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‘Crip’ faces erased from queer life and spaces

New anthology shines light on underrepresented group

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“You’re blind,” a woman exclaimed to me in Boston one night in a lesbian bookstore when I’d just come out. “Who would date someone like you?”

Recently, at the airport in Orlando, Fla., a gay man, without irony, told me I was “inspirational” because I’d put a cup of coffee on a table without spilling it.

Welcome to my world! My experience of being queer and having a disability is far from unique. Nearly one in five Americans (51.2 million) has a disability, and there are 3-5 million people who are LGBT and have a disability, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. The late Thea Spyer, the spouse for more than four decades of Edith Windsor who heroically fought against DOMA, had multiple sclerosis. April DeBoer and Joyce Rowse, who were among the plaintiffs in the Supreme Court marriage equality ruling, adopted children with special needs. Yet, 25 years since the Americans with Disabilities Act became law and despite our numbers and humanity, ignorance, prejudice and inaccessibility have erased queer and crip faces from queer life and spaces. (Some of us have reclaimed the word crip as an umbrella term for people with disabilities.)

“QDA: A Queer Disability Anthology,” edited by Raymond Luczak, (Squares & Rebels), bears witness to voices long unheard and lives historically unseen in our community. In the anthology, 48 writers from around the world in fiction, nonfiction, comics and poetry defiantly break through the code of discrimination, scorn and pity. Sometimes terms like “intersectionality” and “diversity” are just clichés that change nothing. That’s not the case with this volume. QDA presents a cornucopia of intersectionality from Monique Flynn, a queer femme working against the stigma around mental illness to Sara Ibrahim, who lives in the Middle East, is interested in race and disability and working on her first novel, to Lydia Brown, an East Asian queer, genderqueer, asexual and autistic activist and writer. Carl Wayne Denney writes poignantly about a deaf couple’s loving support for their child in the piece “Our Son Is a Beautiful Girl.” (A few of my poems are in QDA.)

Luczak, a Gallaudet University graduate who lives in Minneapolis, is a gay, deaf poet, playwright and novelist who has written and edited 18 books. He thought about doing QDA for a few years, Luczak, told me in an email, “but I wasn’t sure if I was up to the task. Then one day I decided, why not? I sent out a call for submissions and it snowballed from there.”

The main reason he did the book, Luczak added, “is simply the fact that the disabled LGBT community has been ignored for way too long, and that I might help change that.”

Many in the LGBT community don’t believe that we who are queer and crip enjoy sex or even should be intimate (especially, not with them). QDA eviscerates such taboos. “I want my body to state clearly that I have a sexuality, and that I know what it is and how to use it!,” writes Jax Jacki Brown, a disability and queer rights activist, writer, spoken-word performer, independent disability theater producer and wheelchair user in Melbourne, Australia, in “The Politics of Pashing” about publicly kissing her girlfriend.

“This pride-filled proclamation of my sexuality is…an act of resistance against the myth that those of us with non-normative bodies are sexually undesirable, weak or passive,” she adds.

The mix of disability and sexuality may be too much for those raised on Hollywood or adult-film standards of beauty, Luczak writes in the introduction to QDA. “We are not superheroes nor as helpless as you think,” he writes.

Forget about all those “inspirational,” maudlin, sob stories of people with disability “overcoming” their disabilities. QDA will bring you face-to-face with “out and proud” queer and crip people. As Luczak writes, “Interact with us. Make friends. Maybe you’ll fall in love. (Hey, you never know!)”

 

Kathi Wolfe, a writer and poet, is a regular contributor to the Blade.

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  1. HaroldAMaio

    November 28, 2015 at 1:05 pm

    —working against the stigma around mental illness
    Interesting that you would invoke that prejudice, but as your article clearly reveals, the disability community is as prone to hierarchy as any.

  2. ECarpenter

    November 29, 2015 at 1:07 pm

    Raymond Luczak, mmmmm! A fine man, a good writer, and lots of fun.

    I’m pro-diversity, but not primarily because it’s ethical or the right thing to do. I’m pro-diversity because I’ve had such great times with interesting men who also had some disability. Of course, they had lots of abilities, too – and that’s the point, I guess. To obsess on one area a person has difficulty with and ignore all the other areas in which they do well means that you will miss out on all the areas in which they do well – and some of those talents might please you greatly, one way or another.

    Raymond Luczak, mmmmm! A fine man, a good writer, and lots of fun!

  3. Clarinda Harriss

    November 29, 2015 at 3:35 pm

    I still can’t get my mind around assumptions like the ones you cite in your tough and wonderful essay, Kathi. But then I’m just starting to realize that I experience Ageism pretty often these days, like when people say things like, “My, look at YOU doing planks!”–i.e., , wow, look at you getting yourself to the gym at your age!” Keep teaching me, Kathi.

  4. Sanford Schimel

    December 1, 2015 at 2:13 pm

    As someone with both medical and mental health issues, not the least of which are the two tubes hanging out of my abdomen, I’m all in favor of support for “crips”. However, did no one inform the author that the Crips are a notoriously violent gang, similar to the Bloods and the Latin Kings? In some areas, if you say you’re a crip, you could not only be beaten up but you run the risk of getting shot.

  5. Peter Rosenstein

    December 2, 2015 at 3:50 pm

    The words change but the issue remains and that is ensuring that persons with disabilities be they gay or straight are full participants in society and that includes the recognition of their sexual identity and as sexual beings. Like with so many others who have and do face discrimination just passing legislation like the ADA doesn’t ensure that society and culture are accepting. In 1978 I came to Washington to direct the follow-up to the WH Conference on Handicapped Individuals/Imprementation Unit. We worked with governor’s offices across the country to make changes- more must be made. We must keep working together to make progress and we need to ensure that our elected officials use their bully-pulpit to help us change hearts and minds.

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Opinion | Lovitz for Pennsylvania state representative

Accomplished gay candidate is longtime equality advocate

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It’s an embarrassment of riches for residents of center city Philadelphia, which includes the “gayborhood,” as they prepare to vote for their next state representative. 

The post has been held by Rep. Brian Sims, who’s gay, since 2013. Sims is giving up the seat to run for Pennsylvania lieutenant governor. More on that later.

Two out LGBTQ candidates are among those competing in the 182nd District’s Democratic primary to replace Sims — Jonathan Lovitz and Deja Alvarez. Lovitz, who’s gay, has served as senior vice president of the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce for five years. If elected, it would be the first time a seat held by an LGBTQ state representative transitioned to another LGBTQ official and he would be the first LGBTQ Jewish elected official in Pennsylvania.

Alvarez, who’s transgender, is director of community engagement at World Healthcare Infrastructures and serves as chair of the Philadelphia Police LGBT Liaison Committee. She would become the first out trans person to serve in the Pennsylvania Legislature if elected.

Both are excellent candidates who would make their own bit of history if elected, but Lovitz stands out as the strongest choice to replace Sims in the legislature, a change that local residents desperately need.

To paraphrase Oprah in her famous endorsement of Barack Obama over Hillary Clinton: Just because I am for Lovitz, doesn’t mean I am against Alvarez. I am acquainted with Lovitz and know him to be an ethical, smart, hard-working professional who is deeply dedicated to his work and to the residents of Philadelphia. He would make a fearless and tireless advocate for Philly and for equality issues in Harrisburg.

At NGLCC, Lovitz has helped write and pass more than 25 state and local laws, including in Pennsylvania, extending economic opportunity to LGBTQ-owned businesses around the country. As the country struggles to emerge from pandemic restrictions, we need more legislators at all levels of government who understand the importance of small business. Lovitz has the experience in business and in his work on equality issues to deliver tangible results for Philadelphia. 

Contrast his record with that of Sims and it’s a no-brainer that the people of the 182nd District have nowhere to go but up. Sims has sponsored or introduced scores of bills in the past year, but only one has been enacted, according to BillTrack50. Sims has been criticized in the district for his endless media tour and social media self-promotion. He is more interested in thirst-trap selfies than in constituent service. He lacks the professionalism and temperament for elected office, favoring profane outbursts and juvenile insults over diplomatic compromise and legislative achievement. As Christopher Pinto wrote in the Philadelphia Gay News, “Almost a decade in the State House, and he has no legislative victories that he can claim as his own. He spent more time out of the district than inside it, flying from one speaking engagement to the next, while abusing his state issued travel budget and being shrouded in a lengthy ethics investigation.”

Lovitz will not succumb to such vanities. He is a grounded professional who understands how to craft legislation and, more importantly, how to get it passed. He won’t alienate colleagues as Sims has done. 

On equality issues, Lovitz has worked on behalf of marginalized communities at NGLCC and last year he organized PhillyVoting.org, which works to boost turnout among Black and LGBTQ voters. 

“The ongoing violence against our communities, especially against our trans siblings, is a stunning reminder that our work together continues,” Lovitz wrote in an op-ed for the Philadelphia Gay News. “Once again the movement for long-overdue social change in America is being led by communities of color, especially right here in Philly,” he wrote. “And the LGBTQ community must continue to stand in solidarity with them.”

Lovitz understands the moment. He has a passion for business and for helping entrepreneurs to succeed, something cities desperately need after more than 200,000 small businesses have shuttered due to COVID, according to the Wall Street Journal; more than 1,000 Philly businesses closed in just the first five months of the pandemic, according to the Philadelphia Business Journal.

Voters, donors, and our national advocacy organizations should support his bold campaign and help retain an out LGBTQ voice in Harrisburg while improving constituent service for residents of the district. 

Kevin Naff is editor of the Washington Blade. Reach him at [email protected].

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Opinion | LGBTQ Virginians advocate D.C. statehood

The right of all Americans to be part of our democratic society

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My hometown will always be Washington, D.C. It’s the place where I was born and spent all of the first seven days of my life. As a lifelong Virginian however, where I live and attended schools, I straddle two communities important to me. 

As a business owner of 30 years in Washington, D.C., I pay many of my taxes and payroll taxes to the Nation’s Capital while I also pay income tax to Virginia where I’m a citizen.

Most important of all, as a gay Virginia voter, I can think of few lifelong political goals more important to me than achieving statehood for Washington, D.C. One of the compelling reasons I still make my home in Virginia and cross the Potomac River every day of my life, is because of my right as a Virginian to vote for two U.S. senators and for a member of the House of Representatives with the power to vote in Congress.

(It is still shocking to know that, with Washington, D.C. statehood still beyond grasp, the Honorable Eleanor Holmes Norton who represents D.C. in the U.S. House of Representatives, has never yet had the authority to vote on the floor of the House.)

At an early age, I was dumbfounded to know that D.C. then did not even have a local government. We lacked an elected mayor and city council, with almost all decisions for the District of Columbia made by the federal government. Yet today, even with a mayor and local government in place, it is breathtaking to know that my friends, neighbors and co-workers still have zero voice in the Capitol and no one to vote for them – and for us – in Congress.

Consider that one of the world’s most diverse and educated cities has so often been bullied by extreme conservative leaders on Capitol Hill who – whenever possible – turn back the clock for D.C. citizens on voting rights, abortion rights, gun measures and our civil rights including LGBTQ equality. Not a single voter in D.C. has much, if any, say over any of those decisions.

The absence of statehood and the lack of real voting rights means that the unforgivable strains of racism and homophobia often held sway not just for Washington D.C., but in denying the United States a true progressive majority on Capitol Hill too. 

Virginians get it. In the past decade, we’ve worked very hard in every county and city in the commonwealth to turn our regressive political past into a bright blue political majority. We have elected LGBTQ candidates to state and local offices in unprecedented numbers. Our vote is our power.

More significantly, through the work of Equality Virginia and its many allies, we are repealing scores of anti-LGBTQ measures and reforming our statutes and constitution to secure equal rights as LGBTQ voters, adoptive parents, married couples, students, and citizens. Doesn’t Washington, D.C. deserve that future?

Virginia needs more states – like D.C. – to join forces and represent all Americans. To achieve this, and to defeat or neuter the anti-democratic Senate filibuster rule, we need our friends, allies and neighbors, the citizens of Washington, D.C. to share in our democratic ambitions.

Long ago, Washington, D.C. resident, abolitionist and civil rights leader, Frederick Douglass declared that “the District is the one spot where there is no government for the people, of the people, and by the people. Washington, D.C. residents pay taxes, just like residents of Nevada, California or any other state. Washington, D.C. residents have fought and died in every American war just like residents of Ohio, Kentucky or any other state. The District deserves statehood and Congress should act to grant it.” 

Speaking for LGBTQ Virginians, we agree. Conferring statehood is not a gift nor a blessing from the rest of us, but instead, it is the absolute right of all Americans to be part of our democratic society. As LGBTQ Americans, if we are to pass the Equality Act and other fundamental civil rights measures, we need the State of Washington, D.C. and its voters by our side.

Bob Witeck is a longtime LGBTQ civil rights advocate, entrepreneur, and Virginian, with long roots and longstanding ties to D.C.

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Opinion | Representation matters: The gayest Olympics yet

From one out athlete to more than 160 in just 33 years

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OK, I really want a Tom Daley cardigan. The now gold-medal Olympian told Britain’s The Guardian that he took up crocheting during the pandemic. He even has an Instagram page dedicated to his knit creations, MadeWithLoveByTomDaley. It’s all very adorable; it’s all very Tom Daley. 

All that aside, you’d have to be practically heartless to not feel something when Tom Daley and his diving partner Matty Lee won the gold on Monday in the men’s synchronized 10-meter diving competition, placing just 1.23 points ahead of the Chinese. And then seeing him with tears in his eyes on the podium as “God Save the Queen” played. Later that week, he knitted a little bag featuring the Union Jack to hold and protect his medal. So very wholesome

Daley is certainly one of the highest profile LGBTQ athletes in these games. Besides the diver, the 2020 Summer Olympics, now in 2021 because of the pandemic, are hosting more than 160 out athletes. A record to be sure, but calling it a record does it somewhat of an injustice. The United States sent the first out athlete to the 1988 Summer Olympics, Robert Dover an equestrian rider competing in dressage. Dover remained the only out (sharing the title once in 1996 with Australian diver Craig Rogerson) for 10 years. Then, during the 2008 Summer Olympics in Beijing, the number of out athletes jumped to 15. London’s 2012 Olympics saw the number increase to 23. The 2016 Summer Olympics in Rio de Janeiro saw the number jump to 68 out athletes. And now we’re at over 160. 

So you get the trend building here. From one out athlete to more than 160. So very far, so very fast. And competing in everything from handball to sailing to golf to skateboarding. Also, noteworthy, New Zealand sent the first trans athlete, weightlifter Laurel Hubbard. These are but numbers and names, but to be sure, this sort of representation, this sort of visibility, is hugely important. Not just for athletes coming up behind them, but let’s think too of those out there, not yet even out, maybe watching in their parents’ living room. Seeing Tom Daley thank his husband, mention their son, this sort of queer normality being broadcast as if it is both groundbreaking and at the same time nothing at all — the importance of this cannot be overstated. 

On top of that, growing up gay, how many times were we all told, whether outright or simply implied, that sports were more or less off limits to us. Meant to display the peaks of gender and ability, sports were not meant for those who couldn’t fit neatly into that narrative. But it appears that that narrative is slowly becoming undone. Just look beyond the Olympics, to the wider world of sports. Earlier this summer, pro-football’s Carl Nassib came out.   

And maybe I’m just of a generation that marvels at the destruction of each and every boundary as they come down. We had so very little as far as representation back then. Now to see it all, and in so many different sports, you can’t help but to wonder what the future will hold for us; and it really delights the imagination, doesn’t it? 

It is the gayest Olympics yet. And if the trend laid out above continues, it will only get gayer as the years go on. And if it’s a barometer for anything, I think we will see a lot of things getting a bit gayer from now on.

Brock Thompson is a D.C.-based writer. He contributes regularly to the Blade.

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