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Va. B&B rejects gays, couple claims
Lawmaker calls for anti-discrimination protections

A legally married gay man claims that a Virginia bed and breakfast denied him and his spouse a reservation for a room because they are of the same gender.
Russell Williams, 56, of Hanover, Pa., said his spouse, David Schaefer, 54, tried to make reservations in late February at Stafford House in Fairfax, Va., as part of a trip for the wedding of their nephew. However, they say they were Ā denied a room over the phone on the basis of their relationship.
“So they, in that conversation — they ascertained that this was two men,” Williams said. “It’s a husband-and-wife operation. The wife was on the phone with David, and she said, ‘Well, we don’t accept non-traditional couples.'”
Williams, who married Schaefer five years ago in Boston after being together 35 years, said his spouse tried to “push back a bit” on the Stafford House owner, but she remained firm in denying the reservation. Williams, a racehorse breeder,Ā said the owner also told Schaefer, a physician,Ā that unmarried opposite-sex couples would be unable to obtain a reservation.
“There were no harsh words,” Williams said. “Apparently, the husband is a minister and it’s a religion-based policy that they have. And that was that. I guess we’ll stay at the Marriott.”
Stafford House didn’t respond to multiple requests from the Washington Blade to confirm the allegation that an owner denied the couple a reservation.
Virginia has no LGBT-specific non-discrimination law, nor one that protects same-sex couples against discrimination in public accommodations.
Williams said facing this discrimination reminded him of the mistreatment that racial minorities in the United States once faced in similar situations.
“The first thing that popped into my head was now I knew how black people felt 50 years ago,” Williams said. “It was bizarre. David felt the same way.”
Virginia State Del. Adam Ebbin (D-Alexandria), the only openly gay member of the General Assembly and a candidate for a Virginia State Senate seat, called the alleged discrimination faced by Williams and Schaefer “an embarrassment to Virginia.”
“It’s surprising, in spite of our lack of protections and laws, that this would happen in Fairfax County,” Ebbin said. “It’s another outrage that makes me want to redouble my efforts in support of equality in Virginia.”
Ebbin said a change in law to prohibit discrimination of all types would be the best way to remedy the situation. In the 2011 session of the General Assembly, Del. Ken Plum (D-Fairfax) introduced legislation that would amend the Virginia Human Rights Act to include safeguards for LGBT people againstĀ unlawful discrimination.
“Clearly, we need to change the laws to prohibit discrimination of all types,” Ebbin said. “Unfortunately, we’re still at the building-block level.”
Fred Sainz, vice president of communications for the Human Rights Campaign, also expressed frustration that no legal protections exist to protect LGBT people from discrimination in public accommodations.
“These kinds of things should not be happening in this day and age, and the frustrating part is that they happen all too frequently in areas all across our country,” Sainz said. “It’s even more frustrating when they happen right across from the nation’s capital — in a city that is virtually within walking distance of the nation’s capital.”
Sainz said the incident “makes clear the need for uniformity of laws nationwide that protect all Americans, specifically on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.” But SainzĀ also said the situation speaks to the need for state non-discrimination legislation in Virginia because he said states have always been “first and strongest”Ā to protect LGBT families.
Williams said although he felt he faced discrimination,Ā he doesn’t think sympathizers should retaliate against the owners of Stafford House.
“I would not want to see the people at the B&B persecuted,” Williams said. “I think it’s wrong and I think they’re ignorant, but I hope that — and I’ve talked about this with a lot of friends — gay people should not retaliate against this kind of thing. I think we should just go ahead and do what we have to do to get our civil rights and make sure that people comply.”
LGBT advocates said they felt drawing attention to this issue can help with efforts to pass laws to prevent such discrimination in the future. Ebbin said such examples can help build the case in the Virginia General Assembly to pass non-discrimination laws.
“We constantly hear complaints from Richmond that there are no documented cases of discrimination,” Ebbin said. “Every incident like this helps us make it more clear to my colleagues that we need to move forward on protecting LGBT people along with all others.”
Sainz added he believes more LGBT couples throughout the country face this kind of discrimination, but few make the incidents public because they’re embarrassed.
“My suspicion is more incidents like this take place than we hear of because people are embarrassed, and so they don’t want to shine the light on these kinds of situations,” Sainz said. “I think that this couple bringing attention to this issue is the right thing to do.”
UPDATE: Following the posting of this article, Donna Stafford, an owner of Stafford House, told the Washington Blade that the bed and breakfast has changed its policy and will no longer bar anyone from making a reservation.
“We were in the process of [changing ourĀ policy]Ā even before your article came out,” Stafford said. “We’re not going to put restrictions on anyone that stays.”
In a separate email, Stafford noted that the prior policy of Stafford House was within the letter of all relevant state and local housing laws.
ADDITIONAL UPDATE: In a joint statement, Williams and Schaefer told the Blade on Wednesday via email that following Stafford House’s announced change in policy, they booked a room at theĀ facility and plan a stay shortly.
“Pursuant to your update we have reserved a room at the Stafford House and plan to stay there this weekend,” they wrote. “Tolerance doesnāt require agreement about everything and if they learned that across the river in Congress the whole country would be better off.”
District of Columbia
DC Trans Picnics event brings trans community together
Allied groups participated in March 22 gathering in Malcolm X Park

DC Trans Picnics on March 22 held a gathering in Malcolm X Park to celebrate joy and networking in the cityās transgender community ahead of Transgender Day of Visibility.
DC Trans Picnics is a collective known for offering space for trans and gender nonconforming members of the local queer community to spend time with and connect with one another. The March 22 event was geared specifically to BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, and People of Color) individuals to help them connect with those of similar and different cultures, but anyone was allowed to come and celebrate if invited.
The gathering itself was not just one of sharing food, laughs, games and music, but a bolstering of the network of organizations, resources, and collectives in the community.
One of the volunteers for the event gave the Washington Blade a statement about some of the resources DC Trans Picnics offers in order to help as many trans people as possible. These efforts specifically target trans women who are early in their transition by connecting them with organizations that help people who are at risk of homelessness, voice training resources, and message boards with information about other resources.
Another event volunteer was a member of the Metro DC DSA, a group founded on achieving bodily autonomy and reproductive justice for queer and trans people in the DMV.
āIt’s still TDOV, but it’s Trans Day vision instead of visibility.ā the volunteer told the Blade. āThe idea with that one is that trans people have a hypervisibility right now. Like nobody hasn’t heard of trans people or like, doesn’t know, not trans people.ā
āThatās not the problem. The problem is that people don’t know the problem is they can’t see us. We’re trying to get the focus on instead of being seen, it’s about seeing trans peopleās vision and like and shifting the perspective from like, instead of looking at us to looking with us.ā
The Trans Day of Vision is taking place on Sunday, the day before Trans Day of Visibility.
Metro DC DSA is holding the event at Malcolm X Park. The group received permission to alter and use the TDOV acronym from Rachel Crandall, who founded the Trans Day of Visibility.
āTrans people actually have something unique to contribute,ā the Metro DC USA volunteer said. āOur vision as a society and where we think we’re going and that trans people just because of our lived experiences, we know how to take the situation as it seems to be and say I don’t want that. There is so much need, demand, energy, and enthusiasm for change in our society, and trans people know what that feels like to know that they feel like things have to change.ā
Other groups aside from Metro DC USA attended the event in solidarity. They include Lavender Evolutions, a BIPOC group focused on expanding their work from helping lesbian community members to supporting trans and nonconforming people in the area.
āThis inclusionary event has encouraged queer and trans POC to come out and celebrate together.ā said a Lavender Evolutions member.
The group aims to continue to work with DC Trans Picnics to help bring more events that promote unity for BIPOC members of the community to avoid any whitewashing in the future.
Another group that participated is the DC Area Transmasculine Society or DCATS, a support network that aims to provide transmasculine people in the D.C. area with resources about which they may otherwise not know in this political climate. Apart from providing binders, resources on homelessness, mutual aid networks, and other beneficial services, DCATS was taking any and all recommendations for resources that would benefit transmasculine people.Ā
DC Trans Picnics can be found on Instagram at @dctranspicnics.
District of Columbia
Whitman-Walker facing 40% federal research budget cut
Trump terminates range of health grants related to sexual minorities

Officials at Whitman-Walker Health revealed that the organizationās Institute for Health Research and Policy is facing a 40 percent cut to its federal funding due to President Trumpās ongoing effort to reduce federal government spending.
The news was announced at a weekend drag brunch fundraiser held at Her Diner.
A spokesperson for Whitman-Walker told the Blade that final numbers of the cuts are not yet available and the full impact of the federal funding loss is not yet clear. The Institute for Health Research & Policy at Whitman-Walker works to advance good health outcomes via research, clinical trials, and evidence-based policy solutions. So itās fair to assume the cuts will impact research into HIV and cancer treatments.
In related news, last week the U.S. government terminated at least 68 grants to 46 institutions totaling nearly $40 million, according to a report from the AP.
āMost were in some way related to sexual minorities, including research focused on HIV prevention. Other canceled studies centered on cancer, youth suicide and bone health,ā AP reported.
Health and Human Services spokesman Andrew Nixon said the agency is ādedicated to restoring our agencies to their tradition of upholding gold-standard, evidence-based science.ā
One canceled project at Vanderbilt University was following the health of more than 1,200 LGBTQ people age 50 and older, the AP said.
This is a developing story; the Blade will update this with details on the Whitman-Walker cuts when they are available.
District of Columbia
D.C. queer bar owners sound alarm on WorldPride security concerns
āThe city has a complete obligation to manage this, make it safeā

Excitement for this yearās WorldPride celebration in Washington grows more palpable by the day as more iconic performers are added to festival lineups and a steady stream of new events are announced. Itās clear that Washington is preparing for something big.
But as with any major event, concerns are emerging about how to ensure the safety of the LGBTQ community as people from around the world gather to celebrate the diversity that makes it so special.
Washington is home to about 20 bars that cater to the LGBTQ community. Some bar owners worry that as the celebration approaches their venues will bear the brunt of the influx of visitors. Without federal support, they fear the challenges that come with accommodating such large crowds will only intensify.
The Washington Blade spoke with several gay bar owners following a community meeting that included bar owners, D.C. police, and staff from the mayorās Office of LGBTQ Affairs. The discussion focused on safety concerns for WorldPride and potential solutions to ease the growing burden on these businesses.
āI think a lot of the bar owners just felt like we needed to all coordinate what we’re doing together with the 2 to 3 million people they say are coming to town,ā said Stephen Rutgers, co-owner of Crush, an LGBTQ dance bar on 14th Street. (Rutgers also serves as the Blade’s sales and marketing director.) āThere are 16-ish, maybe a little more, LGBTQ bars in the city, which maybe hold 3,500-plus people total. We’re sort of the backbone of the community, and so we’re going to be inundated no matter what. It is great for business, but it also brings a lot of concerns for a lot of the business owners.ā
Originally not intended to focus on security, the mid-February meeting quickly shifted to safety concerns, according to Ed Bailey, co-owner of Trade and Number 9. Japer Bowles, director of the Mayorās Office of LGBTQ Affairs, attended, taking notes as bar owners voiced their fears.
āAs Japer started the conversation, there was a little bit of a general āWorldPride is coming. These are the dates. Here are a few marquee events that are scheduled.ā We went through the basics ā when the parade is, when the main downtown festival is, the other music festival, and some other things. And then within 10 minutes of the meeting starting like that, the question of security and safety was brought up. I don’t even remember how, and I don’t think it was the topic at hand. It just became part of the topic, and then it became the only thing that was discussed for the rest of the meeting.ā
The discussion centered on how to financially support bar owners in securing the additional staffing needed to handle the influx of millions of LGBTQ tourists. Many attendees emphasized the governmentās responsibility to ensure safety for these visitors, especially considering that WorldPride 2019 drew 5 million people to Manhattan.
āWorldPride is going to be the largest event that has ever happened in Washington, D.C., ever, of any kind,ā Bailey said. āMore people will be here for WorldPride than have been here for any other thing in history. The city has a complete, 100% obligation to manage this, make it safe, be as welcoming as possible, and ensure everything is in its best form.ā
This becomes more complicated given that the District’s resources are ultimately controlled by the Republican-led federal government.
āIs Washington up to that task as a city government? I don’t think it’s ever been tested like this,ā Bailey added. āIt is unprecedented for Washington ā a city essentially controlled by the federal government ā to try to maintain, manage, and operate an event of this magnitude without federal assistance. It just puts a stranglehold on the D.C. government.ā
David Perruzza, owner of Pitchers, a queer sports bar, and A League of Her Own, a lesbian bar in Adams Morgan, said he sees potential security issues arising not at official WorldPride events but closer to home.
āSo now itās WorldPride, and there will be other events. And God forbid Trump does another counter-event. What are we going to do if we have an issue?ā Perruzza said. āOur main concern is security for these establishments, not so much the events. The events have tons of cops for them and everything, but we just want to make sure that weāre going to be taken care of.ā
Rutgers echoed Perruzzaās concerns about the possibility of interference from the president and other Republicans in power.
āI do think people have a lot of questions about whether the bigger stuff is going to be able to happen. It does raise those concerns for us. We’re on private property, so we’re safe, but if things start to get canceled, there will be fewer and fewer spaces for people to go, which then, I think, overwhelms us even more,ā Rutgers said. āThere are only so many bars. There are only so many larger venues that can hold big private parties that the administration can’t touch. And if they somehow take over city permitting and cancel the street festival, where are those couple hundred thousand people going to go?ā
The possibility of increased police presence in LGBTQ spaces was also discussed. Initially seen as a potential solution to growing concerns, it now appears less viable as the full scale and demands of WorldPride on city resources become clearer.
āThey used to have a program where bars and restaurants could hire off-duty MPD officers,ā Rutgers explained. āThe city would cover a portion of the cost of overtime, and the bar would cover the rest. One issue is that it wasnāt funded in the budget this year, so thereās no money for it. And, two, when MPD is fully activated, there are no off-duty officers available. MPD is already short-staffed. I think there are just flaws in the program ā itās great, we would want to hire people, but we canāt.ā
āAll of the bar owners were concerned. They feel like they are easier targets, and while there will likely be significant security and police presence at the festival and large events, there probably wonāt be much visible police coverage in the areas where the bars are,ā Bailey added. āEvery single officer employed by the Metropolitan Police Department will be working that weekend. No one will have time off. There will be no extra officers in the nightclub and bar world.ā
Beyond the lack of officers and funding, a police presence doesnāt always guarantee a safer space, especially considering that the first Pride was a rebellion against police.
āI also am astutely aware that having police at your establishments is not something that is welcome or comfortable for a very large portion of our community, so that becomes tricky,ā Bailey said. āBut I believe that given the scenario and the situation, if there were a way to create a system where neighborhoods could collectively pay a fee to have an officer in a patrol car on the block ā so businesses could access that officer when significant issues arise ā that might bring some comfort. Removing that officer from directly standing at the bar would lessen the impact on customers who may not feel comfortable with a police presence.ā
Bowles from the mayorās office issued a statement to the Blade responding to the bar ownersā concerns.
āWe are proud to welcome more than 3 million visitors to Washington, D.C. for WorldPride 2025,ā the statement reads. āWashington, D.C. has extensive experience providing world-class security and hospitality for large-scale public events, and this will be no exception. The District continues to work diligently with community organizers and partners to ensure that WorldPride is a safe, accessible, and bold celebration of our community.ā
Capital Pride issued a statement to the Blade in response to the concerns: āThe Capital Pride Alliance (CPA) continues to navigate the evolving political circumstances impacting WorldPride and our local community, which is preparing to host visitors and events around the city. We understand the urgent need for confidence in this historic undertaking and we are working with the Mayor’s Office of LGBTQ Affairs, as it is the lead agency charged with supporting our local LGBTQ community. Programmatic support includes ongoing workshops and trainings, in partnership with the Equality Chamber of Commerce DC (ECCDC) and other DC government agencies. CPA is also working directly with the Mayor’s Special Event Group and an interagency Health and Safety Committee, to ensure the proper agencies responsible for public safety have a complete picture of all the events taking place.”
Regardless of how itās achieved, safety remains the top priority for LGBTQ bar owners, even if it means sacrificing profits or taking on additional responsibilities, the owners said.
āEverybody’s got to step up,ā Bailey concluded. āItās a long, difficult, hard weekend from a working standpoint, but hopefully, a joyous and remarkable experience.ā
The MPD released a statement to the Blade addressing the bar ownersā safety concerns: āThe Metropolitan Police Department (MPD) is working closely with our local, state, and federal partners as we prepare for World Pride 2025. As with any other events in the District, it is our priority to ensure the safety and security of District residents and visitors.
āFurther details about securing these events, road closures, and additional impacts will be released as we get closer to these events.
āWhile there are no known threats to World Pride 2025, we always encourage the public to remain vigilant. If you see something, say something. Please report threats and emergencies to 911. Keep your community safe by reporting suspicious activity by calling 202-727-9099, texting 50411, or visiting iwatchdc.org.ā