rights movement.
For now, advocates must stride toward equality mindful of all the issues faced by LGBT peoples. Job discrimination, unfair immigration policies, health inequities, homelessness and hate crimes are not new problems, but continue to haunt our community.
The movementās path forward must address the needs of the most vulnerable and continually accommodate our immense diversity. Weāve reached a crossroads and the direction forward will be the true test of our morality as a people and our success as a movement. For me, the movement will end when we are truly free; to live our lives to the fullest without barriers based on gender expression and identity or sexuality.
Martin Garcia (Gertrude Stein Democratic Club)

Martin Garcia (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
As we watch the news and look at the national trends, it gets me very excited seeing all signs pointing to moving toward full equality. The number of successes in achieving marriage equality on the state level, theĀ optimistic views on the upcoming Supreme CourtĀ decisions, national polls showing a rise in favor of LGBT rights show we definitely have the wind at our backs.
However, we still have a very long journey ahead of us on a number of issues affecting LGBT people and will need to continue fighting.
We need to continue the fight for HIV/AIDS research, education and funding to decrease the infection rate and raise awareness, that schools are safe for all LGBT students and staff, that we are secure being out at our jobs, that we are notĀ discriminated against when finding housing, that we are supporting our youth to ensure they do not end up homeless or worse no longer with us, and fight to ensure that not only some of us are winning but that we are lifting everyone in our community up.
So as exciting and promising as these recent, and hopefully soon-to-be, victories are, we are not done and need to continue the fight for full equality.
Chad Griffin (president, Human Rights Campaign)

Human Rights Campaign President Chad Griffin (Washington Blade file photo by Blake Bergen)
This Pride month, the LGBT movement has so many reasons to be hopeful. From historic oral arguments at the Supreme Court, to victories for marriage equality in Delaware, Rhode Island and Minnesota, to the out-and-proud leadership of athletes like Jason Collins, Brittney Griner and Robbie Rogers, LGBT people and our families have never been so visible and so welcome in American life.
But, as a community, we canāt let progress distract us from the work left to do. Weāve got to make sure that every person in this country gets to see that progress, too.
The fact is that when transgender people still face truly shocking rates of harassment and violence, when a gay man can still be openly murdered on the streets of New York City for who he is, when LGBT youth are still roughly 10 times more likely to be homeless, our work is far from complete. Weāre not even close to where we need to be.
So as we gather as a community to celebrate Pride, this movement needs a fire in its belly now more than ever. As long as any LGBT young person feels unwelcome in their community, their church or even around their own dinner table, weāve got work to do.
Pride, after all, is a celebration with a message: equality everywhere for everyone. And that vision isnāt achieved until it reaches every single person in every corner of this vast country.
Amy Loudermilk (Mayorās Office of GLBT Affairs)

Amy Loudermilk (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
I think weāve absolutely hit a turning point in the LGBT rights movement.Ā With the recent explosion in theĀ number of states approving marriage-equality measures, our president supporting full equality and the two Supreme Court cases set to be decided very soon, how could anyone deny the countryās mood is changing about this issue and that the momentum is very much in favor of equality?Ā I also couldnāt be more proud that the District was one of the first jurisdictions with marriage equality.
That said, there are still lots of legal issues that need to be addressed and will take some time, with everything from retirement benefits to the availability of restraining orders to same-sex couples involved in domestic-violence situations.Ā Ultimately, I donāt know what the end of the movement will look like because I donāt necessarily think it will end.Ā For example, the womenās rights movement is still going on today because women still donāt make equal pay for equal work and in some states donāt have full control over their own bodies. Similarly, the civil rights movement continues today because we are still trying to fix policies that unfairly target people of color and still overcoming the lingering effects of centuries of institutionalized racism.
Prejudice in general will always exist, so I think this movement and others will continue for a very long time.Ā And it should continue because the worldās learned a lesson about what happens when you are silent about discrimination.
Scott Wooledge (activist)

Scott Wooledge (Photo courtesy of Wooledge)
There is no end.
The work is never done, nearly 50 years after the Voting Rights Act was passed, the battle to stamp out institutionalized racism that denies people of color their votes is still front and center; in the Supreme Court, in lower courts and legislatures. And 93 years after the 19th Amendment was ratified, women still hold only 18.3 percent of the 535 seats in the 113th U.S. Congress (and zero presidents thus far).
Though we have nearly all one could hope for in here in New York, we have yet to pass transgender protections. And all LGBT communities will forever be tasked with fighting for their seats at the table and ensuring government serves the unique and specific needs of our community. In New York, we have ongoing battles to ensure our leaders donāt balance tightening state and local budgets by slashing funding for our most vulnerable (and lobbyist-free). Constituencies like indigent with HIV and homeless youth depend on our voices. Social safety net programs, like unemployment, are particularly important to a community that faces discrimination in employment and housing.
But of course I have seen the LGBT community evolve dramatically in my lifetime.
Weāve long been bound by our shared desire not to be outcasts from stalwart mainstream institutions, like the military, the Boy Scouts and marriage. And weāre winning. The question becomes, does the LGBT community have core values that bind us other than just being shunned by straight people? Fighting to expand options will result in more people exercising them. Witness the malaise of the gayborhood as LGBT people no longer feel awkward and unwelcome in more traditionally straight areas.
Ironically, there now seems to be a sense among some that actually choosing to join those institutions is an expression of betrayal to the larger community; āassimilateā and āheteronormativesā are said with derision.
I tip my hat as enthusiastically to the gender-transgressive anarchist as I do the Marine and the suburban soccer mom. I am confident this is the beautiful mosaic that makes our community, and America, beautiful.
Zack Ford (ThinkProgress.org)

Zack Ford (Photo courtesy of Ford)
The LGBT movement will not end during any of our lifetimes. In the next few decades, we may complete many of our legislative goals, such as marriage equality, nondiscrimination protections, bullying oversight and others, but the work will continue. These legal victories will shift the priorities of our movement to focus more on education, advocacy and support, but opponents of LGBT equality will no doubt continue to challenge our communityās full inclusion in society.
People of color still endure unfair treatment under āStop and Friskā and voter suppression laws; women still donāt have equitable salaries or access to health care; and people with disabilities still must fight for accessibility as they challenge basic prejudices. History proves that a change in the laws does not automatically end all oppression.
As LGBT people, we will always be a minority with identities that are, by nature, invisible. We will always have to come out; we will always have to help other people understand how our lives are different. But my perspective is not a pessimistic one. Our momentum is strong and the work is rewarding. For many people, advocacy ā and even pride ā may become a much smaller priority as it becomes easier for them to integrate, an acknowledgment of the movementās success. But equality is not a box to be simply checked off; it must be maintained like a garden. Until being queer is as uncontroversial as being left-handed, there will always be a place for the movement in some form.
Michael Crawford (Freedom to Marry)

Michael Crawford (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
I’m not sure that there will be an end to the LGBT movement. We tend to think about the “LGBT movement” as being about established groups and activists fighting to pass legislation and that the goals of the movement as being primarily legislative. I think we limit our possibilities for achieving true equality if we limit ourselves to thinking solely about passing legislation.
Instead, we should think about our legislative goals around issues like nondiscrimination, marriage and bullying asĀ first steps toward transforming and reshaping the dominant culture in ways that will result in freedom for everyone.
I also think we need to take seriously the responsibility we have to help improve the lives of LGBT people across the globe. And we need to recognize that we have a lot to learn from activists in other countries who are advancing more rapidly than we are.
Just as there’s a continued need for black advocacy groups, I think there will be a continued need for activists who push us toward greater freedom. What those activists and advocacy groups will look like will change as we change the culture, but there will be a continued need for them as long as there are LGBT people.
Emily Saliers (Indigo Girls)

Emily Saliers (Photo courtesy of Russell Carter Artist Management)
Itās a very good and complicated question. What’s good for some of us is good for all of us. Gay marriage ā even if the whole population of queer folks decided not to get married, thatās not the point ā is an important right to have. And I know exactly what the other issues are. Weāve got high teen suicide rates and homelessness. You can start talking about the church and forget about it. I’ve seen the personal pain, the issues of health, gay couples lacking protection. I know all these realities. But gay marriage has become the linchpin because for society, itās such a huge shift. The idea that gay marriage could be legislated and protected is one of those massive, massive things that is good for all of us.
The evolution of social issues is painfully slow. Just ask an African American if theyāre still suffering the effects of slavery. Of course they are. You see it all the time in the stereotyping of black people in culture. My partner is Canadian, so the day after our show Iām going to be on the Hill with my partner and my baby to say, āThis is what a family looks like.ā If DOMA isnāt repealed, weāre moving to Canada. Weāll have no other choice. But having the right to get married is a massive sociological shift and for gay marriage to be legislated, I donāt have anything negative to say. Itās about the recognition of equal rights.
Bil Browning (Bilerico Project)

Bil Browning (Photo courtesy of Browning)
The LGBT movement will never die. Instead it will slowly amorphize as the dollars dry up and interest wanes. As we’ve already seenĀ after the repeal of DADT, success means downsizing is inevitable.
Once basic protections for employment, publicĀ accommodations and housing have been passed and same-sex marriages are recognized at a federal level, LGBT people will become complacent. The fight for LGBT rights will move to the states as each one separately fights for marriage equality.
Groups that work on other issues will consolidate with larger organizations as funding shrinks and our community is mainstreamed. As with African-American civil rights organizations currently, a couple of groups will dominate the landscape with smaller orgs buzzing around the periphery.
I see Freedom To Marry flourishing by investing in these local battles and wouldn’t beĀ surprised if it became deeply involved internationally. It would likely require a name change, but it could easily swallow other groups that work on family issues like Immigration Equality, Family Equality Council and PFLAG.Ā Established and respected organizations like GLAAD, Trevor Project, Outserve/SLDN, and the Task Force all do valuable work, but in the end could comfortably be incorporated into a more broadly invested HRC, which already has more funding and name recognition.
Sadly, many of these third-tier groups are already struggling financially and will always remain in the “also ran” category because they’re not as well known.Ā The non-profit industry at its core is a business like any other. As in the corporate world, the LGBT movement will consolidate for ease of operation, a larger customer base andĀ maximum profits.
Carl Schmid (The AIDS Institute)

Carl Schmid (Photo courtesy of Schmid)
The LGBT rights movement has progressed slowly over several decades, spurred on by distinct events, including the AIDS crisis in the early ā80s that led many gay men to publicly āact upā and all too often see either themselves or their friends and loved ones die. Sadly, thousands did die, though much has changed since those early days, in some ways things are still the same. Although we know how HIV can be prevented and treated, and research continues toward finding a vaccine and cure, the end is not in sight.
While people are living longer due to the advent of antiretroviral medications, gay men still shoulder two-thirds of all new HIV infections, about 33,000 new cases each year. A recent study found that one in five gay men in 21 cities have HIV, half of whom do not even know it. Unfortunately, the number of new cases is rising for those under age 25, particularly among young black gay men.
But how many of your friends talk about HIV or their own HIV? While the stigma and discrimination surrounding LGBT people has decreased, the same cannot be said for people with HIV.
It is my hope the progress that has been made in the LGBT movement can impact HIV among gay men. With a more accepting and affirming society and legalization of same-sex marriage, perhaps some factors that lead to HIV transmission will be reduced.
While much progress has been made, I do not see an end of the movement as it relates to HIV among gay men until parents and schools not only teach sexual education that encompasses homosexuality but normalizes being gay and gay relationships. Yes, great strides have been made, but so much more must occur.
Dave Kolesar (WGAY)

Dave Kolesar, left, and his partner, Patrick Wojahn, in Annapolis for the Maryland marriage bill signing. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
I think we have reached a turning point in the LGBT rights movement.Ā When my partner Patrick Wojahn and I first became involved in the Maryland marriage lawsuit in 2004, many of our friends thought we were crazy.Ā Support for same-sex marriage was polling in the 30s and Massachusetts was looking like an outlier, having just granted equal marriage rights to same-sex couples.
Almost 10 years later, marriage equality exists in about a dozen states and the victories for LGBT issues in four states at the ballot box last year showed not only that the sky didn’t fall, but that momentum has decisively swung in favor of the LGBT movement.
I don’t know what the end of the movement would look like, as I think it still has a long way to go.Ā The marriage question may be largely settled within a decade, but there are many other important issues that need to be addressed ā employment discrimination and transgender rights are probably the next big fights.Ā And while we certainly have been successful over the past few years, recent attacks in New York City suggest that we have to be on guard against a violent counter-reaction to the success of our movement.Ā Unfortunately it seems that in society, wherever there is a minority, there is discrimination and the hope is that one day there will be enough moral progress such that we all realize that all of us have much more in common than we do differences.
Chris Kluwe (Oakland Raiders, ally)

Chris Kluwe (Photo by Joe Bielawa)
This is a question that I donāt think has an answer anyone wants to hear.
Iāve always tried to be honest and examine the world through the lens of what is, not what I would like it to be and yes, I think weāve reached a turning point in the LGBT rights movement in the United States, but I donāt think weāre anywhere close to the end of the movement.
The struggle for LGBT rights is the same struggle for womenās rights, the same struggle for religious rights and the same struggle for civil rights humanity has waged for the entirety of its existence, and itās happening all over the globe ā the struggle to live your own life, free of oppression, without oppressing others.
This is the battle that every generation in every nation has to fight, and will continue fighting, until the day comes when weāre all finally empathic enough to understand what effect our actions can have on other people.
Yet even though we may not see the end of that struggle in our lifetime, it is a struggle worth fighting for, because every step we take, every inch we gain in treating others with respect and dignity, is another building block our children can use to make their own progress, to build their own better world.
The end of the movement may never come, but that doesnāt mean we should stop working toward it.
Ruby Corado (transgender activist)

Ruby Corado (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
No, we haven’t reached a turning point in the LGBT rights movement yet. WeĀ have helped others reach that point and helped changed the minds of manyĀ people.
These days we have many politicians who are legislating for us not just against us. We have a mainstream media that covers more positiveĀ stories about our lives than ever before. We have faith communities thatĀ are embracing our pursuit of dignity. We have America understanding LGBTsĀ as human beings not just as a sexual orientation, gender identity and/orĀ expression. But our LGBT movement has not reached a turning point amongĀ those who are LGBT. We are a movement divided by race, gender, social andĀ economic status, ideals, geographical areas. We are a movement that doesĀ not support the young, the elder, the disadvantaged, the marginalized, theĀ gender non-conforming and/or transgender.
I see the end of our movement looking like the rainbow that we love andĀ embrace so much, a movement where every color (every gay, lesbian, bisexualĀ and transgender) complements, sticks together and supports one another noĀ matter what challenges or struggles we face through our individual storms.
At the end, we, just like the rainbow, shine together happily.
Hector Fonseca (DJ)

Hector Fonseca (Photo courtesy of Management 360)
I think there have been a number of turning points recently. The end of āDon’t Ask, Don’t Tell.ā Legalization of marriage in several states and countries. An active pro athlete coming out. Those are all great moments and turning points in the LGBT community we should celebrate.
I personally think Lady Gaga should get more credit than she is getting. In my eyes, she got the ball really rolling a few years ago. Gaga made it cool again for other pop artists and celebrities like her to care about gay rights again. Kudos to her for restarting the movement.
The end of the movement to me would be a few things including openly gay pro athletes, an openly gay president and the same full equal rights that heterosexuals globally enjoy. I don’t think any of this will happen until we as a community really stick together to support LGBT causes and those who respect our community, only.
We also need to stop glorifying bullying and putting hateful people on pedestals (e.g. āSheās such a bitch, I love her.ā). When we stop doing this, we will get much further much quicker. We have come a long way but there is much more work to be done.
Holly Twyford (actress)

Holly Twyford (Photo by Scott Suchman, courtesy Studio Theatre)
Thereās a big difference between a tipping point and an end point. The biggest challenge the gay community has always had is weāve never had any clear agenda other than equality. Is marriage equality the golden egg? Maybe legally so, but what does it really mean for us to reach an end point because you have to address the continued bigotry that still exists.
Of course itās incredibly important that marriage is in front of the Supreme Court but now we need Joe Schmoe American to say, āOK, I buy into that tooā or āI just met two lesbians with a child and they seemed like great parents.ā So I guess my answer is yes and no. Yes, itās a huge, exciting paradigm shift, but is it the end of the movement? No.
I think marriage is being very much held up as the brass ring because itās a clear, visible, everyday symbol of what has been denied to us. You know, we can talk about workplace discrimination, but itās harder to see, whereas me and my partner getting up in front of a church and someone saying, āBy the power vested in me ⦠ā thatās something very visible and you can say wife, not partner. Itās like, āOh, OK, so youāre not married?ā āWell no, but weāve been together 20 fucking years ā weāve been together longer than you and your husband.ā Itās just so great not to have to explain all that. Itās a huge symbol.
Melissa Etheridge (singer)

Melissa Etheridge (Photo by James Minchin III)
I donāt think there will ever be an end of the movement.
I think the time we can kinda go, āWhew,ā is when we know that we can walk in any city and beside any stranger and understand that what makes me different from them is not something thatās fearful to them. Iāve seen such fear among people of what is not understood and what weāve done over the last 20 years is to slowly, day by day, say, āWe are people. Weāre your neighbors, your children, your friends, we work with you, we are part of every community. Weāre everywhere in the whole world, we are a piece of every civilization and what we bring to the table only makes us better as a nation and as a world.ā
To understand that diversity and not be fearful of it is really the ultimate step. Gay marriage is important because itās actually something you can legislate. You canāt go before the Supreme Court and say, āTheyāve gotta stop hating me,ā you just canāt pass that kind of a law. But you can find a way to legislate certain rights. Iām not saying we should all get married. Anybody can see I personally havenāt really been very good at it so far. Yet to have the right to do so is vitally important.
When I was a teen, for instance, there wasnāt even really any sense of gay marriage as a concept. We didnāt even really have the words for it or if there was, it was all bad. And yet here it is a generation later in front of the Supreme Court. As every new generation comes along, the fear dilutes.
Mame Dennis/Carl Rizzi (Academy of Washington)

Mame Dennis (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
Weāve had gay weddings in the Academy for years. They werenāt legal of course, but we had them. I guess if the Supreme Court makes them legal and everything, thatās fine, but I donāt really think itās going to solve anything.
I have to be honest, I shudder a bit when I think of all these people who will probably rush out and get married. I do think the gay girls take it a little more seriously than the men, but I think with the guys, they trick with someone and think theyāre in love and I can easily see them running off and getting married and then what, eight weeks later or something, realize, well no, Iām not really in love. Iām concerned about the after effects. I think thereās going to be a huge spate of gay divorces if this goes through and that will look really bad for the community. That might give us an even worse name. You know how some of these queens are.
I think we have to spend more time earning respect and acceptance in the workplace and in the community and society in general. Thatās the most important thing we have to concentrate on.
People seem so obsessed with this marriage stuff and there are so many things out there that are more important. Iām also concerned with how it will turn out when these queens run out and jump into marriage and realize later they canāt get out of it so easily. Thatās not to say everyone will get divorced, of course, but some will and weāve been so used to just shacking up for so many years and being able to leave whenever we want. It wonāt always be so easy to do that. The gay girls, at least the ones I know and have been associated with, seem to stay in their relationships forever. They seem to want to make more of a commitment.
David Lett/Lena Lett (priest/drag queen)

David Lett (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
For me, marriage is not the brass ring. It certainly is a milestone and it does get us a little bit closer to overall equality, but is this the end of the movement? Unfortunately I donāt think that will ever happen. I donāt think blacks could ever foresee a day when the NAACP could go away and everything would be fine from then on. Even struggles that we think of as being from a totally different era, like the Irish fully finding their place in society, as long as thereās sickness and sadness in the world, there will be discrimination and as long as you have people bound by ignorance and bound by fear, then you will have the haves and the have nots and there has to be a group for the have nots.
I donāt think itās realistic at all given human nature, for any of the groups to just say, āOK, weāre done ā letās pack up and go home.ā The people who are there to make sure these things are fully accepted over the long haul, those people will always have a job.
I donāt really see marriage ā and this is from somebody who performs them ā as that big a deal. I can see it symbolically and for long-term relational issues like money and securities and inheritance and that sort of thing, but itās not really as big as some of the other issues.
If you think about it, most professionals who are involved in weddings ā clergy, dress designers, event coordinators, cake decorators, organists ā youāre dealing with a lot of people who happen to be gay themselves and so to be denied that themselves is a real slap in the face. Itās the same thing as it was for black people ā āOh, itās OK for me to work in the dining room but itās not OK to sit in the dining room?ā That shit doesnāt work anymore. Weāve progressed too far and worked for too long to get where we are.
And all this will outlast the conservative movement. Theyāve basically said, āMarriage, oh my God, you canāt touch that, weāll have a constitutional amendment,ā but once you start messing with the Constitution, thatās a really big deal. Thatās not just a little state picking on you, thatās the whole government saying, āNo, youāre an invalid creature.ā But no, you will not mess with the Constitution to say that I am less than. The movement has really been the perfect example of Newtonās Law ā for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. They came out with this stuff and we came back full force. I donāt see that ending anytime soon.
Allyson Robinson (OutServe-SLDN)
At OutServe-SLDN, we’ve seen the future of the LGBT civil rights movement. We live in that future every day.
As the morning of September 20, 2011 dawned on American military installations around the world, gay and lesbian service members awoke to a new reality: their service in defense of this country would no longer be contingent on a willingness to lie about who they were. Ending “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” was an historic accomplishment, decades in the making, and with it, our two predecessor organizations ā Servicemembers Legal Defense Network and OutServe ā achieved the goal around which they had been rallying support for years.
But when the celebrations ended and we took stock of the new military weād helped create, we realized our work wasnāt over. It was just getting started. Gay and lesbian troops could now be āout,ā but they were anything but equal.
Passing good laws and enacting good policies is hard work. Changing culture is much harder. Thatās the mission weāve claimed for ourselves at OutServe-SLDN ā building a culture of inclusion and respect for LGBT people in our military ā even as we continue the fight to end the discriminatory policies that remain. And thatās the work that awaits nearly every LGBT advocacy organization in America on the other side of that new world weāre hoping to create by pulling down DOMA and enacting nondiscrimination policies. It will be the work of generations, but take it from us: if you havenāt started yet, youāre already behind the power curve.
Real Estate
Rental housing discrimination and you
There are many ways landlords can disadvantage LGBTQ renters

Housing discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender expression is illegal in the District of Columbia. This means that housing providers cannot refuse to rent to someone or treat them differently in their housing-related decisions because of their sexual orientation or gender expression.
But what might housing discrimination against LGBTQ home seekers look like?
Discriminatory treatment can occur at a number of stages in the home rental or purchase process, including when scheduling rental (or sales) showings, during a tour of the property, or during the application or post-application process.
But discrimination may also occur while you are living in a rental home. Todayās discrimination may not be as blatant as an outright rejection or a snide remark about a protected category. There have been incidents of discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender expression discrimination cited in rental housing disputes and lawsuits.
Some of these include landlords refusing to rent or renew leases to LGBTQ tenants; harassment of LGBTQ tenants by landlords or from other tenants; imposing different rental terms and conditions; failing to provide necessary repairs or maintenance to a rental unit where LGBTQ individuals reside (while other non-LGBTQ tenants receive prompt service); as well as failing to take action against other parties who engage in discriminatory behavior toward the LGBTQ tenants.
But there is good news.
Housing industry leaders are actively working to eliminate these instances of discrimination in housing. Both at the national level through the National Association of Realtors (NAR) and at the local level through the Greater Capital Area Association of Realtors (GCAAR) association leaders are working with real estate professionals such as licensed sales agents, brokers, and property managers to improve understanding and sensitivity. Their overall promotion of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion (DEI) includes a substantial component surrounding sexual orientation and gender expression.
Christine Barnhart, Vice President of Strategic Communications at GCAAR told us, āWe are doing our part to identify opportunities for diversity and inclusion conversation and education, and to promote the practice of inclusion and equity among our leadership, members, staff and within the industry.ā GCAAR seeks to drive a larger conversation around DEI In addition to their āDEI Championsā program, providing a summary of their larger DEI initiatives can be found on their website. Ā
That education of the key industry players is being delivered through a variety of initiatives and updates to codes and policies. Barnhart points out that the programmatic elements of the training being done keep their members up to date, āGCCARās āDEI Championsā program features three key diversity training elements:
- āCompletion of the six-hour āAt Home With Diversityā (AHWD) certification course
- āThe National Association of Realtors (NAR) āFairhaven fair housing simulation,ā and
- āNAR’s Bias Override: Overcoming Barriers to Fair Housing video.ā
I took this certification course and found it very helpful. My original inspiration to become a GCAAR DEI Champion was to augment my service to the community. Now having been through the course, Iām better enabled to āput myself into othersā shoes.ā I gained a stronger awareness of how each of us possesses inherent biases. And the program made me more authentically aware of the impact of my comments, my decisions, and my actions on others.
Similarly, the District of Columbia provides ethical codes and regulations for housing providers here in the city to address discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender expression. For example, D.C.ās Office of Human Rights (OHR) has implemented guidelines and training programs for landlords and property owners to ensure they are aware of their obligations under anti-discrimination laws.
These regulations, industry guidelines, ethic codes, and best practices all help to make the D.C. rental housing market more inclusive and welcoming than other jurisdictions for all individuals, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender expression,. However, if you feel that you have been a victim of discrimination, there are many agencies to turn to.
- Equal Rights Center – a civil rights organization that identifies and seeks to eliminate unlawful and unfair discrimination in housing, employment, and public accommodations in Greater Washington, D.C. and nationwide.
- D.C. Office of Human Rights – The District of Columbia Office of Human Rights enforces local and federal human rights laws, including the D.C. Human Rights Act, by providing a legal process to those who believe they have been discriminated against.
- Whitman-Walker Health – A non-profit organization that provides legal services, including assistance with housing discrimination cases, to the LGBTQ community in D.C.
- National Center for Transgender Equality – A national advocacy organization that works to advance the rights of transgender people, including those experiencing discrimination in housing.
- The DC Trans Coalition – A community-based organization that works to advance the rights and well-being of transgender and gender non-conforming individuals in the District of Columbia.
- Pride Center of the Capitol Region– A community center that offers a variety of resources and support for the LGBTQ+ community in D.C., including assistance with housing discrimination cases.
As a gay-owned business and long-term member of the Equality Chamber of Commerce, it is important to me that all who interact with me and my companies feel welcomed and taken care of, particularly the LGBTQ community.Ā Building on the foundation of the DEI courses, our firm will work to educate our staff and reinforce a culture of understanding and acceptance.Ā How about yours?
Scott Bloom is senior property manager and owner, Columbia Property Management. For more information and resources, go to ColumbiaPM.com.

Move over, Tesla! Elon Musk may have delivered a record number of electric vehicles last year, but rivals are certainly nipping at his heels. Robust demand for the all-electric Mustang Mach-E, for example, has helped make Ford the second-best EV producer in the U.S. And global EV sales for Mercedes more than doubled in 2022, thanks in part to the automakerās all-electric crossover: the EQB. Motorheads like me are all charged about such electrifying rides, and for good reason.
FORD MUSTANG MACH-E
$46,000
Battery range: 270-312 miles
0 to 60 mph: 5.1 seconds
OK, fine, Ford sold fewer than 62,000 EVs in the U.S. last year compared with over 522,000 cars sold by Tesla. Yet while Tesla sales were up 40%, Ford EV sales skyrocketed a whopping 126%. Yes, Tesla sold an impressive 1.3 million-plus vehicles worldwide in 2022, but Ford expects to sell 2 million EVs by 2026. The Mustang Mach-Eāfirst introduced as a 2021 modelāshows you one way Ford expects to get there.
For 2023, Ford knew better than to mess with the winning design of the Mach-E, which is at once futuristic and timeless. My fave styling cue is the clever use of flush-mounted buttons on the outside door frames instead of clunky conventional door handles.
Inside, with the battery placed under the floor, thereās oodles of room for passengers and cargoāincluding 60 cubic feet of stowage with the rear seats folded. Beneath the center console, thereās enough space for a handbag or small computer case.
The wide dashboard has a built-in soundbar, as well as large vertical touchscreen for the infotainment system. An active-safety systemāwith forward-collision alert, emergency braking, evasive steering and suchāis now standard across the lineup.
This year the battery range can reach up to 312 miles, which outpaces much of the competitionāincluding the Hyundai Ioniq, Volkswagen ID.4 and Volvo C40 Recharge. Another plus: Mach-E sticker prices have been reduced between $400 and $5,700, depending on trim level. Pricing also has been slashed for the extended-range battery, from $8,600 to $7,000.
Sure, thereās still a big difference between the $46,000 base model and $65,000 high-test GT. But trust me, the thrill of that GT is hard to resist. Stomp on the accelerator, enjoy the excitement as your body is thrust back against the driverās seat, and be prepared to achieve warp speed. Rocketing from 0 to 60 mph in just 3.5 seconds took my breath awayāliterally. Many auto aficionados were skeptical when Ford first gave this EV the seemingly bait-and-switch moniker of a āMustang,ā but the GT version of the Mach-E comes closest to feeling like a true pony car.
One side note: With so much emphasis on EVs today, itās easy to forget how much of a gamble it was for Ford to create the Mach-E. After all, this was not the automakerās first electric-car rodeo. Henry Ford built a prototype for a low-cost battery-powered vehicle in 1913, then opted for the internal combustion engine. Other experimental EVs came and went, including the quirky 1966 Ford Comuta minicar and an all-electric 1998 Ford Ranger pickup, which lasted only four years.
Lucky for Ford, it looks like the Mustang Mach-E is a keeper.
(For more on the Ford Mustang Mach-E, read āOne Lean, Mean Green Machine.ā)
MERCEDES EQB
$54,000
Battery range: 205-243 miles
0 to 60 mph: 5.6 seconds

My, how time changes things. As recently as 2020, Mercedes said that its diesel-powered cars were here to stay. But within a year, Mercedes announced it would go all-electric by 2030.
Enter the Mercedes EQS. This flagship sedan debuted last spring in the U.S. and was followed by the seven-passenger EQS SUV. Both EVs are exquisite, oozing luxury and overflowing with techno gadgetry. Butāouch!āpricing for these beauties starts at $105,000 and tops out at close to $170,000.
Fortunately, for those of us on a plebian budget, thereās the new Mercedes EQB. At half the price of its larger EQS siblings, the all-electric EQB is built on the same platform as the gas-powered GLB compact crossover. And except for minor styling tweaks and a bit quicker acceleration, the EQB looks and handles like the GLB. Thatās a good thing for anyone needing some reassurance when making the leap to their first EV.
Despite the low price on a base-model EQB, standard features include power liftgate, dual-zone climate control, automated parking, ambient interior lighting and other niceties. Thereās also the MBUX infotainment system, which comes with 10.25-inch touchscreen, voice-recognition technology, smartphone integration and a navigation system.
While the EQB does seat seven, third-row legroom is extremely tight. Best to leave those seats folded flat, unless carting around kidsāand only for short distances.
Comparing the Ford Mustang Mach-E and Mercedes EQB is easy: Both have similar pricing and amenities. The Mach-E is certainly faster and has more of a space-age ambiance, but the traditional driving experience of the EQB is comforting on long drives. And, well, the EQB also has that coveted three-point star found only on a Mercedes.

Buying art for your new home can be both fun and an investment for the future. You can scour local galleries, visit antique stores, or buy paintings and posters online. Sometimes, youāll even find local artisans displaying their work on the walls of real estate offices.
When it comes to a budget for art, the skyās the limit. From original oil or acrylic paintings to clay or marble sculpture, to lighting of Chihuly glass, there is much to choose from. Even street art and painted murals can bring joy to accent walls.
Personally, I have a fondness for contemporary lithographs in primary colors and Blenko glass, but no matter what your taste, you may find art you love right beneath your feet in carpets and rugs that enhance your dĆ©cor. Before you choose a rug to anchor your furnishings, determine what itās made of and how it will work in your space.
Near the top of your budget, youāll find pure wool rugs. They stand up well to high-traffic areas like living rooms and feel cozy beneath your feet. Good at repelling water and dirt, they can be hand-knotted or loomed and may have fringed edges.
Natural fiber rugs made of jute, seagrass, and sisal work well on their own or as an underlayment for other rugs. While inexpensive, you may find that they shed fibers, so using a rug pad under them will keep those fibers from scratching your floor.
An animal hide rug often serves as a statement piece, with each being as unique as the animal from which it came. Thankfully, you can now obtain the same look with synthetic hides with natural coloring or even dyed in bright hues.
Cotton rugs, braided or hooked, provide a more casual look for less. Many are machine washable, but they fade easily, especially if used in areas of direct sunlight or high traffic. They are also slippery when used on hard floors, so be sure to place a rug pad beneath them.
Most wall-to-wall carpet and bound area rugs today are made of synthetic fibers such as polyester and nylon. Since these machine-woven beauties often mimic real wool and there are plenty to choose from, they are generally the most affordable.
Silk rugs are best in low traffic areas where there is little chance of pet accidents or spills. You may also see them hung on walls in lieu of paintings. These rugs will require professional cleaning and are among the most expensive offerings. In addition to the Persian and Oriental styles, you can now find more modern designs made of silk.
Another thing to consider is whether you want an eco-friendly or non-toxic rug. Determining which is which can sometimes be confusing. While eco-friendly refers to a product that is healthy for the environment, a non-toxic rug made without potentially harmful chemicals focuses on the health of people.
Always read the label of a rug that you are considering purchasing. Rugs made of olefin, polyester and nylon are created through chemical processes. Flame retardant and water repellant coatings can be toxic. Natural materials may have been sprayed with pesticides. Even dyes and rubber backings may contribute to an unhealthy home.
Several rug manufacturers advertise their products as non-toxic, including FLOR, Safavieh, Lorena Canals, and Hook & Loom. If you canāt find a non-toxic rug you like, you can minimize the effect of chemical treatments and odors by allowing your rug to off-gas outside or by leaving a light coating of baking soda on it overnight before vacuuming.
Next, think about the size and shape of your new rug. Will there be at least 3 inches of rug behind the front legs of your furniture as suggested by Martha Stewart? Do you have an apartment or condominium that requires a certain percentage of hard flooring be covered? Do you want to soften the edges of a room by using a round or oval rug or will you need a runner for hall or stairs?
The style, pattern, and texture of your rug will determine whether it simply muffles noise or becomes a favorite piece of art. Try a modern shag or an antique dhurrie. Layer several silk rugs on top of each other. Select a bold chevron, an Ikat pattern, or a mid-century Mondrian vibe.
Embrace color with an abstract Bohemian or choose a floral, stripe, or sculptured, tone-on-tone rug. You can also let your creative juices flow by designing a custom piece.
Whatever you choose, let the art under your feet reflect your personality and style, and enjoy it for years to come.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed associate broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH Real Estate / @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her via DCHomeQuest.com, or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
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