I’ve grown a bit weary of being told to sit up straight and get my gay politics right.
Most people don’t much fancy being told what to do or think. Yet a tone of admonishment is the tenor and tactic that too many lesbian and gay political activists have increasingly utilized of late when attempting to command community conveyance of support on non-gay issues.
It belies a transparent “gay panic” prevalent in some activist circles – the belief that too many of us view political issues and electoral candidates from an “incorrect” viewpoint when not concerning matters of direct relevance or of common concern to gays and lesbians.
Hardly a week goes by absent a reproachable exhortation to adopt a political position or support a particular prescription in order to remedy a matter not directly related to being gay. The presumption that the latter should result in uniformity of opinion regarding the other is fraught with foolishness.
The plain-and-simple truth is it doesn’t.
What these single-minded activists don’t seem to comprehend is that regular folks, and real-world politics, don’t quite work that way. Any assortment of individuals, particularly when sexual orientation is the singular commonality, will have as broad a range of opinions as they themselves are diverse.
Political activists need to win, not scold, support on non-gay issues.
Rather than asserting that being gay should invoke a “plus sign” after one’s identity, it would be more accurate to invert one’s gay identity to a “follow-on” position. As in, “I’m a small business owner and I’m lesbian” or “I’m a feminist and I’m gay.” It would prove more illustrative of evolving self-perceptions in the emerging new world of assimilation in which we’ve begun to live.
Like it or not, we really aren’t different from everyone else. The circumstance of economic class, the particulars of professional engagement and the dominance of self-interest are more potentially predictive of personal politics.
In other words, our individual circumstances are more likely to shape our political positions than the fact that we are gay ever has in the past and almost certainly will not in the future. Stop berating us for it.
In a polarized political environment with high geographic mobility, Americans increasingly surround themselves in cocoons of similarity. When choosing a part of the country or even a neighborhood in which to live, shared lifestyles, party politics and common beliefs can be preeminent factors in determining where we land.
Sexual orientation is no more a predictor of political beliefs than the color of one’s eyes. Among us are free market moderates and big government liberals. In the expanse of our world, especially outside high-profile urban conclaves, are religious conservatives as well as central-planning socialists. Being gay doesn’t automatically proscribe political allegiances or alliances any more than a false expectation that women collectively support abortion rights. If anything, the prevalence of political independence and even laissez-faire libertarianism derived of a live-and-let-live attitude within our ranks is instructive.
We might, however, share similar outlooks on social issues to a greater degree than, say, economic issues. But so do some others. Our politics are no more or less complex.
But, hey, I get it. Those of us who came of age in a different and more difficult era in gay history learned much about the “otherness” of being an “outsider,” the alienation of being thought less of, the struggle to find a place to construct a life. For many, it informed our political perspectives and shaped our sense of camaraderie with others facing similar obstacles. At times along the way we even shared common enemies.
However, younger gays, in particular, increasingly don’t find those experiences familiar or have dissimilar ones. Blank stares are commonly the reaction to tales of a time and a life slowly fading into history.
There is no reason to be astonished by this diversity of opinion. It’s what our victories have sought to guarantee.