“Younger” star Dan Amboyer has publicly come out as gay after tying the knot with his boyfriend of ten years.
Amboyer, 31, married financial planner Eric Berger, 37, in front of 115 family and friends in New York City on Saturday.
In an interview with People, the actor explained that he felt pressure from his career to keep his sexuality a secret.
“Being a young actor in the industry, I had a lot of people who strongly advised me to stay quiet,” Amboyer told PEOPLE. “That was hard to live with. But I’ve never played a gay role before and I didn’t want to be limited by some strange perception.”
He went on that he took inspiration from fellow gay actors on how to merge his private and professional life.
“It was a hard decision to figure out how to approach it in a public way,” Amboyer says. “There are some actors out there now who just keep it as an unspoken aspect of their life and never discuss it in public. But then there are men like Matt Bomer and Zachary Quinto. I look up to them and see how them being so open affected other people and the country’s perception of gay people. And Nico Tortorella, who is also on ‘Younger,’ has inspired me by the way he’s become such an advocate for sexual fluidity. I think the more open actors can be the less stigma there will be attached, which will be a positive thing moving forward.”
Even though Amboyer kept his sexuality and relationship with Berger a secret, Berger revealed he never wanted Amboyer to come out before he was ready.
“I’ve always thought of this component as a personal decision and a business decision for him,” Berger says. “It has been difficult at times not having his public persona integrated in all parts of our lives, but I’ve never pushed him to come out publicly. That was a decision he had to come to for himself.”
The couple also shared that the reason their relationship works is because opposites attract.
“Our crazies match,” Berger says. “I think Dan is very different from the roles he gets to play. He’s a sweet quirky guy who loves animals and is creative and brings a different color to everything in my life. I hold that very valuable.”
As for Amboyer, he appreciates that Berger’s career and personality are so different.
“He’s serious and organized. He’s a financial planner, which is the opposite of my actor self. But we compliment each other,” Amboyer says.