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Delaware same-sex marriage law takes effect
Sen. Karen Peterson, Vikki Bandy converted civil union into marriage; couples apply for marriage licences

Vikki Bandy and state Sen. Karen Peterson sign their marriage certificates in Wilmington, Del., on July 1. (Washington Blade photo by Michael K. Lavers)
WILMINGTON, Del. — A Delaware lawmaker who came out during a debate over her state’s same-sex marriage bill earlier this year and her partner on Monday became the first couple to take advantage of the gay nuptials law.
State Sen. Karen Peterson (D-Stanton) and her partner, Vikki Bandy, converted their civil union into a marriage at the New Castle County Clerk of the Peace’s office in Wilmington.
“It’s exciting, both historically and personally,” Peterson told reporters after she and Bandy exchanged vows in a private ceremony. “I never thought in our lifetimes we would be getting married.”

Daniel Cole and Joseph Daigle, II, of Wilmington, Del., on Monday became the first same-sex couple without a civil union to legally marry in the state. (Washington Blade photo by Michael K. Lavers)
Rehoboth Beach residents Chris Beagle and Eric Engelhart later on Monday became the first gay couple in Sussex County to convert their civil union into a marriage. Joseph Daigle, II, and Daniel Cole of Wilmington are the first same-sex couple who had not previously entered into a civil union to tie the knot in Delaware.
Attorney General Beau Biden and New Castle County Executive Tom Gordon are among those who spoke at Daigle and Cole’s wedding that took place inside the Marian Cruger Coffin Gardens at the Gibraltar Mansion in Wilmington on Monday evening.
“Today we are witnesses to a historic event for Delaware and for our community and quite frankly our future,” Biden said.
Daigle and Cole spoke with reporters after they exchanged vows.
“This was one of the most exciting moments of my life,” Daigle said. “I am so happy to be married to Dan.”
New Castle County Clerk of the Peace Ken Boulden, who officiated both Peterson and Bandy and Daigle and Cole’s weddings, said 108 same-sex couples in Delaware received marriage licenses on Monday. The state did not waive the 24-hour waiting period for any other gay or lesbian couples on the first day they could legally tie the knot.
Alexander Perez and Brad Poulter of Wilmington, who have been together for eight years, received their marriage license at the New Castle County Clerk of the Peace’s office shortly after Peterson and Bandy exchanged their marriage vows.
The men plan to tie the knot in Wilmington on July 13.
“It’s great to be living in a state that recognizes equality, realizes everyone is equal,” Poulter said.
11 states and D.C. now allow same-sex marriage.
Gays and lesbians in Minnesota and Rhode Island will begin to legally tie the knot on August 1.
The U.S. Supreme Court on June 26 found a portion of the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional and struck down California’s Proposition 8 that had banned same-sex marriage. Gays and lesbians in the Golden State began to once again exchange vows on June 28 after the U.S. Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals listed its stay on gay nuptials in response to the justices’ Prop 8 ruling.
“You realize the benefits that you don’t have by not having marriage, or in our case civil unions,” Peterson said, noting Bandy was diagnosed with stage three ovarian cancer three years ago.
Bandy is now in remission, but Peterson had to pay extra taxes because her now spouse was on her health insurance policy.
“With DOMA gone that will not happen,” Peterson said.
A handful of Westboro Baptist Church members protested outside the New Castle County offices in which the Clerk of the Peace is located before Peterson and Bandy exchanged vows. The more than 100 same-sex marriage supporters who gathered across the street vastly outnumbered them.
“If you don’t want a gay marriage, don’t get one,” Alison Sprong of New Jersey told the Washington Blade as she stood among other same-sex marriage supporters outside the county offices in downtown Wilmington. “Don’t infringe on other peoples’ rights to do so.”
Wilmington resident Alex Koriakin, who plans to marry his partner next year, agreed as he applauded the state for allowing gays and lesbians to tie the knot.
“It’s time,” he said. “It’s great that Delaware can be one of the first states to take advantage of that.”
Equality Delaware President Lisa Goodman, who also applied for a marriage license with her spouse, Drew Fennell, on Monday, agreed.
“So many people have worked for so many years to get us to this day,” Goodman told the Blade before she entered the county’s offices to attend Peterson and Bandy’s ceremony. “To actually be standing here about to go in and have the first licenses issued is just an amazing feeling.”
District of Columbia
Gay priest credited with boosting church support for LGBTQ Catholics
Fr. Tom Oddo’s biographer speaks at Dignity Washington event
The author of a biography of a U.S. Catholic priest said to have advocated for support by the Catholic Church of gay Catholics in the early 1970s has called Father Thomas ‘Tom’ Oddo a little known but important figure in the LGBTQ rights movement.
Tyler Bieber, author of the recently published book “Against The Current: Father Tom Oddo And the New American Catholic,” told of Oddo’s life and work on behalf of LGBTQ rights at a March 22 talk before the local LGBTQ Catholic group Dignity Washington.
Among Oddo’s important accomplishments, Bieber said, was his role as a co-founder of the national LGBTQ Catholic group Dignity U.S.A. in 1973 at the age of 29.
But as reported in the prologue of his book, Bieber presented details of the sad news that Oddo died in a fatal car crash in 1989 at the age of 45 in Portland, Ore., where he was serving as the highly acclaimed president of the University of Portland, a Catholic institution.
“He was a major figure in the gay rights movement in the 1970s, an unsung hero of that movement,” Bieber told Dignity Washington members, who assembled for his talk in a meeting room at St. Margaret Episcopal Church near Dupont Circle, where they attend their weekly Catholic mass on Sundays.

“And Dignity U.S.A. saw intense growth in membership and visibility” during its early years under Oddo’s leadership, Bieber said. “The story of Father Tom and his contemporaries is a story largely untold in the history of the gay rights movement, but one worth knowing and considering,” he said.
As stated in his book, Bieber told the Dignity Washington gathering Oddo was born and raised in a Catholic family on Long Island, N.Y., and attended a Catholic high school in Flushing Queens. It was at that time when he developed an interest in becoming a priest, according to Bieber.
After studying at the University of Notre Dame and completing his religious studies he was ordained as a priest in 1970 and began his work as a priest in the Boston area, Bieber said. It was around that time, Bieber told the Dignity Washington audience, that gay Catholics approached Oddo to seek advice on how they should interact with the Catholic Church. It was also around that time that Oddo became involved in a group supportive of then gay Catholics that later became a Dignity chapter in Boston.
In a development considered unusual for a Catholic priest, Bieber said Oddo in 1973 testified in support of gay rights bill before a committee of the Massachusetts Legislature and collaborated with then Massachusetts gay and lesbian rights advocate Elaine Noble.
In 1982, at the age of 39, Oddo was selected as president of the University of Portland following several years as a college teacher in the Boston area, Bieber’s book states. It says he was seen as a “vibrant and capable administrator who delivered real results to his campus,” adding, “His magnetism was obvious. One student described him as ‘John Kennedyesque’ to the university’s student newspaper.”
Bieber said that although Oddo was less active with Dignity U.S.A. during his tenure as UP president, he continued his support for gay Catholics and what is now referred to as LGBTQ rights.
“For those that knew him prior to his term at UP, though, he represented something greater than an accomplished university administrator and educator,” Bieber’s book states. “He was a new kind of priest, a gay man living and ministering in a world set loose from tradition by the Second Vatican Council,” the book says.
It was referring to the Vatican gathering of worldwide Catholic leaders from 1962 to 1965 concluding under Pope Paul VI that church observers say modernized church practices to allow far greater participation by the laity and opened the way for sympathetic consideration of gay Catholics.
District of Columbia
HRC to host National Rainbow Seder
Bet Mishpachah among annual event’s organizers
The 18th National Rainbow Seder will take place at the Human Rights Campaign on Sunday.
The sold out event is the country’s largest Passover Seder for the Jewish LGBTQ community.
Organizations behind the event include Bet Mishpachah, a local D.C. LGBTQ synagogue that Rabbi Jake Singer-Beilin leads, and GLOE, an Edlavitch DC Jewish Community Center program that sponsors events for the queer Jewish community. The theme for this year’s Seder is “Liberation For All Who Journey: Remembering, Resisting, Rebuilding.” Rabbis Atara Cohen, Koach Frazier, and Avigayil Halpern will lead it.
The Seder will honor the late GLOE co-chair Michael Singer. Singer also served on the Edlavitch DC Jewish Community Center’s board.
“This Seder is both a celebration of how far we have come and a call to continue building a more just and inclusive world.” Bet Mishpachah Executive Director Joshua Maxey told the Washington Blade.
A gay man was murdered in Petersburg, Va., on March 13.
Shyyell Diamond Sanchez-McCray, who was also known as Saamel and Mable, was a drag queen who won the Miss Mayflower EOY pageant in 2015. Reports also indicate Sanchez-McCray, 42, was a well-known community activist in Virginia and in North Carolina.
Local media reports indicate police officers found Sanchez-McCray shot to death inside a home in Petersburg.
Sanchez-McCray’s brother, Jamal Mitchell Diamond, in a public statement the Washington Blade received from Equality Virginia and GLAAD, said Sanchez-McCray was not transgender as initial reports indicated.
“Our family has always embraced the fullness of who he was. He used the names Saamel, Shyyell, and Mable interchangeably, and we honor all of them. There is no division within our family regarding how he is being represented — only a shared commitment to preserving his truth with love and respect,” said Diamond.
“He was also deeply committed to community work through Nationz Foundation, where he worked and completed multiple state-certified programs to support marginalized communities,” added Diamond. “That work meant a great deal to him.”
Authorities have not made any arrests.
The Petersburg Bureau of Police has asked anyone with information about Sanchez-McCray’s murder to call Petersburg-Dinwiddie Crime Solvers at 804-861-1212.
