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Queery: Jeff Prior
The CTRL DJ answers 20 questions

Jeff Prior (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
CTRL, pronounced “control,” was born out of a St. Patrick’s Day party held last year.
Jeff Prior and Adam Koussari-Amin started it, eventually teamed up with Pocket Gays’ Devon Trotter and Brett Andriesen and soon found they’d outgrown their spot at Dahlak at 18th and U where they’ve been the last nine months.
“It was just kind of an idea between three or four drunken friends at a bar,” Prior says. “We had so much fun doing it, we said we should do this regularly and took that inspiration and made it into something we could brand a little more and identify it as something different than just the regular Saturday night thing at Town or Cobalt.”
CTRL will launch at its new home Saturday night at Cobalt where the four DJs will take over both floors in rotating sets. It’s set to rotate with Rumba, Just Circuit and Bare and will be the last Saturday of the month. Its organizers say to expect “surprises, photo booths, big live performances and … the best in new indie dance, electropop and mash-ups.”
It runs from 10 p.m. to 3 a.m. at Cobalt (17th and R, N.W.). Cover is $5. Look for the group on Facebook under “CTRLDC.”
Prior, a 31-year-old Jupiter, Fla., native, came to Washington in 2005 to finish an undergraduate degree at George Washington University following a few years working as a paramedic in Florida. By day, he works in human resources at the AFL-CIO and while he enjoys the stability of his day job, he says DJing gives him an outlet for music.
“I like what I do and feel lucky I work for an organization I can believe in and do work that actually makes me feel good, but it’s a totally stark night-and-day difference from what I do when I’m DJing,” he says. “You really can’t compare the feeling of seeing a hundred people dancing in front of you to the music you’re playing to sitting at a desk from 9 to 5.”
Prior spins on average two weekends per month. He’s single, lives in Adams Morgan and enjoys music, concerts, traveling and planning parties in his free time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I’ve been out since I was 18 — not long after high school. The hardest person to tell was definitely the first person I told, who was a longtime friend of mine. I was secretly seeing someone we went to high school with and he ended up telling her about it shortly after, so she confronted me. I knew I couldn’t really lie about it anymore, so it was that moment when you take the plunge and realize everything you know might change. After that it became less difficult to talk about.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
That’s a tough one. I’d have to say at the end of the day in terms of LGBT people doing heroic work, it’s the folks who volunteer to knock on doors and have one-on-one conversations with people and families about equal rights.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
9:30 club. So many great shows and memories.
Describe your dream wedding.
Something low key with a great soundtrack.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
By day I work for a group affiliated with the labor movement, so workers’ rights, health care and making sure we have a strong middle class are important issues for me.
What historical outcome would you change?
I’d like to go back in time Terminator-style to take out whomever decided to green light that Mariah Carey movie.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Seeing Radiohead up close in concert in the pouring rain. It was magical.
On what do you insist?
I insist that the next president be sworn in on Beyoncé’s Bible. Just sayin’. It makes sense.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
Something about cats. That tells you pretty much all you need to know about me.
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
I’ve joked with some friends that we should write a book and just call it “50 Shades.” That sounds about right.
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Who wants to come out of the closet twice? Ain’t nobody got time for that.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
Not a whole lot. Figuring out the physical world is stressful enough for me.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
To the elected leaders, please stay out of trouble.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
It depends on the moment. Sometimes after a night out it seems like I would walk across hot coals for a cheese steak. I’ve probably done a lot worse for a lot less.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
These days some of the worst stereotypes are the ones used within the gay community. We’re all guilty of it at times.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
“Paris Is Burning.” OPULENCE.
What’s the most overrated social custom?
A holiday weekend in Rehoboth Beach. Overrated, overpriced, over it.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
I don’t really have any special talents that one might win a prize for, so I’m just gonna keep it real and say Powerball.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
A faster way to get out of Florida!
Why Washington?
I originally came to D.C. for school. I really fell in love with the city not long after moving here and even though I like to travel and visit new places, I can’t imagine living anywhere else right now.
Real Estate
With gas prices soaring again, a staycation is a good plan
Home can be your personal retreat and your own private resort
When airfare costs more than your monthly utility bill and a weekend road trip requires a second mortgage just to fill the gas tank, many homeowners are discovering an unexpected luxury: the staycation.
A staycation isn’t settling for less—it’s reaping the benefits of one of the biggest investments you can make: your home. Much more than a place to sleep, it’s your personal retreat, your gathering place and, with a little preparation, your very own private resort.
Whether you own a single-family home, a townhouse, or a condo, creating a memorable staycation starts with appreciating what made you fall in love with your property in the first place.
Start with a home refresh. Think about checking into a beautiful vacation rental. It’s spotless, organized, and inviting. You can recreate that same feeling by spending a day preparing your home before your staycation officially begins.
Clear away clutter, deep clean the bathrooms and kitchen, wash the windows, and put fresh linens on every bed – even if you’re not expecting guests. Fluff the pillows, light a favorite candle, and place fresh flowers on the table. These small touches instantly make your home feel more luxurious.
If your budget allows, hiring a professional cleaning service can be one of the best staycation perquisites you make. After all, vacation should begin the moment you wake up and not after you’ve spent the day scrubbing floors.
Treat your staycation like a real trip. Set away messages on your phone and out of office notices on your email. Skip unnecessary chores for a few days. Giving yourself permission to relax may be the most valuable part of the entire experience.
One of the greatest advantages homeowners have over travelers is private outdoor living space. Whether it’s a spacious backyard, a screened porch, a rooftop terrace, or a cozy condo balcony, these areas can become the centerpiece of your staycation.
Stringing lights and adding comfortable seating, colorful planters, and outdoor rugs can completely transform the atmosphere without spending thousands of dollars. Add a portable fire pit, a tabletop fountain, or a hammock, and suddenly your backyard starts competing with many resorts.
Host an evening cookout, organize a game night, invite neighbors over for dessert, or gather around the fire pit for conversation after sunset. These simple moments often become the memories we treasure most.
Inside, transform your family room into a home theater complete with popcorn and comfortable blankets. Turn your breakfast room into a morning coffee café. Designate a quiet reading corner where phones are prohibited. Create a spa-like bathroom with plush towels, candles, bath salts, and relaxing music.
One of the highlights of traveling is experiencing new food. Instead of dining out every night, create themed dinners inspired by your favorite destinations. Prepare homemade Italian pasta one evening, Caribbean grilled seafood another, or a backyard Texas barbecue over the weekend. For a touch of whimsy, dress the part.
Pair each meal with music and libations from the region and enjoy dinner outdoors whenever possible. Suddenly, your dining room becomes part of the vacation experience instead of just another place to eat.
Families with children can turn a staycation into an adventure by seeing their home through a child’s eyes. Set up a backyard camping experience with a tent, flashlights, and s’mores around the fire pit. Transform the living room into an indoor campground complete with sleeping bags and a movie under a blanket “fort.” Organize a backyard Olympics with relay races, water balloon tosses, scavenger hunts, or miniature golf using household items.
Encourage children to plan a family picnic in the backyard or on the patio, choose a theme for a movie marathon, or help prepare meals inspired by countries they’d like to visit someday. The goal is to create experiences your children will remember long after summer is over.
Enjoy the amenities you already pay for. Condominium communities and many planned neighborhoods offer amenities that residents often overlook.
Swimming pools, fitness centers, tennis and pickleball courts, walking trails, clubhouses, grilling stations, and community gardens are designed to enhance your lifestyle. During your staycation, make a point of exploring everything your community offers. You may discover you’ve been living beside your own private resort all along.
Real estate professionals often talk about resale value, appreciation, and return on investment. While those things certainly matter, there’s another return that’s harder to measure: the enjoyment you get from living in your home every day.
You don’t need a boarding pass to recharge. You don’t need a hotel reservation to make memories. Sometimes the perfect getaway is the one you already own.
Valerie M. Blake is a licensed Associate Broker in D.C., Maryland, and Virginia with RLAH @properties. Call or text her at 202-246-8602, email her at [email protected] or follow her on Facebook at TheRealst8ofAffairs.
The latest Honda Civic hatchback and Subaru Impreza are two of the segment’s stars. Both offer sensible pricing, excellent utility and enough personality to avoid feeling like appliances.
The Civic is more polished. The Impreza, more rugged. Luckily, neither is trying to be obnoxiously flashy.
HONDA CIVIC
$28,000
MPG: 30 city/38 highway
0 to 60 mph: 8.9 seconds
Cargo space: 24.5 cu. ft.
PROS: Fuel efficient. Spacious cargo area. Good resale value.
CONS: No all-wheel drive. Fussy infotainment. Low rear headroom.
WHAT’S NEW: Only minor updates for 2026. The biggest change carries over from last year’s refresh: the addition of the hybrid, which has become a star performer.
The Honda Civic hatchback won’t scream for attention. It won’t arrive wearing sequins and carrying a smoke machine. It’s more like Nomi Marks from “Sense8”: intelligent, sophisticated and impressively capable.
The styling remains handsome and clean. Long hood. Low roofline. Crisp lines everywhere.Honda resisted the urge to make this vehicle look like a spaceship or an angry robot. That’s refreshing.
Inside, the dashboard is simple and elegant. The honeycomb air-vent treatment remains one of the coolest interior details in the segment. Materials feel expensive. Controls are easy to understand. And visibility is excellent.
I love how the cargo space is generous, with rear seats that fold flat. A bicycle, several suitcases or enough supplies for an ambitious weekend road trip fit without much hassle.
Then there’s the hybrid. The system produces a healthy amount of power while delivering fuel economy that borders on the absurd. Around town, handling feels smooth, quiet and surprisingly quick. You almost glide through traffic. The standard gasoline engine isn’t bad, but the hybrid is stellar.
The Civic also shines on twisty roads. Steering is precise. Body motions stay controlled. The suspension strikes a sweet balance between comfort and sportiness.
Biggest weakness? No all-wheel drive. For drivers in snowy climates, that’s not so good.
Still, the Civic’s stellar combination of efficiency, quality, and driving enjoyment remains incredibly hard to beat.
SUBARU IMPREZA

$27,000
MPG: 27 city/33 highway
0 to 60 mph: 8.5 seconds
Cargo space: 20.4 cubic feet
PROS: All-wheel drive. User-friendly tech. Safety cred.
CONS: No hybrid version. Some road noise. Modest cargo room.
WHAT’S NEW: The Impreza receives relatively minor updates for 2026. Subaru continues refining this hatchback rather than reinventing it.
If the Honda Civic is urbane, the Subaru Impreza is unfussy. There’s a kind of Kristen Stewart energy here. Cool without trying too hard.
The styling isn’t dramatic, but it works. This hauler appears ready to tackle rain, snow, dirt roads or an impromptu weekend escape.
And all-wheel drive comes standard on every Impreza. (Most competitors only offer front-wheel drive or include all-wheel drive as a pricey option.)
The result: Slippery roads simply don’t create much anxiety. The suspension absorbs bumps nicely. Long trips are comfortable. Visibility is great, thanks to relatively thin roof pillars and large windows.
I like how the cabin is functional rather than fancy. Materials don’t quite match the Civic’s upscale vibe, but everything feels sturdy. A large infotainment screen dominates the dashboard and generally works well, though some drivers may prefer more physical buttons.
Cargo space is respectable, and the design makes loading bulky items easy.
Performance depends heavily on trim. The base engine gets the job done, but nobody will confuse it for a sports car. The RS trim’s larger engine provides more power and makes the ride livelier. But even then, acceleration remains merely adequate.
The Impreza’s real appeal lies elsewhere, with a mix that few rivals can match: hatchback practicality, standard all-wheel drive, strong safety scores and reasonable pricing.
Perhaps that’s the key difference between these two hatchbacks. The Honda Civic impresses immediately. The Subaru Impreza grows on you.
Fortunately, choosing between them is less stressful than deciding who gets the last mimosa at brunch.
Real Estate
When buying a home, it’s decisions, decisions, decisions
Keeping notes on the process makes for an informed purchase
When looking to buy a home, there are lots of details to consider. Many of my clients would come to me and say, “Joe I want to buy a place, but I haven’t decided which neighborhood to buy in.” And the struggle was real. A few clients had everything decided from the color of the hallway walls to the cabinet handles and sometimes which three square blocks they wanted to look at.
But other clients were occasionally looking at properties in areas as distinct as Union Market/NOMA, Brookland, Logan Circle, and then we would even go across the river to look at a property in Shirlington or the Van Dorn areas of Virginia, which all have their own unique flavor and characteristics.
Sometimes clients would tell me, “I only want to look in Mount Pleasant or Adams Morgan.” Or, “don’t even show me any properties west of this street or south of that street.” My job wasn’t to convince people where to live. It was to just take the parameters they set for me and find as good of a property in that zone as I could, coordinate the showings and, if necessary, offer the strategy.
One can see that buyers often had more decisions to make than a seller. From a seller’s perspective, the house was where it was, and we just had to make the best of it. But working with a buyer could mean looking at five different neighborhoods, and then being a “thought partner” to help them figure out which were the top two or three areas they had seen, and then further distilling those down into what was available and weighing those options against each other.
One house could have the dream bathroom but also be located six blocks further from a Metro stop, walkable shopping and dining, and “just too far away from my friends.” Another house could have all the neighborhood options a client was looking for, but was just not in turnkey condition, and would require an additional $30,000 of upgrades once purchased to make it into the dream home they envisioned.
One activity I often asked buyers to do was to keep an active list in their heads of the properties they liked, and to keep a running rank of the top three. I often encouraged them to bring a notebook along on the journey where they could take notes and write down questions they thought of as they looked. It was an important decision, and sometimes the largest purchase of their lives. Why not take it a little seriously, and take notes? This could often help the buyer later when they felt it was time to decide.
The point here is, keeping a notebook handy can sometimes help a person with what feels like an overwhelming process. It provides a space to explore how one feels, jot down important details to remember, and then use that to make an informed decision.
Joseph Hudson is a referral agent with RLAH. Reach him at 703-587-0597 or [email protected].
