Real Estate
Moving in together: What’s yours, mine, and ours?
Combining homes requires patience, communication, compromise
As we approach Valentine’s Day, imagine you’re sitting with your significant other at a table for two in a quiet corner of a fabulous restaurant. You have just had a sumptuous meal, along with cocktails, wine, and a flaming dessert, when your partner leans in and whispers the words of Christopher Marlowe: “come live with me and be my love.”
In the journey of love and companionship, combining living spaces is a sizable milestone. Whether it’s moving in together, getting married, or simply sharing a home, commingling the living areas of two individuals requires careful consideration, compromise, and creativity. This process involves merging not only physical belongings but also lifestyles and preferences.
Unless either of you is still living Chez Mom and Dad, you’ll need to decide whose home will be your new nesting place. Are you currently renting and constrained by a lease? Does one of you own property? Do you both? Whose home is most convenient or closest to the size you need?
In any personal, business, or familial relationship, communication is key. Open and honest discussions about expectations, preferences, and boundaries lay the foundation for a successful integration of living areas, even if you’re only roommates. Each person should feel heard and respected, and compromises should be made where necessary.
Whether you intend to move into one or the other’s existing residence or decide to sell “yours and mine” and buy “ours,” understanding each other’s needs, desires, and budgets will help you pinpoint a location, size, and type of home that will work best.
For example, someone who works at home may find location to be less important than it is for a DMV commuter. Perhaps access to dining and shopping nearby is important to you.
Is it just the two of you or will you be a Brady Bunch blended family? Do you anticipate caring for elderly relatives now or in the future? Do you need dual office spaces or an exercise area?
Will it be a condominium, townhouse, or detached home? Colonial, mid-century modern, contemporary, or one-story rambler? Also, if you clarify how your budgets will mesh up front, you may save yourself from arguing about money later.
Once you have decided on where, what, and how much, considering each person’s habits, routines, and design tastes can help to create a space that reflects both individuals’ personalities while fostering warmth and harmony.
Practicality plays a crucial role in merging living spaces. Assessing the available space, storage needs, and functionality of each item is essential. Bring out your inner Marie Kondo. Duplicate or unnecessary items can be minimized through decluttering and organizing sessions. Deciding together which items to keep, donate, or repurpose ensures that the space remains clutter-free and functional for both individuals.
Attaining a cohesive design aesthetic can be a fun and rewarding aspect of creating new living spaces. Finding common ground in terms of color schemes, furniture styles, and decorative elements helps in achieving a cohesive look. Mixing and matching pieces from each person’s collection can add character and uniqueness to the space while maintaining a sense of balance.
Flexibility is key when it comes to compromise. Both individuals may have attachments to certain belongings or design elements, and finding middle ground is essential. Being open to trying out new arrangements or incorporating elements from different styles can lead to surprising and delightful outcomes.
Personalization is important in making the shared space feel like home for both individuals. Incorporating meaningful objects, photographs, and artwork can add a personal touch and foster a sense of belonging. Creating designated areas or corners where each person can display their interests or hobbies allows for individual expression within the shared space.
Respect for each other’s privacy and personal space is paramount in a shared living arrangement. Designating separate areas or zones where each person can retreat and have some alone time ensures that both individuals feel comfortable and respected. Clear communication about boundaries and expectations regarding personal space helps in avoiding conflicts down the road.
Flexibility and adaptability are essential qualities to navigate the challenges of turning two homes into one. As individuals grow and evolve, so do their preferences and needs. Regular discussions about how the shared space is working for both individuals allow for adjustments to be made as needed.
Most of all, combining the living areas of two individuals is a process that requires patience, communication, and compromise. By approaching the task with an open mind and a willingness to collaborate, it is possible to create a harmonious and functional living space that reflects the personalities and preferences of both parties and truly makes it your own.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH Real Estate / @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her via DCHomeQuest.com, or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
Real Estate
Snatching your dream home in D.C. this winter
A good time to get a deal during slower season
If you’re thinking about planting roots in the DC Metro, then the winter months are a time when you can get a good deal during a slower time in the market. D.C. isn’t just for politicians and monuments; it’s a city brimming with diverse neighborhoods, chic eateries, and more rainbow flags than you can shake a stiletto at. But before you slip into those house-hunting boots, let’s make sure you’re well equipped for the real estate game in our nation’s capital.
1. Credit Check. Before you even start ogling those gorgeous row houses in Capitol Hill or swooning over condos in Logan Circle, make sure your credit score is ready. Lenders love to see a credit score that’s as high as my hair. If it’s looking a little low, then pay down those cards and keep your balances low.
2. Budget Realness. We all love a little splurge now and then (those D.C. brunches aren’t cheap), but buying a home is no time for financial fantasy. Work out your budget and know what you can afford monthly. Factor in those hidden costs like HOA fees and property taxes. Stay within your budget so you can keep rocking those designer threads without a sweat.
3. Location, Location, Location! D.C. is all about neighborhoods with character. Are you more of a Dupont Circle fan or perhaps Petworth? Maybe you fancy the historic vibes of Georgetown or the up-and-coming cool of Navy Yard. Each neighborhood has its own vibe and price tag, so do your homework and figure out where you fit in. Pro tip: Visit at different times of day to really feel the neighborhood’s pulse.
4. Find a Real Estate Agent. Find yourself a real estate agent who not only knows the market but also gets you — someone who can dish out honest advice and help you avoid any missteps. The right agent will be your guide, confidante, and maybe even your future brunch buddy. Remember, you’re in this together, so choose someone who’s as excited about finding your dream home as you are.
5. Mortgage Pre-Approval – The Golden Ticket. Nothing says “I’m serious” like a pre-approval letter from your lender. It’s the ultimate accessory to your house-hunting outfit, giving sellers that warm, fuzzy feeling that you’re not just window shopping. Plus, it helps you know exactly how much home you can afford, so you’re not falling head over heels for something out of reach.
6. House Hunting: The Fun Part! Time to put on your walking shoes and start touring. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, take notes, and envision yourself hosting fabulous dinner parties in these spaces. But be prepared to act fast. D.C.’s real estate market moves quicker than a “RuPaul’s Drag Race” elimination round, so if you find “the one,” don’t hesitate to make an offer.
7. Inspection, Baby. Once you’ve got an offer accepted, it’s time for the home inspection. Think of it as the all-important makeover montage. You want to uncover any issues before they become your problems. Trust your inspector and get those deets — everything from the roof to the basement needs a thorough once-over.
8. Closing Day – You’ve made it. The grand finale! You’ve done the work, and now it’s time to close the deal. Gather your paperwork, bring your ID, and maybe wear something that screams “I’m a homeowner!” After the signatures and happy tears, the keys are yours. Pop the Champagne and toast to your new fabulous life in D.C.
Final Thought: Love is Love, and Home is Home. Remember, your home should be a place where you feel comfortable, safe, and fabulous. Whether you’re single, partnered, or part of a chosen family, the D.C. Metro offers a vibrant, inclusive community that’s ready to welcome you with open arms. So go out there and claim your slice of this iconic city — you’ve got this.
Justin Noble is a Realtor with Sotheby’s International Realty licensed in D.C., Maryland, and Delaware for your DMV and Delaware beach needs. Specializing in first-time homebuyers, development and new construction as well as estate sales, Justin provides white glove service at every price point. Reach him at 202-503-4243, BurnsandNoble.com or [email protected].
Real Estate
2024 D.C. residential real estate market in review
Insights and trends for the LGBTQ community
As 2024 ends, the residential real estate market reflects a year of notable shifts, with both progress and setbacks impacting LGBTQ homebuyers and sellers. While strides have been made in fostering inclusivity in some areas, the overall landscape has grown increasingly complex. The political climate, coupled with emerging challenges to diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) programs, has significantly influenced the housing market and the LGBTQ+ community’s experiences within it.
Impact of Political and Social Shifts
The incoming Trump administration has signaled a rollback of DEI initiatives across various industries, and housing is no exception. Efforts to reduce funding for fair housing programs and weaken protections against discrimination have raised concerns for LGBTQ individuals seeking equitable access to housing. Many previously inclusive initiatives in real estate development and local government policy may be scaled back or abandoned altogether, creating a climate of uncertainty.
Despite these challenges, organizations like GayRealEstate.com continue to advocate for LGBTQ buyers and sellers, providing a critical safety net in an increasingly polarized environment.
Trends for LGBTQ Buyers, Sellers in 2024
- Increased Caution in Relocation Decisions:
LGBTQ+ individuals and families have grown more deliberate in choosing relocation destinations. States with strong anti-discrimination protections, such as California, New York, and Massachusetts, remain top choices, while states perceived as less LGBTQ+ friendly have seen a decline in migration.
- Emergence of “Safe Zones”:
Many LGBTQ+ buyers are seeking out neighborhoods and cities that actively uphold inclusivity despite national trends. These “safe zones” often feature strong community support and resources, but their limited availability can lead to higher housing costs.
- Barriers to Homeownership Persist:
Discrimination in lending and housing remains a significant challenge. If you experience discrimination in lending or housing, it’s essential to report it and seek support.
At the Local Level: Report incidents to your city or state’s Fair Housing Office or Human Rights Commission. To find your local office, check your city or state government website for contact details.
At the National Level: U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD):
- Phone: 1-800-669-9777 (Toll-Free)
- TTY: 1-800-877-8339
- Online Complaint Form: HUD Discrimination Complaint
Additionally, working with an LGBTQ professional through GayRealEstate.com provides an added layer of security and advocacy. These experts understand your unique needs and are committed to ensuring you experience a fair and inclusive home-buying or selling process.
- Focus on Financial Security:
With the economic uncertainty brought about by political shifts, LGBTQ buyers are prioritizing affordability and long-term financial stability. This has led to increased interest in shared housing arrangements, multi-generational living, and cooperative housing solutions.
- Advocacy for Fair Housing Protections:
Advocacy groups and legal organizations are ramping up efforts to defend and expand fair housing protections for LGBTQ individuals. These efforts remain a crucial counterbalance to the rollback of federal DEI programs.
Challenges and Opportunities in the Current Climate
The expected rollback of federal protections and reduced funding for fair housing programs will pose significant challenges, particularly in regions already struggling with inclusivity. However, the resilience of our LGBTQ+ community and our allies has created opportunities for grassroots movements to push for local-level inclusivity and support.
Looking Ahead to 2025
As the new administration takes office, the housing market’s inclusivity for LGBTQ individuals may face further obstacles. However, the strength of community-driven initiatives and the unwavering support of advocacy organizations like GayRealEstate.com (and the 21+ National LGBTQ non-profit organizations they support financially monthly) offer hope for continued progress at local and regional levels.
LGBTQ buyers and sellers are encouraged to stay informed, seek out trusted allies in the real estate industry, and leverage platforms like GayRealEstate.com to ensure their home-buying or selling experience remains as smooth and equitable as possible.
Despite the challenges of an evolving political and social climate, one thing remains certain: LGBTQ individuals have allies who stand by their side, fighting for equality and inclusivity in housing and beyond. For more than 30 years, GayRealEstate.com has been a steadfast advocate for LGBTQ rights, helping thousands of individuals and families navigate the home-buying and selling process safely and confidently.
Not only does GayRealEstate.com connect clients with LGBTQ-friendly agents, but the organization also actively supports LGBTQ non-profit initiatives, ensuring that the community continues to thrive. No matter the obstacles ahead, we want you to know: We’re not going anywhere.
Whether you’re buying, selling, or relocating, GayRealEstate.com is here to provide the expertise, resources, and unwavering support you deserve. Together, we’ll continue building a brighter, more inclusive future—one home at a time.
Jeff Hammerberg is founding CEO of Hammerberg & Associates, Inc. Reach him at 303-378-5526 or [email protected].
Real Estate
The night before closing
Happy holidays! Wishing you good health and happy closings in 2025
Although I’ve often written contracts and settled home sale transactions on holiday eves, I am winding up my business for 2024 a little bit early – this week, in fact.
I have planned a well-deserved vacation after the first of the new year, but upon my return, I will be reading articles by real estate pundits, following interest rate fluctuations, keeping my ear to the ground, and anticipating what a change in administration will portend for the DMV real estate market.
So, I leave you with a column in verse, apropos for the season, with apologies to settlement attorneys and closing agents.
’Twas the night before closing, in an office downtown.
Two agents were stirring and running around:
Linda, the buyers’ rep, bold and astute,
And the sellers’ rep, Robert, in his sharp, tailored suit.
The buyers were giddy, their excitement quite clear,
Would they be in their house by the start of next year?
The sellers, meanwhile, had been packing all day,
Now exhausted and glad to be moving away.
Linda looked down at the phone in her hand,
And questioned how much more of this she could stand.
The pings came like sleighbells; her battery spent.
She wondered aloud where that missing file went.
Robert sat back and surveyed his domain,
Feeling smug that his work had not been in vain.
Meanwhile, poor Linda was losing her cool,
Dealing with buyers who broke every rule.
“Do NOT buy a couch! Don’t apply for a loan!
“If this deal falls apart, you will be on your own!”
“Don’t open a credit card! Don’t lease a car,”
“Or you’ll have to continue to live where you are.”
At the house, an inspector popped in for a peek,
And pronounced that the HVAC would die in a week.
The buyers erupted: “We need 20 grand!”
And Linda just sighed with her head in her hand.
“Relax,” she said calmly, “We’ll get it repaired,”
As she tried to remember – had this been declared?
She then texted Robert, restating the plea,
And the response that came back: “LOL. Not from me.”
As midnight drew closer, more chaos ensued:
An appraisal adjustment! A snowstorm was due!
The lender went silent, their system was fried,
A typo was found, and the printer had died.
Then out in the street, there arose such a clatter,
Both agents dashed out to see what was the matter.
A self-driving Tesla crashed into a pole,
But they couldn’t see anyone there to console.
And then, on the sidewalk, a figure appeared,
In a blazer and boots, with his clipboard and beard.
His alpaca haircut, his teeth all aglow,
It had to be Slick Nick, the settlement pro.
He carried a satchel, with papers galore,
And his eyes had a twinkle as he neared the front door.
His stride was assertive, his voice was imposing.
“I get it. I’m early. I’m here for the closing.”
Nick adjusted his glasses, and gave things a glance,
“I’ve seen awful deals, but this one? Slim chance.”
“Enough of the drama, the last-minute stalls,
Let’s settle this now—no more late-night calls!”
He summoned the lender in a threatening voice,
“Explain yourself now–there is no other choice;”
The lender, chagrined, muttered “technical glitch,”
And the funds transfer quickly was expertly fixed.
But Nick wasn’t finished; he said with a glare:
“You buyers and sellers – sit down in a chair!”
“Just sign all the papers while I make a call.
“Now wrap it up! Wrap it up! Wrap it up all!”
The signing all happened with relative ease,
Then came pictures and handshakes, and transfer of keys.
The agents high-fived and sat back in their chairs,
Reflecting with pride on the day’s closed affairs.
The buyers were thrilled, their joy had no bounds.
“Can we now post on Insta? Announce to the town?”
The sellers smiled too, with a huge check in hand,
To build a new house on a large plot of land.
Linda just nodded, her patience worn thin,
While wondering which closing was next to begin.
And Robert remarked on the goal they’d achieved,
Grateful the process had gone as conceived.
Then Nicky stood tall, his work finally done,
And he grumbled, “Good grief, this one wasn’t much fun.”
He climbed back in his Tesla, his phone in his grip,
And he turned to the agents with one final quip:
“Let’s hear it for teamwork,” he said with a sneer,
“I’m off to join friends for a shot and a beer.”
Happy Holidays! Wishing you good health, good times, and happy closings in 2025.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at DCHomeQuest.com, or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
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