Books
New queer biographies make for ideal summer reading
Array of options, from somber to outlandish
Another Pride month is in the can.
All that planning, preparation and execution of events is done, and now you find yourself with lots of time on your hands. So why not reach for one of these great memoirs to read?
A little bit of memoir, a little bit of sympathy, advice, and several biographies are at the heart of “Here and Queer: A Queer Girl’s Guide to Life” by Rowan Ellis, illustrated by Jacky Sheridan (Quarto, $14.99). This book leans mostly on the serious-but-lighter side, with plenty of colorful artwork and suggestions for teen girls on figuring out who they are and what it means. There are fun activities, quizzes, essays, and tips inside; readers will find plenty of one-liners to take away, a comprehensive timeline of LGBTQ history, and biographies that reflect women of many ages and races. That all makes this a book that even adult women and, perhaps, some questioning boys will appreciate.
Speaking of lighthearted, tryĀ “Start Without Me (I’ll Be There in a Minute)” by Gary JanettiĀ (Holt, $27.99). TV producer, writer,Ā social media star, and sometimes curmudgeon Janetti is annoyed.Ā MightyĀ annoyed in several essays here, but his aggravation is not meant to bring readers down. It’s meant to make you laugh and ā withĀ very funny, wryĀ takes onĀ finding the perfect tan and the perfect man, friendship with a nun, hotel rooms, mothers-in-law,Ā āThe Wizard of Oz,ā vacations, weddings, and more ā you will.
For something a little more somber, reach forĀ “Side Affects:Ā On Being Trans and Feeling Bad” by Hil MalatinoĀ (University of Minnesota Press, $21.95). Honesty is at the root of this semi-biographical look at being trans: if you are trans, says Malatino, you may struggle withĀ several righteously negativeĀ feelings you have āĀ disconnect, anger, fear, numbness, burnout, exhaustionĀ āĀ feelings that exist,Ā in part,Ā because of the times in which we live nowĀ and the transphobia that seems to be everywhere.Ā Counteracting these feelings ā or, at least being able to survive and thrive despite them ā may be as simple asĀ some type of activism, and Malatino explains the details as he shares his own story as well as many case studies.
And finally, if you love watching or participating in drag, then you’ll absolutely loveĀ “How You Get Famous” by Nicole PasulkaĀ (Simon & Schuster, $27.99). This book tells the story of a coat-check boy who lovedĀ performing in dragĀ and who talked her bar-owning boss into letting her host a drag show in Brooklyn. But this wasĀ noĀ one-night stand and soon, the event had a lot of fans ā among them, dozens of “kids” who sneaked into the clubĀ to practice their acts next to experienced performers. But when you’re on the edge of what’s about toĀ be a popular kind of entertainment, amateur status doesn’t last longĀ enough ā and neither does this upbeat, wonderful book.
And if these don’t fit the bill, be sure to ask your favorite booksellersĀ or librariansĀ for help. They’ve got your next best read in the can.
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Books
Upcoming books offer something for every reader
From a history of the gay right to a look at queer womenās spaces
Daylight Savings Time has arrived, giving you more sunlight in the evening and more time to read. So why not look for these great books this spring?
If your taste runs to historical novels, you’re in luck. When Yorick spots his name on the list of the missing after the Titanic sinks, he believes this to be an omen: nobody’s looking for him, so maybe this is his opportunity to move to Paris and open that bookstore he’s been dreaming about. In “The Titanic Survivors Book Club” by Timothy Schaffert (Doubleday, $29.00) his decision leads to more than a bucolic little business. Out April 2.
If you’re looking for something a little on the lighter side, discover “Riley Weaver Needs a Date to the Gaybutante Ball“ by Jason June (HarperTeen, $19.99). Young adult books are perfect light reading for adults, and this one is full of high-school drama, romance, comedy, and more drama. What fun! Out May 23.
Can’t get enough of graphic novels? Then look for “Escape from St. Hell: A Graphic Novel“ by Lewis Hancox (Graphix, $14.99). It’s the continuing story of Lew, who just wants to live his life as a guy, which he started doing in the last novel (“Welcome to St. Hell”) but you know what they say about one door closing, one door opening. In this new installment, Lew grapples with the changes he’s made and how his friends and family see things, too. This book is fresh and honest and great for someone who’s just transitioned. Out May 7.
For the mystery lover, you can’t go wrong with “Clean Kill: A Nicky Sullivan Mystery“ by Anne Laughlin (Bold Strokes, $18.95). As the manager of a sober living home in Chicago, Nicky Sullivan has her hands full with 10 other residents of the home. But when one of them is murdered, Sullivan reaches back into her past as an investigator to find the killer by calling on her old partner. Fortunately, he’s still working. Also fortunately, he’s got a new partner and she catches Sullivan’s eye. Can love and murder mix? Out May 14.
Can’t get enough of politics? Then you’ll be happy to find “Coming out Republican: A History of the Gay Right“ by Neil J. Young (University of Chicago Press, $30). In the fractious political atmosphere we have now, it’s essential to understand how gay conservatives have influenced politics through the decades. Find this book before November. It may be one of the most eye-opening books you’ll read. Out April 3.
The reader who loves her “space” will want to take “A Place of Our Own: Six Spaces That Shaped Queer Women’s Culture“ by June Thomas (Seal Press, $30) there to read. It’s a book about historically safe places for queer women to be themselves ā and some are surprisingly very public. Interviews with iconic feminists and lesbians round out a great look at the locales that queer women have claimed for their own. Out May 28.
And now the housekeeping: Release dates can change and titles can be altered at the last minute, so check with your favorite bookseller or librarian. They’ll also have more recommendations if you need them because there’s a lot of time for reading now.
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Books
Gay author takes us on his journey to fatherhood in āSafeā
One man’s truth about the frustrations and rewards of fostering
āSafe: A Memoir of Fatherhood, Foster Care, and the Risks We Take for Familyā
By Mark Daley
c.2024, AtriaĀ Books
$28.99/304 pages
The closet is full of miniature hangers.
The mattress bumpers match the drapes and the rug beneath the tiny bed. There’s a rocker for late-night fusses, a tall giraffe in the corner, and wind-up elephants march in a circle over the crib. Now you just need someone to occupy that space and in the new book, “Safe” by Mark Daley, there’s more than one way to accomplish that dream.
Jason was a natural-born father.
Mark Daley knew that when they were dating, when he watched Jason with his nephew, with infants, and the look on Jason’s face when he had one in his arms. As a gay man, Daley never thought much having a family but he knew Jason did ā and so, shortly after their wedding, they began exploring surrogacy and foster-to-adopt programs.
Daley knew how important it was to get the latter right: his mother had a less-than-optimal childhood, and she protected her own children fiercely for it. When Daley came out to her, and to his father, he was instantly supported and that’s what he wanted to give: support and loving comfort to a child in a hard situation.
Or children, as it happened. Just weeks after competing foster parenting classes and after telling the social worker they’d take siblings if there was a need, the prospective dads were offered two small brothers to foster.
It was love at first sight but euphoria was somewhat tempered by courts, laws, and rules. Their social worker warned several times that reunification of the boys with their parents was “Plan A,” but Daley couldn’t imagine it. The parents seemed unreliable; they rarely kept appointments, and they didn’t seem to want to learn better parenting skills. The mother all but ignored the baby, and the child noticed.
So did Daley, but the courts held all the power, and predicting an outcome was impossible.
“All we had was the present,” he said. “If I didn’t stay in it, I was going to lose everything I had.ā So was there a Happily-Ever-After?
Ah, you won’t find an answer to that question here. You’ll need to read “Safe” and wear your heart outside your chest for an hour or so, to find out. Bring tissues.
Bring a sense of humor, too, because author and founder of One Iowa Mark Daley takes readers along on his journey to being someone’s daddy, and he does it with the sweetest open-minded open-heartedness. He’s also Mama Bear here, too, which is just what you want to see, although there can sometimes be a lot of tiresome drama and over-fretting in that.
And yet, this isn’t just a sweet, but angst-riddled, tale of family. If you’re looking to foster, here’s one man’s truth about the frustrations, the stratospheric-highs, and the deep lows. Will your foster experiences be similar? Maybe, but reading this book about it is its own reward.
“Safe” soars and it dives. It plays with your emotions and it wallows in anxiety. If you’re a parent, though, you’ll hang on to every word.
Books
A travel memoir with a queer, Black sensibility
Nonbinary author Shayla Lawson is the Joan Didion of our time
āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World: A Decolonial Memoirā
By Shayla Lawson
c.2024, Tiny Reparations Books
$29/320 pages
Joan Didion, one of the greatest writers and journalists of the 20th century and 2000s, wrote superbly crafted essays ā telling engaging stories about the places she traveled to. Reading her, you sensed Didion reacting personally to her travels, and, as a writer, clocking it. To write in stories for her readers.
Shayla Lawson, a nonbinary, Black, disabled poet and journalist, is the Joan Didion of our time.
Their new work, āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World: A Decolonial Memoir,ā is a provocative, impeccably crafted, hard-to-put down, travel memoir in essays. (Lawson uses they/them pronouns.)
Lawson is author of āThis is Major,ā which was a finalist for the National Book Criticsā Circle and the LAMBDA Literary Award, and the author of two poetry collections, āA Special Education in Human Beingā and āI Think Iām Ready to See Frank Ocean.ā They have written for New York Magazine, Salon, ESPN and Paper, and earned fellowships from the Yaddo and the MacDowell Artist Colony.
Yet, despite this impressive track record, Lawson, who grew up in Kentucky, and has lived and traveled everywhere from the Netherlands to Brazil to Los Angeles to Kyoto, Japan to Mexico to Shanghai, had to wait nine years before a publisher would wrap their head around releasing a travel memoir in essays.
Thankfully, Lawson had the chutzpah to persist in seeking a home for her memoir. Kudos to Tiny Reparations Books for valuing Lawsonās writing and publishing āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous World.ā
From the get-go of their memoir, Lawson draws us in. Weāre with them on the plane. Right away, weāre with Lawson ā a writer whoās clocking it ā telling their story ā while theyāre on the plane. At the same time, weāre reading the story that Lawsonās writing.
In a few nano-secs, we get that Lawsonās stories have a queer, Black sensibility.
āOur story starts in an airplane,ā Lawson writes in the opening of the memoir, āwith the sound of long acrylic nails tapping on laptop keys, the sound of black femme poetics…ā
āOnly connect,ā writes queer writer E.M. Forster in his 1910 novel āHowards End.ā
Lawsonās daring memoir is a dazzling mosaic of connections between race, class, gender, sexuality, death, queerness, love, disability, grief and beauty.
Lawson met Kees, their ex-husband, a white man from the Netherlands, when he was in Harlem during a layover on a flight to Brazil for a six-month back-packing trip through South America, Lawson recalls. They meet cute over pizza, fall in love, and marry.
In the Netherlands, Lawson has to learn a new language and is stuck living in a beautiful, but boring village. They volunteer at a refugee village, that Lawson discovered had been an āinsane asylum.ā That village, Lawson thought, wasnāt beautiful.
Lawson discovers beauty and sexuality when she meets up with a hunky gondolier in Venice.
In post-dictatorship Zimbabwe, they experience what itās like to hang out with other Black people, where everyone is Black.
In one of the memoirās most compelling chapters, Lawson visits artist Frida Kahloās house in Mexico City. Kahlo was disabled. She had spina bifida.
At age 39, Lawson was diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. They have chronic pain from the disability.
A doctor (with the bedside manner of Attila the Hun) told Lawson that they would die. āItās a strong presentation,ā Lawson remembers the doc said to her.
Often, disability is left out of storytelling. If included, itās put in a box ā separated, disconnected, from other intersections of the narrative (gender, sexuality, race, class, sexual orientation, etc.).
One out of five Americans is disabled, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, and Lawson writes, post-COVID that 60 percent of Americans have been diagnosed as chronically ill.
Lawson brings ableism out of the shadows.
Iām white, cisgender, queer and legally blind. Iām one of the many for whom Lawsonās experience of ableism will ring true.
Theyāve ācalled me a bitch,ā for moving slower, Lawson writes.
The last time Lawson traveled when āI didnāt return in a wheelchair,ā was 2019, they write.
But that wonāt stop them from traveling, Lawson writes.
āHow do I want to live,ā Lawson asks, āin such a way that someone will be honored by how I die.ā
āHow to Live Free in a Dangerous Worldā is exhilarating, but sometimes discomforting reading. Lawson makes you think. If youāre white and, using all the right pronouns, for instance, you can still be clueless about racism or being entitled.
But Lawsonās memoir isnāt a hectoring sermon. Itās a frisson of freedom, liberation and hope.
āNo matter where you are, may you always be certain who you are,ā Lawson writes, āAnd when you are, get everything you deserve.ā
Check it out. You wonāt be able to get it out of your head.
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