In what may be just the second case of its kind in the District, a gay man has filed a petition in D.C. Superior Court seeking a declaration affirming the existence of a common law marriage between him and the man he considered to be his spouse, who died one year ago.
An attorney representing D.C. resident Enrique Mendez filed the petition last December with the court’s Domestic Relations Branch as part of an estate dispute with the niece of his late partner, Miles Eric Lease.
The niece, Virginia resident Jennifer Lynn McKelvey, contends in court filings that Mendez isn’t entitled to any of Lease’s assets, including the house that the couple shared for four years. Documents filed with the Superior Court’s Probate Division show that the house at 4820 Iowa Ave., N.W., has an estimated value of $525,000.
The documents show that other property owned by Lease, including vehicles, household furnishings and personal effects bring the total value of his estate to $545,000.
A 13-page memorandum in support of a motion by McKelvey’s attorney asking the court to deny Mendez’s petition for common law marriage argues that Mendez fails to provide sufficient evidence that he and Lease were in a relationship equivalent to marriage under D.C. law.
Among other things, the memorandum says virtually all of the property the two allegedly shared was owned and listed under Lease’s name, including the house, a car and a truck that the two used together, and the auto insurance policy for the two vehicles.
The memo also points out that Lease and Mendez filed separate tax returns during the years Mendez claims the two were a couple and each listed on his return that he was “single” rather than married.
Noting that same-sex marriage became legal in D.C. in 2010, the memo states, “As ceremonial marriage was readily available to Lease and Mendez, Mendez’s claim must be closely scrutinized. Mendez’s claim lacks merit.”
It concludes, “While Mendez and Lease may have intended to become married in the future, there is legally insufficient evidence to establish that a [common law] marriage had actually occurred.”
Mendez and friends of the couple take strong exception to those arguments. Several of the couple’s friends who regularly hang out at the Fireplace, a Dupont Circle gay bar, told the Washington Blade that “everyone” who knew the two men considered them to be in a committed relationship that could be viewed as equal to a marriage.
“The word they used was ‘partners,’” said gay Episcopalian activist Charles Briody, who said he was a longtime friend of Lease’s. “But you knew the nature of their relationship was one that could be viewed like a marriage.”
The petition filed in court by Mendez’s attorney seeking a declaration of common law marriage appears to express those sentiments in legal terms.
“Mr. Mendez and Mr. Lease began their romantic relationship shortly after meeting on Feb. 13, 2010, with Mr. Mendez visiting Mr. Lease in Washington, D.C. and Mr. Lease visiting Mr. Mendez at his home in New York City,” the petition says.
“The couple took the next step in their romantic relationship in July 2010 when Mr. Mendez, at the request of Mr. Lease, moved from New York City to Washington, D.C.,” the petition says. “The couple immediately began residing together at 4820 Iowa Ave., N.W., sharing living expenses and jointly contributing to the household.”
The petition says the couple fulfilled the legal requirements of common law marriage in D.C. when they exchanged vows to one another in January 2013.
“In the early morning hours of Jan. 1, 2013 while the couple was on vacation in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, Mr. Lease asked Mr. Mendez to be his spouse from that moment forward,” the petition says. “Mr. Mendez replied in the affirmative, verbalizing his acceptance and intent to be Mr. Lease’s spouse from that moment forward,” it says.
“Mr. Mendez then asked Mr. Lease to be his spouse from that moment forward. Mr. Lease replied in the affirmative, verbalizing his acceptance and intent to be Mr. Mendez’s spouse from that moment forward,” the petition says.
The petition adds that Mendez and Lease “presented themselves as spouses or ‘partners’ to friends, family and neighbors throughout the duration of their marriage.”
Lease died unexpectedly of a heart-related ailment on June 27, 2014 at the age of 66, according to information released by his longtime friend Stephen Crowley.
Court records show that he did not leave a will and that the court approved McKelvey, the niece, as the personal representative of the estate after Lease’s mother and sister – who are the next of kin – submitted affidavits waiving their right to be named personal representative. Under D.C. probate law, the personal representative plays a role similar to an executor of an estate.
Mendez’s petition for a common law marriage declaration, which was filed by attorney Meaghan Hearn of the local law firm Ackerman Brown, says there is a dispute between Mendez and the Lease family over whether a marital relationship exists and whether Mendez is “entitled to property from Mr. Lease’s estate as his surviving spouse.”
“Mr. Mendez is in need of a declaration from this Court so that he may intervene in the Probate proceeding to, among other things, challenge the appointment of the Personal Representative,” the petition states.
In the memorandum opposing the petition, attorney Christopher Glaser of the law firm Jackson & Campbell, says the firm obtained credit card records for Mendez that show he had been making purchases in Raleigh, N.C., at the time Mendez claims in his petition that he and Lease exchanged marital vows in Rehoboth Beach.
“[I]t is apparent that Mendez was not in Rehoboth Beach when he claims,” Glaser states in his memo in support of the motion seeking denial of the petition for common law marriage. “Mendez told no one prior to the purported Jan. 1, 2013 exchange of vows that he and Lease were discussing marriage.”
Hearn, Mendez’s attorney, declined to comment on any aspect of the case when contacted by the Blade. She said in an email to the Blade that she would be filing Mendez’s response and rebuttal to Glaser’s motion for summary judgment calling for denial of the common law marriage petition within a week and in time to meet a court deadline of June 29.
Meanwhile a court status hearing on the case is scheduled for June 30.
An earlier document filed in court by Hearn responding to written questions raised by Glaser points to Mendez as saying he could not remember the exact dates on which he and Lease discussed their marital commitments, suggesting that an incorrect date did not negate the marriage-like commitment the two men had for each other.
In the petition seeking the common law marriage declaration Hearn also points out that Lease’s mother was not accepting of Lease as a gay son.
“Upon information and belief, Mr. Lease kept his family at arms’ length due in part to his mother’s disapproval of his sexual orientation,” the petition says.
“Although Mr. Lease’s family was aware that Mr. Mendez and Mr. Lease were at the very least in a romantic relationship and that the couple resided together, Mr. Lease’s family purposefully excluded Mr. Mendez from participation in planning his husband’s funeral and burial arrangements,” the petition says.
It could not immediately be determined when Superior Court Judge Kimberley Knowles, who is presiding over the case, was expected to issue a ruling on the petition for a common law marriage declaration.
Michelle Zavos, an attorney who practices family law pertaining to the D.C.-area LGBT community, said she knows of at least one other case in which a D.C. Superior Court judge issued a common law marriage declaration for a same-sex couple since the time same-sex marriage became legal in D.C. in 2010.
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#10: Mark Glaze, gun reform advocate, dies at 51
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#8: Thank you, Kordell Stewart, for thoughtful response to ‘the rumor’
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#6: Romney declares opposition to LGBTQ Equality Act
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#5: White House warns state legislatures that passing anti-trans bills is illegal
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#4: Lincoln Project’s avowed ignorance of Weaver texts undercut by leaked communications
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#3: FOX 5’s McCoy suspended over offensive Tweet
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#1: Amid coup chaos, Trump quietly erases LGBTQ protections in adoption, health services
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CDC still falling short on LGBTQ data collection for COVID patients: expert
Despite requests since the start of the COVID pandemic for the U.S. government to enhance data collection for patients who are LGBTQ, the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention is still falling short on issuing nationwide guidance to states on the issue, a leading expert health on the issue told the Blade.
With a renewed focus on COVID infections reaching new heights just before the start of the holidays amid the emergence of Omicron, the absence of any LGBTQ data collection — now across both the Trump and Biden administrations — remains a sore point for health experts who say that information could be used for public outreach.
Sean Cahill, director of Health Policy Research at the Boston-based Fenway Institute, said Wednesday major federal entities and hospitals have been collecting data on whether patients identify as LGBTQ for years — such as the National Health & Nutrition Examination Survey, which has been collecting sexual orientation data since the 1990s — but the CDC hasn’t duplicated that effort for COVID even though the pandemic has been underway for two years.
“It’s not like this is a new idea,” Cahill said. “But for some reason, the pandemic hit, and all of a sudden, we realize how little systematic data we were collecting in our health system. And it’s a real problem because we’re two years into the pandemic almost, and we still don’t know how it’s affecting this vulnerable population that experiences health disparities in other areas.”
The Blade was among the first outlets to report on the lack of efforts by the states to collect data on whether a COVID patient identifies as LGBTQ, reporting in April 2020 on the absence of data even in places with influential LGBTQ communities. The CDC hasn’t responded to the Blade’s requests for nearly two years on why it doesn’t instruct states to collect this data, nor did it respond this week to a request for comment on this article.
Cahill, who has published articles in the American Journal of Public Health on the importance of LGBTQ data collection and reporting in COVID-19 testing, care, and vaccination — said he’s been making the case to the CDC to issue guidance to states on whether COVID patients identify as LGBTQ since June 2020.
Among those efforts, he said, were to include two comments he delivered to the Biden COVID-19 Health Equity Task Force in spring 2021, a letter a coalition of groups sent to the Association of State & Territorial Health Officers asking for states to collect and report SOGI in COVID in December 2020 as well as letters to HHS leadership and congressional leadership in spring and summer 2020 asking for them to take steps to encourage or require SOGI data collection in COVID.
Asked what CDC officials had to say in response when he brought this issue to their attention, Cahill said, “They listen, but they don’t really tell me anything.”
“We’ve been making that case, and to date, as of December 22, 2021, they have not issued guidance, they have not changed the case report form. I hope that they’re in the process of doing that, and maybe we’ll be pleasantly surprised in January, and they’ll come up with something…I really hope that’s true, but right now they’re not doing anything to promote SOGI data collection and reporting in surveillance data.”
Cahill, in an email to the Blade after the initial publication of this article, clarified CDC has indicated guidance on LGBTQ data collection for COVID patients may come in the near future.
“HHS leaders told us this fall that CDC is working on an initiative to expand SOGI data collection,” Cahill said. “We are hopeful that we will see guidance early in 2022. Key people at CDC, including Director Walensky, understand the importance of SOGI data collection given their long history of working on HIV prevention.”
In other issues related to LGBTQ data collection, there has been a history of states resisting federal mandates. The Trump administration, for example, rescinded guidance calling on states to collect information on whether foster youth identified as LGBTQ after complaints from states on the Obama-era process, much to the consternation of LGBTQ advocates who said the data was helpful.
The White House COVID-19 Health Equity Task Force has at least recognized the potential for enhancing LGBTQ data collection efforts. Last month, it published an implementation plan, calling for “an equity-centered approach to data collection, including sufficient funding to collect data for groups that are often left out of data collection (e.g….LGBTQIA+ people).”
The plan also calls for “fund[ing] activities to improve data collection…including tracking COVID-19 related outcomes for people of color and other underserved populations,” and specifically calls for the collection of LGBTQ data.
The importance of collecting LGBTQ data, Cahill said, is based on its potential use in public outreach, including efforts to recognize disparities in health population and to create messaging for outreach, including for populations that may be reluctant to take the vaccine.
“If we see a disparity, we can say: Why is that?” Cahill said. “We could do focus groups of the population — try to understand and then what kind of messages would reassure you and make you feel comfortable getting a vaccine, and we could push those messages out through public education campaigns led by state local health departments led by the federal government.”
The LGBTQ data, Cahill said, could be broken down further to determine if racial and ethnic disparities exist within the LGBTQ population, or whether LGBTQ people are likely to suffer from the disease in certain regions, such as the South.
“We have data showing that lesbian or bisexual women, and transgender people are less likely to be in preventive regular routine care for their health,” Cahill said. “And so if that’s true, there’s a good chance that they’re less likely to know where to get a vaccine, to have a medical professional they trust to talk to about it today.”
Among the leaders who are supportive, Cahill said, is Rachel Levine, assistant secretary for health and the first openly transgender person confirmed by the U.S. Senate for a presidential appointment. Cahill said he raised the issue with her along with other officials at the Department of Health & Human Services three times in the last year.
In her previous role as Pennsylvania secretary of health, Levine led the way and made her state the first in the nation to set up an LGBTQ data collection system for COVID patients.
“So she definitely gets it, and I know she’s supportive of it, but we really need the CDC to act,” Cahill said.
Although the federal government has remained intransigent in taking action, Cahill said the situation has improved among states and counted five states — California, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island, Nevada and Oregon — in addition to D.C. as among those that have elected to collect data on sexual orientation and gender identity of COVID patients.
However, Cahill said even those data collection efforts are falling short because those jurisdictions have merely been public about collecting the data, but haven’t reported back anything yet.
“Only California has reported data publicly, and the data that they’re reporting is really just the completeness of the data,” Cahill said. “They’re not reporting the data itself…And they’re also just asking people who tests positive. So, if somebody says positive COVID in California, a contact tracer follows up with that individual and asks them a battery of questions, and among the questions that are asked are SOGI questions.”
As a result of these efforts, Cahill said, California has data on the LGBTQ status of COVID patients, but the data is overwhelmingly more complete for the gender identity of these patients rather than their sexual orientation. As of May 2021, California reported that they had sexual orientation data for 9.5 percent of individuals who had died from COVID and 16 percent of people who tested positive, but for gender identity, the data were 99.5 percent.
Equality Act, contorted as a danger by anti-LGBTQ forces, is all but dead
No political willpower to force vote or reach a compromise
Despite having President Biden in the White House and Democratic majorities in both chambers of Congress, efforts to update federal civil rights laws to strengthen the prohibition on discrimination against LGBTQ people by passing the Equality Act are all but dead as opponents of the measure have contorted it beyond recognition.
Political willpower is lacking to find a compromise that would be acceptable to enough Republican senators to end a filibuster on the bill — a tall order in any event — nor is there the willpower to force a vote on the Equality Act as opponents stoke fears about transgender kids in sports and not even unanimity in the Democratic caucus in favor of the bill is present, stakeholders who spoke to the Blade on condition of anonymity said.
In fact, there are no imminent plans to hold a vote on the legislation even though Pride month is days away, which would be an opportune time for Congress to demonstrate solidarity with the LGBTQ community by holding a vote on the legislation.
If the Equality Act were to come up for a Senate vote in the next month, it would not have the support to pass. Continued assurances that bipartisan talks are continuing on the legislation have yielded no evidence of additional support, let alone the 10 Republicans needed to end a filibuster.
“I haven’t really heard an update either way, which is usually not good,” one Democratic insider said. “My understanding is that our side was entrenched in a no-compromise mindset and with [Sen. Joe] Manchin saying he didn’t like the bill, it doomed it this Congress. And the bullying of hundreds of trans athletes derailed our message and our arguments of why it was broadly needed.”
The only thing keeping the final nail from being hammered into the Equality Act’s coffin is the unwillingness of its supporters to admit defeat. Other stakeholders who spoke to the Blade continued to assert bipartisan talks are ongoing, strongly pushing back on any conclusion the legislation is dead.
Alphonso David, president of the Human Rights Campaign, said the Equality Act is “alive and well,” citing widespread public support he said includes “the majority of Democrats, Republicans and independents and a growing number of communities across the country engaging and mobilizing every day in support of the legislation.”
“They understand the urgent need to pass this bill and stand up for LGBTQ people across our country,” David added. “As we engage with elected officials, we have confidence that Congress will listen to the voices of their constituents and continue fighting for the Equality Act through the lengthy legislative process. We will also continue our unprecedented campaign to grow the already-high public support for a popular bill that will save lives and make our country fairer and more equal for all. We will not stop until the Equality Act is passed.”
Sen. Jeff Merkley (D-Ore.), chief sponsor of the Equality Act in the Senate, also signaled through a spokesperson work continues on the legislation, refusing to give up on expectations the legislation would soon become law.
“Sen. Merkley and his staff are in active discussions with colleagues on both sides of the aisle to try to get this done,” McLennan said. “We definitely see it as a key priority that we expect to become law.”
A spokesperson Senate Majority Leader Charles Schumer (D-N.Y.), who had promised to force a vote on the Equality Act in the Senate on the day the U.S. House approved it earlier this year, pointed to a March 25 “Dear Colleague” letter in which he identified the Equality Act as one of several bills he’d bring up for a vote.
Despite any assurances, the hold up on the bill is apparent. Although the U.S. House approved the legislation earlier this year, the Senate Judiciary Committee hasn’t even reported out the bill yet to the floor in the aftermath of the first-ever Senate hearing on the bill in March. A Senate Judiciary Committee Democratic aide, however, disputed that inaction as evidence the Equality Act is dead in its tracks: “Bipartisan efforts on a path forward are ongoing.”
Democrats are quick to blame Republicans for inaction on the Equality Act, but with Manchin withholding his support for the legislation they can’t even count on the entirety of their caucus to vote “yes” if it came to the floor. Progressives continue to advocate an end to the filibuster to advance legislation Biden has promised as part of his agenda, but even if they were to overcome headwinds and dismantle the institution needing 60 votes to advance legislation, the Equality Act would likely not have majority support to win approval in the Senate with a 50-50 party split.
The office of Manchin, who has previously said he couldn’t support the Equality Act over concerns about public schools having to implement the transgender protections applying to sports and bathrooms, hasn’t responded to multiple requests this year from the Blade on the legislation and didn’t respond to a request to comment for this article.
Meanwhile, Sen. Susan Collins (R-Maine), who declined to co-sponsor the Equality Act this year after having signed onto the legislation in the previous Congress, insisted through a spokesperson talks are still happening across the aisle despite the appearances the legislation is dead.
“There continues to be bipartisan support for passing a law that protects the civil rights of Americans, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity,” said Annie Clark, a Collins spokesperson. “The Equality Act was a starting point for negotiations, and in its current form, it cannot pass. That’s why there are ongoing discussions among senators and stakeholders about a path forward.”
Let’s face it: Anti-LGBTQ forces have railroaded the debate by making the Equality Act about an end to women’s sports by allowing transgender athletes and danger to women in sex-segregated places like bathrooms and prisons. That doesn’t even get into resolving the issue on drawing the line between civil rights for LGBTQ people and religious freedom, which continues to be litigated in the courts as the U.S. Supreme Court is expected any day now to issue a ruling in Fulton v. City of Philadelphia to determine if foster care agencies can reject same-sex couples over religious objections.
For transgender Americans, who continue to report discrimination and violence at high rates, the absence of the Equality Act may be most keenly felt.
Mara Keisling, outgoing executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, disputed any notion the Equality Act is dead and insisted the legislation is “very much alive.”
“We remain optimistic despite misinformation from the opposition,” Keisling said. “NCTE and our movement partners are still working fruitfully on the Equality Act with senators. In fact, we are gaining momentum with all the field organizing we’re doing, like phone banking constituents to call their senators. Legislating takes time. Nothing ever gets through Congress quickly. We expect to see a vote during this Congress, and we are hopeful we can win.”
But one Democratic source said calls to members of Congress against the Equality Act, apparently coordinated by groups like the Heritage Foundation, have has outnumbered calls in favor of it by a substantial margin, with a particular emphasis on Manchin.
No stories are present in the media about same-sex couples being kicked out of a restaurant for holding hands or transgender people for using the restroom consistent with their gender identity, which would be perfectly legal in 25 states thanks to the patchwork of civil rights laws throughout the United States and inadequate protections under federal law.
Tyler Deaton, senior adviser for the American Unity Fund, which has bolstered the Republican-led Fairness for All Act as an alternative to the Equality Act, said he continues to believe the votes are present for a compromise form of the bill.
“I know for a fact there is a supermajority level of support in the Senate for a version of the Equality Act that is fully protective of both LGBTQ civil rights and religious freedom,” Deaton said. “There is interest on both sides of the aisle in getting something done this Congress.”
Deaton, however, didn’t respond to a follow-up inquiry on what evidence exists of agreeing on this compromise.
Biden has already missed the goal he campaigned on in the 2020 election to sign the Equality Act into law within his first 100 days in office. Although Biden renewed his call to pass the legislation in his speech to Congress last month, as things stand now that appears to be a goal he won’t realize for the remainder of this Congress.
Nor has the Biden administration made the Equality Act an issue for top officials within the administration as it pushes for an infrastructure package as a top priority. One Democratic insider said Louisa Terrell, legislative affairs director for the White House, delegated work on the Equality Act to a deputy as opposed to handling it herself.
To be sure, Biden has demonstrated support for the LGBTQ community through executive action at an unprecedented rate, signing an executive order on day one ordering federal agencies to implement the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision last year in Bostock v. Clayton County to the fullest extent possible and dismantling former President Trump’s transgender military ban. Biden also made historic LGBTQ appointments with the confirmation of Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg and Rachel Levine as assistant secretary of health.
A White House spokesperson insisted Biden’s team across the board remains committed to the Equality Act, pointing to his remarks to Congress.
“President Biden has urged Congress to get the Equality Act to his desk so he can sign it into law and provide long overdue civil rights protections to LGBTQ+ Americans, and he remains committed to seeing this legislation passed as quickly as possible,” the spokesperson said. “The White House and its entire legislative team remains in ongoing and close coordination with organizations, leaders, members of Congress, including the Equality Caucus, and staff to ensure we are working across the aisle to push the Equality Act forward.”
But at least in the near-term, that progress will fall short of fulfilling the promise of updating federal civil rights law with the Equality Act, which will mean LGBTQ people won’t be able to rely on those protections when faced with discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity.
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