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QUEERY: Kyle Rohen
The NOVA Pride outreach director answers 20 gay questions
The third annual Northern Virginia Pride Festival (“NOVA Pride”) is this weekend — Saturday, Oct. 1 from 12-8 p.m. at the Bull Run Special Events Center in Centreville, Va. (about 25 miles west of Washington on I-66).
Kyle Rohen, who has been involved with the entity for about four-and-a-half years was formerly its chief operations officer and vice president but now works as family, events, life and outreach director.
“I’m incredibly excited about it,” the 31-year-old Breaux Bridge, La., native says, citing job and housing discrimination, LGBT senior issues, HIV and medication issues, transgender rights and more as pressing concerns. “Pride is still vital because marriage was not the final frontier. Pride is often dismissed as just a bunch of naked people running around wearing rainbows. Sure, that’s a big part of it, but it’s also about showing our strength as a community while furthering the goals of tolerance, acceptance and equality for all.”
Between 5,000-10,000 are expected Saturday for games, food, a photo booth, karaoke, prizes, games for all ages, and more in a pet-friendly environment. Free transportation is available to and from the Vienna Metro station and there’s plenty of free parking at the event site. Full details at novapride.org.
Rohen works by day in health and safety. He and husband Seth Koberg live in Herndon, Va. He enjoys reading, movies and video games in his free time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I came out to my friends when I was 13, most people by 16, mom at 17 and fully later that year. I wasn’t able to tell my father before he died because I wasn’t sure how he’d take it.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
Marsha P. Johnson because she was fierce and tremendously underappreciated by the LGBT community for her role in Stonewall. Contemporary LGBT hero would be Peter Staley for his tireless efforts in HIV/AIDS activism through the worst of the epidemic.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
I don’t go out very often, though I do enjoy Green Lantern. Cute bartenders, good conversation, music is at a great volume so to not require yelling at the person next to you, great drink prices.
Describe your dream wedding.
I got the wedding I wanted, actually — simple, courthouse, with a small reception for close friends and family. We were very pleased with how it turned out.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
Judicial reform, specifically focusing on the disparity in sentencing based on race of victim or perpetrator and push for the repeal of the death penalty.
What historical outcome would you change?
I wouldn’t change a single historical event. The chain reaction resulting from changing an event could end up being significantly worse than the original event.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
The announcement of Freddie Mercury’s HIV diagnosis followed by his passing the next day.
On what do you insist?
Honesty and differentiating between opinions and facts! I get so irked when I hear someone say something like, “Well it’s just my opinion that X politician has personally stolen billions” or whatever — that’s a declarative, not an opinion. An opinion is, “I like her policies better,” not something that can be substantively shown as false.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
I shared the commercial for the NOVA Pride Festival!
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“You’ll Never Believe This Nonsense, But Buy It Anyway”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Rail against it. That’s a terrible idea.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
I’m not sure, honestly. My beliefs fall somewhere in the agnostic field.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Take a breath and keep your head up. Things will always get worse before they get better and the groundwork you’re laying right now is building upon the wonderful work we’ve inherited from the Daughters of Bilitis and the Mattachine Society. Do it for them. Do it for future generations. Recognize there’s a great chance some of what we’re fighting for won’t be realized in our lifetimes but that we’re constantly striving to make the world better for the future.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
Absolutely nothing. I like my feet intact!
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
That we’re all supposed to be thin and neat. Sometimes I don’t want to wash the dishes or immediately wash clothes so they’ll sit for a day. I’m way too busy sometimes and like my down time.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
It’s kind of a cliché, but “The Normal Heart.” I thought it was a vitally important portrayal of the AIDS epidemic for those who for whatever reason avoid documentaries like “We Were Here” or “How To Survive a Plague.”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Monogamy. I take the Dan Savage view of it that the odds of a marriage having infidelities is infinitely high, so it’s better to be prepared and/or make allowances for such things well in advance to avoid those relationship-ending scenarios.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
I have a guidebook written in English about Japan that was published in 1945 for the 1946 touristy season, which came out before the Hiroshima and Nagasaki bombings. It’s surreal to read about the festivals that would have occurred and the excitement with which they’re written about.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
Nothing other than what I knew already. I’ve been pleased with the trajectory of my life thus far, even the terrible things. It’s all led to a unique experience that has shaped my worldview, and I wouldn’t change that.
Why Washington?
Husband!
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Summer in D.C. brings sports, Restaurant Week, festivals, and more
Summer in D.C. just hits different. Congress is out, school is out, the sun is out, thighs are out. With the skies clearing from Canadian smoke, here are a few ways to stay entertained.
Dining
Summer restaurant week: The Restaurant Association of Metropolitan Washington (RAMW) is once again hosting Summer Restaurant Week, Aug. 18-24. This weeklong dining experience showcases the dynamic dining scene of the DMV, including 2026 RAMMY Award-winning favorites (the annual D.C. food awards show that took place June 29). Participating restaurants will offer three-course brunch and lunch selections for $25 or $35 per person, and three-course dinners for $40, $55 and $65 per person.
New Restaurants: A handful of new spots have opened, so the summer is a great time to check them out:
- Oribu: A new Mediterranean-Japanese restaurant in the Grand Hyatt hotel, which just underwent a remodeling effort. The sleek restaurant brings upscale charm, with dishes like Wagyu beef tartare with potato pavé and caviar.
- The Oak Room: A snazzy old-school American grill has just opened in Georgetown, alongside its sister upstairs supper club (Bernadette’s) restaurant, in the old El Centro space.
- Uchi: This showy Japanese sushi-forward chain has landed in Dupont with a chef’s tasting menu of favorites like fatty tuna.
- Kathmandu: Recalling the capital of Nepal, this warm, buzzy subterranean restaurant right in the heart of U Street brings spice, flair, and rare ingredients to its dishes (see: buffalo burgers) and drinks.
Sports
- Washington Spirit Pride Night OUT: On Sunday, Aug. 23, head to Audi Field for a massive, high-energy game following the exciting month of World Cup. The designated Pride Night OUT game promises boisterous crowds plus pre- and post-game community engagements.
- Washington Tennis Open – Now called the Mubadala DC Open, this annual tournament is only combined mens’ and womens’ 500-level tennis tournament in the world. The open is one of D.C.’s longest-standing sports traditions, and will take place at the Rock Creek Park Tennis Center July 25-Aug. 2. Naomi Osaka, Venus Williams, Ben Shelton, Frances Tiafoe, and others are expected to play.
Festivals
- Afro Plus Fest: This huge, three-day Afro-Caribbean Hip-Hop Festival brings together headliners Davido, Alkaline, and Wizkid, plus Tems and Ayra Starr. The event moves from RFK to the Northwest Stadium Complex for three days, Sept. 4-6.
- Capital Fringe Festival: Running from July 11-21, this massive celebration features dozens of live theater, comedy, dance, and boundary-pushing nighttime performances across multiple DC neighborhoods.
- The National Book Festival returns, with headliners like Cynthia Erivo, and Martin Scorsese. The one-day festival, Saturday, Aug. 22, brings together bookworms and word nerds under the theme “America 250: It’s Your Story.” There are talks, workshops, musical sessions and more.
- All Things Go: A three-day festival Sept. 25-27 at Merriweather Post Pavilion featuring Mitski, Hayley Williams, Brandi Carlile, MUNA, Zara Larsson, Ethel Cain, and many, many more artists. There are single-day and three-day tickets. Featuring and highlighting female artists, the festival has turned into a must-see for many LGBTQ audience members.
- Fuchsia Fest: The inaugural Fuchsia Fest is a new multi-day celebration created to celebrate LGBTQ community and expression, bringing together a mix of community gatherings, entertainment, and nightlife. The event takes place Sept. 18-20 and is hosted by Capital Pride.
Art and Music
- United We Dance: A high-energy rave with house, techno, bass, and festival music, on Aug. 1 at the 9:30 Club.
- The Fray. On Aug. 14, this American rock band famous for How To Save A Life is at Merriweather Post Pavilion.
- Kesha: Kesha’s high-energy The Freedom Tour comes to the D.C. area on Aug. 14 at Jiffy Lube Live.
- ALOK: On Sept. 3 at Lincoln Theater, ALOK (they/them) performs. The poet, comedian, and actor is putting on a new comedy show.
- 2charm, the emerging Australian electronic club-pop duo popular with the queer community, which blends hyperpop and dance music, comes to the Atlantis.
- Sapphic Dance Party: a vibrant, inclusive nightlife and social event designed specifically for queer women, lesbians, bisexuals, trans individuals, and nonbinary folks, at Atlantis on Aug. 21.
- Jazz in the Garden: The most quintessential of D.C. activities returns Friday evenings through Aug. 14. This season’s theme, “American Sounds,” is a nod to the nation’s 250th anniversary. Tunes themes range from Appalachian and Americana to Creole jazz, Hill Country blues, contemporary jazz, and more. Tickets are available through a lottery system a week before each event.
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Tickets on sale for chef Patrick O’Connell’s book launch event
Sept. 18 kickoff to feature José Andrés, Tom Sietsema
Acclaimed chef Patrick O’Connell is preparing to publish his new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” in September and he’s launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at 6 p.m. at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema.
Tickets for the event go on sale Tuesday, July 21 at Ticketmaster; prices start at $55.
O’Connell, who’s gay, is the pioneering Michelin-starred chef and longtime proprietor of the Inn at Little Washington. He spoke with the Blade about the September event and the launch of his first memoir.
“I’ve known [Andrés and Sietsema] for more than 25 years and I have great respect for them,” O’Connell said. “I felt that it would allow us to add a different dimension rather than just have an interviewer. The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”
O’Connell has published cookbooks but this is his first memoir. The event will feature a short film that will highlight his work and the Inn.
“What I hope to do with the event is bring the book to life visually,” he said. “So we’re producing a short film that will be part of it. Most of the audience will not have read the book so it’ll give them a visual flavor of the book. It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years. It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”
The book’s title refers to the location of the garage on the corner of Main, Middle, and Gay streets in Washington, Va., where he launched his restaurant that became an international culinary destination.
The Blade will publish the rest of its wide-ranging interview with O’Connell in September in conjunction with the book’s release.
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The queer Asian comics building collective joy in D.C.
Spotlighting chaotic ways family, romance, identity take shape in their lives
Kevin Chen’s family tombstone has room for four: him, his parents and his boyfriend. The arrangement might prove to be a little awkward.
“My boyfriend is 100% white, and my parents are 100% disappointed,” Chen confessed.
Jokes about family traditions and the untraditional ways they’re practiced earned a burst of laughs at the bar where Chen was opening for the Pride Comedy Special. The D.C. stand-up event, produced by Comedy Bonfyre last month, spotlighted queer Asian comics who shared the chaotic ways family, romance and identity take shape in their lives.
From candid oral sex takes to top surgery hypotheticals like “Where do the boobs go?”, the night highlighted the loud camaraderie of the queer Asian experience — one that sounds like a cacophony of snorts, cackles and belly laughs. While the comics say they are not quite a community, there’s more than enough shared material to bring them together.
“It was such a magical experience. I loved performing in a queer API lineup. It feels so validating,” Chen said after the show. “I’m wondering, ‘Is this how white men feel all the time?’”
Each performance evoked queer Asian joy through a medium that could use more of its presence.
According to Chen, who is based in D.C., it’s hard to say whether there is a true queer Asian comedy presence in his city. There are only a scattered “handful” of Asian comics, and people of color are underrepresented in queer comic circles, he said.
When Tarunika Anand, a nonbinary lesbian comic, first entered the mainstream D.C. comedy scene, they mostly encountered straight white men, describing the experience as “a culture shock.”
“I feel like sometimes a lot of queer spaces are really white, and then a lot of Asian spaces are really straight,” Anand said. “I don’t feel like I fit into either.”
But feeling marginalized didn’t stop these comics from honing their craft and creating spaces for others like them. Alex Kim, who headlined the special and is based in Brooklyn, runs the queer Asian comedy group Boba Gays, which began on WhatsApp and has since made its way to Lincoln Center.
Every Wednesday, Anand co-produces a free comedy show called Funny Side Up. The queer-led group focuses on inclusivity and showcasing new talent.
“It’s really beautiful to speak about your experience and your existence in a way that’s uplifting,” Anand said.
Family is a major throughline of their comedic repertoires.
Chen, for instance, shared that he identifies with jokes about having Asian immigrant parents and the expectations they pass down.
“You see me, you know this part about me, you know this experience intimately, and I can see the truth that you’re trying to wrap a joke around,” he said. “That hits even harder because that’s my truth too. I think that’s what makes good comedy.”
Anand had the audience at the special howling when they explained that their parents’ be-more-like-them comparisons didn’t end when they came out. Instead, the expectations took on a new form.
“Now, my parents want me to be the best gay,” Anand said. “They’re like, ‘Do you know Ellen DeGeneres?’”
Kim said he’s been trying to unlearn things from his Christian Korean mom. Yet he described a moment when he was getting ready for the club and realized he looked just like his mother getting ready for church.
“I’ve been finding it hard to escape her,” Kim said.
Mutual recognition also radiates through the different ways queer love can take shape. From singlehood to death-do-us-part commitments, the comics cover just about every corner.
Anand is holding out hope for settling down with “a nice, pretty, Indian girl.” They recently went through a breakup and said they felt they dodged a bullet.
“As a person of color, I just don’t think I should be with a Swiftie,” they said.
Chen, touching on what it’s like to be in a queer interracial relationship, said that meeting his white boyfriend’s baby nephew for the first time felt like he was forced to participate in a diversity, equity and inclusion training.
“The dad was like, ‘Please welcome Kevin. Be curious about his culture, his history, his foods,’” Chen joked.
Laughter is not the only reward for the comics.
To Anand, comedy is a space where they can say whatever they want. “It gives me a voice,” they said.
Nik Narain, a North Carolina-based trans and nonbinary South Asian comic who performed at the special, said meeting older trans comedians and taking the stage helped him feel reassured in his identity during his transition.
“Stand-up was a really cool way to process that onstage,” he said. “[It] became a way for me to repackage my thoughts.”
Queer Asians are still figuring out their place in the greater D.C. comedy scene. The group is small in numbers and many are still working toward a full-time comedy career. But Narain feels he’s already made it.
Narain is reluctant to pin it all on one moment. He feels that success is already peeking through in milestones — opening for celebrities, traveling to performances and self-producing shows.
“As long as I can keep doing this, I’m super happy,” he said.
This story was produced as part of the AAJA VOICES fellowship program, a student journalism project of the Asian American Journalists Association (AAJA).
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