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Russell Simmons: Athletes leading our cultural awakening
Nation evolving faster on LGBT rights with mainstream support
By RUSSELL SIMMONS:
One of the greatest obstacles standing between us and our ability to evolve is our tendency to behave like sheep.Ā For far too long, many people in our nation have followed the herd of hatred against our LGBTQ brothers and sisters.Ā I could never understand one person’s desire to keep another person from living a life full of joy and happiness, but for decades I have witnessed this kind of oppression across this country. That is why I am a proud gay rights activist, as I have always believed that the rights I take for granted are worthless unless I fight for those same rights for others.
So I have stood hand-in-hand with the LGBTQ community fighting for equality, freedom and the right for a peaceful existence and although the lights have been out for quite some time, a match has been lit that now burns bright.
One of the proudest days of my life was when marriage equality was passed in New York State.Ā Knowing that we played a small part in creating happiness for thousands of families across my home state was very special.Ā And now to witness state after state after state legalize marriage for any two people who share love in their hearts, regardless of sexual orientation, has been extraordinarily gratifying.
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The spiritual awakening that’s going to lead to the change in our nation’s department of compassion and eventual enlightenment can come at any second.Ā And what we have seen over the past few years is that change has come and it has come with new leadership and new allies.Ā Leadership that is young and energetic and allies that have come from an unexpected domain for many of us; the fields of football and the courts of basketball, the stadiums of baseball and the ice rinks of hockey, the stages of rap concerts and the screens of Hollywood ā there has been an emergence of athletes and entertainers that have transformed the compassion of our country’s heart to a level we have never seen before.
In my belief, it has been the “main-streaming” of this movement that has led to this recent cultural awakening.Ā When Super Bowl champions like Brendon Ayanbadejo and rap icons like Jay-Z advocate proudly and loudly for gay rights, our country can evolve much quicker. It is no longer just the gay community fighting for themselves, it is a wealth of comrades and allies who march alongside them vigorously defending their constitutional rights.
I am inspired by this new wave of heroes who wave the rainbow flag with pride, knowing that they are creating a more compassionate America that ultimately will directly affect the hearts and minds of millions around the world.Ā They are now the herders of hope, leading this nation to the top of that mountain Dr. King so eloquently spoke about the night before he passed the torch.
About Russell Simmons:
Forbes Magazine recently named Russell Simmons one of āHollywoodās Most Influential Celebrities.ā USA Today named Russell Simmons one of the āTop 25 Most Influential People of the Past 25 Years,ā calling him a āhip-hop pioneerā for his groundbreaking vision that has influenced music, fashion, finance, the jewelry industry, television and film, as well as the face of modern philanthropy. From creating his seminal Def Jam Recordings in 1984, to his fashion industry changing brands including Phat Farm in 1992, Baby Phat in 2001 and current men’s lifestyle brand Argyleculture, to founding UniRush in 2003 providing instant access to a set of basic financial services for over 48 million Americans who could not previously establish traditional banking relationships, to the 2007 publishing of his New York Times best-seller āDo You! 12 Laws to Access the Power in You to Achieve Happiness and Success,ā to founding GlobalGrind.com, the leading online destination for celebrity entertainment, music, culture and politics for the new, post-racial America and his latest New York Times bestseller āSUPER RICH: A Guide To Having It Allā, Russell is recognized globally for his influence and entrepreneurial approach to both business and philanthropy. Giving back is of primary importance to him in all aspects of life and as Chairman and CEO of Rush Communications, he has consistently leveraged his influence in the recording industry, fashion, television, financial services, and jewelry sectors to give back. A devoted yogi, Russell also leads the non-profit division of his empire, Rush Community Affairs, and its ongoing commitment to empowering at-risk youth through education, the arts, social engagement, and promoting racial harmony and strengthening inter-group relations. Russell is a native New Yorker who attended City College of New York. Russell has two daughters, Ming Lee and Aoki Lee.
I submitted the column below to the Washington Post as an oped with the above headline, having no real expectations it would be published. They often publish my letters, but never when I criticize them directly. Imagine my surprise when I received an email after five days from Ryan Vogt, in the opinions section of the Post, sharing a version of the oped they had shortened to a 228-word letter, asking if I was OK with that version and saying if I was, they would consider publishing it. I wondered if he did the editing. I gave him an immediate OK to publish it. Then having heard nothing from him for a few days, I contacted him and was told āunfortunately, it is falling out of the mix of letters to be published.ā My comment back to him was āno surprise.ā
Here is the oped as I submitted it to the Post:
When the publisher of The New York Times, A.G. Sulzberger, is given space in the Washington Post for his oped, āHow the quiet war against press freedom could come to Americaā on the threat to the free press if Trump is elected, itās time for the free press to speak out. The Washington Post editorial board seems to either be asleep, or willing to let MAGA Republicans win. One would think their slogan āDemocracy dies in darknessā would compel them to speak out.
The Post is the major newspaper for the DMV area, and they have yet to make an editorial endorsement in the presidential race. They didnāt endorse Senator Tim Kaine (D-Va.), running against a MAGA Republican for reelection, until three days after early voting began in Virginia. They have yet to endorse any congressional candidates in Virginia when we know there are a host of MAGA Republicans running who have endorsed Donald Trump and his platform.
I understand newspapers report the news, but then reporting, and editorial content, are two different things and should be separate. Now it would be nice if editors suggested to their reporters, like it seemed they did when writing about Biden and appending his age to every mention of him, that when reporting on Trump they would append the facts he is now the oldest man to ever run for president on a major party ticket, is a convicted felon, and been held liable for sexual assault. All verifiable facts.
One has to question what is holding the Post back from issuing a presidential endorsement. Are they actually thinking of endorsing a man who their paper wrote tried to stage a coup on January 6, 2021. A candidate who has said he wants to be a dictator on his first day in office, and use federal agencies to get back at his enemies. If they really care about democracy, and freedom of the press, they should be editorializing for Kamala Harris every day in an effort to defeat Trump and his MAGA cult. They should be endorsing against any candidate who supports Trump, and should have done it before voting began.
Either the editorial board is afraid to speak out, asleep at the switch, or being controlled by the paperās owner, Jeff Bezos, who might have asked them to hold up endorsements. Are they trying to play both sides in this election in an effort to not lose subscribers? Any of those possibilities is scary, and incredibly sad, for what was once a great major newspaper. A paper owned by the courageous Katherine Graham, who was willing to stand up to a president, no matter the cost to her, or her paper.
Does the Postās editorial board lacking diversity have anything to do with holding up endorsements? Why are they seemingly cowering in a corner without any backbone, or willingness to stand up for a free press, and democracy. Is the fear of losing subscribers so paramount the Washington Post continues to publish MAGA Republican opinion columns, and yet wonāt endorse? What principles does their editorial board believe in? What do they think will happen if the writers of Project 2025, Trumpās friends, end up in the White House, and have positions throughout the administration? What do they think, if they are thinking at all, will happen when the federal Department of Education, including its Civil Rights division, is closed? If the Federal Deposit Insurance Corp. (FDIC) is closed, and people no longer have insurance when banks go under, do they care? From the editorial boardās lack of action, it would seem they either donāt care, are in favor of those things, or donāt understand the ramification of those possibilities.
The Washington Post, a once respected paper, owned by Katherine Graham who was willing to stand up for democracy, is now just a ghost of what it once was. If Trump wins because they lack the courage to speak out, they could become totally irrelevant. This is not a time for looking the other way, or thinking they have to be fair to all sides, when one side will destroy what they claim to stand for, a strong democracy and a free press. As early voting continues in Virginia, with no endorsements form the Post, and ballots are sent out in D.C. and Maryland, shortly what the Post editorial board does wonāt matter. They will just be another paper, with a big megaphone, they refused to use.
Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist.
Commentary
Itās time we talk about trauma
Coping with parental rejection a common struggle for LGBTQ community
(Authorās note: The content of this article may be triggering for some readers. If you or someone you know struggles with suicidal ideation, support can be found by calling or texting 988.)
In becoming a barback, I dove headfirst into the underbelly of fast-paced, homoerotic nightlife, which can be as stressful as it is fun but almost always entertaining. For me, though, the best part has been the camaraderie formed with my staff, in particular the other barbacks, all of whom bust ass behind the scenes while sharing laughs and memes along the way. Among this crew Iāve formed solid, healthy friendships, although itās Marsel in particular who sees me in a way most in D.C. never has.
At first, I wasnāt sure if Marsel and I would get along. Heās ripped, tatted, confident, and hot, which is essentially the recipe for intimidating. Then we worked bar shifts together and I finally got to know him. Turns out heās insanely witty, kind if youāre not an asshole, and overall easy to talk to. As it so happens, he and I are quite similar: two gays in our mid-30s working as barbacks who ended up in D.C. after growing up in rural, ruby-red states. Still, one parallel stands out above the rest: we both also have daddy issues.
Thatās rightāitās a clichĆ© and often a punch line of jokes (which can still be funny, by the way), but the reality for many queers is rejection from one or both parents. For some, including Marsel and me, the traits of a toxic parent warps childhood beyond just conservative thinking. Case in point: both of our dads harbored deeply rooted anger and resentment, making their reaction to learning who we are seemingly inevitable.
For Marsel, that pivotal moment came when his parents discovered he had a boyfriend in high school. In addition to filling his mind with fears about being gay, āthey made me switch schools, severely monitored all my communications, what I would wear to school, and who I could hang out with. I spent the remainder of my high school years alone with no friends, isolated in a rural town outside of Nashville.ā
A few years later, Marselās parents kicked him out upon learning he engaged in sexual activity with men. āThey expelled me from the family home and, for many years, treated me as though I no longer existed to them. I spent the better part of a year living in my car and the rest of the time couch-surfing, relying on the kindness of friends.ā
As for me: my dad served dual roles as patriarch and specter of my family. He was abusive physically and verbally, though still I tried maintaining a connection to the guy, likely fueling my attraction to mean guys but thatās another story. Despite my efforts, my father abruptly ended our relationship shortly after I came out. In our last phone call, he couldnāt even say the word gay, choosing instead āthe way you are.ā From there he listed everything he disliked about me, none of which was my homosexuality because these days no one admits so boldly to prejudice. Instead, they gaslight you with every other vulnerability as justification for mistreating you.
Itās been well over a decade since Iāve spoken to or even seen my father, and at this point Iām certain heāll happily march to his grave without seeing me again. Losing a parent is always hard. Losing one because they donāt want to love you anymore, wellāitās a searing pain that rips your heart wide open. I wouldnāt wish it on my worst enemy.
Sadly, stories like these are far from unique among queers, nor are they the sole trauma we experience. From living in shadows and in shame, to schoolyard bullying and alienation, to pressures of religion or toxic masculinity, to a higher likelihood of sexual violence or discrimination in the workplace, we are affronted with so many traumas theyāre nearly a marker for our kind. This also doesnāt include intersectionality with other traumas, such as a growing up in America a woman, a person of color, or poor. Itās no wonder, then, that the National Institutes of Health (NIH) published a review last year declaring, āLGBTQ people are at higher risk of PTSD compared with their cisgender/heterosexual peers.ā
To most queers, what I just described is neither new nor surprising. In fact, in the face of this collective trauma, queers often come together in the form of fundraisers or Pride events. Yet despite rallying around the common inputs of our trauma, we rarely discuss the outputs. Thatās right ā emotional trauma has outputs, as neuroscience has proven, and when left untreated those outputs emerge as toxic traits in our adult lives.
To illustrate, letās take it back to Marsel. While he hoped to leave his past behind in Tennessee, that wasnāt the case. āFor things I hadnāt fully processed or dealt with, my past trauma would bubble up to the surface in the form of emotional triggers, which would inevitably spark my anger. My anger manifested in various ways, and I would often find reasons to justify my behavior. I was angry about my relationships, angry about my body, angry about my career ā basically, I was angry about everything. And the root of all that anger was the unresolved trauma I hadnāt properly addressed.ā
I couldnāt relate more. I tried to be tough and pretend I didnāt care that my father abandoned me, but the thought still crossed my mind and crushed me every time. Then I took that pain and subconsciously projected my anger everywhere ā onto friends, onto other gays, onto myself, but especially onto my relationships, where Iād swing like a pendulum between states of hyperattachment and hyperdetachment with almost no in-between. Steadily, my unresolved trauma chipped away at my self-worth, and once that goes, self-destruction is inevitable.
Since the path to self-destruction is riddled with more trauma, the downward spiral only gets steeper. āMy most impactful and lasting piece of trauma occurred two days before my 25th birthday,ā Marsel told me. āThe summer of 2013 I had been more than reckless with the frequency of my sexual encounters. I had often done pretty dangerous and wild things in regard to meeting up with guys. Then, on Dec. 10, 2013, I found out I was HIV positive.
āAt the time it was quite Earth-shattering news because I knew no one who was positive and had no idea what this would mean for me. I was pretty hard on myself for being reckless, and it took a bit to pick myself up, but over time I used it to inspire me to live my life fully and authentically.ā
Often it takes Earth-shattering events to serve as a wakeup call for change. When my PTSD transformed into social anxiety, it was easy to suppress at first with sex, drugs, and most often alcohol, which inevitably led to the occasional outburst, or the loss of a friend. Yet still Iād go out, even more anxious Iād run into newly formed enemies, so Iād drink more, at times pre-gaming by myself before pre-gaming with others before eventually stumbling into the bars. Naturally this facilitated more outbursts, cost me more relationships, and once landed me a night in jail. The further I unraveled, the more I numbed it with heavier drinking, darker sex, harder drugs, until finally ā it pains me to write, but for the sake of honesty I must ā I was contemplating, threatening, and attempting suicide.
Sorry to get heavy, but itās important to dissect why and how queers experience emotional hardship. We donāt struggle simply because weāre queer but rather due to the trauma thrust upon us by a world that still fears queers. As a result, normal events ā such as a breakup or losing a job ā can feel insurmountable, like proof that those who rejected us were right all along.
Thankfully, queers can rely on each other for support, right? Sounds nice in theory, but in practice we D.C. gays are pretty fucking mean to each other. Sure, we find our friends, but often our community is itching to judge us at every corner. We throw insults, ostracize those deemed ācrazy,ā and constantly seek validation from people we (Instagram) deem perfect. And no, I am not above this. Iāve been a narcissist. Iāve burned bridges with glee. Looking back, it was my inner turmoil bursting at my seams.
Marsel summarized our behavior well: āEverything is a trauma response. That mean gay you see at the bar ā trauma response. That gym obsessed muscle queen ā trauma response. That career-driven type-A Capitol Hill gay ā trauma response. Most of the time I find when people are treating me a certain way, it has little to do with me and everything to do with their own trauma.ā
So, we find ourselves amid a queer trauma cycle in which hurt queer people hurt more queer people. Sounds bleak, but the good news is we also have the power to change that. And we must, for a recent survey by the Trevor Project found a staggering 41 percent of LGBTQ+ youth aged 13 to 24 considered suicide in the last year alone. Queer trauma isnāt going away, so itās on us to avoid bestowing our trauma to younger queers and instead provide a safe community not only to thrive but to experience inevitable lows as well. That may seem like a tall order, but based on what Iāve learned from Marsel, two measures can move us closer.
First is simple self-reflection, for when trauma goes unnoticed it grows steadily like mold, potentially upending your behavior without you even noticing. āAs I moved through different stages of my life,ā Marsel explained, āI began to see how this unprocessed trauma and anger influenced so many aspects of who I had become. It colored my reactions to conflict, my relationships with others, and even my relationship with myself.ā
The only way to process trauma is to excavate your mind and dissect underlying memories and feelings, which can be accomplished in many ways including journaling, art, or my personal favorite: therapy. While I didnāt start therapy until my 30s, taking that leap became a life-changing, and potentially lifesaving, decision. āThrough therapy,ā added Marsel, āI was able to uncover the reasons why this trauma continued to follow me throughout my life and how it manifested.ā
It all sounds so simple: get therapy, and youāll get better. However, therapy only goes as far as you let it. Progress is never linear and brutal honesty is a must; as a result, not everyone gets there (no judgment though, for Iām not all the way there myself). In fact, my hardest step was admitting I needed therapy at all, for seeing a therapist is often treated like spotting a UFO ā no one wants to admit it out of fear of looking insane. However, often the fear of appearing crazy leads to the most toxic behavior, as Iāve witnessed in D.C. time and time again.
To heal requires dissolving the ego. While tough, itās truly the first and most important step.
As for the second measure: we need to cut each other some slack. No, this doesnāt mean excusing terrible behavior, but it does mean holding the belief that others ā including and especially your queer enemies ā can grow. If not, then tell me: whoās supposed to believe in your growth if you donāt believe in the growth of others? And if your response is you donāt need to grow, you likely have the most growing to do.
Writing off one of us is writing off all of us, and if we keep burning each other at the stake for every flaw, weāll grow weaker as a community. Besides, the rest of the world already does that to us. Why do it to each other as well?
My hope is for more queers to see each other the way Marsel and I do. Not because he and I are perfect ā if anything, weāre far from it. Instead, in between inside jokes, we share our mistakes, our hardships, and the work weāre putting in toward self-love and improvement. That feels rare in a city obsessed with perfection, but thatās also why it feels genuine.
And genuine feels worlds better than perfect ever could.Ā
Jake Stewart is a D.C.-based writer and barback.
Opinions
The impact of womenās bills of rights on trans employees
A mechanism to spread discriminatory policies
Around the country, Womenās Bills of Rights (āWomenās BoRsā) have emerged as a mechanism to spread anti-transgender policy under the guise of womenās rights. These laws redefine terms like gender, sex, woman, and man to binary definitions that exclude protections and recognition of transgender, nonbinary, and in some contexts, intersex individuals. The focus of these laws is on public institutions and facilities, such as restrooms and changing rooms.
What do these laws mean for students and employees of public institutions, such as public schools and government agencies? How may private employers react to these laws? We will dive into the rise of Womenās BoR laws, their impact on workplace protections, and what we can expect with the rise of anti-transgender policies.
In early 2022, Independent Womenās Voice and the Womenās Liberation Front introduced the Womenās BoR as model legislation seeking to limit legal recognition of sex to oneās sex assigned at birth. While both groups identify as womenās advocacy organizations, Independent Womenās Voice and the Womenās Liberation Front have long sought to limit the rights of transgender Americans as a primary area of focus. The Womenās BoR entered mainstream politics when Republicans in the House of Representatives and Senate attempted to endorse the legislation in a resolution in 2022. While federal attempts to pass a national Womenās BoR have not been successful, states have begun to adopt similar bills. Throughout 2023 and 2024, state legislators in Kansas, Louisiana, Montana, Mississippi, Oklahoma, Tennessee, and Utah enacted statutes based on the federal bill.
Advocates frame Womenās BoR as supporting women, but they do not positively affect or protect cisgender or transgender women; in actuality, their only impact is to exclude transgender Americans from legal recognition and erase the experience of nonbinary and intersex individuals. In light of this worrisome impact, transgender, nonbinary, and intersex people may wonder what protections they have in workplaces if their state has passed a Womenās BoR.
Each stateās Womenās BoR is unique depending on what laws it sought to amend and how far-reaching its impact will be, but clear throughlines exist nationwide. Transgender, nonbinary, and intersex employees are affected by the redefinition of terms including sex, gender, men, and women, as legislators use outdated and transphobic lenses to categorize individuals and essentially erase any protection of those who do not identify as cisgender women or men. Furthermore, some of these bills place legal consequences on transgender, nonbinary, and intersex employees who use public facilities that align with their gender identity. For example, under the Louisiana Womenās Safety and Protection Act, an individual who alleges they have suffered āany direct or indirect harm as a result of a violation ofā this law may file a lawsuit against the party in violation for relief that may include injunctive relief (a court order to do something or to stop doing something) and attorney fees, damages, and costs associated with the lawsuit. The state seems to be incentivizing these cases by waiving a procedural hurdle that is usually required to get an injunction.
What do these bills mean for transgender, nonbinary, or intersex employees that are employed in states that have enacted a Womenās BoR? If the individual is employed by a state government, public school, or another form of public institution, that institution may take the position that only cisgender employees are protected by the stateās anti-discrimination laws, which they may now interpret as only applying to cisgender women and men.
Oklahomaās Womenās BoR states that āany policy, program, or statute that prohibits sex discrimination shall be construed to forbid unfair treatment of females or males in relation to similarly situated members of the opposite sex.ā By stating that laws only forbid āunfair treatment of females or males,ā the bill may result in transgender, nonbinary, and intersex employees no longer being covered by the Oklahoma Anti-Discrimination Act. Montana similarly appears to have passed legislation that limits āsex discriminationā to only males and females, which could be interpreted as removing transgender, nonbinary, or intersex individuals from the protections of the Montana Human Rights Act.
These employees may still be protected by federal anti-discrimination laws, though, including Title VII of the Civil Rights Act, which prohibits employment discrimination based on gender identity. For instance, if a transgender employee is barred by their employer from using the office locker room that aligns with their gender identity, they may be able to establish a Title VII violation. Similarly, a Title VII or Affordable Care Act violation may be established where a transgender employee is denied coverage for gender-affirming care but cisgender employees are covered for the same procedure or treatment.
Though not all have been labeled Womenās BoR, more than 40 āre-definitionā bills were introduced in state legislatures this year, according to the ACLU, marking a significant increase in this type of legislation. This indicates a concerted effort by certain political groups to roll back protections and recognition for transgender and nonbinary individuals. This legislative push not only threatens to erode hard-won rights but also fosters a climate of discrimination and exclusion. As these bills have gained traction in the past few years, it becomes increasingly important for employers and allies to stay informed and engaged to protect and advance the rights of transgender and nonbinary individuals at both the state and national levels.
It is essential for public and private employers to understand the implications of these laws and how they might affect their workforce. When possible, employers should be proactive in counteracting harmful policies by incorporating specific protective language into their company policies and providing robust support systems for their transgender, nonbinary, and intersex employees. This could involve conducting informational sessions to ensure that employees know their rights and the potential impacts of these laws.
While public employers in states that have passed Womenās BoRs may be more limited in how they can support their transgender, nonbinary, and intersex employees, private employers can support their employees by implementing inclusive policies and practices such as anti-discrimination policies that explicitly protect gender identity and expression; providing comprehensive healthcare benefits that cover gender-affirming treatments and ensuring that facilities, such as restrooms, are accessible to all employees. Additionally, providing support networks, such as employee resource groups, and ensuring that all employees are aware of and have access to these resources can significantly enhance the sense of belonging and safety for transgender, nonbinary, and intersex employees. By doing so, employers can create a more inclusive and supportive work environment, helping to mitigate the negative effects of these legislative changes on their employees.
Dacey Romberg, Madison Zucco, Luke Lamberti, and Xan Wolstenholme-Britt are with Sanford Heisler Sharp.
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