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SPRING ARTS 2016: books
Toasting the women we love, fighting teen bullies and more in spring books

Toasting the women we love, fighting teen bullies and more in spring books.
Since you can’t know where you’re going unless you know where you’ve been, “Stand by Me: The Forgotten History of Gay Liberation by Jim Downs (Basic Books, March 1) is a great look back at the efforts, activism, and advocacy for gay rights. Davis dug deep to find stories that aren’t usually told — tales of religion within the gay community and its efforts, how African Americans have figured in LGBT history, where violence has occurred and the behind-the-scenes politics of equality.
Gender identity has also been in the news a lot lately, and in “A Murder Over a Girl” by Ken Corbett (Henry Holt, March 1), you’ll read about 15-year-old Larry King, who’d recently begun identifying as Leticia, and her murder at the hands of a 14-year-old classmate at a junior high school in California. Corbett was at the ensuing trial and had access to interviews and records, making this book a true crime fan’s must read. You may also want to share this book with parents you know.
Spring may have you thinking thoughts of love, and “The Golden Condom” by Jeanne Safer, PhD (Picador, April 5) can help your thoughts wander. This book is about love lost and found, saved and destroyed, but not just love of the romantic kind. Safer, who is a psychotherapist, also looks at friendships, sibling rivalry and amour from afar.
If you’re a man, why would you want to perform in women’s clothing? In “Why Drag?” by Magnus Hastings, introduction by Boy George (Chronicle Books, May 17), you’ll get an idea of the fun and the frustration, including pictures and thoughts from drag queens of TV and stage. Some are sassy, some are philosophical, all lead up to individually fascinating answers to “why?”
If sports are your thing, then “Fair Play” by Cyd Zeigler (Akashic Books, June 7) should be on your roster. Zeigler, an authority on sports and the LGBT community, looks at LGBT athletes, the issues they face, and the myths they have the power to dispel. You’ll read about three in-the-news gay athletes, and how gay and lesbian sports participants will one day change the current level of acceptance of LGBTQ players in the game.
Other releases of note include:
• Each of us was created for something great — we just need to figure out what it is and find the courage to do it. Gay-affirming pastor/author Rob Bells shows you how in “How to Be Here: a Guide to Creating a Life Worth Living.” It’s $14.99 and releases March 8.
• “The Spartacus International Gay Guide 2016” is an annual must-read if want to find gay hot spots abroad each year. This year’s edition ($24.99) is out March 15. Similarly, the “Damron’s Men’s Travel Guide’s” 51st edition is $22.95 and releases April 15.
• “Visions and Revisions” by novelist and critic Dale Peck is part memoir, part extended essay in what he calls the “second half” of the first wave of the AIDS epidemic. In focusing on the period between 1987-1996, Peck writes a “sweeping, collage-style portrait of a tumultuous era.” It’s $16 and will release on March 22.
• “Double Life: a Love Story from Broadway to Hollywood,” the name-dropping page turner from long-time partners Alan Shayne and Norman Sunshine is out in a new MP3 CD edition on April 5.
• “Manties in a Twist: the Subs Club Book III” by J.A. Rock is a tongue-in-cheek look at the gay kink scene finds the narrator lamenting the loss of his favorite dom of yore, Hal, while left to navigate life with the new “Subs Club,” a group that meets to rate “suck-ass” doms. If this is your scene, it’s a riot. It’s $17.99 and releases April 4.
• “True Homosexual Experiences: Boyd McDonald and Straight to Hell” is a memoir of the famed author (1925-1993) of the “Straight to Hell” series, a collection of readers’ “true homosexual experiences,” that in the pre-liberation era let gays know not only that they weren’t alone, but what their fellow gays were doing in the bedroom and beyond. It’s $25 and releases April 1.
• The title of “The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes” from Diane Ehrenhaft and Norman Spack speaks for itself. In this up-to-date comprehensive resource, Ehrenhaft explains the mix of biology, nurture and culture to explain why gender can be fluid rather than binary. It’s $15.95 and out April 5.
• LGBT lawyers share their experiences in “Out and About: the LGBT Experience in the Legal Profession,” a joint effort from the American Bar Association Commission on Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity and the National LGBT Bar Association. It’s $49.95 and out April 7.
• Gay men write lovingly of their female idols in “The Women We Love: Gay Writers on the Fierce and Tender Females who Inspire Them.” Read Rufus Wainwright’s tribute to his sister, Martha; Kevin Sessums on a childhood maid; and Wayne Koestenbaum on Jackie Kennedy. It’s $18.95 and out April 7.
• As editor-in-chief of thefabfemme.com, Aryka Randall has become the authority on lesbian love, especially for women of color. In “She’s Just Not That Into You: the Fab Femme’s Guide to Queer Love and Dating,” she gives advice on queer dating, relationships, open commitments, living arrangements, sex, money, lust and more. It’s $14.29 and releases April 5.
• In “Queer Philologies: Sex, Language and Affect in Shakespeare’s Time,” Jeffrey Maesten studies the terms used for sexuality in the Bard’s era and analyzes the methods used to study sex and gender in literary and cultural history. This scholarly work is $59.95 and releases April 19.
• Robin Stevenson explores what Pride means to members of the community and the history of its development in “Pride: Celebrating Diversity & Community.” It’s $24.95 and releases April 19.
• Not sure what kind of arrangement is best for you or what the true differences are? Explore your options in “Making it Legal: a Guide to Same-Sex Marriage, Domestic Partnerships and Civil Unions” by attorneys Frederick Hertz and Emily Doskow. It’s $29.95 and releases April 29.
• Want to veg out with some naughty comic book fun? “Big Loads Vol. 3: the Class Comics Stash” by Patrick Fillion and Robert Fraser features eye-popping art and situations you’ll recognize in comics like “The Bromance,” “Dead of Winter” and “Lost Love.” It’s $29.99 and releases May 1.
• Ma-Nee Chacaby shares her remarkable life story overcoming abuse, poverty and alcoholism in “A Two-Spirit Journey: the Autobiography of a Lesbian Ojibwa-Cree Elder.” It’s $27.95 and releases May 17.
• Frustrated by the notion that homosexuality and Christianity are incompatible, Rev. Elizabeth Edman shares in “Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know About Life and Love and How it Can Revitalize Christianity” that the faith, at its scriptural core, is “inherently queer” and how she feels queer believers are “gifts to the church.” It’s $25.95 and is out May 17.
• David Piper has always been an outsider. His parents think he’s gay. The school bully thinks he’s a freak. Only his two best friends know the truth: David wants to be a girl. “The Art of Being Normal” by Lisa Williamson is $17.99 and releases May 31.
• When her best friend Hannah comes out the day before junior year, Daisy is all set to let her ally flag fly. But she soon finds out it’s not so easy to change their school’s ban on same-sex dates at school dances with homecoming looming. “The Inside of Out” is a young-adult novel from Jenn Marie Thorne. It’s $17.99 and releases May 31.
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Bros + romance + fantasy = ‘Bromantasy.’
New book a romp full of humor, dragons, kings, and adventure
‘Bromantasy’
By Maire Roche
c.2026, G.P. Putnam’s Sons
$20/339 pages
“Danger” just happens to be your middle name.
Any fray, any tussle, anytime anybody needs help, they count on you to step in and save the day. You’re brave, smart and strategic, kind to old people, children, and small animals and, as in the new book “Bromantasy” by Maire Roche, dragons.

Of all the things there were to do – preserving food, keeping house for himself and his best friend Morningthall “Mo” Elmthorn, advanced skincare, and drinking at the local tavern down the road – the one thing Juniper O’Reilly couldn’t resist was a good brawl. It happened so often that Juniper honestly looked forward to it, though Mo wasn’t a fan.
Mo was more grown-up, calm, thoughtful, able, and Juniper loved him for it. He loved Mo, in fact, since they were little boys. He loved Mo in ways that they didn’t talk about, so they kept a wall between their bedrooms in their cottage.
Except for that one time.
They didn’t talk about that, either.
Instead, as they did often, on a warm fall night, Juniper and Mo went to the tavern, where mead was served and they could learn about the king’s weekly quests. There, Juniper could also find a good brawl, which is how he and Mo accidentally got into trouble: Juniper trounced one of the king’s men and was forced into a quest.
He didn’t want to fight dragons and he felt bad that Mo had been dragged along. He felt even worse leaving their farm, sleeping on the ground, wearing the same clothes every day, and not having enough skincare product along. A campfire added to the problem. A roving, lying prince, also in search of dragons, didn’t help. And though a quest was no place for a child, Juniper and Mo found a frightened little girl they had no choice but to protect.
A child with strange eyes, sharp teeth, and fire on her breath.
“And just like that, Juniper and Mo had a dragon.”
Bros + romance + fantasy = “Bromantasy.” It also could equal one of two other things: a romp full of humor, dragons, kings, princes, and adventure.
Or it could equal a whole lot of eye-rolling.
It’s a fact that this book is funny, in the way that a 1980s high school comedy movie is funny – meaning that it’s dippy, giddy, and very caricaturish but you’ll laugh quite often. The story contains everything you want in a fantasy romance (a “romantasy”), including human-like alternate species, a life-changing journey, and plenty of nudge-nudge-wink skirting around the attraction the two main characters have for one another. It’s a decent story, convoluted in just the right way. Purely, it’s an escape.
So why wouldn’t you want to read it? See above, and depending on your favorite reading genre. High-brow literature, this ain’t.
For the right reader, “Bromantasy” is a decent-enough vacation read, something not too taxing or hard on the brain. It’s for novel lovers, dragon hunters, king’s questers, princes, and romantics. For everyone else, this tale is just middling.
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Something’s off about Dad. When is it time to step in?
‘When Memory Fades’ can help when families face dementia
‘When Memory Fades’
By Nathaniel Chin, MD
c.2026, St. Martin’s Essentials
$30/422 pages
Mom called you in a panic the other day.
She’d lost her keys and by the time you arrived to help, she’d found them. In the refrigerator.
These kinds of things keep happening, not often but often enough, and you don’t know quite what to worry about. But in the new book “When Memory Fades” by Nathaniel Chin, MD, you’ll learn about the journey ahead, for both of you.
You can’t remember why you walked into a room. You got lost last week, going to the bank. Popular wisdom says that things like that are normal as we age, but Chin says that’s not true – although the answer may not be a worst-case scenario, either. Yes, memory problems could just be signs of stress, dehydration, or lack of sleep – or is it time to see a doctor?
Chin says maybe, yes.
He was working his way through medical residency when his father, a geriatrician in Madison, Wisc., was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Chin, now a geriatrician, was blindsided, but that diagnosis also changed his life.
Here, he writes about the brain, and how Alzheimer’s and dementia are diagnosed, explaining that dementia has many faces and, depending on a doctor’s evaluation, memory problems might be slowed or improved. He shares his father’s illness with readers, but he also writes about his mother, a steadfast, steady caretaker.
Her story reminds reader-guardians to care for themselves, too.
Know how to talk the talk, so that you can have “a more productive” conversation with your doctor. Understand that there’s nothing “normal” about dementia or Alzheimer’s. Know the statistics – African Americans are affected with dementia twice as much as whites – and know how to lower your risks. Learn here what questions to ask, how to break the news to everyone, and any legal matters that will be important soon. And know how to tend to you.
Says Chin, “The best action you can take is to educate yourself… The more you understand, the better equipped you are to make sound judgments.”
Something’s off about Dad, just a lot of little things that don’t add up. When is it time to step in? “When Memory Fades” can help you decide.
Wise, wide-spread, comprehensive, and compassionately helpful, this is a book you can read and then take it to the doctor with your loved one. It’s a book that makes sense when nothing else does, and its biggest feature is that it smoothly transitions from easy-to-grasp science and charts, to gentle coaching for caregivers. Author Nathaniel Chin, MD writes with storytelling, humility, grace, and experience from both sides of the Alzheimer’s/dementia issue, and his words are reassuring but also urgent. Learn, but don’t wait, he says. Know how to safeguard yourself. See your doctor, and don’t fear testing. Watch for signs of depression. And never, ever stop asking for help.
Read those last seven words, and find “When Memory Fades” now. It’s a book to have on your shelf, whether you’re 45 or 95 because, as you’ll see, dementia happens and knowledge is key.
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New book chronicles gay man’s life in hippie commune
Vietnam War-era tale a serious, sexy, joyous memoir
‘Qtopia: A Memoir of Love, Land and Liberation’
2026, University of Wisconsin Press
By Juda Bennett
Duffel packed, the new high school graduate could not fall asleep. “On the night before my departure, I stared at the duffel bag as if it were a body bag. We lived close to Dover, where the dead from Vietnam were shipped.”
It is 1971, and Charles was leaving home to join a hippie commune in rural Virginia. “I kept imagining bodies fitting into the bag and popping out in the middle of the night,” Juda Bennett writes in his memoir, “Qtopia: A Memoir of Love, Land and Liberation.” During Bennett’s high school years from 1968-1971 some 35,000 U.S. soldiers were killed in the Vietnam War, the vast majority processed at Dover Air Force Base.
Young Bennett was clueless about what lay ahead but he had a commune’s brochure in his pocket, certain his destiny was not in the military. “My father was a walking recruitment center, and my mother could have worked for the USO. Uncle Sam and the Andrews Sisters had nothing on them.” Inspired to find his way out of suburban Wilmington, Del., he boarded a Greyhound bus to Lexington, Va., and communes yet unknown. “Qtopia” is a serious, sexy and joyous memoir about a young man who knows he’s different in search of chosen family and, over coming decades, his own queer Utopia.
“We are leaving; you don’t need us,” was the popular refrain in the day from the Crosby, Stills & Nash song “Wooden Ships.” Communards like young Charles (going by the moniker C.B. with a full beard covering his handsome, androgynous features) were living it. How far this is from urban queer stories of the ‘70s. For this reason alone, it is marvelous reading about hot naked hippies farming together in the country, living and loving in secluded teepees when everything seemed possible. Novels like “Drop City” by T.C. Boyle (2003) and “Arcadia” (2012) by Lauren Groff set in hippie communes had no gay characters, only free-love for straights. When C.B.’s parents arrive to visit his back-to-the-land commune North Mountain bearing gifts like the orange powder Tang and Frosted Flakes, he “maintained” as the saying went. “It was a great time for visitors to see how hard we had worked—fields of sorghum swaying in the breeze, acres of vegetables in neat rows with beans, tomatoes and peppers hanging down….I was still thin as a matchstick, but I was a strong and muscular matchstick,” he tells the story of his development. By contrast, he had considered suicide before leaving home; this memoir fills in the pain, too.
There are times when C.B.’s voice as a teen communard with a secret is so authentic and rich, it is like reading fictional stories of American innocents on journeys of their own like J.D. Salinger’s character Holden Caulfield or Demon Copperhead from rural Virginia by Barbara Kingsolver. He tells us there was this guy Mark at North Mountain who had been pressuring him to sleep on the mattress next to his. C.B. was known as the only gay at North Mountain. One of the hippie women warned him Mark is “a square, the biggest downer.” Stepping out of the memoir, C.B. directly addresses the reader about the Mark issue, “I don’t want to write about Mark anymore because he’s not important to my story, and I didn’t even like him.” Got it. Hitchhiking with C.B. is like that, too.
“I got my best ride of the whole hike from a truck driver named TJ….If an eighteen wheeler…is willing to stop for you, it is because the driver wants something from you…I will forever remember this trucker as the most beautiful man I could have had sex with if I weren’t so innocent.”
North Mountain required the hippies work one week a month in Richmond to earn cash for the commune. For C.B., this translated into seven communards living in one small apartment on this cultish mission. It was in a Richmond park where he meets a stranger who would sexually abuse him over a month until C.B. ends it. Furious, the man threatens to shut down the commune if he does not obey. In a state of panic, C.B. attempts suicide by overdosing on every pill he can get his hands on. The memoir takes the reader through the author’s horror by deepening the shadows. What was the specific nature of the abuse? How did this stranger have credible power to threaten the commune? Entitled “What It’s Like to Die,” the chapter is a skillfully told, expressionistic turning point from an innocent’s hell to salvation at the intentional queer Lavender Hill commune in Central New York. C.B. desperately needed to “find my people.”
He’s a resilient young man after living in three communes by the time he hit San Francisco. His two gay neighbors on Ashbury Street—Crow and Moonsnake—pressure him to get a new “hippie name.” Walking home from Golden Gate Park he zeroes in on a passing streetcar, “North Judah.” Goodbye “Charles,” Judah will be his new hippie name. Crow and Moonsnake, approve: “If that’s what the Universe called out to you.” If you remember the Sixties…
“Too often,” Bennett writes, “we think of dropouts as withdrawing from life, but in truth, I think they are in a heightened state of seeking their rightful path and purpose. Nothing stays the same.” Juda Bennett remains a believer to this day, “Always putting my faith in my journey to Utopia”.
(Charles Francis is president of the Mattachine Society of Washington, D.C., and author of “Archive Activism: Memoir of a ‘Uniquely Nasty’ Journey.”)
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