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QUEERY: Frank McNeil
The Chase Brexton honoree answers 20 gay questions
Frank McNeil first heard of Chase Brexton in local gay media. When his late partner, Chris Duncan, was diagnosed as HIV positive, it was the first resource recommended to them.
“Initially it was personal since my late partner was positive,” the 57-year-old Memphis native says. “Then it became important partially as a thank you for all the assistance they provided while he was alive. My parents and grandparents raised me in the vein of the old spiritual, ‘If I Can Help Somebody,’ my living will not have been in vain. That has been a guiding principle for me.”
McNeil served on the Chase Brexton board and event committee from 1992-2002. On Saturday, he’ll pick up the Legacy Award at the Chase Brexton Charm Ball 40th anniversary event at the Renaissance Baltimore Harborplace Hotel. Details at chasebrexton.org. He’s being honored for his “devotion to Chase Brexton’s mission,” the organization says. “Frank is well known and respected for service to his community.”
“I am merely representative of the many friends and fellow committee members who served with me,” McNeil says. “They did all the hard work while I served as chair. This award is really in recognition of their dedication.”
McNeil, a Marine veteran, is a community development banking officer with PNC Bank. He and husband Paul Fowler, a radiation oncologist, live in Baltimore’s Guilford neighborhood. McNeil enjoys traveling, gardening, theater, entertaining and TV in his free time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
Interestingly, I think that I knew in third grade but back then, because of family, church and society, it wasn’t a lifestyle that was celebrated or commonplace like it is now. It was hardest to tell my parents because of the sacrifices they had made raising a son of color in the South and all of the doors that they had opened and the expectations they had for me.
Who’s your LGBT hero?
There are so many but I admire those who were bold enough to stand up and be first when it was unpopular and often dangerous to do so like those who fought at Stonewall or some of my military comrades who fought the system to change it so that we could serve openly in uniform.
What’s Baltimore’s best nightspot, past or present?
I really enjoyed The Stage Coach when it was opened because I like to dance and that was a place to line dance, waltz and two step. Now I like any place that we can go and feel comfortable being ourselves that has a good DJ and where we can enjoy a nice drink like Grand Central or Leon’s.
Describe your dream wedding.
My husband Paul and I had it in 2013. We were married by our minister in our home church, where we had met 18 years prior with his father (who had previously married all of his four siblings) also officiating, followed by a reception in our home in our garden under tents and amongst the lighted statuary, with dinner while the Peabody Jazz Ensemble played swing and big band selections and then a DJ played all of our favorite music while family and friends celebrated and danced the night away.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
Citizenship, whether globally or locally. We are all on this big ship together so we have to do our part to leave it a better place than when we arrived.
What historical outcome would you change?
In a heartbeat, this past presidential election. I think we are now suffering the consequences of not understanding the importance of voting. The impact on things like the court appointments etc. may be profound and lasting for many years to come.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
As a person of color, whose formative years were in the ‘70s, seeing the accomplishments of communities that were more marginalized in the past. I know that we still have a long, long way to go but to participate in the March on Washington in 1993 and the subsequent ones that followed, the Women’s March in 2017 and events like Gay Pride give me chills when you consider what those who lived before us had to endure.
On what do you insist?
I work with someone who ends all of his e-mails with “be well and do good” and I think that is a good way of leaving this place a better place than we arrived.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
I don’t actually have my own Facebook page. I occasionally post on my husband’s page since he captures my entire life anyway as our “class historian/documentarian.”
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“Hang in There — Things Are Going to Change and For the Better!”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Ask those who have such a heartburn with others’ sexual orientations to walk a mile in their shoes; especially if they are in a position of power to affect change.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
An afterlife in some form or another.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Improvise, adapt and overcome.
What would you walk across hot coals for?
First of all, my husband, my family and friends and a just cause.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
More than a stereotype, I am annoyed when someone says, “Oh you are a ___ so you must be or do___.”
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
I like just about any of them where the guy or gal ends up with the guy or gal in the end! I am a hopeless romantic in that respect. I don’t like the “Brokeback Mountain”- or “Call Me By Your Name”-type movies when the lovers don’t end up together.
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Discrimination of any type.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
I don’t think I covet anything but it might be fun to have an Oscar because of all of the fun things associated with getting one, going to the parties and the awards ceremony.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
It might have been nice to know that life would be the way it is now in terms of the relative acceptance of the LGBTQ community, the fact that we can get married, serve in the military, etc. It almost seemed back then that it would not happen in my lifetime.
Why Baltimore?
I know that it isn’t perfect, but Baltimore is a great place to live and it has so much potential. We have a lot of work ahead of us but nothing worth having is easy.
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Summer in D.C. brings sports, Restaurant Week, festivals, and more
Summer in D.C. just hits different. Congress is out, school is out, the sun is out, thighs are out. With the skies clearing from Canadian smoke, here are a few ways to stay entertained.
Dining
Summer restaurant week: The Restaurant Association of Metropolitan Washington (RAMW) is once again hosting Summer Restaurant Week, Aug. 18-24. This weeklong dining experience showcases the dynamic dining scene of the DMV, including 2026 RAMMY Award-winning favorites (the annual D.C. food awards show that took place June 29). Participating restaurants will offer three-course brunch and lunch selections for $25 or $35 per person, and three-course dinners for $40, $55 and $65 per person.
New Restaurants: A handful of new spots have opened, so the summer is a great time to check them out:
- Oribu: A new Mediterranean-Japanese restaurant in the Grand Hyatt hotel, which just underwent a remodeling effort. The sleek restaurant brings upscale charm, with dishes like Wagyu beef tartare with potato pavé and caviar.
- The Oak Room: A snazzy old-school American grill has just opened in Georgetown, alongside its sister upstairs supper club (Bernadette’s) restaurant, in the old El Centro space.
- Uchi: This showy Japanese sushi-forward chain has landed in Dupont with a chef’s tasting menu of favorites like fatty tuna.
- Kathmandu: Recalling the capital of Nepal, this warm, buzzy subterranean restaurant right in the heart of U Street brings spice, flair, and rare ingredients to its dishes (see: buffalo burgers) and drinks.
Sports
- Washington Spirit Pride Night OUT: On Sunday, Aug. 23, head to Audi Field for a massive, high-energy game following the exciting month of World Cup. The designated Pride Night OUT game promises boisterous crowds plus pre- and post-game community engagements.
- Washington Tennis Open – Now called the Mubadala DC Open, this annual tournament is only combined mens’ and womens’ 500-level tennis tournament in the world. The open is one of D.C.’s longest-standing sports traditions, and will take place at the Rock Creek Park Tennis Center July 25-Aug. 2. Naomi Osaka, Venus Williams, Ben Shelton, Frances Tiafoe, and others are expected to play.
Festivals
- Afro Plus Fest: This huge, three-day Afro-Caribbean Hip-Hop Festival brings together headliners Davido, Alkaline, and Wizkid, plus Tems and Ayra Starr. The event moves from RFK to the Northwest Stadium Complex for three days, Sept. 4-6.
- Capital Fringe Festival: Running from July 11-21, this massive celebration features dozens of live theater, comedy, dance, and boundary-pushing nighttime performances across multiple DC neighborhoods.
- The National Book Festival returns, with headliners like Cynthia Erivo, and Martin Scorsese. The one-day festival, Saturday, Aug. 22, brings together bookworms and word nerds under the theme “America 250: It’s Your Story.” There are talks, workshops, musical sessions and more.
- All Things Go: A three-day festival Sept. 25-27 at Merriweather Post Pavilion featuring Mitski, Hayley Williams, Brandi Carlile, MUNA, Zara Larsson, Ethel Cain, and many, many more artists. There are single-day and three-day tickets. Featuring and highlighting female artists, the festival has turned into a must-see for many LGBTQ audience members.
- Fuchsia Fest: The inaugural Fuchsia Fest is a new multi-day celebration created to celebrate LGBTQ community and expression, bringing together a mix of community gatherings, entertainment, and nightlife. The event takes place Sept. 18-20 and is hosted by Capital Pride.
Art and Music
- United We Dance: A high-energy rave with house, techno, bass, and festival music, on Aug. 1 at the 9:30 Club.
- The Fray. On Aug. 14, this American rock band famous for How To Save A Life is at Merriweather Post Pavilion.
- Kesha: Kesha’s high-energy The Freedom Tour comes to the D.C. area on Aug. 14 at Jiffy Lube Live.
- ALOK: On Sept. 3 at Lincoln Theater, ALOK (they/them) performs. The poet, comedian, and actor is putting on a new comedy show.
- 2charm, the emerging Australian electronic club-pop duo popular with the queer community, which blends hyperpop and dance music, comes to the Atlantis.
- Sapphic Dance Party: a vibrant, inclusive nightlife and social event designed specifically for queer women, lesbians, bisexuals, trans individuals, and nonbinary folks, at Atlantis on Aug. 21.
- Jazz in the Garden: The most quintessential of D.C. activities returns Friday evenings through Aug. 14. This season’s theme, “American Sounds,” is a nod to the nation’s 250th anniversary. Tunes themes range from Appalachian and Americana to Creole jazz, Hill Country blues, contemporary jazz, and more. Tickets are available through a lottery system a week before each event.
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Tickets on sale for chef Patrick O’Connell’s book launch event
Sept. 18 kickoff to feature José Andrés, Tom Sietsema
Acclaimed chef Patrick O’Connell is preparing to publish his new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” in September and he’s launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at 6 p.m. at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema.
Tickets for the event go on sale Tuesday, July 21 at Ticketmaster; prices start at $55.
O’Connell, who’s gay, is the pioneering Michelin-starred chef and longtime proprietor of the Inn at Little Washington. He spoke with the Blade about the September event and the launch of his first memoir.
“I’ve known [Andrés and Sietsema] for more than 25 years and I have great respect for them,” O’Connell said. “I felt that it would allow us to add a different dimension rather than just have an interviewer. The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”
O’Connell has published cookbooks but this is his first memoir. The event will feature a short film that will highlight his work and the Inn.
“What I hope to do with the event is bring the book to life visually,” he said. “So we’re producing a short film that will be part of it. Most of the audience will not have read the book so it’ll give them a visual flavor of the book. It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years. It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”
The book’s title refers to the location of the garage on the corner of Main, Middle, and Gay streets in Washington, Va., where he launched his restaurant that became an international culinary destination.
The Blade will publish the rest of its wide-ranging interview with O’Connell in September in conjunction with the book’s release.
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The queer Asian comics building collective joy in D.C.
Spotlighting chaotic ways family, romance, identity take shape in their lives
Kevin Chen’s family tombstone has room for four: him, his parents and his boyfriend. The arrangement might prove to be a little awkward.
“My boyfriend is 100% white, and my parents are 100% disappointed,” Chen confessed.
Jokes about family traditions and the untraditional ways they’re practiced earned a burst of laughs at the bar where Chen was opening for the Pride Comedy Special. The D.C. stand-up event, produced by Comedy Bonfyre last month, spotlighted queer Asian comics who shared the chaotic ways family, romance and identity take shape in their lives.
From candid oral sex takes to top surgery hypotheticals like “Where do the boobs go?”, the night highlighted the loud camaraderie of the queer Asian experience — one that sounds like a cacophony of snorts, cackles and belly laughs. While the comics say they are not quite a community, there’s more than enough shared material to bring them together.
“It was such a magical experience. I loved performing in a queer API lineup. It feels so validating,” Chen said after the show. “I’m wondering, ‘Is this how white men feel all the time?’”
Each performance evoked queer Asian joy through a medium that could use more of its presence.
According to Chen, who is based in D.C., it’s hard to say whether there is a true queer Asian comedy presence in his city. There are only a scattered “handful” of Asian comics, and people of color are underrepresented in queer comic circles, he said.
When Tarunika Anand, a nonbinary lesbian comic, first entered the mainstream D.C. comedy scene, they mostly encountered straight white men, describing the experience as “a culture shock.”
“I feel like sometimes a lot of queer spaces are really white, and then a lot of Asian spaces are really straight,” Anand said. “I don’t feel like I fit into either.”
But feeling marginalized didn’t stop these comics from honing their craft and creating spaces for others like them. Alex Kim, who headlined the special and is based in Brooklyn, runs the queer Asian comedy group Boba Gays, which began on WhatsApp and has since made its way to Lincoln Center.
Every Wednesday, Anand co-produces a free comedy show called Funny Side Up. The queer-led group focuses on inclusivity and showcasing new talent.
“It’s really beautiful to speak about your experience and your existence in a way that’s uplifting,” Anand said.
Family is a major throughline of their comedic repertoires.
Chen, for instance, shared that he identifies with jokes about having Asian immigrant parents and the expectations they pass down.
“You see me, you know this part about me, you know this experience intimately, and I can see the truth that you’re trying to wrap a joke around,” he said. “That hits even harder because that’s my truth too. I think that’s what makes good comedy.”
Anand had the audience at the special howling when they explained that their parents’ be-more-like-them comparisons didn’t end when they came out. Instead, the expectations took on a new form.
“Now, my parents want me to be the best gay,” Anand said. “They’re like, ‘Do you know Ellen DeGeneres?’”
Kim said he’s been trying to unlearn things from his Christian Korean mom. Yet he described a moment when he was getting ready for the club and realized he looked just like his mother getting ready for church.
“I’ve been finding it hard to escape her,” Kim said.
Mutual recognition also radiates through the different ways queer love can take shape. From singlehood to death-do-us-part commitments, the comics cover just about every corner.
Anand is holding out hope for settling down with “a nice, pretty, Indian girl.” They recently went through a breakup and said they felt they dodged a bullet.
“As a person of color, I just don’t think I should be with a Swiftie,” they said.
Chen, touching on what it’s like to be in a queer interracial relationship, said that meeting his white boyfriend’s baby nephew for the first time felt like he was forced to participate in a diversity, equity and inclusion training.
“The dad was like, ‘Please welcome Kevin. Be curious about his culture, his history, his foods,’” Chen joked.
Laughter is not the only reward for the comics.
To Anand, comedy is a space where they can say whatever they want. “It gives me a voice,” they said.
Nik Narain, a North Carolina-based trans and nonbinary South Asian comic who performed at the special, said meeting older trans comedians and taking the stage helped him feel reassured in his identity during his transition.
“Stand-up was a really cool way to process that onstage,” he said. “[It] became a way for me to repackage my thoughts.”
Queer Asians are still figuring out their place in the greater D.C. comedy scene. The group is small in numbers and many are still working toward a full-time comedy career. But Narain feels he’s already made it.
Narain is reluctant to pin it all on one moment. He feels that success is already peeking through in milestones — opening for celebrities, traveling to performances and self-producing shows.
“As long as I can keep doing this, I’m super happy,” he said.
This story was produced as part of the AAJA VOICES fellowship program, a student journalism project of the Asian American Journalists Association (AAJA).

