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Holy Week a time for spiritual, practical reflection

Many Christians, Jews still grappling with LGBT issues

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This year we celebrate Easter and Passover on the same weekend. Two holidays that for many are a time of prayer and thoughtful introspection about what has come before and what is in our future. The first Passover Seder this year will be celebrated on GoodĀ Friday.

Christians will go to church on GoodĀ FridayĀ to remember the crucifixion of Christ and on EasterĀ SundayĀ will celebrate his resurrection. They might take a moment to think about what the church means to them and how the churchā€™s teachings relate to their own life. Many of my Catholic friends might contemplate the place of women in their church today and the continued lack of acceptance of those in the LGBT community.

Many young members of the Jewish faith will learn about their ancestorā€™s escape from Egypt and Pharaoh while reading the Haggadah at their Seder. They will come to the last line of the story which reads, ā€œNext year in Jerusalemā€ and think about what that means today. It will surely create many discussions after dinner over the recent elections in Israel and what they mean to the world situation. At the Seder in an Orthodox home, young people could surely have thoughts about the continuing limitations on women and the lack of acceptance of the LGBT community in Orthodox beliefs.

Religion is important to many and is creeping into our political discussions in America more and more. It is harder to find politicians who understand the meaning of the separation of church and state and are willing to speak out on it. The last time I remember hearing an emphatic statement on the issue from a Presidential candidate was in 1960 when John F. KennedyĀ spokeĀ to the Greater Houston Ministerial Association and said ā€œI believe in an America where the separation of church and state is absolute.ā€ He did so to convince voters who were contemplating the election of their first Catholic President he wouldnā€™t take his direction on civil law from the Pope.

While it has always been difficult to separate politics and religion and most of the worldā€™s wars have been fought over religious disagreements, we must continue to try. It might be permissible for religious leaders to speak out on civil issues as they relate to their churchā€™s tenets but it is definitely not acceptable for politicians to couch their support or non-support of civil law on their religious beliefs. We now see many Republican candidates vying for their partyā€™s presidential nomination having a very difficult time understanding that.

Following the resignation of Pope Benedict XVI in February 2013, the current occupant of the ā€œThrone of Saint Peter,ā€ Pope Francis, appears to be making a major effort to bring the Catholic Church more in line with the world as it is today. During his first news conference, Pope Francis made the statement,Ā “If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?”Ā while discussing the gay and lesbian community within the church. In anotherĀ interviewĀ he said the church has the right to express its opinions but not to “interfere spiritually” in the lives of gays and lesbians. His problem is moving such a huge bureaucracy into the 21st century isnā€™t easy and for every two steps forward there seems to be a step back. It can be hoped Pope Francis will live long enough to effectuate real change in the church.

The Jewish community, particularly American Jews, will find themselves in heated discussions after their Seder trying to clarify their feelings with regard to the State of Israel and its government. Many like me will come to the conclusion while we find much of what Prime Minister Netanyahu said before and during his recent campaign for Prime Minister abhorrent, it will have no bearing on our support for the State of Israel. The United States as President Obama has said must continue financial and logistical assistance to the State of Israel to ensure it remains free and has the wherewithal to protect itself.

However this doesnā€™t rule out applying all the pressure we can on the Israeli government, even potentially using the UN to do this, to insist they donā€™t leave the negotiating table. The current policy of the United States, which was once supported by the current Israeli Prime Minister, is for a two state solution to the Israeli/Palestinian question. It is really the only viable one if we are to ever have peace in the region.

So over this holy weekend let us all pray for peace and understanding throughout the world and may our discussions and debates prove fruitful in bringing about a better future.

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10 reminders of why we must vote for Harris

A strong LGBTQ turnout could swing election in key states

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There are a million reasons to vote for Kamala Harris over Donald Trump but here are 10 of the best. If youā€™re not feeling the burn about casting your ballot, please remember just how close our last two elections were and how dire the 2016 consequences for the country. Indeed, a strong turnout by LGBTQ and allied voters could prove decisive in some key states.

So letā€™s review 10 reasons why itā€™s not only important ā€” but essential ā€” that all LGBTQ and allied voters show up to vote for Kamala Harris.  

#10 The opportunity to make history. For the second time in 16 years, America has the exciting chance to make a historic choice for the White House. Kamala Harris would be the first woman and first woman of color to serve as president if elected. Itā€™s not the #1 reason to vote for her but itā€™s a pretty damn good ancillary benefit.

#9 The chance to send Trump into oblivion. After eight long years of commanding endless mainstream media attention for his ever-expanding list of racist, sexist, xenophobic, and transphobic attacks, we have the chance to finally dispatch ourselves of the toxic Trump. Heā€™s insulted everyone from Gold Star families and the disabled to Meryl Streep and Rosie Oā€™Donnell. That thereā€™s anyone left willing to vote for him is mindboggling. (Iā€™m talking to you Lindsey Graham and Ted Cruz.) Imagine how much our collective blood pressure will ease without having to endure wall-to-wall coverage of his every social media post. ā€œMorning Joeā€ will be hard pressed to continue without Trump to mock but itā€™s a sacrifice Iā€™m willing to make.

#8 To preserve trans military service. In his first term, Trump tweeted that trans people were barred from serving their country ā€œin any capacity.ā€ It was a cruel stunt that damaged careers and led to a direct uptick in hate crimes targeting the trans community. Thereā€™s no doubt he would reinstate that ban on day one. Itā€™s ironic that Trump goes after brave members of the military given his own ā€œbone spurā€ excuse to avoid Vietnam. None of his kids has served either, of course. Trump has referred to dead service members as ā€œlosersā€ and ā€œsuckers.ā€ That comment alone ā€” corroborated by his chief of staff John Kelly ā€” should be disqualifying.

#7 To continue growing the economy. Iā€™ve never understood all the naysayers who complain about the U.S. economy, which is envied the world over. No other country emerged from COVID as strong as we did, defying all expert predictions of recession ā€” record stock market numbers, record employment, rapidly declining inflation and interest rates. The Democrats have never been good at messaging and itā€™s frustrating that they allow Trump to talk down our economy at every rally without a coherent response. The truth is our economy is strong and Harrisā€™s plans to tax the wealthiest and invest in small businesses has been endorsed by leading economists over Trumpā€™s ridiculous and doomed idea of starting a trade war with China over tariffs. The LGBTQ community is disproportionally entrepreneurial, so Harrisā€™s tax benefits for small business owners will boost us tremendously.

#6 To aid Ukraine. The Blade has traveled to Poland and other Eastern European countries to cover the plight of LGBTQ migrants fleeing Ukraine after Russiaā€™s invasion. Their stories are heartbreaking. We have an obligation to stand by Ukraine along with Western Europe to stop the murderous Putin and preserve democracy. Trump will cave to Putinā€™s demands that he be allowed to annex large swaths of Ukrainian territory, emboldening the Russian dictator and encouraging further incursions into other neighboring countries. 

#5 To stop Project 2025 in its tracks. We have documented the anti-LGBTQ horrors that await us if Project 2025 becomes the governing blueprint for a second Trump administration. The assaults are too many to recap here so just remember these lines from the document: ā€œThe next conservative President must make the institutions of American civil society hard targets for woke culture warriors. This starts with deleting the terms sexual orientation and gender identity, diversity, equity and inclusion, gender, gender equality, gender awareness, gender-sensitiveā€¦.out of every federal rule, agency regulation, contracts, grant regulation and piece of legislation that exists.ā€

#4 To protect a womanā€™s right to control her body. Predictably, women are now dying as a result of Trumpā€™s abortion bans, as reported by ProPublica. And it will only get worse if Trump is re-elected and his congressional allies push through a national abortion ban as theyā€™ve promised to do. If you think this isnā€™t about you, consider that Roe v. Wade provided the foundation for the Obergefell marriage ruling, which Justices Alito and Thomas have already said should be revisited. 

#3 Supreme Court. Speaking of the high court, there is credible speculation that if Trump wins, Alito and Thomas will be pressured to retire, giving Trump an unprecedented five picks and a MAGA majority. Thatā€™s game over for a generation and the end of Obergefell marriage equality, Lawrence privacy rights, and more. 

#2 To preserve and advance LGBTQ equality. The last 20 years have brought unimaginable progress for LGBTQ rights, from marriage equality to the end of ā€œDonā€™t Ask, Donā€™t Tellā€ to Bostockā€™s conferring employment protections to most of us, and so much more. Thereā€™s more to do, especially given the anti-LGBTQ state laws passed around the country giving rise to book bans, bathroom bans, and dangerous anti-trans healthcare restrictions. A Trump presidency jeopardizes all of our recent gains and puts us back on defense. A Harris presidency ensures we continue to move ahead and gives us a chance to undo some of the recent setbacks. 

#1 To defend democracy. Trump and J.D. Vance whine a lot about criticism that they are undermining democracy, claiming these accusations are to blame for two recent assassination attempts. For someone who trafficks in violent rhetoric all the time, itā€™s a brazen and hypocritical claim. Thereā€™s an old saying about living by the sword that Trump should Google. But itā€™s not hyperbole to suggest that a Trump presidency would represent the end of democracy. Heā€™s already incited an insurrection after badly losing the 2020 election. Trump and Project 2025 promise to gut the federal government, lock up critics and journalists, allow Putin to do ā€œwhatever the hell he wants,ā€ privatize critical government functions, ban books and DEI, and even to ban pornography. The list goes on. Yes, itā€™s the end of American democracy if he wins. 

But this election isnā€™t just about rejecting Trump. Itā€™s also about embracing the promise of a Harris administration, which would bolster the economy, respect human rights, fight for equality, combat climate change, fix the border, advance gun reform, and promote many other common sense, centrist policies supported by a majority of Americans.

There you have it, a succinct reminder of whatā€™s at stake on Nov. 5. So vote for Kamala Harris and Tim Walz and send a message that character still matters, that America remains a trusted defender of human rights, and that we wonā€™t let a dangerous convicted felon anywhere near the Oval Office again.


Kevin Naff is editor of the Washington Blade. Reach him at [email protected].

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On National Coming Out Day: No more silent compromises

Rejecting half-truths, embracing the whole me, and redefining my worth

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Though I’ve never lived “in the closet” over the years, I realized I hadn’t fully stepped out of it in every aspect of life. While I embraced being out, certain moments hindered my personal and professional growth.

Have you ever let someone assume something about your life, like having a wife or girlfriend, because it was easier than correcting them? Perhaps you thought, “I’m not in the closet, so it doesn’t matter.” But looking back, did it matter?

This question lingered in my mind for far too long. We must ask whether our actions reflect who we are or if we’re choosing a more convenient version of ourselves. When someone asked, “Is your girlfriend coming to happy hour?” I wasn’t offended, but I wasn’t being entirely authentic, either.

As a gay man, I found it flattering when people assumed I was straight. Was I accepting it as validation of my masculinity? Perhaps. But over time, I realized that allowing these assumptions to persist wasn’t as harmless as I initially believed.

I’ve been fortunate never to experience the closet. The unwavering support from my family, friends, and colleagues has empowered me to live authentically. 

Having a family was, and still is, my guiding light. But by my late 20s, that vision began to fade. By my mid 30s, I saw family life, as a gay man, was a possibility, but I buried myself in building a company. I convinced myself that balancing family and business was unattainable since finding someone with shared values seemed impossible. But was it? 

As an entrepreneur, I’ve experienced the highs and lows of building something from scratch, always embracing challenges. Itā€™s easy when you love what you do. Like building a business, personal growth is shaped by what you choose to invest in and what you attract into your life. Despite my successes, something still felt misaligned. What was I doing wrong? 

I remember moments like vendors taking us to after-hours bars or strip clubs. I recall one instance at a national expo when a vendor took us to a female strip club. I’ve never enjoyed strip clubs, gay or straight; I’d instead host a dinner party. Early into the night, someone arranged a lap dance for me, and I jokingly asked if she could switch places with the security guy. We both laughed, but here’s the issue: I never told them why I got up and left, only her. At that moment, did I sell myself short? Would it affect our partnership? I wasn’t in the closet but wasn’t entirely out either.

Another moment came in my 30s when I was learning how to navigate dating. A friend suggested I downplay my career to avoid intimidating potential partners. I agreed initially but eventually asked myself: Why should I downplay my accomplishments to make others comfortable? By minimizing my worth, I wasn’t just being inauthentic; I was undervaluing myself and the hard work I put into it. What was I trying to attract into my life?

As my journey continued, I became increasingly aware of what I was inviting into my life. My personal and professional lives were out of alignment. When I opened an office in India, I came out to the local director before signing business documents. Why? Friends and colleagues struggle because their business partners don’t know their authentic selves, and I refused to let this happen. More importantly, I owed being genuine to myself.

Many of us create barriers between our personal and professional lives. While change can be difficult, I needed to align them. We believe we’re not lying because we’re “not in the closet.” But by not fully expressing our authentic selves, we hold ourselves back. For me, dismantling those barriers allowed me to transform what I was attracting into my life, personally and professionally.

Had I not become self-aware, I’d still be stuck in a cycle of inauthenticity, missing out on my full potential. Without changing my mindset, I would have continued letting others’ assumptions define me and limit my growth. I only began breaking free from that cycle by fully embracing my true self.

Even though I’ve never lived in the closet, I still fear what being this open might bring. But that’s precisely why I need to do it. My personal and professional allies have shown unwavering support, standing by me through everything. To those who have supported me on this journey, thank you, it’s now my turn to support others.

Authenticity isn’t just a choice; it’s essential for a fulfilled life. You must ask, you must act, and yes, you will fail and learn along the way, but that’s OK. Every time you act, you move closer to your authentic self. Embrace vulnerability and the discomfort of feeling exposed, it’s then you will begin to reclaim your strength.

To the person on the partner track who’s afraid to bring their partner to a company retreat: bring them! To the young adult worried about being kicked out of the house: seek local support; someone will help you! To the person fearful of losing their job because of who they are: quit! To the person who wants a family, look around; someone shares those values! If someone offers to set you up with a girl or guy, ask if they have a brother or sister, and you might get a date! To those still searching for the right partner, ditch the apps and be present! 

I kept my personal life “private” for years because I thought, “I’m not in the closet.” I’m not referring to social media; this is about deep-rooted beliefs that live rent-free in our minds, filtering our responses and decisions. While writing this piece, I mistakenly typed, “I’m not out,” perhaps it wasn’t a mistake; it was a sign. I am grateful those filters expired long ago and are now evicted for living rent-free.

We live in a world where mental health is still stigmatized. Small acts of inauthenticity can cause anxiety that spills into our professional lives. It makes us seem “off” and can lead to missed opportunities. Worst of all, you may feel trapped and remain silent.

It’s time to stop allowing these things to hold us back. We must discuss mental health, authenticity, and their impact on our lives. The journey isn’t about becoming someone new; it’s about shedding what doesn’t define you so you can fully embrace who you’ve always been.

As I continue my journey, I will do so boldly, out loud, and unapologetically. Note to readers: If you’re struggling, want to discuss this topic further, or just need a virtual coffee chat, feel free to reach out via Instagram, @gregorybarretta.Ā 


Gregory Barretta is a serial entrepreneur overseeing several companies, committed to mentoring, leading, and empowering others to grow.

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One year later and no closer to peace

The world must find a way to end this carnage

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We are at the first anniversary of the Oct. 7 attack launched against Israel by the terrorist organization Hamas. In that attack nearly 1,200 Israelis were slaughtered, many women sexually mutilated, and 251 hostages taken. There are 97 hostages still unaccounted for. We must never forget who began this war on Oct. 7, 2023, and recognize this is a war between Israel and Hamas, not Israel and the Palestinian people.

I am an American Jew whose parents escaped Hitler, and whose grandparents were killed in Auschwitz. While I will never forget, or forgive Hamas, over the past year I have written about how poorly the far-right Israeli government of Israel has responded. They have every right to defend themselves, but it appears many of the deaths of innocent Palestinian women and children, should have been avoided. But Hamas must take responsibility for these deaths as well as Israel. They hide in tunnels beneath hospitals and houses, and in the midst of Palestinian civilians. Both sides have refused to agree to any ceasefire terms. Reality is had Hamas agreed to return the hostages, including 30 Americans, and many from other countries, many of the Palestinian deaths could have been avoided. We donā€™t even know if the close to 100 hostages they still hold, are dead or alive. 

Over the past year the Palestinian people in Gaza have had their lives torn apart. Their homes have been bombed, and thousands of women and children have died. Much of Gaza has been destroyed. Their healthcare system destroyed, and many are starving, living without any power. Once again, let us not forget who began this war. The stated aim of some Hamas leaders when they began the war was to draw Israel into a wider war. While that may now be happening, contrary to what Hamas wanted, Israel is winning it, and the Arab countries surrounding Israel, are not coming to the aid of the Palestinian people.

No one should feel joy in any of this. It means more innocent people are dying every day. Israelis in the north have been evacuated from their homes and many killed, and there isnā€™t a family in Israel not impacted. The Palestinian people are still suffering and have not rid themselves of Hamas, even though some are now speaking out saying they want to. I am not sure how they can do that. Then the Israeli people have still not rid themselves of Netanyahu, and his right-wing government, and they have better options to do that, and must take them if they ever want lasting peace. 

Today we see the terrorist group Hezbollah continue to bomb Israel, and now Israel is expanding its fight in Lebanon. Hezbollah is losing and innocents in Lebanon are losing their homes, and their lives. Hezbollah, like Hamas, is a terrorist group funded by Iran. The legitimate government in Lebanon cannot control them. Iran, which funds terrorist organizations against Israel, has now directly fired a second round of missiles into Israel. They didnā€™t expect the Arab nations surrounding Israel would come to Israelā€™s aid the first time, but they did, in some ways to protect themselves from the missiles. The United States, whose ships are stationed off shore, shot down Iranian missiles and Israelā€™s Iron Dome protected it from major casualties or destruction. Again, if Hamas thought the Arab nations around Israel would come to their aid, they have been proven wrong. If Israel goes after Iran directly, which the United States is officially urging them not to do, the war could spread further. Iranian oil fields and ports are at risk, which will impact the world. Iran has no Iron Dome.

So, after a year, what has Hamas accomplished? What have they done for the Palestinian people? Are the Palestinian people any better off? Clearly not. We have seen Palestinian students here in the United States, and around the world, trying to get universities and corporations to disinvest from Israel, as the BDS movement has tried for years. But there has been practically no impact at all. Investment money has not been withdrawn from Israel, and no country has withdrawn from their treaty with Israel. I spoke out and wrote, as have many Jews over the past year, asking Israel to declare a unilateral ceasefire in the war with Hamas to allow food and medicine to be delivered into Gaza. They havenā€™t done that, but then Hamas has not agreed to any ceasefire. 

I support a two-state solution giving the Palestinian people their own state, which their leaders turned down in 1947 when it was offered by the United Nations. We saw in Israelā€™s 1948 ā€˜War for Independence,ā€™ as it was called, the surrounding Arab states did nothing to help the Palestinians, rather fought to take more land for themselves. I believe an eventual two-state solution is the only way the Palestinian people will ever be able to live in peace, and the same for the Israeli people. It will only happen if outside nations join together and guarantee Israel will be secure. If that happens, the rest of the world will have to pledge hundreds of billions of dollars to help a new Palestinian state build a sustainable economy. All of this may be wishful thinking, but it seems to be the only answer to secure a lasting peace. 

In the meantime, I join everyone who mourns the lives of the innocents lost this past year, both Israelis and Palestinians, and now those in Lebanon. The world must find a way to end this carnage. 


Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist.

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