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MAL organizers say there’s no shortage of 20-somethings at annual event

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Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend, gay news, Washington Blade
Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend, gay news, Washington Blade

(Washington Blade photo by Denis Largeron)

Mid-Atlantic Leather Weekend

Jan. 15-18

 

Host hotel:

Hyatt Regency Capitol Hill

400 New Jersey Ave., N.W.

 

Other events to be held at Glorious Health Club (2120 West Virginia Ave., N.E.), the D.C. Eagle (3701 Benning Rd., N.E.), Green Lantern (1325 Green Ct., N.W.) and the 9:30 Club (815 V St., N.W.).

 

Full details at leatherweekend.com

 

Friday, Jan. 15

 

Registration (3-10 p.m.)

MIR’s Rubber Meet and Greet (7-9 p.m.)

Grunt (10 p.m.-2 a.m.)

Impact (10 p.m.-3 a.m.)

CODE (10 p.m.-4 a.m.)

 

Sat., Jan. 16

 

Puppy Park 8 (11 a.m.-1 p.m.)

Onyx Fetish Gear cocktails and auction (1-6 p.m.)

Leather Cocktails (7-9 p.m.)

Parade of Colors line-up (8:15 p.m.)

MAL Uniform League Party (10 p.m.-2 a.m.)

Primal FxCK (10 p.m.-4 a.m.)

CODE (10 p.m.-4 a.m.)

 

Sun., Jan. 17

 

Brunch (10-11:30 a.m.)

Mr. Leather contest (1-4 p.m.)

BLUF (breeches and leather uniform fan club) (4-9 p.m.)

Dark & Twisted (closing dance) (10 p.m.-4 a.m.)

 

One thing leather lovers and BDSM enthusiasts are sure to find at the 45th annual Mid-Atlantic Leather event this weekend is a mix of all ages. While organizations of all kinds from churches to fraternity groups and more struggle to recruit millennials (those born after 1980), local leather club members say enticing younger members hasn’t been a problem.

“We have a very, very even cross section of all ages,” says Todd White, a member of the local Centaur MC Club, which runs the event. “We still have the 21-year-olds who will come in reeking of the latest Versace cologne and run and buy a harness. That kind of warms my heart because that was me at one time. There’s still a sense that this is where everybody is and this is where I want to be. … We still have them coming in and we all know it because we all started there. Then as you mature and grow, you start figuring out for yourself if you just like the feel of leather or if you’re just really a kinkster at heart.”

White says the event tends to skew slightly older in anniversary years when attendees who used to attend regularly will come out for special occasions but maybe not attend every year.

“And then other times you see a spike in the crowd and the lobby feels a little younger,” White says. “I’m not quite sure what causes that spike. It’s just one of those events where everyone can feel comfortable whether you’re in a suit and tie or you’re in a jock or a harness or anything else. You come through here and you will run into people you could have a cocktail with and feel comfortable.

Kyle Collins is 26 — you have to be 21 to attend MAL — and has been going for the last four years. Collins is the co-chair for D.C. Leather Pride and co-planned a party for Thursday night with the Highwaymen TNT. His group is also planning the BLUF party, back for a second year, on Sunday.

Collins says some MAL events draw older crowds and others tend to skew younger but it’s “overall a good mix.”

“Our community has a bit of an age gap at the moment as a result of losing so many men to HIV/AIDS,” he says. “That age gap can be daunting for younger men and make it harder to find ways to connect.”

He also says technology has been a factor.

“Now leather gear and toys can be bought online without ever leaving your house, so while many millennials are interested in the community, we face no hurdles in finding the best way to engage and interact with men who are interested in our community.”

White says that can be an MAL advantage in some ways, however. The conference will offer thousands who will attend at least some part of the weekend (the 836 rooms at the Hyatt Regency Capitol Hill are, as usual, sold out though many share rooms) a chance to handle the merchandise before buying.

“MAL’s vendor mart is a wonderful place because you can really see and touch the leather rather than ordering it online,” he says. “That’s the one part of the event where you do tend to see some straight folks too. I’d say less than one percent of the package holders are straight, but they do like to come check out the vendor mart.”

Josh Pennington is 31 and one of the younger members of the Centaur MC club. He lived in the D.C. area for years but moved to Newport News, Va., last year for work. He still comes to Washington regularly and keeps his membership active. He’s been attending MAL for about 10 years. He says more millennials attend than did in his early years.

“It’s been steadily increasing,” he says. “My first one, I felt like more of a minority but as time has progressed, there’s been more equal distribution. I think MAL is an event where people go and word of mouth travels. It’s just a good, well-balanced, welcoming event and that’s what draws people. As far as the community goes, that’s just the natural evolution. You have to get younger people as the older generation moves on.”

Some folks who attend leather events elsewhere report similar experiences.

Neil Maciejewski Johnson, a gay San Francisco resident, has been to the Folsom Street Fair, a well-known San Francisco BDSM event held every September, many times and says there’s no lack of millennials.

“I would say they tend to be more the spectators than the exhibitionists,” he says. “There are some who are showing skill and getting into the scene, but the 40-and-over crowd is the one really driving the entertainment.”

One area that has struggled a bit at MAL is the Mr. Leather contest, which White organizes. Last year only five competed. This year eight have registered so far. White says in the late ‘80s and early ‘90s, when the contest was held at Tracks, it was not uncommon for there to be 30 contestants. While interest in MAL overall has not shifted — if anything organizers have worked to keep it at about 800 full-package holders despite offers from the Hyatt to offer substantially more — why has the contest proven less popular? White says it’s an overall shift in community thinking.

“I think by the mid-‘90s the community kind of asked the question, ‘Why do we have all these leather title holders?’ In some ways it was easier to be a titleholder then. There wasn’t Facebook, there wasn’t this instant snapshot of what was going on in your life or what you might be up to, so the titleholders tended to be these real muscle gods who looked like they just stepped out of Tom of Finland. … Then it started to shift more to community service but that’s slowly kind of backing out too and there’s a middle ground we’ve finally started to find. … There’s been a bit of a similar thing with some of the drag contests as well. Back in the heyday, contests overall were more heavily participated in.”

Even with overall attendance strong, it’s inevitable that trends will continue to shift over time, regulars say.

“The changes reflect the way the community changes,” Pennington says. “Like lately we’ve had way more puppies. The puppy movement is big right now so we have more events that cater to that group. The organizers do a great job of reading the audience and adjusting things to fit.”

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Summer in D.C. brings sports, Restaurant Week, festivals, and more

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Washington Spirit CEO Kim Stone hosts Pride Night OUT on Sunday, Aug. 23. (Photo courtesy of Washington Spirit)

Summer in D.C. just hits different. Congress is out, school is out, the sun is out, thighs are out. With the skies clearing from Canadian smoke, here are a few ways to stay entertained.

Dining

Summer restaurant week: The Restaurant Association of Metropolitan Washington (RAMW) is once again hosting Summer Restaurant Week, Aug. 18-24. This weeklong dining experience showcases the dynamic dining scene of the DMV, including 2026 RAMMY Award-winning favorites (the annual D.C. food awards show that took place June 29). Participating restaurants will offer three-course brunch and lunch selections for $25 or $35 per person, and three-course dinners for $40, $55 and $65 per person.

New Restaurants: A handful of new spots have opened, so the summer is a great time to check them out:

  • Oribu: A new Mediterranean-Japanese restaurant in the Grand Hyatt hotel, which just underwent a remodeling effort. The sleek restaurant brings upscale charm, with dishes like Wagyu beef tartare with potato pavé and caviar.
  • The Oak Room: A snazzy old-school American grill has just opened in Georgetown, alongside its sister upstairs supper club (Bernadette’s) restaurant, in the old El Centro space.
  • Uchi: This showy Japanese sushi-forward chain has landed in Dupont with a chef’s tasting menu of favorites like fatty tuna.
  • Kathmandu: Recalling the capital of Nepal, this warm, buzzy subterranean restaurant right in the heart of U Street brings spice, flair, and rare ingredients to its dishes (see: buffalo burgers) and drinks.

Sports

  • Washington Spirit Pride Night OUT: On Sunday, Aug. 23, head to Audi Field for a massive, high-energy game following the exciting month of World Cup. The designated Pride Night OUT game promises boisterous crowds plus pre- and post-game community engagements. 
  • Washington Tennis Open – Now called the Mubadala DC Open, this annual tournament is only combined mens’ and womens’ 500-level tennis tournament in the world. The open is one of D.C.’s longest-standing sports traditions, and will take place at the Rock Creek Park Tennis Center July 25-Aug. 2. Naomi Osaka, Venus Williams, Ben Shelton, Frances Tiafoe, and others are expected to play.

Festivals

  • Afro Plus Fest: This huge, three-day Afro-Caribbean Hip-Hop Festival brings together headliners Davido, Alkaline, and Wizkid, plus Tems and Ayra Starr. The event moves from RFK to the Northwest Stadium Complex for three days, Sept. 4-6.
  • Capital Fringe Festival: Running from July 11-21, this massive celebration features dozens of live theater, comedy, dance, and boundary-pushing nighttime performances across multiple DC neighborhoods. 
  • The National Book Festival returns, with headliners like Cynthia Erivo, and Martin Scorsese. The one-day festival, Saturday, Aug. 22, brings together bookworms and word nerds under the theme “America 250: It’s Your Story.” There are talks, workshops, musical sessions and more.
  • All Things Go: A three-day festival Sept. 25-27 at Merriweather Post Pavilion featuring Mitski, Hayley Williams, Brandi Carlile, MUNA, Zara Larsson, Ethel Cain, and many, many more artists. There are single-day and three-day tickets. Featuring and highlighting female artists, the festival has turned into a must-see for many LGBTQ audience members.
  • Fuchsia Fest: The inaugural Fuchsia Fest is a new multi-day celebration created to celebrate LGBTQ community and expression, bringing together a mix of community gatherings, entertainment, and nightlife. The event takes place Sept. 18-20 and is hosted by Capital Pride.

Art and Music

  • United We Dance: A high-energy rave with house, techno, bass, and festival music, on Aug. 1 at the 9:30 Club. 
  • The Fray. On Aug. 14, this American rock band famous for How To Save A Life is at Merriweather Post Pavilion.
  • Kesha: Kesha’s high-energy The Freedom Tour comes to the D.C. area on Aug. 14 at Jiffy Lube Live.
  • ALOK: On Sept. 3 at Lincoln Theater, ALOK (they/them) performs. The poet, comedian, and actor is putting on a new comedy show.
  • 2charm, the emerging Australian electronic club-pop duo popular with the queer community, which blends hyperpop and dance music, comes to the Atlantis.
  • Sapphic Dance Party: a vibrant, inclusive nightlife and social event designed specifically for queer women, lesbians, bisexuals, trans individuals, and nonbinary folks, at Atlantis on Aug. 21.
  • Jazz in the Garden: The most quintessential of D.C. activities returns Friday evenings through Aug. 14. This season’s theme, “American Sounds,” is a nod to the nation’s 250th anniversary. Tunes themes range from Appalachian and Americana to Creole jazz, Hill Country blues, contemporary jazz, and more. Tickets are available through a lottery system a week before each event.
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Tickets on sale for chef Patrick O’Connell’s book launch event

Sept. 18 kickoff to feature José Andrés, Tom Sietsema

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Acclaimed chef Patrick O’Connell is preparing to publish his new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” in September and he’s launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at 6 p.m. at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema.

Tickets for the event go on sale Tuesday, July 21 at Ticketmaster; prices start at $55.

 O’Connell, who’s gay, is the pioneering Michelin-starred chef and longtime proprietor of the Inn at Little Washington. He spoke with the Blade about the September event and the launch of his first memoir.

 “I’ve known [Andrés and Sietsema] for more than 25 years and I have great respect for them,” O’Connell said. “I felt that it would allow us to add a different dimension rather than just have an interviewer. The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”

O’Connell has published cookbooks but this is his first memoir. The event will feature a short film that will highlight his work and the Inn.

“What I hope to do with the event is bring the book to life visually,” he said. “So we’re producing a short film that will be part of it. Most of the audience will not have read the book so it’ll give them a visual flavor of the book. It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years. It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”

The book’s title refers to the location of the garage on the corner of Main, Middle, and Gay streets in Washington, Va., where he launched his restaurant that became an international culinary destination. 

The Blade will publish the rest of its wide-ranging interview with O’Connell in September in conjunction with the book’s release.

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The queer Asian comics building collective joy in D.C.

Spotlighting chaotic ways family, romance, identity take shape in their lives

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Alex Kim performs at the Pride Comedy Special in Washington, D.C., on June 18, 2026. (Photo by Christina Lee/VOICES)

Kevin Chen’s family tombstone has room for four: him, his parents and his boyfriend. The arrangement might prove to be a little awkward. 

“My boyfriend is 100% white, and my parents are 100% disappointed,” Chen confessed.

Jokes about family traditions and the untraditional ways they’re practiced earned a burst of laughs at the bar where Chen was opening for the Pride Comedy Special. The D.C. stand-up event, produced by Comedy Bonfyre last month, spotlighted queer Asian comics who shared the chaotic ways family, romance and identity take shape in their lives. 

From candid oral sex takes to top surgery hypotheticals like “Where do the boobs go?”, the night highlighted the loud camaraderie of the queer Asian experience — one that sounds like a cacophony of snorts, cackles and belly laughs. While the comics say they are not quite a community, there’s more than enough shared material to bring them together. 

“It was such a magical experience. I loved performing in a queer API lineup. It feels so validating,” Chen said after the show. “I’m wondering, ‘Is this how white men feel all the time?’”

Each performance evoked queer Asian joy through a medium that could use more of its presence.

According to Chen, who is based in D.C., it’s hard to say whether there is a true queer Asian comedy presence in his city. There are only a scattered “handful” of Asian comics, and people of color are underrepresented in queer comic circles, he said. 

When Tarunika Anand, a nonbinary lesbian comic, first entered the mainstream D.C. comedy scene, they mostly encountered straight white men, describing the experience as “a culture shock.”

“I feel like sometimes a lot of queer spaces are really white, and then a lot of Asian spaces are really straight,” Anand said. “I don’t feel like I fit into either.”

But feeling marginalized didn’t stop these comics from honing their craft and creating spaces for others like them. Alex Kim, who headlined the special and is based in Brooklyn, runs the queer Asian comedy group Boba Gays, which began on WhatsApp and has since made its way to Lincoln Center. 

Every Wednesday, Anand co-produces a free comedy show called Funny Side Up. The queer-led group focuses on inclusivity and showcasing new talent.

“It’s really beautiful to speak about your experience and your existence in a way that’s uplifting,” Anand said. 

Family is a major throughline of their comedic repertoires. 

Chen, for instance, shared that he identifies with jokes about having Asian immigrant parents and the expectations they pass down. 

“You see me, you know this part about me, you know this experience intimately, and I can see the truth that you’re trying to wrap a joke around,” he said. “That hits even harder because that’s my truth too. I think that’s what makes good comedy.”

Anand had the audience at the special howling when they explained that their parents’ be-more-like-them comparisons didn’t end when they came out. Instead, the expectations took on a new form. 

“Now, my parents want me to be the best gay,” Anand said. “They’re like, ‘Do you know Ellen DeGeneres?’” 

Kim said he’s been trying to unlearn things from his Christian Korean mom. Yet he described a moment when he was getting ready for the club and realized he looked just like his mother getting ready for church. 

“I’ve been finding it hard to escape her,” Kim said. 

Mutual recognition also radiates through the different ways queer love can take shape. From singlehood to death-do-us-part commitments, the comics cover just about every corner.

Anand is holding out hope for settling down with “a nice, pretty, Indian girl.” They recently went through a breakup and said they felt they dodged a bullet. 

“As a person of color, I just don’t think I should be with a Swiftie,” they said. 

Chen, touching on what it’s like to be in a queer interracial relationship, said that meeting his white boyfriend’s baby nephew for the first time felt like he was forced to participate in a diversity, equity and inclusion training. 

“The dad was like, ‘Please welcome Kevin. Be curious about his culture, his history, his foods,’” Chen joked. 

Laughter is not the only reward for the comics.

To Anand, comedy is a space where they can say whatever they want. “It gives me a voice,” they said. 

Nik Narain, a North Carolina-based trans and nonbinary South Asian comic who performed at the special, said meeting older trans comedians and taking the stage helped him feel reassured in his identity during his transition. 

“Stand-up was a really cool way to process that onstage,” he said. “[It] became a way for me to repackage my thoughts.”

Queer Asians are still figuring out their place in the greater D.C. comedy scene. The group is small in numbers and many are still working toward a full-time comedy career. But Narain feels he’s already made it.

Narain is reluctant to pin it all on one moment. He feels that success is already peeking through in milestones — opening for celebrities, traveling to performances and self-producing shows.

“As long as I can keep doing this, I’m super happy,” he said.

This story was produced as part of the AAJA VOICES fellowship program, a student journalism project of the Asian American Journalists Association (AAJA).

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