Greg Sensing came to Washington in the fall of 2010 so his wife, Stacy, could continue her work as a research economist.
Now the 45-year-old Nashville native works as office manager at D.C. Brau Brewing Co., a job that dovetails nicely with one of his hobbies.
“I love discovering new craft beers I’ve never tried before,” Sensing says. “I also love to cook and love old cookbooks, especially ones from the ‘60s.”
They’re raising their family — with baby Olli (rhymes with “goalie”) — and live in Brightwood.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I came out twice: first as a dyke and, several years later, as a trans dude. I was sure my super-religious, southern parents would take the news hardest both times. Surprisingly, coming out to them as queer was much tougher than coming out as trans. I’ve been very lucky. My three older sisters and I are all still very loving and affectionate, which is nice.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
I have several! Gunner Scott, Chase Strangio, Marisa Richmond, Dean Spade, Monica Roberts, Ruby Corado, Mara Keisling — folks who dedicate their lives to making a real, progressive, positive difference in the lives of trans people. Those are my heroes.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
I’ve always had a fun time at Bear Happy Hour on the roof at Rock & Roll Hotel. Bears are my favorite eye candy. The one time I went to Secrets was pretty fascinating and memorable. But I’ve got a baby now so “nightspot” more accurately refers to where one of us points in response to the 3 a.m. question, “Do you see where he barfed/pooped/peed this time?”
Describe your dream wedding.
My actual wedding happened at the Agricultural History Farm Park in Derwood, Md. My partner and I got married on the lawn in front of the farmhouse there and had our reception dinner in the big red barn. It was a gorgeous setting and only rained right at the end of the ceremony for just a few minutes — just long enough to produce a rainbow! Awesomely queer! Our union was sanctified by the great homo weather gods.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
The end of systemic racism, socio-economic inequality and oppression, which includes the unnecessary and excessive militarization of police forces.
What historical outcome would you change?
I would kick whoever came up with the concept of slavery so hard in the nads. Repeatedly.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
When Katya Zamolodchikova won Miss Congeniality on “Drag Race.” That, or when Mr. Rogers flipped the bird on TV.
On what do you insist?
Being decent and respectful to people in any service industry. At least attempt to look people in the eye when they’re doing something for you. People who behave like pompous, entitled jerks toward service staff or blue-collar workers just make me so nauseous.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
A couple of my D.C. Brau co-workers and I put together a team for the St. Baldrick’s fundraiser at the Boundary Stone on Sunday. It was a big, fun event where participants shaved their heads to raise money and awareness for childhood cancer research. I think my latest post was a photo of my “after” look. I’m not usually this closely shorn but it was for a good cause!
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
I skipped the book and made a movie instead — “Systyr Act: Under the Habit.”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
If it changed every person’s sexual orientation to be every sexual orientation, I’d celebrate. Because maybe then people would understand how messed up and pointless it is to try to vilify someone for the way they express love and with whom they feel most comfortable expressing it.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
Feminist drag queens. And Tina Turner.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Don’t forget about the Q in LGBTQ. Conformity is not for everyone, diversity should be celebrated, regardless of orientation or identity expression.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
Completely cliché, I know, but my kid, Olli. Or a really good, fresh, local, imperial India pale ale. Or Elizabeth Shue.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
The misogynist, vagina-hating gay man who loves eating ass.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
“Over the Top.” If you replaced Stallone and the kid with a daddy and his sub, you would barely have to change a word of the dialogue, I’m telling you. Somebody needs to remake all cheesy ’80s movies with a cast of nothing but trans bears.
What’s the most overrated social custom?
The pervasive drive to conform while simultaneously judging others who aren’t as fearful of expressing their individuality.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
Being on a winning team at pub trivia somewhere.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
That I was trans and to not worry about what others think because I’m probably mostly surrounded by sad/afraid/judgmental idiots who probably don’t really like themselves very much. Plus, there’s just so much to celebrate and be proud of as a member of the trans community. My perspective, particularly regarding gender and sexism, is so intensely and intimately shaped by my experiences of being raised as a young girl and being perceived now as an adult man. It’s an education in humanity, whether you like it or not. Humanity and hormones. See, that should be the title of my book.
Because the D.C. summertime feels exactly like carrying a large, profusely sweating, naked man in a Baby Bjorn strapped to the front of myself at all times for months. Who doesn’t love that? Nope. My wife got a job here so we moved. The end.