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Staying connected while on vacation
Grim realities intrude while sailing Atlantic with new friends


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When planning my recent vacation, one of the main decisions was whether to disconnect from the Internet or not. My days in Rome and a two-week transatlantic cruise on the Celebrity Silhouette were something I had looked forward to for nearly a year. As a news junkie my decision included whether disconnecting cold turkey would be stressful. It turns out choosing to stay connected was the right thing for me. It also meant that I wouldnāt have to go through 2,000 emails up my arrival home.
It was quickly apparent even had I disconnected plenty of people both in Rome and on-board ship were more than happy to discuss what was going on in the world. MSNBC and FAUX news were available on TV in the room. Neither of which I would watch at home but was drawn to them to find out about the elections in the U.S. and then the horrific ISIS attacks and massacre in Paris. Finding out whether my friends in Paris were OK was paramount. Facebook safe finder is a terrific tool, allowing people who had communicated with friends in Paris to let us all know they were OK.
Whether it was over a meal or at the pool, the world never totally stayed away. Two guys from Houston shared their concerns and disgust over the election results there. My new Australian friends wondered how soon their country would legalize gay marriage. The many foreign members of the crew shared concerns about their families in countries in turmoil and being bombed. My passion for Hillary Clinton was shared by Melinda Bates who lectured a number of times on-board regarding her experiences as head of the White House Visitorās Office during the Clinton presidency. She met Bill at Georgetown, volunteered on his presidential campaign, and ended up spending nearly a decade in the White House. We had lunch and talked about Hillaryās campaign and how she wanted to get involved.
The first seven days of the cruise we stopped at five ports of call. Then there were seven days at sea. While I am great at doing nothing and met the greatest people to do it with, early mornings and late nights, when my friends continued drinking, I could connect, write and share my columns with the Blade and Huffington Post. Then go online to Facebook and see what the world was thinking, share my pictures and make more than a few comments. It was gratifying to see one of my columns tweeted by hundreds and liked by thousands knowing it was written somewhere in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean.
Being one of the oldest in the group of my new on-board friends my recollections on how we communicated before the Internet were sometimes humorous to them. Actually being on-board and meeting face-to-face from morning to night was a reminder of how we used to make friends before apps. There were people on board who take four or five cruises each year. Two new friends from Traverse City, Mich., who I hope to see again have been on 69 cruises and have two booked in 2016 and booked one while we were on-board for January 2017 from Australia to New Zealand. I said I would join them until it hit me that would have me away from D.C. on Jan. 20, 2017, a day on which I hope to be celebrating history with the inauguration of the first woman president of the United States.
I am writing this a day before we dock in Ft. Lauderdale and my flight back to reality. The Paris massacre brought back reality in a major way to all of us and we recognized how fortunate we were to be on this cruise and how our good fortune meant we had to do more for those not so fortunate.
We took group pictures and made commitments to stay in touch with new friends. Had dinner at the Lawn Club, a specialty restaurant on board. We danced to the music at the Martini Bar and strolled the ship in balmy weather. Again, we knew how fortunate we were.
Back in D.C. and readying this column for submission I am listening to President Obama speak from the G-20 meeting and talking about the threats to world peace we all need to deal with. Reality once again takes precedence over vacation.
Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBT rights and Democratic Party activist.
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Jann Wennerās racist, sexist take on musicians isnāt surprising
New book āThe Mastersā excludes Black, women pioneers

I enjoyed sharing my birthday with Bruce Springsteen, until I read the bigoted remarks made by his friend Jann Wenner in a recent New York Times interview.
Then I wasnāt so glad to have the same b-day as Bruce.
Springsteen didnāt make the comments. Iām a fan of his music. But, as I write this, Springsteen, as well as some of Wennerās other friends, hasnāt spoken out against Wennerās hurtful comments.
As the saying goes: Some gifts keep on giving. Wenner, who was removed from the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame Foundation board after making sexist and racist remarks in a Sept. 15 interview with the Times, keeps on giving. But whatās heās giving isnāt a gift. Not to Black people, women, music lovers, or queer folk.
Wennerās one of us. Heās gay.
Iām fine with his sexuality, but youād hope that Wenner, for decades a gatekeeper of music and culture, would be a source of queer pride. But, thatās not the case with Wenner, a co-founder of the Rock the Roll Hall of Fame.
The fallout from Wennerās Times interview is a needed wake-up call for queers.
Too often, we give ourselves a pass. We believe that because we live with homophobia, bi-erasure and transphobia, we know the score. That weāre not sexist, racist, ageist, ableist ā weāre free of prejudice. Paragons of virtue.
Wenner, with his demeaning comments, is, I hope, getting us (especially, we who are Boomers) to look in the mirror. To check ourselves (as we examine our dogs for ticks) for our own prejudices, and for our virtue-signaling.
The controversy around Wenner began when he sat for the interview with David Marchese of the Times on Sept. 15 to promote his new book āThe Masters,ā released by Little Brown and Company on Sept. 26.
āThe Mastersā is a compilation of seven interviews that Wenner conducted with acclaimed musicians who are (or were before their death) his friends: Bob Dylan, John Lennon, Mick Jagger, Pete Townshend, Jerry Garcia, Bono, and Springsteen. All of the interviewees are white, male and Boomers.
āThat there are no women or Black musicians in this collection is obvious,ā Wenner writes, according to Kirkus Reviews, in āThe Masters.ā āThis is reflective of the prejudices and practices of the times.ā
Itās hard to describe how bigoted and absurd this is. As many have noted, rock ānā roll was invented by Black people.
You have to wonder what Wenner was thinking. Had he never heard of Jimi Hendrix or Janis Joplin? Stevie Wonder? Joni Mitchell? Madonna?
Though too much racism and sexism exist today, the culture has gotten somewhat better. Attitudes have evolved. Weāve become more aware of our biases.
Unfortunately, this isnāt so for Wenner. Marchese asked Wenner why every musician he talked with in āThe Mastersā is white and male. āInsofar as the women,ā Wenner responded, ājust none of them were as articulate enough on this intellectual level.ā
When pressed by Marchese, who wondered how he could say Joni Mitchell wasnāt āarticulate enough,ā Wenner said, āJoni was not a philosopher of rock ānā roll.ā
āI mean, they just didnāt articulate at that level,ā Wenner said of Black musicians.
Reading the interview, I wondered if heād read Rolling Stone, the magazine he edited for decades. Had he missed the covers with Melissa Etheridge, Joplin, and Tina Turner (to name a few of the women and Black artists featured on the magazineās cover)?
Sadly, Wennerās condescending, racist and sexist take on Black and women musicians isnāt surprising. Often, people with power (rich white men) believe theyāre smarter, more talented, and more entitled to be cultural gatekeepers than those from marginalized groups. Theyāre convinced theyāre more talented and āarticulateā than those who donāt have power.
Forget āThe Masters.ā Check out Etheridgeās new memoir āTalking to My Angels.ā Thatās a good read.
Kathi Wolfe, a writer and a poet, is a regular contributor to the Blade.
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O’Shae Sibley’s murder is an attack on LGBTQ people and their expression, as both rise
More than 350 anti-LGBTQ attacks reported between June 2022 and July 2023

BY HENRY HICKS IVĀ | What do the banning of a childrenās picture book about two male penguins, white supremacist stand-offs outside of weekend brunches and a killingĀ during impromptu dancing at a gas station have in common? Plenty. Each impinges on the escalating trend of attacks on LGBTQ+ people and their right to free expression.Ā
On the evening of July 29, OāShae Sibley pulled into a Brooklyn gas station parking lot with his friends to fill up their gas tank. As they waited for the tank to fill, the group spilled from the car and used the moment to move joyfully in the hot summer night, cranking the car radioās volume and dancing together. Sibley, a gay man, was also a skilled professional dancer and choreographer. He displayed his talents this night, voguing to the sounds of BeyoncĆ©, an artist that Sibley and his friends were fans of. By coincidence, the artist was performing just a few miles away that night, with professional voguers joining her on stage.
Vogueing, a dance style born out of the traditionally queer ballroom scene, is known for its electrifying dips, drops and duckwalks. The style has been prominently featured in the Golden Globe-winning television showĀ “Pose” ā and, more recently, on stage in BeyoncĆ©ās all-consumingĀ Renaissance World Tour. The energy of the ballroom scene has spirited communities across the country, as BeyoncĆ©ās tour has touched down city-by-city, and Sibley and his friends were not exempt to this reach. He was, in fact, eager to participate in his artistry as someone known for his role as a dancer, choreographer, and active member of New Yorkās ballroom community.Ā
As he and his friends vogued to BeyoncĆ© in the parking lot, moves that Sibley was adept in as an artist himself, they grabbed the attention of hostile onlookers. As captured on surveillance footage, Sibley was first berated with homophobic slurs ā Sibleyās vogue performance seeming to signal his sexuality to his attacker. Shortly following the verbal assault, things turned violent. Sibley was stabbed and murdered in a tragic hate crime, fueled by homophobia and triggered by Sibleyās open expression as a dancer and artist.
In mourning, and in defiant protest in the days following, the New York City queer communityĀ Ā hosted a memorial at the site of his murder where they honored his memory through performance,Ā with a vibrant and resistant ball.Ā
āYou wonāt break my soul. / You wonāt break my soul, no, no. / Iām telling everybody,ā BeyoncĆ© sings defiantly in her single, āBreak My Soul.ā
The murder of OāShae Sibley was devastating ā and a signal of a disturbing trend. Increasing violence toward LGBTQ+ people, and attempts to quash their personal and artistic expression, are on the rise in the United States. Advocacy organizations such as GLAAD and the Anti-Defamation League have reported surges in harassment, vandalism and physical violence against LGBTQ+ people ā with 356 instances being reported between June 2022 and April 2023. Transgender people, as well as drag performers, have been targeted at notably high rates. The Human Rights Campaign reported 34 murders of trans people ā mostly trans women of color ā in 2022 (HRC emphasizes that the actual number is likely higher, as most attacks go unreported, or are reported inaccurately.)
Drag shows across the country have faced threats and intimidation from armed protesters,Ā including the far-right extremist group, the Proud Boys. Gay bars have been targeted by armed assailants, such asĀ the tragic massacre thatoccurredĀ at Club Q in Colorado Springs, Colo., last November. Hospitals providing gender-affirming care to transgender youthĀ have been targeted with bomb threats. On Aug. 18, a California store ownerĀ was shot and killed for displaying a Pride flag. Harassment, threats of violence, and hate crimes against the LGBTQ+ communityĀ have steadily risen in recent years. It is clear that this bigotry has been emboldened and its first goal is to silence the free expression of LGBTQ+ people, through violence if necessary.Ā
The exponential increase in physical violence against LGBTQ+ people over the last few years cannot be divorced from the recent legislative environment that has grown ever-more hostile to LGBTQ+ expression. Bills categorizing drag shows as obscenity, book bans targeting LGBTQ+ authors and stories about queer identities in schools and public libraries, as well as other legislative attacks are part of this trend against the LGBTQ+ community. The attacks, both physical and through laws and bans, risk enabling a culture that normalizes repression of queer voices and increases the risk of violence aimed, in part, at suppressing expression of LGBTQ+ people, even when individuals are simply voguing to BeyoncƩ in public.
Starting in 2021, weāve seen a historic surge in book bans around the country, targeting LGBTQ+ voices and stories at a disproportionately high rate. PEN America has reported that among the top eleven books targeted by bans in the first half of the 2022-2023 school year, four focused on LGBTQ+ narratives. These challenges, paired with the historic number of bills targeting LGBTQ+ people in state legislatures across the United States ā with at least 566 bills ensnaring the broader LGBTQ+ community, according to the Trans Legislation Tracker ā contribute to the normalization of repressing personal and artistic expression of queer people. As these policy attacks continue to advance, violence against the LGBTQ+ community has surged.
And while OāShae Sibleyās murder occurred in New York, a state that has passed no anti-LGBTQ+ bills in the most recent legislative session, his brutal killing shows just how pervasive the impact of anti-LGBTQ+ legislative attacks on free expression in other states are, shaping a culture that spills across borders and impacting LGBTQ+ people throughout the country. Even states perceived to be supportive to the LGBTQ+ community, such as New York, are not immune to the cultural reach of anti-LGBTQ+ repression and intimidation: the home and office of Erik Bottcher, a gay city councilmember in New York City, was vandalized last December after he voiced support for Drag Story Hour, and more recently, a rainbow Pride flag at a Manhattan restaurant was intentionally lit on fire.
Political threats to LGBTQ+ expression, whether it be through restricting and chilling on-stage performance or making it virtually impossible to even acknowledge the existence of LGBTQ+ people in Florida and other statesā schools, have and will continue to put LGBTQ+ people at risk everywhere, chilling their ability to express themselves and potentially even sending them back into the closet, which, at its core, is a form of self-censorship.
A culture of free expression, where people can speak, write ā or dance ā free from fear of violence, is essential to a thriving democracy. LGBTQ+ people deserve to equally enjoy this right ā through creative performance, gender expression, or displays of joy. The ongoing trend of legislative attacks on drag, attempts to label LGBTQ+ stories as “obscene,” and the accompanying trend of violent assaults on LGBTQ+ people are attacks on free expression and must be condemned as such.
Henry Hicks IV is the coordinator for PEN Americaās U.S. Free Expression program. PEN America is committed to defending against attacks on LGBTQ+ free expression.
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Pinto leads Council in working with Bowser to fight crime
We must not coddle young criminals or repeat offenders

The time has come for the D.C. Council to join with Mayor Bowser and pass her crime bill on a permanent basis. Councilmember Brooke Pinto worked to pass part of it in July as emergency legislation. We must accept residents are scared. Some for good reason; others because of hyped media reporting. But the spike in crime is real, though not evenly spread across the city. Most donāt know crime fell from 2021 to 2022. But it is here today, and we must do everything we can to stem it.
We can no longer coddle young criminals or repeat offenders. We canāt say if only we could deal with the root causes of crime things would be OK. While we must do that, work to provide better housing, enough food, better education, and family life, letās also recognize most young people in our community, including those who deal with some of the same issues as the criminals, are not turning to crime. How they deal with the hardships they face, manage to go to school, and live productive lives, should be a focus so we learn from them. Recently the D.C. attorney general awarded the eighth annual Right Direction Awards. Thirty young people were saluted for overcoming significant challenges on their road to achievement. We need to share more of their stories.
How do they manage to stay away from guns and drugs? What allows them to succeed? Itās time for the media in D.C. ā the Washington Post, and TV and radio stations ā to report more comprehensively on youth in the city. For every crime story reported, find a positive story to tell. There are clearly more positive stories out there. It requires more work than following the police blotter. Send reporters into schools, recreation centers, libraries, houses of worship, and they will find the good stories.
I have long advocated for working with Congress to set up internships for D.C. students in every congressional office; 535 kids a year would get experience, good connections, and a resume boost. If we are serious about this, and have a focus on our youth beyond those who commit crimes, everyone will benefit.
Council Judiciary Committee Chair Brooke Pinto introduced several bills including the The Active Act. This legislation would further beef up penalties for gun crimes, creating a new offense for illegal disposal of a gun or ammunition while a person is fleeing police. Then increasing penalties for endangerment with a firearm and firing many bullets at once. At the same time, she looks to expand alternatives to incarceration, creating a task force to examine possibilities for diversion programs to avoid jail time for nonviolent misdemeanor offenses such as drug possession. The Active Act also creates more hurdles for pretrial release in cases involving people charged with violent or dangerous offenses. It would require judges to issue written explanations if they decide to release before trial a person charged with committing a violent offense.
In response to the LGBTQ community, Pinto with Council members Christina Henderson, Robert White, Charles Allen, Vincent Gray, Matt Frumin, Janeese Lewis George, and Anita Bonds, introduced the āTransgender and Gender-Diverse Mortality and Fatality Review Committee Establishment Act of 2023.ā Pinto wrote, āAlthough data are limited, some studies suggest transgender people are ātwice as likely to die as cisgender peopleā due to āheart disease, lung cancer, HIV-related illness and suicide,ā with trans women being ātwo times as likely to dieā compared to cis men and āthree times as likelyā compared to cis women being disproportionately vulnerable to the aforementioned risks, as well as to violence and murder, with one in four trans women likely to be victimized by a hate-related crime.ā It is anticipated the information from this committee will contribute important data and analysis, and provide important resources, for the National Center for Fatality Review and Prevention and for transgender and gender-diverse people across the country informing future strategies and interventions to drive down the disparate outcomes we are currently seeing.
We must ensure the legal system is not a revolving door. That crimes committed with guns are punished seriously, and young people who commit violent crimes can be held without bail if they are ongoing serious threats to the community. Clearly, going easier on violent criminals is not working the way some hoped it would. Again, simply saying we will deal with it by getting to the root of crime will not deal with the crime we have today. It should happen, and will have an impact, but not right away, and we need to reduce crime today.
Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist. He writes regularly for the Blade.
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